When it comes to have a fulfilling life, it is often said that someone will need to spend time around the right people. This comes down to the fact that human beings are interdependent, and are therefore constantly being influenced by the people around them.

If this wasn’t the case, it wouldn’t matter who they spent their time around, and this means that they would be able to overlook this area of their life. Now, this could be something that one is only too aware of.

Another Area

This area of their life could be seen in the same light as their diet, and this is because they will realise how important it is. One will be careful what they put into their body, as what they eat will have a big effect on them.

What they are not going to do is to eat bad food and then to expect to feel good. If they were to behave in this way, they would soon tell themselves that they need to come to terms with what their body needs.

The Right Nutrients

Thus, in the same way that their body will need to receive the right food in order to function at its best; one will also need to be around people who will have a positive effect on their well-being. The trouble is that while it is pretty clear that we need to eat right, what is not as clear is that we need to be mindful of who we allow into our life.

When it comes to the former, this is typically something that people will hear about in the news. On the other hand, the latter is something that is more likely to be heard in a self-help book, for instance.


As a result of this, if one is careful who they allow into their life, it could be a sign that they are into self-development. There may have been a time when this didn’t take place, and this would have caused them to suffer.

Alternatively, this could have been something that they were told by close friend or a family member. The advice they passed on during this moment would then have gone on to have a big effect on them.


At the same time, one might have always had the tendency to only spend time around certain people. This is then not something they have learnt about directly, but they know how important it is nevertheless.

What this could come down to is that one’s early years may have been a time when their needs were generally met. This then set them up to value themselves, and there would be no reason for them to allow the wrong people into their life.

The Odd Occasion

Yet, if this was to take place, it could be a sign that they are going through a challenging time. The amount of stress that they are under is then going to put them in a vulnerable position.

This is similar to how a slice of cheese is going to be fine if it is left in the fridge, but as soon as it is left out, it will change. So as long as one is able to settle themselves down, what is taking place in their life won’t last for very long.

A Number of Reasons

One thing that could have this effect on them is if they were to experience loss, and this could cause them to hit rock bottom. Their emotional state will have changed and this can cause them to tolerate people who they wouldn’t usually want to be around.

Or, one could be going through a lot of stress at work, and this could move them in a different direction. The kind of people who they would usually avoid can then come across as appealing.

A Momentary Experience

However, once they are back on their feet, this is something that is likely to change. During this time, they might start to wonder why they were drawn to someone in the first place.

At the same time, even if one was going through a bad patch, it doesn’t mean that they will be drawn to people like this. They could end up getting the support they need from the people they usually spend time with.

A Way of Life

When one is used to feeling good about themselves and their life, it is going to be relatively easy for them to notice when someone is not good to be around. Based on how they experience life, it will generally stand out when someone is an energy vampire.

But when one is not used to experiencing life in this way and they are used to feeling low, it can be harder for them to know when someone is not right for them. There is going to be no reason for them to take a step back.

A Smell

If one was to enter a room that had a strong smell, there is a strong chance that it would stand out. Yet, if they were to stay in this room for a little while, it might no longer be picked up.

What this shows, is that it is going to be a lot easier for someone to be able to recognise when another person is not right for them when they are in a good place. In general, when another person is going to take their energy away for them, they are going to be aware of this.


If one finds it hard to feel good about themselves, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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