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- Relationships: Are Boundaries Important In Intimate Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperA big part of being intimate involves being able to share ones reality with another person. Here, one will share what they are feeling, thinking and sensing. And while this may sound clear enough to understand, it is not always the easiest thing to do in a relationship. One of the primary ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Faith: Where Does Faith Come From? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one places their attention on achieving something or just on whether something can be done or not, their mind is going to have plenty to say. It could be fairly subtle in its response or it could end up being overwhelming. So the mind could come up with a few reasons as to why something ...
Views: 1830 - False Self: Can Trapped Emotions Create A False Self? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMany names have been used over the years when it comes to describing that part of someone that is not real or authentic. And one of those names is the false self and many others have also been used such as: the mask that someone wears, the pseudo self and adaptive behaviour for instance. ...
Views: 1830 - Relationships: Can Our Friends Keep Us Stuck? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the people in their life who support them, their friends will typically come to mind. Ideally, these will be the people who one can turn to for advice, encouragement and acceptance for instance. So one is able to be themselves around them and doesn’t feel the need to ...
Views: 1830 - Disrespect: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Low Tolerance For Disrespect? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is shown respect, they are likely to respond in a certain way, whereas, if they are not respected, they are likely to respond in another way. However, this is not to say that everyone feels they deserve the same level of respect. But when someone doesn’t get the level of respect ...
Views: 1829 - Breathing Problems: Can Trapped Grief Cause Breathing Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that our greatest wealth is health, and it doesn’t take much thought to realise why this is. When someone has good health, it will be lot easier for them to live a fulfilling life. If they are not in good health, it is going to be a lot harder for them to enjoy their time on ...
Views: 1828 - Humble: Is Being Humble Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone achieves something, they could tell other people about it or they could simply carry on with their life. As a result of this, there is the chance that everyone they know will find out about what has taken place, or there is the chance that no one will. A Closer Look Now, if ...
Views: 1828 - Critical Thinking: Can Spirituality Stop Someone From Being Able To Think Critically? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for people to see themselves as being spiritual, and there are a number of reasons for this. This partly comes down to how much information is available, and this is a largely thanks to the internet. If one wants to find out about something, they will ...
Views: 1825 - Control: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Controlling Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is common in today’s world and throughout history is control, but in most cases this is not self control, it is the control of others. And this can be seen at all levels of the modern day world. From the personal relationships that people have, to the authority figures of the world. To ...
Views: 1824 - Control: Is A Sense Of Control Important? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the word ‘control’, there is a chance that something negative will come to mind. They may begin to think about someone who is ‘controlling’, or they may think about a situation in their life that is stopping them from being themselves. However, this might not take ...
Views: 1823 - Letting Go: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new. What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ...
Views: 1823 - Objectification: Why Do Some Women Objectify Their Bodies? - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling good is something we all want to experience and there are many ways to achieve this. One way this takes place is through receiving attention from other people; with this attention being positive. It is easy to feel down and unattractive when the attention from others is negative and/or ...
Views: 1822(1 vote) - Regression: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Regress? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf defence mechanisms were mentioned, it is likely that regression would be spoken about and this is because it is one of the more common ones. But no matter what defence mechanism is used, they all have the same purpose. With the purpose being that they allow one’s mind to avoid the emotional ...
Views: 1821 - Attachment: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Attachment? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that attachment creates suffering and this is one of the foundations of Buddhism. And when it comes to attracting something into one’s life, attachment is said to be the very thing that will sabotage its arrival. One only has to look at what they are attached to and what ...
Views: 1820 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Lose Themselves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can maintain their sense of self in a relationship, there are others who are unable to do this. As a result, their experiences are going to be radically different, and this could be how they have been for most of their life. A Big Difference When one is able to maintain ...
Views: 1820 - Relationships: Do We See Others As We Want Them To Be? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that in the very beginning of a relationship, one doesn’t see the other person for who they are, what they see is their own projections. So here, one will create all kinds of associations in their mind and attach these to the other person. The other person may even posses one ...
Views: 1820 - Relationships: Why Is 'Ghosting' So Common? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperModern day technology has not only had an impact on how relationships begin, it has also had an impact on how they end. In the past, one would have met someone in person and then it would have been possible for them to develop a relationship or something more casual. Nowadays, the first step ...
Views: 1820 - Depression: Can Trapped Grief Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a physical problem can stand out, an emotional problem can remain hidden. Yet, even though there can be a difference here, it doesn’t mean that one problem is more important than other. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what kind of pain one is experiencing, what matters is that they seek ...
Views: 1819 - Free Speech: Why Do Some People Try To Stop Others From Expressing Their Views? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the people that one is closest to, they are likely to find that they have similar views. They may disagree about certain things from time to time, but in general they will be on the same page, so to speak. Whereas if one was to think about the people they that they are not ...
Views: 1819 - Feeling Good: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Good? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that just about everyone wants, and that is to feel good. It plays a big part in what someone does and doesn’t do. This can relate to one feeling emotionally centred and at ease internally and/or through having a heightened sense of wellbeing because of what is taking place ...
Views: 1816 - Grounded: Is Human Touch An Important Part Of Feeling Grounded? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ...
Views: 1815 - Relationships: Do Your Relationships Reflect Your Childhood? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because ...
Views: 1814 - Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life. Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others ...
Views: 1812 - Money: Should All The Money In The World Be Divided Equally? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort for one to realise that not everyone on this planet has the same amount of money. Yet this is not the only area in the world where there is a difference – this is one of many. Not everyone is the same height, has the same hair colour or eye colour, for instance. ...
Views: 1812 - Boundaries: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in the world today and some these are big and some of them are small. And a lack of boundaries can create all kinds of relationship problems. This is also something that can be seen on a global scale; with certain countries going into other countries. This often ...
Views: 1811 - Communication: Is Empathy Important? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are ‘social animals’ and this is because they are interdependent. So while one may see themselves as being an individual, this is not the complete truth. The person they have come to be is the result of the experiences they have had with others and in order ...
Views: 1811 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a film that had no colour or sound, it is not going to be the same as a film that has colour and sound. It is unlikely to be as engaging or as entertaining, and one might soon lose interest and turn it off or walk away from what they’re watching. And the same could be ...
Views: 1811 - Crying: Is Having The Ability To Cry Important? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is made up of moments that are pleasurable and moments that are painful, it doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept each side. There are going to be people who do everything they can to embrace pleasure and avoid pain, and, there are going to be others who renounce pleasure and ...
Views: 1810 - Relationships: Does Our Childhood Define Our Expectations Of The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that people shouldn’t have expectations and this is partly because it will cause them to be disappointed or let down. And while this can’t be denied, having expectations is part of life in many ways. For example: when someone expects more from life, they are likely to ...
Views: 1810 - Emotional State: Can We Change How We Feel By Changing Our Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow we behave influence’s how we feel, and the only thing one needs to do to realise this is to change their posture. Many people realise how their body language not only affects how they feel, they also realise how it affects how others feel around them. There is then an inner change in ...
Views: 1807 - Patterns: Do Patterns Run Our Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen we look at our lives or at the lives of others, we can see life through one of two ways, or as a combination of the two. On one side we can see that there are patterns to how we behave, think and feel and in how other people behave. And on the other side, we could also view our internal ...
Views: 1804 - Naive: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Naive? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to start something new, they might try to find out everything they can about it. In this case, they are not just going to start something and learn as they go along; they are going to do some serious research. Through taking this approach, they are going to be prepared, and ...
Views: 1803 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Go Back To Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can stay in abusive relationships and have a hard time leaving, other people can leave an abusive relationship, only to return shortly after. And this is often hard to comprehend. Why would anyone return to something that is clearly dysfunctional and even dangerous? The ...
Views: 1802 - Relationships: Why Do People Who Fear Being Abandoned End Up With People Who Fear Being Smothered? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there will be times when someone will want to be around others, there will also be times when they want to be by themselves. And as to how long someone will spend in the company of others or in their own company can depend on a number of factors. Human beings are not all the same and ...
Views: 1802 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the self help industry, thoughts are often described as having the power to create one’s life and therefore to define what one attracts into their life. And there are numerous authors and experts that espouse this perspective. One can learn about this through all kinds of ...
Views: 1798 - Empathy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A Heightened Sense Of Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their time at school or to a time when they were playing sports, they might remember a moment when someone fell over or injured themselves. Now, as they picture this in their mind, they might see that some people laughed and some people didn’t. One way of looking ...
Views: 1797 - Focus: Does What We Focus On Grow? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that what shows up in their personal reality is the result of random factors and that one is nothing more than an observer, they might end up receiving the approval of the majority of people around them. And this is because the western world generally ...
Views: 1796 - Grief: Is Grief A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, more and more normal human experiences are being given labels, and what was part of life at one point in time, ends up being seen as a mental illness at another. For example: if one was experiencing anxiety in the past, they might believe that it is just part of life. It is ...
Views: 1796 - Anxiety: What Causes Anxiety? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has anxiety problems, they may have a strong need to find a way to change their life. Then again, they could simply tolerate what is taking place and do the best that they can to keep it together. Undoubtedly, it is going to be far better if someone has a strong need to change ...
Views: 1795 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Fear Women? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has the desire to in a relationship with a woman, he could end up taking action. This could then be a time when he will go out to different bars and clubs, and he could even join a few dating sites. What this could show is that he has recently broken up with someone, and he now ...
Views: 1795 - Self Development: Can Toxic Shame Cause People To Be Obsessed With Self Development? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that we live in the age of self improvement and this is not limited to one area of life. In America for instance, the self help industry takes in billions of dollars every year. So there is the chance for one to ‘improve’ their mind, body, physical appearance, relationships and ...
Views: 1793 - "I Felt Accepted!" - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had got back from Bali and Australia, towards the end of 2009, I was no longer the same person. What had also played a part here were the experiences that I had when I was on a course in Belgium, which took place just before I went away. Ultimately, I wanted to continue from where I ...
Views: 1789 - Anger: Is Anger An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain emotions that are often described as being negative and others that are often described as being positive. And in today’s world of positive thinking and of always needing to be happy, embracing the other side of one’s emotional spectrum is generally frowned upon. Based on ...
Views: 1789 - Constructive Criticism: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Constructive Criticism? - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could watch a film and think it’s one of the best films ever, and another could watch the same film and believe it is one of the worst. What this shows is how people have different outlooks, and just because one person likes something, it doesn’t me another person will. Now, this ...
Views: 1789 - Gender Roles: Can Gender Roles Stop People From Growing? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men were seen as being one way and women as being another way. And as time has passed, these differences are no longer as extreme as they used to be. But while some things have changed, in regards to what men and women are like, there is still work to be done. This is ...
Views: 1788 - Communication: How Can Someone Start A Conversation? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone can start a conversation, it doesn’t mean that they find it easy to keep one going. And while some people can keep a conversation going, they might find it hard to start one. There will then be others who have no trouble starting them and keeping them going. However, ...
Views: 1787 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the opposite sex can do things that will cause one to feel fear and to want to keep their distance, there is also the chance that one will feel this way no matter what they do. It is then not something that depends on how another person behaves; it is something that one experiences as a ...
Views: 1786 - The Heart: Why Is It Hard To Listen To Our Heart? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the primary focus is on the intelligence and knowledge of the ego mind; the heart is often ignored and dismissed. It’s only in the recent years that it has been considered by the mainstream as anything other than just an organ. So here I will give my current opinion on why ...
Views: 1786 - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperMany words and phrases have been used to describe the true self, and while these differences do exist, they are simply labels. Underneath these labels is the same thing, and this relates to someone’s true needs and wants. The true self has been portrayed as something that is fixed, and based ...
Views: 1786 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Take Advantage Of People Who Are Kind? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the chance to get something for free, they could either take what they need or they could take as much as they could. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they can act with grace or they can act with greed. Two Outlooks When one only takes what they need, it ...
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