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- Altered States of Consciousness: Dragon Space - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporWe can turn on or off certain emotions in accordance with our personal choice. OPTIMAL STATE OF CONSCUOUSNESS A change in the state of consciousness is a completely natural thing, because it occurs every moment and is expressed in a change in the emotional background and dynamics of moods. ...
Views: 62(1 vote) - How to develop stress resistance? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporThere is a mental technique that allows a person not to lose self-control in any situation. WHAT IS STRESS TOLERANCE? When you need to eat a worm, the most important thing is not to think about the worm. Otherwise it will vomit. It's amazing how our thoughts can determine our physiology: I ...
Views: 108(2 votes) - In Search of the Meaning of Life: From Scientific Facts to Practical Philosophy - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporIn search of the meaning of life, people most often turn to religion or speculative esoteric philosophy. But this is very similar to trying to calm yourself down instead of being ready to accept the world as it is, not idealizing or embellishing it. I suggest you answer the question “What is the ...
Views: 86(1 vote) - What to do with your irritability? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporCan you become a calmer person? Yes. And I will tell you how to do it. THE FIRST MISTAKE OF THE MISTAKEN Worrying about making a mistake is an EVEN BIGGER MISTAKE. We always worry when we are wrong. And this is the first mistake of the one who realized his mistake. Because experiences are ...
Views: 119(1 vote) - What is more important: to influence the situation or change your attitude towards it? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporThe Western mentality pushes us to try to control the situation, the East sees wisdom in changing the attitude towards the world. But is it possible to balance these two approaches? WHY IS ONE IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT THE OTHER? A person is unable to make the simplest changes in his lifestyle ...
Views: 125(1 vote) - How can you become more confident through organizing your thinking? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporManaging our thoughts can make us more confident. WHAT IS CONFIDENCE? The man was fired from his job, his wife left him, then he crashed a car in an accident. Sits on the sidelines and cries: - God, why do I need all this? .. A voice from heaven: - Well, you know ... I do not love ...
Views: 136(1 vote) - Whom are we running from in a sleep? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporAND WHAT IS A DREAM? As psychological studies show, everyone has bad dreams. Someone less often, someone more often. More often than not, bad dreams are dreamed in the first half of the night, and we forget them. And that's great. Because in them we often have to flee from monsters, from all ...
Views: 90(1 vote) - How to beat procrastination? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporHow to stop being blunt under the pressure of problems? LANGOLIERS OF OUR PSYCHE In Stephen King's story, Langoliers are strange time-eating creatures. But they lived not only in the head of the genius writer. They live in the psyche of each of us, and skillfully controlling our behavior, ...
Views: 120(1 vote) - Why is total self-control dangerous? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporConstant self-control destroys our psyche, depriving us of our will WHEN THE WORLD HAS CHANGED When a person had nothing but a spear and dry tinder in a bag on his belt, he was freer. For thousands, tens of thousands of years, we had one concern: hitting the target with a spear. We easily ...
Views: 134(1 vote) - Three most effective ways to increase willpower - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporWillpower is a finite resource. And that's good news. Because what is changeable is controllable. If willpower can run out, it can build up. The three most important tools for the development of will in this article. WOMEN SCIENTISTS PUT WILLPOWER UNDER THE SCALPEL Recently I got ...
Views: 127(1 vote) - How does stress destroy us and how can we deal with it effectively? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporIf we don't die a violent death, then stress will kill us. But mankind has found an antidote to him too. Good is in accordance. Inconsistency is killing. RUN OR FIGHT For many tens of thousands of years, our ancestors polished an effective mechanism for responding to danger, which our ...
Views: 114(1 vote) - Can you change your character? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporIt turns out that a person is able to change to a greater extent than is commonly believed. THAT IN OURSELVES WE CANNOT CHANGE By nature, we are given temperament. And we cannot change that. But this does not mean that the choleric is doomed to stupid and rash acts, and the phlegmatic is ...
Views: 163(1 vote) - How to overcome anxiety by stopping the internal dialogue - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Rudiyr Topor"Stopping the internal dialogue" is a modern term meaning the cessation of the thought process through word formation. One can think not only in words, but it is the "verbal mess", according to a number of experts, that is responsible for creating a feeling of anxiety. However, this is not quite ...
Views: 162(1 vote) - How does an informational "drug" work? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporThe 21st century has given rise to a new type of addiction: addiction to information. How and why do we get addicted to "informational doping"? WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION RECOGNIZED THE PROBLEM The World Health Organization has included addiction to computer games, including network games, ...
Views: 207(1 vote) - How to get rid of anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2021 from Rudiyr ToporAnxiety is a consequence of cognitive bias, which can be termed as ... THE NEED TO ACT Anxiety is a consequence of the desire to change the situation. We want to make a difference because the current state of affairs seems threatening to us. For example, we go to work at risk of being ...
Views: 190(1 vote) - How to break mental blocks by action? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporMental blocks are a newfangled term synonymous with habit. The most vile habit is the habit of self-perception. Example. At school, I had a difficult relationship with physical education lessons. I did not like skiing, football, other "...ball" and even skates. I did not love. So I grew up ...
Views: 206(1 vote) - The two best ways to manage fear - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporSo that fear does not interfere with effective action, you should learn to manage it. There are two fundamentally different ways to do this. WHAT IS "FEAR"? If we want to learn how to manage something, we must understand the nature of this phenomenon. Because "what is knowable is ...
Views: 265(1 vote) - Intelligent personality can be stupid - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporSometimes you look at a person and think: “After all, an intelligent person. And he behaves like a nerd. Why?" Because the mind is different. WHAT KINDS OF MIND ARE THERE? First-order mind: erudition. Erudition is the mastery of fact in its broadest aspect. They say about the polymath that ...
Views: 180(1 vote) - How to strengthen your psyche? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporThe human psyche lives by its own laws. Knowing them, you can consciously work to strengthen it. RHYTHM LAW To strengthen our body, we create a training rhythm. It is not exercise, not training, but the “load-recovery” rhythm that makes us stronger. Thanks to the created rhythm, a person ...
Views: 162(1 vote) - How does fatigue affect our self-control? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporEveryone knows this state: you are going to do something, but they interfere with you. Heck! Everyone bothers you, even if you are not going to do anything! It's all about the energy deficit that killed your self-control ... HOW ENERGY DEFICIT REDUCES YOUR SELF-CONTROL The volitional ...
Views: 150(1 vote) - Why is life not satisfactory? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporVery briefly and simply about what prevents us from enjoying life. Why can't we taste life? Imagine you are eating an apple. But watch the movie. When your attention is focused on the storyline, you stop feeling the taste of the apple being eaten. And here in your hands is a stub from an ...
Views: 235(1 vote) - How does time heal and how does it cripple our psyche? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporThere is a natural mechanism for stabilizing the psyche, but there are also natural mechanisms that reduce its adaptive properties. WHY DOES TIME HEAL? Everyone knows that time heals. But WHY? Stressful situations can destabilize a person's psyche, introducing him into depressive ...
Views: 148(1 vote) - Why is it harder for smart people to understand what they want? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporDIFFERENCE BETWEEN PURPOSE AND DESIRE The level of intelligence determines not only the radius of your horizons and the size of your sphere of interest, but also the scale of your goals. The more stupid a person is, the simpler his perception of the world and the easier it is for him to solve ...
Views: 187(1 vote) - How to change your attitude towards ...? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporIf you cannot influence the situation, change your attitude towards it. We all know about this. But HOW can you change your attitude towards something? It turns out that this is not so difficult if you understand the very mechanism of the formation of our attitude to reality. WHAT IS ...
Views: 235(1 vote) - How thoughts cause anxiety - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWe constantly delude ourselves and create a false picture of the world. PLACE OF POWER: BEIGN DETERMINES CONSCIOUSNESS Ten months ago, I left my home, lost in the wooded hills and moved to the regional center to give my children an opportunity to gain an understanding of modern society. ...
Views: 224(1 vote) - Mechanics of will - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWill is a finite resource. Volitional efforts consume a lot of energy. Let's see why. The dynamics of mental processes is such that different foci of activity constantly arise, decay and compete in the brain. The dominant focus begins to determine our behavior. The more competition flares up, ...
Views: 141(1 vote) - Dragon and Eagle are inside us - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporA dragon lives inside each of us. This is a reptilian brain that can react quickly, very quickly to a stress factor. For us to survive. Because when a leopard jumps on your back, you need to act, not think. The trouble is that today we no longer have leopards jumping on our backs, and more ...
Views: 134(1 vote) - Two reasons to do nothing - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporLaziness is a disease that eats up our lives. Laziness has two reasons. By understanding them, you can effectively resist laziness. THE FIRST REASON In the vast majority of cases, the reason for laziness is a lack of vital energy. Laziness is the body's natural response to this deficiency. ...
Views: 223(1 vote) - Why is thinking more important then knowledge? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporOne day a friend of mine asked me to teach him how to hunt. I politely refused, saying that I could offer him more. In view of the fact that he had a whole month ahead of him in Sloboda, I did not want to deprive him of the opportunity to master the technique of self-study. After all, this is ...
Views: 191(1 vote) - How to regain self-respect and get out of depression - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWhen we feel weak, the world around us seems hostile. Everything is bad outside, because everything is bad inside. It is not easy to realize this, because we often perceive our aggressiveness as a manifestation of strength. But aggression is a transformed fear. How to overcome latent fear and ...
Views: 316(1 vote) - The mind of the beast: how to become as stress-resistant as the beast? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporBy volitional effort, we are able to change the state of our consciousness. WHAT IS THE "CONSCIOUSNESS OF THE BEAST"? Neuroscientists today are seriously discussing the existence of certain forms of consciousness in mammals. And even octopuses. The townsfolk, however, often have no doubts ...
Views: 173(1 vote) - Why you need to live slowly, or how iamlessness breeds whileness - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporIn response to the destructive acceleration of social life, people began to cultivate a slow life. IN A HURRY, YOU MAKE PEOPLE LAUGH Lately, I often laugh at myself. I make such ridiculous mistakes that it’s time to laugh at them. I remember how my older brother once said to me: “What ...
Views: 206(1 vote) - Why don't we finish what we started? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWhat is the reason for the lack of discipline? WHY ARE WE MAKING A MESS? I came back from a long walk. I climbed the hills around Sloboda all day. I'm tired. While changing clothes, I threw the traumatic pistol on the bed. The thought flashed: “I have to put it in the safe ...” And I was ...
Views: 188(1 vote) - Focus on the goal to achieve it. - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporConcentration can be so difficult in a world where everything is distracting you. But once my cat taught me a lesson in hunting, clearly showing how to behave in order not to lose sight of the target. THE STORY OF ONE CAT We were returning to Sloboda by car. He was sitting on the road and ...
Views: 162(1 vote) - Strength of will. Strengthening technique. - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWillpower is a tool for self-organization. If we had an iron will, then how much we could do! .. But why “if”? Willpower lends itself to training. This is our conversation. WILLPOWER REQUIRES ENERGY Before talking about the development methodology, it is important to understand what to ...
Views: 184(1 vote) - Four thoughts that will make you more calmly to stress. - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2020 from Rudiyr ToporWhat ideas do you need to focus on every morning to increase your stress tolerance? About this in the article below. WHY CAN'T STRESS HURT US? Psychologically, it's not stress that harms us, but the grades we give it. Different people have different attitudes to the same stressors, so they ...
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