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- Psychological Abuse: 3 Signs of Crazy-Making by Family, by Friend, by Enemy - by Submitted on May 25, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We know it happens; yet when we see it, we’re in shock. And when we experience it, we’re numb. How can a family member, who once claimed to cherish you, plot to back you into a fabricated psychiatric label and sentence of craziness? That is the question that dumbfounds anyone who walks in these ...
Views: 3921 - Overcoming the Barriers that Hinder Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2013 from Cheryl HinneburgAddiction is a dark and lonely place and the barriers that hinder it are plentiful. It is easy to fall prey to it but you play hell trying to get out. Overcoming an addiction is never going to be anything short of difficult because it grabs ahold of people when they are weak and broken and it ...
Views: 3916(1 vote) - Has Dissociation After A Trauma Left You Feeling Spacey ? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2008 from Margaret (Maggie) KerriganShe knew she would not be able to stop the car in time. The previous night’s snow was now ice on the road. As though watching a movie she had made up, the woman could feel herself floating outside of the car as it fell down into the gorge 100 feet below. From above, she saw the car move as ...
Views: 3902 - 3 Keys to Surviving Verbal and Emotional Abuse - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.You are not his/her words, though it doesn’t feel that way when you are being abused. On a very deep level, you believe those words of disregard, disapproval, disrespect…even the ones that are absolutely foul. Yet, in a more surface way, you claim not to buy that trash. You know those are just ...
Views: 3862 - Are You A Hopium Addict? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2004 from Annie KaszinaAre You A ‘Hopium Addict?’ If the question alone was enough to make you recoil in horror, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the term couldn’t possibly apply to you. You may not have heard the term before, but your reaction may be because you are a closet hopium addict. What is the ...
Views: 3862(1 vote) - Why Parents Need to Read Fairy Tales (Part 5) - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Glenn BergerAs we have learned in this series so far, fairy tales are ironic. They tell a truth so shocking that it can only be revealed in innocent children's stories. 2500 years ago, in Plato’s Republic, Socrates said the truth exposed in these stories was so dangerous that they should not be allowed to ...
Views: 3860(1 vote) - Commit to End Binge Eating - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2012 from Kristin GerstleyWhen you want to stop binge eating, you need to make a decision and change your old habits. Perhaps these habits have been around for years, but no matter how long they have been your fallback, you need to make changes and create new, positive habits for yourself. You need to end the pattern. ...
Views: 3853 - The Heart-Break Of Ego - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2010 from Tom WrightTom Wright Many brilliant theorists, philosophers, self-help gurus, and psychiatrists, often speak of the "ego" as if "it" were something other than what it is: an illusion. An illusion is something that is real, but temporary. What we refer to as the ego has no permanent existence, any ...
Views: 3836(3 votes) - “THEY DID THE BEST THEY COULD” - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2011 from Donna TorbicoYES, I WAS HURT BY MY FAMILY, but they were hurting too, poor things! This is a phrase I’ve heard over the years, & it always makes me mad. You may at first think this post is harsh or unfair, BUT please remember that everything our parents were - WE internalized into our Negative ...
Views: 3834(1 vote) - Twenty Questions Identify Narcissistic Parental Triangulation Among Siblings - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineHave You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation? To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Is there one sibling in your family who is your ...
Views: 3833 - ***Abuse is a Bad Word - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2011 from Janet NestorI don't know the percentage of people who come into my office living in abuse or needing to work through past abuse. The ratio is astoundingly high. When I worked in substance abuse residential care, the percentage was probably 99%. Physical abuse and verbal abuse are easier to recognize ...
Views: 3808(11 votes) - The Courage To Live Clean & Sober - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2010 from Barbara BanfieldFreedom is the key to joy and peace. Living alcohol and drug-free gives you the opportunity to experience true freedom, not the false high you get when drunk or high. There are many programs available to people who want to get sober but there are few programs available for those who want to ...
Views: 3733(1 vote) - *** Could Therapy Have Helped Michael Jackson? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Kathy SeifertMichael Jackson must have been under tremendous emotional stress in recent years. He went through a difficult trial. He had a strained relationship with his father. Additionally, being in the spotlight 24/7 can put tension on your emotional state. News reports imply that Michael may have had ...
Views: 3665(1 vote) - Self Acceptance and Freedom from Guilt - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2009 from Laura De Giorgio"There is a criterion by which you can judge whether the thoughts you are thinking and the things you are doing are right for you. The criterion is: Have they brought you inner peace?" -Peace Pilgrim We come into this world freely expressing ourselves, and then slowly but ...
Views: 3636 - Michael Jackson: The Tragic Consequences of Child Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2009 from Stephanie MannMillions of people enjoyed Michael Jackson’s genius as a showman, however, his legacy is even greater if we learn from his life story. During a TV interview, “Living with Michael Jackson,” Michael stated he was beaten by his father. He was so terrified he became physically ill when he saw ...
Views: 3615(3 votes) - Alcoholic Behavior: Signs To Look Out For. - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2011 from Charles SomerA lot of conflicting emotions surface when you think you notice alcoholic behavior in someone you love. In fact, it is emotional when you realize that you may have a problem with alcohol yourself. It takes a big person to look in the mirror and honestly assess whether alcohol is becoming a ...
Views: 3610(2 votes) - Helpful Tips On What To Buy For Pepper Spray - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2007 from Jared KelleyPepper Spray: When buying pepper spray the things that need to be looked at are the scoville heat units, percentage of pepper and oleoresin from capsicum plants. Remember mace is a name brand not a pepper spray. The product is as equal as any other name brand other than the components in it. ...
Views: 3609 - Incest and Child Sexual Abuse: Definitions, Perpetrators, Victims, and Effects - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Kali MunroIncest and Child Sexual Abuse: Definitions, Perpetrators, Victims, and Effects Definition of Child Sexual Abuse Child sexual abuse is any form of sexual activity with a child by an adult, or by another child where there is no consent or consent is not possible; or by another child who has ...
Views: 3583 - Gang / group rape - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2011 from Jungle BitesGang / group rape is when an individual is raped by two or more persons. It has a high occurrence among teenagers and is usual motivated by adolescent boys with a strong sex drive. As with most rapes, they are not reported due to trauma and shame. However gang rapes are normally more physically ...
Views: 3538 - Overcoming Cyber Bullying: It’s up to the victim - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Jim HagueHow are you going to stop cyber bullying? I read many articles, newspapers, and talk shows where so-called experts are telling us all there is now a war against cyber bullying and how we can win that war? Oh please! Bullying has been happening since the beginning of time and in all ...
Views: 3533 - Rebuilding Trust - by How long did it take you to build, and what did it take to build it?
Picture it as a structure, a building of sorts. What purpose does that structure serve? Can you consult others to help you build that structure exactly the way you want it? What materials will you use to build it? Wouldn't ...
Views: 3498 - How To Change Bad Habits - by Let's say you have a bad habit. You continually do the bad habit. Your bad habit is cemented in. What do you say to yourself about the bad habit? *That's just the way I am.* *I'll never change.* *This is the way my life will be from now on.* *I can't change. This is how my friends see me. If I ...
Views: 3493 - Are you being treated badly, maybe at work? - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Piercarla GarusiThen you might need to try the metaphysical way. When something happens, when somebody, maybe a colleague, treats us badly, perhaps they criticize us, bully us, put us down, humiliate us or try to manipulate us, the first reaction is to feel hurt or get angry: why did they do that to us? Or ...
Views: 3433(1 vote) - The Top 7 Myths about Relapse - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Jarred ManasseIf you or a loved one have just come out of a stint in rehab, the main focus is to now stay and remain sober from drugs or alcohol. However, this is sometimes easier said than done. There are so many misconceptions about relapse, that’s why in this article; we aim to set the record ...
Views: 3427(2 votes) - Self Defeating Beliefs & Behaviors - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2007 from Michael RymerWe are Known for doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results. Some call this addictive insanity, returning to past self-defeating behavior and thinking is a perfect example of addicitive insanity. This mind set can derail our recovery from self-defeating beliefs and ...
Views: 3416 - Child Molester or Pedophile - Is there a difference and what drives them? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2013 from Roni Weisberg-RossSexual abuse of children is not a new problem, nor have the statistics changed. “1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 14; 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 16.” (Hopper, J. (1998). Child Sexual Abuse: Statistics, Research, & Resources. Boston, MA Boston University ...
Views: 3382(2 votes) - Leaving The Child Behind. Recovery From Child Abuse. - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2005 from Fatimah MusaI looked at my father for the last time before he was finally laid to rest. And I said to myself, "I forgive you father". I have forgiven him but I have not forgotten the turmoil, terror and abuse that I went through. My father was working away most of the time when I was growing up. But when ...
Views: 3381 - The Narcissist in Custody Battles - by Submitted on May 21, 2015 from Sam VakninThe Narcissist in Custody Battles Presentation made by Sam Vaknin Author of “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” In the 11th Annual and First International Battered Mothers Custody Conference http://batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/ HOW NARCISSIST SEES HIS CHILDREN 1. ...
Views: 3372(1 vote) - Narcissistic Parent and Enabling Parent - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineIs One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler? To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions: Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ...
Views: 3345 - How to Break Free From Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2007 from Piercarla GarusiDear Friend, I would like to share with you something I learned from personal experience – I was emotionally and mentally abused for about 15 years in my childhood – in the hope it will be of help to you in your journey to freedom, healing and happiness. And you will get there, that is for ...
Views: 3321 - Deadly Combination: What Is Really In Illegal Drugs? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Amy CrowellThe concoctions of chemicals being used to create the deadly mixtures being used to create illegal drugs will astonish most people. Not only are the chemicals dangerous but the amount of each chemical that is added to illegal drugs drastically varies depending on who is mixing the combination. ...
Views: 3318(2 votes) - AUTONOMY & ATTACHMENT - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoSERVANT or MASTER of YOUR CASTLE Who’s the boss of you? ACoA SYMBIOSIS (S.) An unhealthy attachment to others as a way to: • compensate for emotional abandonment in childhood • to cope with deep anxiety of being a separate entity • escape having to face the struggle of growing up ...
Views: 3311 - Night Night, Sleep Tight: A Look at Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIn every story worth telling, there is a colorful beginning. This one begins with me… When my stepfather started caressing me, and lightly tickling my arms, legs, and back, it felt nice. I felt loved. I was often watching television when he would cuddle with me on the sofa. My ...
Views: 3295(1 vote) - ABnormal USE is ABUSE - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2012 from Erika JacksonThe words bitch and hoe (short for whore; you can’t spell it “who” because that’s a different word) are tossed around so much that young ladies are no longer offended. Do you know what a bitch is? Webster’s dictionary says that it is a female dog or other carnivorous animal. I guess women could ...
Views: 3286(1 vote) - PTSD - And Didn't Know it! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysI spent a lot of time walking around Houston in the middle '80s with many of the symptoms of PTSD, and didn't know it. I was having flashbacks - of occurrences I didn't remember. I felt like the man in the Bourne Identity with amnesia, who was getting glimpses of his past - a past he could not ...
Views: 3274(8 votes) - Motherless Daughters Healing The Pain - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThere is nothing like Mother's Day to remind you of just how much you have lost and how painful that loss is if you are estranged from your mother due to abandonment (disclosing your abuse, mental illness, drug abuse, physical or emotional abuse etc) or loss. When I disclosed my abuse to my ...
Views: 3245(2 votes) - *** Trauma Can Affect Childhood Development - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2008 from Kathy SeifertChildren develop skills in a predictable sequence that must be followed. For instance, babies do not learn to walk before they crawl. They babble before they speak words. They use parallel play earlier than interactive play. In the same way, they learn to cope with stressors, solve problems, and ...
Views: 3241 - Inner Voices, False Narratives, Narcissism, and Codependence - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2014 from Sam VakninThe narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ...
Views: 3236 - Sexual Addiction: Defining Recovery From Sexual Addiction - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Peggy FergusonRecovery from sexual addiction is slightly different than recovery from alcohol and other (AOD) addiction. With chemical dependency recovery, the goal is to abstain from all mood altering drugs. The primary goal from sexual addiction is not abstinence from sex, but the development of the ability ...
Views: 3236 - Dealing With Child Abuse Past & Present - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Diane BabcockChild Abuse To know about a person's open wound on the outside is obvious. To treat it we apply a bandage and some TLC To know about a person's open wound on the inside may come from observing a person's demeanour which requires more study or by simply being told about it. To treat ...
Views: 3192 - Deadly Drug Craze...Cheese - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Amy CrowellHearing “Cheese” does not mean to flash your pearly whites for the camera anymore. Cheese is the nickname for the emerging deadly drug craze sweeping the country. It is also known as Cheese-Heroin and it is the new face of heroin. It is a combination of black tar heroin and Tylenol PM ...
Views: 3191 - The Addictive Properties of Cocaine Vary Depending on Who you are - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2012 from Cheryl HinneburgFor years and years cocaine was one of the most dreaded drugs. It was labeled as highly addictive and then along came crack cocaine and that was placed in a league of its own, one that was extremely lethal. Maybe it is the hype surrounding the surge in prescription opiate addiction but it seems ...
Views: 3191(2 votes) - Surviving Betrayal Requires a Leap of Faith! - by I define a betrayal as any experience, even one that should be insignificant, that produces ongoing resentment, anger, fear and helplessness. Has someone you trusted deeply ever betrayed you? Have you betrayed someone you love? We may rage and punish ourselves and the other, or deny the pain, ...
Views: 3180 - How Does Battered Woman Syndrome Affect Children? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Su EricksenWhat effect does Battered Woman Syndrome have on children? An authoritative study states that children who witness domestic violence but at not battered themselves show behavioral and emotional problems similar to those experienced by physically abused children and may also suffer from Post ...
Views: 3150 - The Human Struggle Acutely Described - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2007 from Chuck BarbarowReducing Society's Dilemma to the Ultimate Basic Fundamental truth.. The ultimate truth cannot be " figured out " by the human mind ..it must be observed through the Human consciousness.. when you can see this and experience you can accept this at an extraordinary elevated level of ...
Views: 3144 - A Good Mother Loves Her Children Unconditionally, No Matter What. - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Sam VakninBut what about narcissistic or psychopathic children, children suffering from conduct disorder, or oppositional defiant disorder)? Donovan, 16 years old, is incapable of loving and, therefore, has never loved you, his mother (or, for that matter, anyone else, himself included) in his entire ...
Views: 3107 - Qigong for Longevity - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2010 from Martin EisenQigong (Chi Kung) is a Chinese medical therapy thousands of years old. It consists of mental as well as physical maneuvering which simultaneously adjust body posture, breathing, and the mind. Qigong for health is not strenuous and can even be performed by handicapped people. It can be done ...
Views: 3095(3 votes) - Why Sit Here Until I Die? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Audrina BuntonThe bible tells a story about four men who sat at the entrance of the city's gate dying with leprosy, an incurable disease which causes terribly visible swelling and sores on the skin, only then to eat inward to the bones. These lepers sat outside of the city because they were not permitted to ...
Views: 3095(3 votes) - Spite and Envy: Passive-Aggressive Narcissists - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder is not yet recognized by the DSM Committee. It makes its appearances in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for ...
Views: 3077 - Surviving Child Sexual Abuse and Thriving - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Jay Tow, M. S. Counselor, Life Management and Relationship CoachMillions of adults in the United States were victims of some degree of sexual abuse when they were children. In most cases this abuse leaves its affects to a greater or lesser degree. The affect it has on people when they become adults is dependent on many factors. The first factor is the ...
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