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- Early Deprivation: Is It A Good Idea For An Abusive Parent To Contact Their Estranged Adult Child? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a parent who didn’t treat their adult child very well throughout their early years may want to get back in touch with them and have a relationship with them. What this can show is that they haven’t spoken to them for weeks, months or even years. When they last spoke, ...
Views: 102 - Early Deprivation: Is Self-Hate Passed Down From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they might find is that they find it hard to feel good about themselves. What could stand out, if they were to take a closer look at how they feel during these moments, is that they feel worthless, unlovable and deeply ...
Views: 324 - Early Deprivation: Someone Feel Invisible If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter feeling lonely for many years and becoming aware of this, someone could find that they have the tendency to feel invisible. They are then going to exist and be able to be seen by others but they generally won’t feel as though they exist or are seen by others. Naturally, experiencing ...
Views: 301 - Early Deprivation: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deprived during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. However, while what took place will be in the past, the impact that it had on them is likely to ...
Views: 283 - Early Deprivation: What Can A Man Believe About Relationships If His Father Was Abused By His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man could be in a relationship that is anything but loving. So, he can be with a woman who is typically emotionally distant and has very little interest in how he feels, seldom listens to what he has to say, regularly puts him down and humiliates him, and she might even ...
Views: 139 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Grew Up With A Father Who Had Been Emasculated By His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man steps back and reflects on his life, what he may see is that he has the tendency to be passive, put up with bad behaviour and be depressed. Assuming that this is the case, he can see that he has been this way for most of his life. What he might wonder is why he lacks energy, rarely ...
Views: 127 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Devouring Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may see is that he finds it hard to stand on his own two feet, stand up for himself, and feel good. As a result of this, his life is unlikely to be very fulfilling. He might see that he has been this way for as long as he can ...
Views: 112 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Couldn’t Mirror Back His Value? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to step back and reflect on his life, what he may find is that he often feels low. Along with this, he might also have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As to how long his life has been this way, he may find that it has been this way for as long as he can remember. ...
Views: 139 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had A Mother Who Dehumanised Him? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel low and even depressed, and he might even have moments when he thinks about ending his life. As for what his life is like, it is likely to be anything but fulfilling. So, he can have a job that is soul-destroying, or he might have a job that is ...
Views: 109 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Had An Authoritarian Mother? - by Submitted on May 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man needed an attentive and caring mother, he may have had a mother who was seldom, if ever, attentive or caring. Throughout this stage of his life, she might have been more like his master than his mother. The outcome of this is that he would have been more like her slave than her ...
Views: 137 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If A Man Was Sacrificed By His Father To Appease His Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring a man’s formative years, he needed to feel safe and secure and be loved. This would have allowed him to stay connected to himself and connect to his mother and father. Thanks to this, he would have been able to gradually go from a dependent to an interdependent human being. This stage ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Mans Mother Projected Her Disowned Darkness Into Him? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may find, if he were to step back and reflect on his life, is that he often feels worthless, down and even has moments when he thinks about ending his life. He might see that he has only started to feel this way in recent years, or he might see that he has been this way for as long as ...
Views: 104 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In A Family That Was Physically Close But Emotionally Distant? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to look back on their early years, what could soon stand out is that they grew up in a family that was very close. Therefore, if it was put forward to them that they were neglected, they are likely to dismiss what is said. They could say that this is not true as their family ...
Views: 318 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Grew Up In An Environment Where They Had To Appease Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s childhood, what they needed was an environment where they felt safe and secure and were loved. However, they might have grown up in an environment that wasn’t anything like this. If so, if both of their parents were around, one of them might have been abusive, while the other ...
Views: 133 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Had A Mother Who Couldn’t Mirror Back Their Value? - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone needed a mother who was able to see and reflect their worth back to them, it doesn’t mean that they had a mother who did this. However, if this were the case, they might not realise this now that they are an adult. Yet, if they are not aware of what this stage of their ...
Views: 132 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of someone’s life, they needed a mother who was able to attune to their needs and typically meet them. The reason for this is that they were in a physically and emotionally dependent state. Therefore, although they had experienced a physical birth, they hadn’t experienced an ...
Views: 203 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Had An Emotionally Underdeveloped Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they have it together and are living a fulfilling life. Instead, their life could be one big struggle and they could be well and truly fed up. But, if this is just what is normal, what is going on for them might not stand out. As a result ...
Views: 306 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Brought Up By A Parent Who Lacked Empathy? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel when they are around others. Then again, this can be something that takes place without them consciously choosing to do so. Due to this, they can generally create the impression that everything is fine. Naturally, this is going to stop ...
Views: 303 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was The Scapegoat During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience. Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of ...
Views: 320 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was The Scapegoat During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience. Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of ...
Views: 271 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a separate human being with their own needs, feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can feel like they are simply an extension of others. Due to this, they are not going to have the sense that they own themselves, they will ...
Views: 293 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was Treated Like An Object During Their Developmental Years? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a valuable human being, who has the right to say no and live their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will know this at the core of their being. Consequently, they can be accustomed to being treated badly and putting up with things that don’t serve them, saying yes to ...
Views: 293 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Wasn’t Seen During Their Formative Years? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone didn’t have at least one parent who was able to see them as a separate individual who had their own needs and feelings, and generally attuned to them and met their needs, they might not be aware of this. Now that they are an adult, they might not be able to remember a great deal about ...
Views: 282 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone’s Parent Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have actually had a childhood. Of course, there will have been a stage of their life when they were a child but this might have been a stage when they were rarely able to be a child. If so, throughout this stage of their life, they ...
Views: 256 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Believe If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone might not be aware of what they believe about themselves, what they believe will still have a big impact on the experience that they have. What this illustrates is how powerful their beliefs are. When it comes to why they wouldn’t be aware of what they believe about ...
Views: 160 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Believe If They Were Brought Up In An Enmeshed Family? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone acts as though they are merely an extension of their family, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. The reason for this is that this can just be what is normal. As a result of this, their main focus will be on doing what they can to please the people ...
Views: 128 - Early Deprivation: What Can Someone Fear If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what might enter their mind is that they have a number of fears. Due to this, it is likely to make it difficult for them to embrace life. In general, they could live in a way that causes them to be on the outside and unable ...
Views: 125 - Early Deprivation: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that someone shouldn’t have any expectations. One of the reasons that is put forward is that, by having them, they are likely to end up being let down. However, even if someone is able to arrive at a place where they no longer expect anything, it doesn’t mean that they won’t ...
Views: 474 - Early Deprivation: Why Would A Man Have Had A Devouring Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to think about what his mother is like, he could think about someone who is controlling, critical, cold and domineering. Therefore, when he is around her, he is not going to feel free, supported, loved or valued. Due to this, he might think that he needs to spend as little time ...
Views: 102 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Continually Replay Their Depriving Childhood? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about the last relationship they were in, they can be filled with frustration, anger and even a sense of despair. This can be because the person they were with was not unavailable. It could go further than this, though, as they might have been verbally and even ...
Views: 94 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Go Into An Emotionally Collapsed State After A Setback? - by Submitted on May 29, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may see, if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to fall into a deep hole when something doesn’t go as they want it to. Due to this, this will be a time when they will experience disempowering thoughts and feelings. Along with ...
Views: 264 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Have Had A Cold Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about what their mother was like during their early years, they might not think of someone who was emotionally attuned, affectionate and supportive. Instead, they could think of someone who was emotionally distant, was seldom affectionate and was unsupportive. Along ...
Views: 116 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone Not Be Supported When They Talk About Their Abusive Childhood? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has gradually become consciously aware of the fact that their childhood wasn’t very nurturing, they can have the need talk to some of the people in their life about it. Now, this can be a time when the friends and/or family members that they tell are very understanding and ...
Views: 111 - Early Deprivation: Why Would Someone’s Parent Have Made Them Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to take a step back and reflect on how they behave, they may find that they have the inclination to ignore their own needs and be there for others. After this, they might see that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Naturally, by being this way, a number ...
Views: 273 - Early Deprivation: Will Someone Need To Experience An Emotional Birth If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone’s early years were a time when they were greatly deprived and deeply wounded, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. If they were to think about this stage of their life, they could think about how it wasn’t that bad. They might even have a fairly ...
Views: 218 - Ego Boundaries: What Are Ego Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe purpose of ego boundaries is to protect the self. And through having these in place, one will know the difference between who they are and who someone else is. They allow for ones inner space to be protected and looked after. These are not visible to the naked eye like a physical body ...
Views: 13626 - Emasculation: Can A Man Be Emasculated By A Woman? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a relationship with a woman who is undermining him, he could have at least one friend who finds it hard to accept why he doesn’t cut his ties with her. Over the days, weeks and perhaps months that he has been with her, this friend might have had a number of conversations with ...
Views: 340 - Emasculation: Has Jamie From Yellowstone Been Emasculated? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperSo, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how ...
Views: 336 - Emasculation: Why Would A Man Allow A Woman To Emasculate Him? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is in a relationship, were to think about how his girlfriend typically behaves, he could find that she is not very supportive or respectful. He could see that she has been this way for a while. When it comes to how she behaves, what can be normal is for her to be critical and ...
Views: 224 - Emasculation: Why Would A Woman Emasculate Men? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman were to step back and reflect on her life, what she may see is that when she is dating a man, she has the need to break him down. So, she might see that it doesn’t take long before she is critical, tries to embarrass him and is controlling. He will then be someone who she is ...
Views: 227 - Embodied Awareness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Lose The Ability To Experience Embodied Awareness? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone has a mental, emotional and physical self, they might typically only be aware of the thoughts that are in their head. In fact, they might even see themselves as a being that is purely mental. This is going to mean that they won’t have a good connection with their body. By ...
Views: 305 - Emotional Acceptance: Why Is It Difficult To Accept Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions can be pleasurable or they can be painful and being human means that we have the potential to experience the full spectrum of emotions. I say potential, because there are ways that we can stop them from appearing. Pleasure and pain is something we are all familiar with and this ...
Views: 2578 - Emotional Avoidance: What Can Happen When We Avoid Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old or young someone is, where they have come from on this planet or if they are male or female, one thing is clear, and that is that they will have emotions. For this is part of the human experience, without them life wouldn’t be the same. However, one of the challenges with ...
Views: 2040 - Emotional Awareness: Are Your Split-Off Parts Controlling How You Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are often seen as an inconvenience - as things that do more harm than good. And, when someone has this outlook, they are likely to experience a lot of ‘negative’ emotions. Consequently, they may alternative between being overwhelmed by how they feel and disconnecting from how they ...
Views: 939 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Ignore Their Own Pain? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a light will usually appear on the dashboard of a car when something isn’t right, someone will usually experience pain when something is not right. Through paying attention to this pain, they will be able to do something about it. On the one hand, there will be physical ...
Views: 949 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is emotionally settled, it is going to be a lot easier for them to think clearly. As a result of this, they will be able to decide how they will behave, meaning that they will be able to act like a conscious human being. Not only will this allow them to make better decisions, it ...
Views: 906 - Emotional Awareness: If Someone Feels Offended Does It Prove That Another Person Has Done Something Wrong? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one reads the paper on a regular basis and/or spends time on social media, they may have heard about people who have been offended by something. Now, one may see that there are times when this is valid, and times when it isn’t. Part of Life However, if one was to take a step back from ...
Views: 1231 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Healing Our Emotional Body? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what one needs to do to get into physical shape or what they need to eat in order to be healthy, there is plenty of advice available. In fact, it is not so much about getting the advice that is the problem, nowadays, it is often more about what advice to follow and what advice ...
Views: 1638 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Being Able To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach experience that one has in life is going to play a part in how they feel. In some cases, how one feels will reflect what has taken place and at other times, it won’t. And this is because what has happened externally has triggered feelings from the past. This inner experience could ...
Views: 1735 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part of Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a house or owns a piece of land, they’re going to know how important it is to have a fence or some kind of sign to mark where their property begins and where it ends. So not only will this let other people know where they shouldn’t go without permission, there will also be a ...
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