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- Love: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Unconsciously Look For Love? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though just about everything that someone does can be a way for them to try to be loved, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Instead, they can just see themselves as someone who is highly motivated and wants to be successful. Being this way can mean that will ...
Views: 268 - Unlovable: Can Someone Find It Hard To Accept That They Are Lovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their relationships, what might soon stand out is that they have pushed at least one person away. They could find that this person was warm and that the relationship was going well and then, before long, it ended. Being in a relationship that was ...
Views: 235 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Expect To Be Humiliated By A Woman If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to think about the interactions that he has had with women over the years, he could find that he has often felt ashamed and worthless in their presence. He could see that in most of these cases, it was because he was often put down. Due to the experiences that he has had, he ...
Views: 274 - Power Struggles: Can Someone’s Life Be Full Of Power Struggles If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperInstead of having the odd moment when they end up in a situation where another person is trying to cross their boundaries and control them, one could continually end up in this position. For example, they could be in a relationship with someone who is like this and they might work with some ...
Views: 252 - Self-Expression: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Voice? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is connected to what is taking place inside them and this information directs their life, they are going to freely express themselves. Their life is then not going to be a reflection of how other people want them to live or how they think they want them to live. Moreover, when ...
Views: 278 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Carry Too Much Pain To Be Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has come to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, they can soon have the need to talk to one or both of their parents about what took place. They can hope that this will end up being a time when their experiences will be validated and remorse will be ...
Views: 284 - Self-Abandonment: Can Someone Abandon Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to step back and reflect on their life, what they might soon realise is that they are rarely there for themselves. In other words, they are going to be like someone who owns a dog but who typically leaves the dog outside and forgets to feed it. As a result of this, they ...
Views: 327 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can It Be Harder For A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Liberate Himself If He Is In Doing Mode? - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter a man, who is emotionally entangled with his mother, comes to see what is going on, he could end up having the need to change his life. Before this takes place, though, he could feel deeply frustrated and totally helpless. However, after a while, assuming that this doesn’t take place ...
Views: 256 - Happiness: Can Early Deprivation Give Someone The Need To Be Happy All the Time? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can come across as happy or at the very least, as though everything is fine. Due to this, the people in their life could describe them as a ‘happy person’, and, because of this, they might feel uplifted after they have spent time in their presence. However, while this is ...
Views: 277 - Inner Enemy: Can Someone Have An Inner Enemy If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust as a group of individuals will be able to make more progress when they work together, someone will also be able to make more progress when they are able to work with themselves. Of course, unlike a group of people, they are one person but they will be made up of many different parts. As ...
Views: 293 - Self-Worth: Can Someone’s Worth Be Externalised If They Experienced Conditional Love As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone could spend a lot of time doing things and very little if any time relaxing and taking it easy. This could be how they have been for most of their life, though, so it might not be something that stands out. Nonetheless, if they live in a society that is generally focused on the doing ...
Views: 239 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel That He Would Die If He Lived His Own Life? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother’s life, was at the stage where he is aware of what is going on and is able to step back and reflect on this behaviour, he could find that not behaving this way is seen as something that would lead to his demise. He is then going to have two options: ...
Views: 272 - Needs: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To See Their Needs As A Burden? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could hide their needs and thereby, create the impression that they are needless. This could be something that takes place automatically as opposed to something that they consciously choose to do. If a friend or a family member needs something, then, they could be only too ...
Views: 279 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That He Is Not Responsible For His Mothers Well-Being? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man might not be consciously aware of this, his main priority could be to make sure that his mother is ok. Then again, there could be times when it goes further than this, with him having the need to make sure that she is happy. As a result of this, it is likely to be normal for ...
Views: 323 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Father Emasculated? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that he is overly focused on his mother, a man could believe that he would be different if his mother hadn’t used him during his early years. This could show that he has thought a lot about what took place when he was a boy. He will then have come to see that he was forced ...
Views: 246 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Repress His Anger If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he rarely if ever gets angry, he could struggle to understand why he is this way. What this can mean is that it is normal for him to be walked over, taken advantage of and not stand his ground. This could be something that he experiences each week if not every ...
Views: 280 - Belonging: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing A Felt Sense Of Belonging? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon enter their mind is that they often feel unwelcome and as though they don’t deserve to be somewhere. This could be something that they experience when they are at work, with friends and even with family. Due to this, they ...
Views: 323 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Emotionally Underdeveloped? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperSomeone doesn’t need to be a psychologist to realise that something isn’t right if a man is overly focused on his mother and neglects himself. The average person is likely to be able to see that he is living in a way that is not serving him. But, although this is something that can be ...
Views: 278 - Inner Security: Can Someone Be Consumed By Their Need To Feel Secure If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they spend a lot of time trying to settle themselves down. This is going to show that they find it hard to feel at ease. But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, what is ...
Views: 251 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Redefine Himself? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man has spent most if not all of his life focusing on and doing things for his mother, he is unlikely to have a very empowering view of himself. Even so, this doesn’t mean that he will be aware of this. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, why would he be aware of this? How ...
Views: 260 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: What Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have In Common With A Spartan Warrior? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOver two thousand years ago, in a place called Sparta, males were trained from a young age to fight. As part of their training, they went through numerous challenges in order for them to be moulded into warriors. It then didn’t matter what any of these males wanted to do with their life as ...
Views: 262 - Anger Problems: Can A Man Use Anger To Mask His Hurt? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to feel angry and this could be something that the people in his life are only too aware of. The reason for this is that he could often come across as intense and rude. It might go further, though, as there could be moments when he is violent and destroys ...
Views: 239 - Emotional Problems: Can A Man Feel Isolated If He Has Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will end up reaching out for the support that he needs. He might not even share what is going on for him with his friends or family, for instance. As a result of this, he could have a number of people in his life that would be happy to ...
Views: 233 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 248 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Strong Need To Be Seen By Women If He Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperA man could put a lot of effort into his appearance, with this being a way for him to receive a woman’s attention. This can mean that he spends a lot of time exercising, a lot of his money on clothes and is often at bars and clubs. When he receives attention from a woman who he finds ...
Views: 256 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To See Human Contact As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it is going to mean that it is important for them to experience human contact. This is something that will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Nonetheless, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will experience a great deal of ...
Views: 217 - Anxiety: Can Unmet Developmental Needs Play A Part In Why Someone Feels Anxious? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those who experience anxiety from time to time and those who more or less always feel anxious. When someone can relate to the latter, they might want to lose the ability to be anxious. This may show that they have experienced life in this for a few months or a number of years. But, ...
Views: 233 - Survival: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel As Though Their Survival Is Constantly Under Threat? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can live a life where they often feel as though they are going to die, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. However, if they are not aware of this, they are still likely to suffer. What can be normal is for them to experience a lot of anxiety and ...
Views: 257 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay In The Background If They Had A Verbally Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to watch a film, they might soon find that there is the main actor and then there are a number of supporting actors. Once the film has come to an end, what may stand out, if they were to reflect on their own life, is that they have a lot in common with a supporting actor. The ...
Views: 230 - Inner Security: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Developing Inner Security? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel all at sea internally or to be in a shut down state and unable to feel anything. Experiencing life in this way is likely to make it hard for them to appreciate their time on this planet. Due to how unstable they often feel, then, their need to feel ...
Views: 237 - Child Abuse: Why Can’t An Abusive Parent Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by at least one of their parents during their formative years, they might have a strong need to talk to them about it. However, it might have taken them a while to realise that this stage of their life wasn’t very nurturing. This is because their brain will have blocked ...
Views: 287 - Relationships: Can Developmental Trauma Take Away Someone’s Desire To Attach To Others? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They can spend a lot of time by themselves and have very little if any interest in being around others. This is not to say that they won’t have any friends but it is likely that they won’t be ...
Views: 267 - Emotional Self: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are typically out of touch with how they feel, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. But, if this is how they how been for quite some time, there will be no reason for it to stand out. And, as they are likely to live in a society that is full ...
Views: 240 - Mother Wounds: Can Early Neglect Cause A Man To Fear Being Seen By A Woman? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man fears being seen by a woman, it doesn’t mean that he will realise this. But, even if he is not consciously aware of this, what he fears is still going to have an effect on how he experiences life. The reason why he is not aware of what is going on is that he could be out of touch ...
Views: 276 - Needs: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Believe That Their Needs Won’t Be Met? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have a number of needs, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of all of them. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to meet all their needs. By living in this way, they are going to be depriving themselves of a lot of what they need. They can ...
Views: 239 - Self-Pathologizing: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Have Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they are finding it hard to handle life, they could believe that there is something inherently wrong with them. They could often see themselves as useless, incapable and even stupid. Unlike perhaps the people in their life, who have it together or at the very ...
Views: 261 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have The Need To Possess A Woman If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a man for a little while, a woman could feel as though he is too much for her to handle. This is because she could feel controlled and as if her ability to freely express herself has been taken away. However, there is a strong chance that she didn’t feel this way in the ...
Views: 231 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Feminine Aspect If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, a man will have a masculine aspect, and, on the other, he will have a feminine aspect. But, although he will have two sides to this nature, it doesn’t mean that this is something that will stand out. He could generally come across as though he is only made up of the masculine ...
Views: 286 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Please His Father? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and neglects himself in the process, it could be said that this illustrates that he has a strong need to please her. After all, she is going to be the person who he is doing so much for. Based on this, if he ...
Views: 244 - Unwanted: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Unwanted? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wasn’t treated like they were wanted during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this now that they are an adult. Yet, if this is not something that they are aware of, what took place is still likely to have a big impact on how they experience ...
Views: 254 - Feelings: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they really feel. As a result of this, the people in their life are unlikely to be aware of what is truly going on for them. However, due to how good they are at hiding how they feel, there can be no reason for these people to realise this. There ...
Views: 278 - Self-Assertion: Can Developmental Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Assert Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone can assert themselves, they will have no trouble standing their ground and saying no. Along with this, if they want to do something, it won’t typically be a challenge for them to do it. Having this ability will allow them to both protect and express themselves. Thanks to this, ...
Views: 296 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Can’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Accept That He Is Overly Focused on His Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother and very little time doing things for himself, this might be something that he is aware of. Being this way will allow him to do what he needs to do to gradually change his life. This might have been something ...
Views: 234 - Child Abuse: Can Someone End Up Feeling Guilty After They Have Spoken To Their Abusive Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to ...
Views: 253 - Early Deprivation: Does Someone Need To Face The Pain Of Being Unloved In Order To Heal? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone missed out on the love that they needed in order to grow and develop very early on, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Most of what took place during this stage of their life could be a mystery to them. However, even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 280 - Mother Wounds: Can Developmental Trauma Cause A Man To Put Women On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man is around certain women, it might be hard for him to keep it together, so to speak. What this can mean is that during this time, he ends up feeling anxious and can’t function as he normally would. This is likely to be an experience that he has when he is around a woman to who he is ...
Views: 263 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he experiences life, what could soon stand out is that he doesn’t feel as though he has any value. He could see how this has held him back when it comes to his career and his relationships with the opposite sex. He might have continually made one ...
Views: 268 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Their Head? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body, they are not going to be in touch with a big part of them. It is this part of them that a number of their needs and feelings will be found. Taking this into account, not having a strong connection with this part of them is going to ...
Views: 266 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Struggle To Be Loved By A Woman If His Mother Was Unable To Love Him? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a man could be in a relationship with a woman who is not really interested in him. Or, if he is not in a relationship with a woman like this, he could be dating or seeing a woman who is. Consequently, he is going to be into or really into her but she is not going to feel the same ...
Views: 240 - Self-Alienation: Can Someone Be A Stranger To Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to live a fulfilling life, they will need to be connected to their body and be in touch with their needs and feelings. The reason for this is that by being connected to themselves, they will be able to take life in, and this connection will provide them with the guidance that they ...
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