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- Emotionally Stuck: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf a being from another planet was to look at a human being, it might seem as though they are only made up of one part: a physical body. However, if they were able to look through their physical body, they would soon see that they also have what could be described as a mental and emotional ...
Views: 728 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Development Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will physically look like an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. Consequently, how they look won’t match up with what is taking place inside them. By being this way, their life is likely to be far harder than it would be otherwise. In fact, just about ...
Views: 641 - Emotionally Stuck: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that even though someone will change physically as time passes, it doesn’t mean they will change emotionally. As a result of this, their emotional age might not match up with their physical age. Expectation If one believes that they will feel different as time passes, it ...
Views: 1638 - Emotionally stuck: Does Society Keep People Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now it has been said that women grow up faster than men. And in some cases, they say that men are about ten years behind when it comes to emotional development. This is obviously not the case for all men, but there is often clear evidence to support this viewpoint. Now there ...
Views: 2431 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on May 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can look like an adult, it doesn't mean that they will feel like one. In fact, a lot of their feelings and needs can have more to do with a child than an adult. Even so, it doesn't mean that they will be aware of this as how they experience life can just be what is normal to ...
Views: 414 - Emotionally Stunted: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Stunted? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperNow, while someone’s early years may have been a time when they received what they needed in order to grow and develop, there is also the chance that this wasn’t the case. As a result of this, they would have been deeply traumatised at this stage of their life. However, even though this took ...
Views: 819 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: Can A Man Have A Lot of Unmet Needs To Grieve If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man’s early years are behind him, it doesn’t mean that what took place during this time in his life is no longer affecting him. This may have been a time when his father was physically there, but emotionally absent. What this means is that even though his father was around at ...
Views: 956 - Emotionally Unavailable Fathers: What Can Happen If A Man Had An Emotionally Unavailable Father? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some men who grew up with a father, there are others that grew up without one. However, just because some men had their father around, it doesn’t mean that he was actually available. In this case, a man’s early years may have been a time when his father was generally around ...
Views: 1384 - Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 8354 - Emotionally Undeveloped: Why Are Some People Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNot every part of a human being develops at the same rate, and this is to be expected. If one was to look at nature and see how a tree grows, they will soon see that the branches are not all the same length. Some are longer than others and at the same time, it hasn’t affected the tree. It is ...
Views: 4487 - Emotionally Weak: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Weak? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that someone’s life would be a lot easier if they were unable to experience emotions. The primary reason for this is that they would no longer experience emotional pain. As a result of this, they would never feel sad, powerless, helpless, or hopeless, and fear and anxiety ...
Views: 648 - Emotions: Can We Become Emotionally Stuck At A Certain Age? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s emotional age is not always the same as their chronological age. And this can be known through how one feels and seen through certain behaviours and reactions that people have. One may even try to deny that they haven’t grown up and justly their behaviour in some ...
Views: 5557 - Emotions: Do Emotions Have A Purpose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years there has been increased awareness around emotions. Before all of this came about, IQ (Intelligence quotient) was seen as the most important factor in deciding how intelligent someone is and in how there life would play out. This was until EQ (Emotional Intelligence Quotient) ...
Views: 2726 - Emotions: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Ignore Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has emotions, it doesn’t mean that they will listen to them; they can then act as if they don’t even exist. When this happens, they are likely to be in a position where they ignore what is taking place in their body. On The Surface Their point of awareness can then end up ...
Views: 1511 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Feel Uncomfortable With Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to human development, emotions are generally ignored and have been exceeded by other areas. In recent years there has been an intense focus on ones physical side and this has lead to people joining gyms or going for runs for example. And when it comes to ones intellectual side; ...
Views: 9460 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Find It Hard to Identify Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile what is going on externally can be easy to see and describe, the same is not always true for what is taking place on the inside. And this can relate to ones: thoughts, emotions, feelings and sensations. This has the potential to lead to all kinds of challenges and these can depend on ...
Views: 3441 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Hide Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women show how they feel and men keep their feelings to themselves. And this is surely going to apply to some men and women, but not all of them. It is simply a generalisation and one that allows people to navigate their world more easily. One reason why it is this way ...
Views: 10753 - Empaths: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Empaths? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile all human beings have a physical body, that doesn’t mean that they experience life in the same way. If one was to think about why this is, they might focus on how we are born into different environments and how these environments can be the defining factor. However, without even going ...
Views: 2889 - Empathy: Can An Emotional Build-Up Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is going through an emotionally challenging time in their life, they may find that they have started to shut down. Their engine will still be running, but it won’t be running on all cylinders, so to speak. During this time, it is not going to be their intention for this to take place; ...
Views: 1488 - Empathy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A Heightened Sense Of Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their time at school or to a time when they were playing sports, they might remember a moment when someone fell over or injured themselves. Now, as they picture this in their mind, they might see that some people laughed and some people didn’t. One way of looking ...
Views: 1846 - Empathy: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to empathise with another person, they will be able to put themselves in their shoes, so to speak. This is not to say that they will have the same experience, but they will have a sense of what the other person is going through. Understood As a result of this, the ...
Views: 1608 - Empathy: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different things that make someone human and therefore allow them to have a human experience and one of these things is empathy. This is something one can have for themselves and something that can extend outwards and towards other human beings. It enables one to mirror ...
Views: 1991 - Empathy: Is Empathy Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who find it easy to empathise with others, there others who are not in the same position. What this shows is that although everyone is a human being, it doesn’t mean that they operate in the same way. Still, it could be said that this is not the only difference, ...
Views: 1621 - Empowerment: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Comfortable With Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is an empowered human being, they will know that they do have an effect on their life. In each moment of their life they will have the ability to decide how they will behave, and they will be able to decide the meaning that they give to what takes place. One is then going to see ...
Views: 984 - Emptiness: Why Do Some People Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone looks whole on the outside, it doesn’t mean that they feel whole on the inside. How they look is then going to have very little to do with how they actually experience life. Based on how they experience life, it will be as though they are missing something. As a result ...
Views: 706 - Empty: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Empty? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone feels emotionally empty, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of it. The reason for this is that this could just be normal, which is why it won’t be something that stands out. However, while this may be the case, they could still be aware of the effects of being ...
Views: 586 - Empty: Can Someone Feel Empty If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on the feelings that they experience, what could soon stand out is that they often have moments when they feel as though something is missing. They will then look whole and complete but they will seldom feel whole and complete. By having this ...
Views: 268 - Energetic Abuse: Can Someone Energetically Abuse Another Person? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to talk about what abuse looks like, they may say that this is what happens when someone is put down, hit, sexually taken advantage of, or emotionally invalidated. When something like this takes place, it will be clear that someone is not being treated in the right way. At ...
Views: 1034 - Energy Vampires: Is It Harder To Realise When Someone Is An Energy Vampire When We Feel Low? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to have a fulfilling life, it is often said that someone will need to spend time around the right people. This comes down to the fact that human beings are interdependent, and are therefore constantly being influenced by the people around them. If this wasn’t the case, it ...
Views: 1344 - Energy Vampires: Is Someone An Energy Vampire If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is offended about something, and this can take place in the real world and online. If someone was to come from a culture where this rarely takes place, they might be drawn in. But, if they live somewhere where this is has become the ...
Views: 1041 - Energy Vampires: What Is An Energy Vampire? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘Energy Vampire’ can conjure up all kinds of associations and meanings. What Does Energy Vampire Mean? The question is: What does the term Energy Vampire mean? The logical answer would be to describe someone that causes another to feel emotionally and mentally drained and ...
Views: 2857 - Energy Vampires: Why Are Some People Energy Vampires? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are going to be plenty of people will know what a vampire is, it is unlikely that the same amount of people are going know what an energy vampire is. Yet, even though there is the chance that not many people will know about the latter, it doesn’t mean that they haven’t come across as ...
Views: 871 - Energy: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Give Their Energy To Others? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have their own life to lead, it doesn’t mean that it will be normal for them to focus on their own life. What could be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things for others. Not only this, but when they are not doing things for others, they could spend a ...
Views: 388 - Energy: Can Emotional Repression Lead To Low Energy? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn one way or another, life is all about energy; it is what creates and supports life and it also leads to movement and motion. Without it, nothing would exist or survive and nothing would ever happen or change. And as human beings, we are no different. Whether it involves: getting out of ...
Views: 2002 - Enmeshed Family: Can Someone Lack Boundaries If They Grew Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter feeling pretty exhausted and no longer having the energy to behave as they normally would, someone could think about how they find it hard to say no. What can be normal is for them to spend a lot of time doing things that they would rather not do. They are then going to be like an ...
Views: 292 - Enmeshed Family: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a separate being that has their own needs and feelings, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are merely an extension of others. They are then going to be focused on other people’s needs. Due to how caught up they are in other people’s lives, they ...
Views: 333 - Enmeshment: Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was on a plane at the end of last year, I started watching a few episodes of a series called Yellowstone. I think I may have heard about it before or I might have just been curious about it after I saw the cover and read the description. Anyway, I was soon engrossed in the series and I ...
Views: 294 - Enmeshment: What Is Enmeshment? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word enmeshment is often used in the world of psychology, therapy and in every day relationships. These could be with family, friends and with intimate relationships. On the en.wiktionary.org website, enmeshment is described as: The state of being enmeshed; entanglement. And if something ...
Views: 7627 - Entitlement Mentality: Can Someone Develop An Entitlement Mentality After Being Told That They 'Deserve It'? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not going to be uncommon for someone to be told that they deserve it. But if this is not the case, then there is a strong chance that they have come across this expression when they have been online. Uplifting If one was to hear this, it is likely to be something ...
Views: 1238 - Entitlement Mentality: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had the desire to attain something, they could look into what they need to do in order to get it and then could they take action. Alternatively, they could think about what they want and instead of taking action, they could expect someone to give it to them. It could be said that ...
Views: 1670 - Entitlement Mentality: Has The Internet Created An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one liked a certain song in the past, they would either have had to wait for it to be on the radio or they would have had to go and buy it. However, in today’s world, one no longer needs to buy a song; the only thing they need to do is to go onto the internet and to do a search. And after ...
Views: 2316 - Entitlement Mentality: Is It Caused By A Lack Of Emotional Growth? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many problems in today’s world and one problem is the much talked about entitlement mentality. And this is a mentality that is seen amongst people of all ages and backgrounds. Two people who have this mentality could be observed and what they believe they are entitled to may vary. ...
Views: 2167 - Entitlement Mentality: Is The Law Of Reciprocity Being Phased Out By The Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is given something, they can feel the need to give something back. This doesn’t mean that they will give something back straight away though; as they could return the favour at a later date. So as time passes, one may give something to the person or the company who gave them ...
Views: 1706 - Entitlement Mentality: What Created It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s society there is a common mentality and this mentality is often called - The Entitlement Mentality. On the dictionary.com website this is described as: The fact of having a right to something and the amount to which a person has a right. So what this means is that one has the right ...
Views: 13304 - Entitlement: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, what could become clear is that they don’t believe that they deserve anything. It is then not going to matter what they do or what they contribute, as this won’t change what is going on for them. There is the chance that this ...
Views: 509 - Entitlement: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Developing A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat could stand out, that’s if someone was to step back and reflect on their life, is that they give a lot but they don’t receive much back. After this, they could find that they don’t believe that they deserve to have what they need and want. Due to this, it is not going to matter how much ...
Views: 390 - Environment: Does Someone Need To Live In A Peaceful Environment If They Are Sensitive? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what takes place in the world, it could be said that one has very little, if any, control. However, this is generally not going to be the case when it comes where they live. In this environment, they are likely to have far more control, and the amount of control they have ...
Views: 1316 - Erectile Dysfunction: What Causes Erectile Dysfunction? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of challenges that a lot of men are trying to deal with. One thing that a lot of men are struggling with is their own emotions and another thing is erectile dysfunction. To have one of these challenges would be enough, so to have both of them can be a lot ...
Views: 1128 - Escapism: Can We Run Away From Our Past? - by Submitted on May 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf a wasp started to chase someone and they didn’t want to be stung, they might end up running away. This could be a sign that they have been stung before and don’t want to go through the same experience all over again. If they were to run away, it might only be a matter of time before ...
Views: 1707 - Every Healer Has issues! - by Submitted on May 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I wrote an article titled, ‘My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!’ Shortly after I had put this article altogether, I started to think about something that I hadn’t mentioned. When it came to healing, I said that there was the technique and then there was how ...
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