“The final stage of healing is using what happens to you to help other people. That is healing in itself.” – Gloria Steinem
“Why me?” people often ask when they’re dragged into the underworld of anxiety in any form. “Why do they have it so easy? Why does it look like everyone else glides ... Views: 456
Are you suffering from chronic anxiety disorder? Angst
in itself is not a bad feeling. It is a useful feeling as it enables us to prepare ourselves well for any anticipated challenge. Anxiety tells us we need to prepare for something and be ready to meet the challenge. In the absence of ... Views: 363
Every day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t always present as fear but instead shows up as irritation, ... Views: 440
When discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written other posts about how essential it is to peel ... Views: 373
Among the many misconceptions that people have about love – that it’s only a feeling, that the feeling of being “in love” should exist from day one, that attraction is static and based on external attributes – the faulty belief that often gets swept under the rug more than any other is that ... Views: 2388
Whenever a theme arises in my weekly work with clients I know it’s important to write about it here. Last week the theme was: “I married the wrong person” or “It would have been easier with someone else.”
One of the most important tasks for those on the road to awakening is to notice all of ... Views: 382
While flipping through one of my favorite bedside stand-bys, Reflections on the Art of Living: A Joseph Campbell Companion, I came across the following passage and chuckled out loud:
“My experience is that I can feel that I’m in the Grail Castle when I’m living with people I love, doing what ... Views: 339
Among the many questions that dart through the mind plagued by relationship anxiety, the one that can cause either hope or despair is, “Will this anxiety ever end? The short answer is yes: the acute anxiety that you’re experiencing – the one that wakes you in the night and causes you to lose ... Views: 464
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.
Rumi
When we’re being asked to unpack a new layer of wound that will lead to healing, it can feel daunting, overwhelming, and ... Views: 319
There appears to be a lot of people in today’s world who suffer from anxiety, and while this may be something that only affects certain areas of their life, it may be far more severe. When it relates to the former, there may be times when they are able to settle down and to feel at peace.
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Anxiety isn’t often viewed as a positive thing to have. It is something that many people suffer through every day. Anxious people can come off as too ... Views: 488
Art relaxes the mind and is so called to be “food for the Soul”. Art has been a big part of human history since the beginning of our society. Dating back to the times we lived in caves, the earliest works of art can found on the cave walls. It is a skill deeply engrave us that we ... Views: 990
This week's blog was inspired by our most recent guest on the Spotlight On eWomen Podcast, Aime Hutton. By all medical accounts, Aime shouldn’t be here today. Born 3 months early in 1976, she was given 24 hours to live. That was only the beginning of her struggles as she was severely bullied in ... Views: 359
Over the years, I’ve worked with many clients who have suffered from the intrusive thought, “What if my partner is gay?” (or “What if my partner is straight?” for those in a same-sex relationship), and while I’ve written several posts on the “What if I’m gay?” spike I haven’t written about what ... Views: 399
As I’ve written about before on this blog, one of the privileges of being the position of guiding people through the darkest aspects of their psyche and soul is that they share thoughts and feelings with me that they wouldn’t share with anyone else. Part of the reason why they share openly about ... Views: 366
Fear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law school and graduated at the top of its class. This character, terrified of change, will gather ... Views: 378
I recently came across the following in a book called “The Middle Passage” by James Hollis:
“What the frightened individual wishes above all is the restoration of the sense of self which once worked. What the therapist knows is that the symptoms are helpful clues to the place of injury or ... Views: 311
For those of you who are struggling with relationship anxiety, you probably saw the title of this post and wondered if I was going to talk about when to leave a relationship, and perhaps felt nervous that it was going to spike you. But hopefully you have enough faith in my site that you know ... Views: 333
The following is from course member findingpeace28, who shared this on the e-course forum two weeks after her wedding. As soon as I read it, I knew had to share it with those of you struggling with relationship anxiety and, in particular, the connection spike, to offer you a lifeline of hope and ... Views: 291
“It’s better to make a mistake with the full force of your being than to carefully avoid mistakes with a trembling spirit.”
– Dan Millman, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior
When I was in graduate school many ago, my classmates would often ask me how I was able to write papers so quickly and ... Views: 396
People pleasing occurs when a person puts his or her wants and needs aside to please another person. An example of people pleasing includes saying, “I don’t care, whatever you want” when someone asks what restaurant you’d like to have lunch at, even though you really do have a preference about ... Views: 428
Anxiety can hang its hat on almost any hook. It can focus on relationships, fertility, parenting, health, the world, money, career, death. Within each of these topics, there are endless sub-topics that lure anxiety into its lair. If we’re talking about relationship anxiety, for example, the hook ... Views: 404
When we spiral down into the deeper layers of anxiety – whether relationship anxiety or any other form that anxiety takes – we find some universal root causes that live at the center. These exist on both the emotional and psychological/spiritual planes, and they all need our attention if we’re ... Views: 590
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl
If we could slow life down to micro-moments, if we could literally alter time like a movie turning it into sloooooow ... Views: 372
When the same thought, image, dream, or motif shows up across cultures and crosses all of our lines of classification (age, gender, geography, race, religion), we call it an archetype. For example, the dreams where you show up at school without your pants on or have forgotten to study for a test ... Views: 456
A coaching client recently shared the following (shared here with her permission):
A few weeks ago, I found myself obsessively thinking about a situation with a friend of mine – someone to whom I’ve given my power for many years. I was completely caught by this theme and I couldn’t get out ... Views: 403
Ayurveda, Unani and Yoga have been known to treat diverse diseases as well as preventing numerous disorders since time immemorial. It has also been observed that alternative treatment methods are steadily gaining ground as people are becoming more and more aware of the harmful effects of ... Views: 310
Teen Suicide and Social Media
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Social media and the devices that they run on are designed to be addictive, as many industry executives have confessed. Addiction is always punctuated by periods of withdrawal and its “cold ... Views: 675
I am often called upon in my hypnotherapy practice to help people motivate themselves more effectively. This can extend to successfully thinking about your job or career, about making money and having abundance in your life, or to maximizing your sports performance.
Hypnosis can be a very ... Views: 295
What limiting beliefs are controlling your life? Do you identify with any of these common false beliefs?
All of us absorbed numerous deep false beliefs as we were growing up, and these beliefs now govern much of what occurs in our work and our relationships. It is sometimes challenging to ... Views: 407
“Although the push-pull behaviors in our current relationships seem to be triggered by our partner, they are actually a result of old fears we carry from our childhood. “
Anxiety is a normal part of being in an intimate relationship. It usually comes in two forms- the fear of abandonment, ... Views: 607
One of the most challenging elements of relationship anxiety to understand is that, if you’re in a healthy, loving relationship with no red flags, the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing ... Views: 602
After a long break, the students feel excited about returning to school. However, there is so much to do, and it can be quite hectic for parents and the children. The anxiety for students is usually about the starting a new class and not knowing what to expect.
Nick Chapman has compiled a ... Views: 345
It didn’t sound like great advice when my friend Galen dispensed his wisdom after I told him my dilemma. “Write an article.” I had written dozens of articles already; how would writing another change things?
Still, I sit with pen and paper to write my thoughts. The problem I seem to be ... Views: 307
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"All madmen may not be mystics, but all mystics are mad. By mad, I mean they have gone beyond the mind. The madman may have fallen below the mind, and ... Views: 410
Anxiety is a messenger, a symptom, and a gift. I know that statement flies in the face of everything we learn about anxiety in a culture that is pathologically obsessed with eradicating shadow at every turn and consequently attempts to “get rid of” the symptom of anxiety as quickly and cleanly ... Views: 430
There are so many ways the ego tries to dismantle real love, and it’s favorite is to perseverate on a single question until it tires itself out, then jump to the next story. I’ve dissected many of these questions on this blog and in my courses, approaching each in the same way: name it as an ... Views: 420
One of the common fear-lines that arises when the ego is trying to deconstruct the idea of relationship anxiety and convince you that your truth is that you’re just with the wrong person is: “If what Sheryl says is true, why don’t more people talk about it?”
It’s an understandable question, ... Views: 399
One of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ... Views: 376
There is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.*
The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic:
Can’t sleep
Can’t eat
Tearful
Depressed
Bolting awake in the middle of the night
Difficulty functioning at work
Fluttering ... Views: 338
One of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ... Views: 293
When you’re neck-deep and soul-soaked in anxiety, when you’re having trouble eating, sleeping, and basically functioning, when the love you formally felt for your partner has been eclipsed by indifference, doubt, or numbness, when intrusive thoughts invade your brain day and night, you will ... Views: 454
Without our jobs we can hardly make a living, it is important to work, but in some situations, changes have to be made to adjust and save your mental health. Working keeps you active, you can sustain a better social life by interacting with others out there, and if you love your job, then you ... Views: 323
No matter what you do to try and keep your life relaxing and fun, some situations are going to arise that cause you stress. There's nothing that you can do to prevent those kinds of things from happening. What you can do, however, is have control over how you react to such occurrences.
Some ... Views: 522
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“How strange—all living beings have the fully awakened nature, but none of them knows it. And because of that they drift and sink from lifetime to lifetime in ... Views: 568
Many people suffer from migraines and they are quite troublesome. It is important to talk to a doctor to help you find the triggers causing these migraines. Still, you need a solution right now, and the following five therapeutic ideas should help you reduce the pain.
Try Aromatherapy
One main ... Views: 391
Anxiety is debilitating. It can be mild, more of a nervousness, or it can make life very difficult indeed. So what are its triggers and what can you do about them?
Is anxiety something that is there all the time, or is it especially active when others are there? I asked the question of if you ... Views: 683
Did you know that when there is stress it is usually carried in our bodies somewhere? Not only that but it can create health issues and sometimes these issues can play a role in how we function daily in our lives. These issues can wreak havoc in our minds and our bodies if we let it or we can ... Views: 742
Are these the most annoying words ever spoken?
What do these people think? Do they think you’re really trying your best to worry about it? No, in fact you’re almost certainly trying your hardest NOT to worry … but it’s constantly on your mind.
But the truth is that the more you try NOT to ... Views: 572
People’s brains vary. Research has shown that some people are born with a neurological make up that can make them more emotionally or intellectually intense, sensitive, and more open to external stimuli than the general population.
They are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes ... Views: 945