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- Why Putting Others’ Needs Ahead of Your Own Can Lead to Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2011 from narcissism curedIn our culture it is very common to teach our children, especially girls, that putting others’ needs before our own is the key to keeping harmony. This is how a person learns Codependence. But when you are dealing with a partner who believes it is your job to make him happy, which is a ...
Views: 3131(1 vote) - Why She Doesn’t Leave Him - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Debra FentressShe can be the woman in the market with the bruises on her face and you look at her with pity, wondering why she stays. Or she could be the woman at gatherings who goes off by herself, seldom speaking, quietly watching—a shell of a person. She could be your sister who never wants to come to the ...
Views: 2389(1 vote) - Wise wrods - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceAn old Cherokee told his grandson one day about a battle that goes on inside people… He told him that the battle was between 2 wolves. One is Evil. It’s anger, envy, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego. The other one is ...
Views: 1398(1 vote) - Writing Through PTSD - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWhen I was six years old I felt very connected with God. I had a sense of peace about my world, and knew, I just knew, that one day I would become a famous writer. It was a sense of destiny that was as tangible as anything I’ve experienced since. I started my first novel at age 13, something ...
Views: 1862(2 votes) - Your emotional journey in the early days following your relationship break up or separation-What to Expect! - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from James RichardsonFollowing your divorce,relationship break up or separation,you may be surprised and alarmed to experience both the strength and range of emotions that you are currently feeling. You may notice that your emotions are different to other people who are separated. This appears, in part,to depend ...
Views: 3035(1 vote) - Your environment is everything! - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2013 from Heather WattersOur environments are all that matters. The people in it have a direct impact on the quality of our lives. Ways to ensure a life free from abuse and torment, is to clean out your environment. No matter how small or insignificant the interactions may be, we must always be aware that everything ...
Views: 1643(1 vote) - “I Attract Abusers Like a Magnet” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninMany victims of narcissists are firmly convinced that they have been "chosen" by their abusers because of their capacity to empathize, their innate sensitivity, compassion, and their ability to love and care. Indeed, these qualities tend to attract exploitative psychopathic predators who ...
Views: 5529(1 vote) - “It's All My Fault for Having Provoked Him” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninHow often have you heard the following phrases coupled with the most horrific physical, verbal, and psychological abuse: "It's all your fault, you made me do it" or "look what you made me do!" Abusers have alloplastic defenses and an external locus of control. This means that they tend to ...
Views: 3101(1 vote) - Talk of Tigers/The Tiger Unveiled - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysTalk of Tigers (Written March 9, 1990) "Tell me about your tiger," she said. They were at the zoo, standing in front of the tiger cage. A huge, restless Bengal tiger paced back and forth the length of the cage. His eyes looked devoid of life, cold, neutral. The huge paws silently padded up ...
Views: 1827(4 votes) - Assertiveness Really Does Work - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Mark LamendolaBy Mark Lamendola www.mindconnection.com/BehaviorMod Many people are afraid of being assertive, or consider assertive behavior to be impolite. Usually, that’s because they confuse assertive behavior with aggressive behavior. Instead of confronting a problem, they use other strategies. And ...
Views: 2368(3 votes) - Feel Your Feelings. - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Meg HubbardSo many of us rush around stuffing our feeling and emotions deeper and deeper down inside of us. We refuse to let them out. We may subconsciously remember childhood programs we picked up like… “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”, or someone calling you a “cry baby”, or ...
Views: 2492(3 votes) - Forgiveness! - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Meg HubbardWhen there has been abuse, sexual, physical, emotional and verbal it's tough to forgive, darn near impossible. I know because I've been in each of these situations, so I speak from my heart and soul, to yours, with love, respect and light. The abuser went to prison for his actions. Well ...
Views: 1916(3 votes) - How Does Childhood Trauma Affect The Brain? - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Dr. Jane SimingtonHow does childhood trauma affect the brain? Originally Published on November 15, 2011 on HotMommaGossip.com Written By Jane Simington PhD, Grief & Trauma Educator and Therapist Healthy bonding and attachment are crucial to development from the first days of life. Well cared-for babies ...
Views: 3058(3 votes) - Psychology In Trouble - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneThe Human Condition Volume 1, Part 01 Have you ever wondered what is the platform for our one and only human experience? I have, for I once destroyed 99.9 percent of my human experience. With one tenth of my experience left, I took the time to learn how to learn from my insecurities. I ...
Views: 1763(3 votes) - Sexually Speaking - Love Wins - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneAre YOU hiding your true sexual feelings, desires and interests? Are you afraid to let your partner know you as you truly are? Why is sexual self-expression and sexual disclosure often hiding in the closet? We live in a free society that seems to allow open discussions about even the most ...
Views: 2838(3 votes) - 10 Feng Shui Tips for your Office to Boost your Prosperity - by Feng Shui (fung-shway) is the study of arranging your environment to enhance your life. Every minute of every day your environment is either supporting you or draining you. Feng Shui teaches you to join forces with your environment to make living your best life effortless.
Not only does your ...
Views: 13636(2 votes) - Alcoholic Behavior: Signs To Look Out For. - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2011 from Charles SomerA lot of conflicting emotions surface when you think you notice alcoholic behavior in someone you love. In fact, it is emotional when you realize that you may have a problem with alcohol yourself. It takes a big person to look in the mirror and honestly assess whether alcohol is becoming a ...
Views: 3703(2 votes) - Become a Therapist - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2012 from Rosemary PriceBecome a therapist - The problems that you could help others with are enormous, debilitating and horrendous. Something like agoraphobia can totally stunt a person's life as it does not allow them to go out. Someone who is recovering from abuse will be needing support too. Firstly let us ...
Views: 2907(2 votes) - HEALING HEARTS - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2012 from Ken ThomRecently, I got into the car to make a quick trip to the store. I popped in a CD, Michael W. Smith’s "Healing Rain." The second track on the CD is the song "Healing Rain." As I listened to it, the Holy Spirit came over me so strongly that I began to weep. I have always believed that this is ...
Views: 2456(2 votes) - Heartbreak - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Margaret PaulCeline, an only child, was 7 years old, her mother died tragically in a car accident. She and her father were devastated. However, unlike so many of my clients who lost parents and no one was there for them, Celine's father was completely there for her, even while dealing with his own grief and ...
Views: 5718(4 votes) - How Drug Abuse and Addiction Affects the Brain - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from addiction professorDrug addiction and abuse can be prevented. Research has shown that prevention programs that involve families, schools, and communities can help reduce drug abuse. It is important for the youth and general public to understand the real risks of drug abuse and addiction. Community leaders must ...
Views: 1956(2 votes) - Patt Manna's "Experience Strength and Hope" - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaI am a believer who struggled with co-dependency and alcohol. The first time I was exposed to the Twelve Steps, it was in Alcoholics Anonymous and they gave me sobriety from alcohol. I was on the 4th step working this program, when my sponsor sent me to Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA), and ...
Views: 2011(2 votes) - PEOPLE SHOULD TREAT ME BETTER - But I WON’T LET THEM - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoACOA DOUBLE BINDS - Either way we lose ourselves, to stay loyal to the family If you’d like to know about double binds, go to pg. 10 of www.acoarecovery.com. ACoAs have a terrible dilemma: 1. On the one hand we desperately want to be loved, acknowledged, seen, heard. We complain bitterly ...
Views: 1929(2 votes) - Rape Victims: Deal with Guilt and Shame - Release Anger and Heal Pain through Personal Journaling - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from Cindy L. HerbChild abuse stories, including those by victims of physical abuse, rape and sexual abuse, can be very compelling. Others are likely to be shocked when you tell them about your story of abuse. However, if you take an attitude of observation, instead of judgment, you too can write about your ...
Views: 4430(2 votes) - The Betrayal - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysMy next several blog posts are all related to the same topic. They deal with something that happened to me in July of 1988. My Dad had died the previous Thanksgiving, and I was still in the grief process over that loss. As well, I was still involved with a 12 step program for people who had ...
Views: 2077(2 votes) - The Secrets of Emotional Abuse Recovery For Women - by Submitted on May 07, 2006 from Annie Kaszina1. Sticks and stones won’t break my bones” – and words won’t leave any measurable physical damage, but they will cause progressive, long-term harm. Never underestimate the power of words: words are used to brainwash. Being told you are “stupid”, “ugly”, “lazy” or “worthless” is never ...
Views: 13963(2 votes) - Traubuse: The Trauma and Abuse Symbiosis - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Diane BabcockPsst! Abuse. Shhh! Voicing openly on the subject of abuse is still largely considered taboo and best kept as ‘civilized’ society's dirty little ‘bully secret’. When you think about it, it’s quite inconceivable that in every society bullying as domestic abuse is more acceptable than ...
Views: 2023(2 votes) - Why Emotional Suppression in Addiction Affects Our Mental Health And Emotions Triggers - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2022 from Calida RehabIt’s easy to remember certain things from the past due to their effect on our emotional health. Think about the last time you felt incredibly happy. You will have plenty of such memories and they are easy to recall because they have a strong emotional effect on you. Well, it doesn’t work like ...
Views: 777(2 votes) - Childhood Abuse: When the past is present - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Dr. Kathleen YoungWHAT IS CHILDHOOD ABUSE? Child abuse can take the form of any act of emotional, physical or sexual abuse perpetrated against a child. Child abuse can also take the form of neglect: ignoring the child's emotional and or physical needs. Child abuse can take place inside and outside of the ...
Views: 1843(3 votes) - First Choice - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Timothy SinnThe first choice that can turn ones life in another direction is the choice I am referring to. This choice is to use or not use drugs or alcohol for the first time. If one is educated and prepared when they come face to face with this decision, is priceless. This is your first choice and very ...
Views: 1411(3 votes) - Only One Out Of Ten Will Make It - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaDid you ever hear this statement made around the rooms of recovery? Did you ever wonder where those statistics came from? Well I have a revelation for you. Read this and receive it. Ask your self where the other nine are? Go to the lost sheep! This is where the sponsor should come into your ...
Views: 2339(3 votes) - Qigong for Longevity - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Martin EisenQigong (Chi Kung) is a Chinese medical therapy thousands of years old. It consists of mental as well as physical maneuvering which simultaneously adjust body posture, breathing, and the mind. Qigong for health is not strenuous and can even be performed by handicapped people. It can be done ...
Views: 3202(3 votes) - SEXUAL TRAUMA - Loving Your Abuser - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossRecognizing you are being abused is difficult when you love the person who is abusing you. This is true for both children and adults. The mind will go to great lengths to protect a person who cannot emotionally accept that they are being abused. The greater the abuse, the more elaborate the ...
Views: 4050(3 votes) - SIBLING ABUSE – Children Abusing Other Children - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossEven though there can be life long debilitating psychological effects, sibling abuse may be the most ignored - if not accepted - form of domestic (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional) abuse. Why is this kind of abuse ignored or minimized? There is a lot that is swept under the rug in the guise of ...
Views: 4774(3 votes) - Recovery Happens - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneI recently saw a banner — set in place for Recovery Month — that read: “Recovery Happens.” My question is: “What is implied here?” Words have meaning, and when those words are demonstrative of a process to behavioral change, people either simply disregard, are motivated by, or are intimidated by ...
Views: 2351(4 votes) - A Conversation With Dad - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWritten August 5, 1990 All I really wanted to say was "I'm sorry." I had said some hurtful things to my Father. But he had been dead for three years. How do make amends after they're gone? It wasn't perfect, not like him being there, but I was talking to him anyway. Just making up a ...
Views: 1725(5 votes) - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 1 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorEach of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit. William James Introduction Anger is a natural response to being endangered or hurt. Challenges that commonly elicit anger include: Being attacked verbally or ...
Views: 1462(1 vote) - 5 Ways to Improve Your Mental Health at Home - by Submitted on May 10, 2019 from Kevin GardnerMental health is a major concern to everyone. While there is nothing wrong with seeking professional help, in fact, it's strongly recommended to everyone. But everyone doesn't have access to a therapist and some people cannot afford to pay for a session. And even if you have good mental health, ...
Views: 1162(1 vote) - 6 Steps to Alcohol Awareness and Education - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Ari NovickGetting alcohol and drug addiction or abuse under control is no easy task. Most addicts tend to minimize their addiction and state they can stop any time they want, its simply a choice they are making. Here are a few suggestions to make yourself more aware of what you need to look out for in ...
Views: 1315(2 votes) - A bitter Pill To Swallow - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceIt’s dark and I have no idea of where I am nothing around me looks Familiar, I can hear voices just out of eye shot. My head feels as if it may explode and I am fighting the urge to throw up. There is a swell of disinfectant hanging in the air which is not helping me much. I sit up in bed and ...
Views: 1653(2 votes) - A Definition of the Word Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2009 from Karyn Maier“A Definition of the Word Abuse” is excerpted from The Spouse Abuse Tutorial located at http://www.comcom121.org/abuse. We begin with a definition of the word abuse. If you do a Google search for “define: abuse”, you’ll get about 30 definitions, no two are the same; there is no agreement about ...
Views: 2856(2 votes) - ADVICE FOR PARENTS & TEACHERS - by Recent statistics show that:
1 out of 4 kids is Bullied.
1 out of 5 kids admits to being a bully, or doing some "Bullying."
8% of students miss 1 day of class per month for fear of Bullies.
43% fear harassment in the bathroom at school.
100,000 students carry a gun to school.
28% of ...
Views: 1147(2 votes) - After Abuse: The Challenging Work of Forging Healthy Relationships - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Lauri Allison LaBadieMany people have done the tough work of recovery from sexual abuse, whether with help in therapy or on one’s own. It challenges us to the core, but it also frees us, and gives life and possibility where we once felt that we might never get through it. For some, getting into a relationship, or ...
Views: 1408(1 vote) - Are You A Hopium Addict? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2004 from Annie KaszinaAre You A ‘Hopium Addict?’ If the question alone was enough to make you recoil in horror, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the term couldn’t possibly apply to you. You may not have heard the term before, but your reaction may be because you are a closet hopium addict. What is the ...
Views: 3966(1 vote) - Autoimmune Disorders and Early Abuse Issues - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Anne Merkel, Ph.D. NDIt makes perfect sense for me as an Energy Psychologist, that when approaching an autoimmune case in a natural, wholistic way, where an individual’s body is starting to work against itself, that I discover somewhere in that person a deep feeling of deserving to be hurt - an unworthiness to be ...
Views: 2513(1 vote) - Battered Woman Syndrome: What are the Characteristics? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Su EricksenAccording to Dr. Lenore E. Walker, a prominent expert on battered women, a woman must experience at least two complete battering cycles before she can be labeled a “battered woman”. The cycle has three phases. First the tension-building phase, followed by the explosion or acute battering ...
Views: 7377(1 vote) - BeSimply...Strengthened and Renewed - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Suzanne ToroSuzanne Toro shares an introduction to a Self Help Series for Women and Men who have been abused or violated. She shares a simple over view on how to identify if you are still holding on to the trauma and the fears. She will share how you can identify where you might have buried you pain. ...
Views: 1753(4 votes) - Do You Know Where To Buy A Crown For My Narcissistic Husband? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2007 from Diane England,Have you ever wanted to walk into a store and ask that question? I know there were days when I felt I might as well acquiesce and place a crown on the top of my husband’s head. It was so frustrating. I had married expecting a partnership, not to become his subject. I wasn’t knowledgeable about ...
Views: 4395(1 vote) - Domestic and Workplace Violence - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneWhen are people going to get real? When society reads in the newspaper or catches on local news channels the headlines: Murder-Suicide, Domestic Abuse Homicide, or Workplace Violence, they are intrigued out of the common interest that everyone has been frustrated in a relationship at home, ...
Views: 1821(2 votes) - Domestic Violence Counseling: When the Counselor Becomes Your Enemy - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.I often hear domestic violence survivors complain that the counselor they are seeing with their partner has sided with him/her. These victims expected to seek therapeutic remedy for the dysfunction that they live, and they discover they have gained another “enemy.” Here are some things you ...
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