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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Don't Fall; Rise in Love - by No topic has been discussed more than love. For ages we have been the audience to great love stories, some happy and some tragic. The mere mention of love puts a shine on some people's face while a layer of sadness appears for those who failed in love relationships. People "fall" in and out of ...
Views: 871 - How To Deal With Difficult People - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2007 from Brenda LeeAs a contractor/consultant in the corporate world, I was often employed for only a few months at time; therefore, I went in and out of different work situations quite frequently. To me, the frequent change, while sometimes stressful, was also exciting. On a practical level, I was faced with ...
Views: 7787 - A Love Letter to Womankind - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2021 from Charles HeinekeA Love Letter to Womankind, From Your Awakening Brother, Mankind (A tribute and an apology to Womankind, from Mankind) I believe that the time has come for men and women to make peace with each other. And I believe that men bear a greater burden in this endeavor than women. I truly honor and ...
Views: 1482 - Put Heart--Not Habit--In Pet Names - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 7, 2007 Put Heart -- Not Habit -- In Pet Names "What do you think about guys who call everybody 'honey'?" asks a reader. The habit reminds me of two stuffed dice hanging from a rearview mirror -- or a waitress apron tied ...
Views: 860 - ***What’s Sex Got To Do With It? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2007 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Older adults between the ages of 57 and 85 make sex an important part of their lives! That’s the results of the first comprehensive national survey of the sexual attitudes and behaviors of older adults as reported in the New England Journal of ...
Views: 2477(28 votes) - Ladies Nightwear – Spice it Up! - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2007 from Amanda CotterillToo often, ladies nightwear tends to be a large T-shirt in the summer and a large T-shirt and sweats in the winter. Throw in a ratty chenille bathrobe, and that would pretty much sum up an average woman's ladies nightwear wardrobe. That's a shame, because there are so many choices in ladies ...
Views: 1405 - Rekindle the Magic in Your Relationship ~ An Absolute Must with Childtren Back to School - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2007 from Anita JacksonIt is important to make love work in our relationships. Staying true to yourself, is one of the most important pieces of relationship advice that I would give. You must know what you want. You must know how you want your relationship to be. You must use your imagination, one of your faculties, ...
Views: 1284 - Internet Dating, Gorgeous Grandma Style - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2007 from Alice SolomonInternet dating, gorgeous grandma style By Alice Solomon Here you are, over 50, and in that curious position of dating again...and hating it. Reluctantly, you try Internet dating (only because you have heard others have met there) and find it different, odd, and not at all satisfying because ...
Views: 3008 - Personal Boundaries, What Are They? - by Submitted on May 14, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthWhen Robert Frost said, “Good fences make good neighbors,” he was on to something. Our ability to relate to others in a healthy way depends on our awareness of not stepping aggressively into their territory—physical and psychological—and not letting them step into ours. Boundaries are ...
Views: 1708 - Why I Don't Like The Word 'Partner' In Connection With Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Azriel WinnettYes, you’ve read correctly. I don’t like it. The word “partner” is used very widely by people writing about relationships, including many of our own site contributors. And it’s perfectly understandable. After all, what better term do we have at our disposal to ...
Views: 1836 - Relationship Coaching: How Can it Help You? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Doug WoodsCoaching has certainly become big in recent years. There are coaches to help sort out your life, your career, your finances and now there are coaches to sort out your relationships. Is relationship coaching just a gimmick or can it really help you? Relationship coaching is really a form of life ...
Views: 825 - Find Personal Freedom in the Principles of Invisible Justice - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2007 from Chika ShiojimaWe can never hope to be free as long as any part of us struggles with, or suffers over what others are doing, have done, or won't do with their lives. If we could remain aware of the often-compromised state of our own character, that is, how we still do those things to others that we don't want ...
Views: 828 - Nurse Lingerie – A big hit with men and women of all ages - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2007 from Amanda CotterillNurse lingerie is one of the most popular types of erotic costume lingerie. In fact, fantasies about nurses may be the top favorite for men, according to some recent surveys. Perhaps because nurses in old movies and books were sexily portrayed, or maybe it’s just because so many of us played ...
Views: 1101 - What People Call Love - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2007 from Ann StewartThe following is excerpted from the authors’ relationship book MAXIMIZING HAPPINESS THROUGH INTIMATE COMMUNICATION: The dynamics of a relationship that a person calls love are either those of the most satisfying relationship she/he has ever experienced, or that relationship plus whatever was ...
Views: 584 - Relationship Recipe - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Shaun OlivierWe all know that when two or more people are involved in something, communication is essential, be it verbal or physical, it helps us towards a goal. But how do we use it? Communication can be used positively to share ideas, give feedback, show appreciation and love. It can be used negatively ...
Views: 836 - Balanced Relationships: You, Me and We - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Lisa KiftOne thing I notice in a lot of couples who come through my door is a lack of balance in their relationship. What do I mean by this? When two people come together there are now three parts to this system; “you,” “me,” and “we.” Imagine if you draw two overlapping circles. There are three ...
Views: 935 - How To Get Past A Devastating Breakup - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Susan ElliottTen Things To Do After A Breakup To Get On With Your Life: 1. Know that grieving someone and missing them does not necessarily mean you want them. It means you hurt because you've had a loss. Perhaps that loss is the best thing but it's still a loss. Don't mistake grief for love. It's ...
Views: 31601(1 vote) - A Date Is Not the Best Way to Get to Know Somebody - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, AUGUST 24, 2007 A Date Isn't The Best Way To Get To Know Somebody Dear Jan: A divorced woman moved into the house next door to mine two weeks ago, and I find her attractive. I have seen her outside a couple of times and felt ...
Views: 971 - Tips of safety for women! - by Safety should be the priority of the number one for women! In my book “handbook dating on line the final” I provided ends on being sure on your first meeting in Internet dating the friend. But really, the women must maintain safety in the spirit if you are out of city, in a hotel, in a car, at ...
Views: 795 - Finding Love in All the Right Places - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2007 from Daniel ErwayBecause we want love on our terms, many of us don’t find it, or what we get is a person and relationship that matches our conditioning as much as possible. This kind of relationship is not necessarily the one that will make us the happiest, oddly enough. The ego thinks it knows best about ...
Views: 834 - Why Answer the Question, "Am I in an Abusive Relationship?" - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2007 from Jeanne KingWarning! This article will either turn you upside down or be the angel that keeps you on your feet, or both. Each time I go into a chat room on the Internet, in which the topic is abusive relationships, I hear the question: "My boyfriend pushes me to the wall and braces me there. Is this cause ...
Views: 616 - Healing Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2007 from Daniel ErwayYour preferences, opinions, judgments, beliefs, and reactions to others are all part of your conditioning. As such, you are responsible for them in the sense that no one else caused them, although others do trigger them. However, you didn’t ask for that conditioning. For the most part, it ...
Views: 713 - Maturity in intimate relationships - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2007 from Helen AllenThere is currently a lot of talk about the film ‘The Secret’ and the teachings of ‘The Law of Attraction’. It’s all very well to use the ‘jargon’ in your vocabulary, but when it comes down to feeling really frustrated with your partner about what he or ...
Views: 1919 - Anger Management Using the Compliment Sandwich - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2009 from Dr. Lyle BecourtneyDo you ever find yourself getting more and more angry and frustrated while trying to explain what is bothering you? Perhaps you feel like others are not really listening to you or trying to understand things from your perspective. In such circumstances, you may end up raising your voice or ...
Views: 2938(2 votes) - How Hard Does It Have to Be? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2007 from Jan DeniseFamiliar words from a reader: "I know breaking up is the right thing to do … but I can't seem to follow through." "Dump him!" my nieces used to say in a detached tone that matched their words. Often I was eager to take their advice … it seems I was born dreaming of greener pastures, broader ...
Views: 815 - ***How Will I Know I Am In Love? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzHow will I know I am in Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many interviews with people “in love” we ask them, perhaps, the most revealing question of the interview – “How will I know I am in love?” We have heard very consistent answers. And conversely, many people ...
Views: 10570(37 votes) - Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend - The Gentleman's Secrets to Girlfriend Success - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2007 from Michael LeeAre you living in a delusion that you're happy being single, but are now feeling the pressure to get a partner? If you're wracking your brain for tips on how to get a girlfriend, here they are, before Valentine's day rolls past and you're love-less still. Be visible. You have to be visible, ...
Views: 2044 - True, Long Lasting Love Does Exist: First Make the Person Fall in Love with You! - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2007 from Connie LimonThe first few moments you meet someone can be decisive as to whether or not the two of you are a “match.” Scientists tell us these first impressions of each other that determine your future together happens in just a few minutes. If you want the other person to like you there are a few ...
Views: 1607 - Where Things May Go Wrong In A Relationship? - by She said yes when you asked her to go out with you. You both are excited, the mood is set and it is the beginning of a new, special and romantic relationship. The initial period of the first year is special because both, the guy and the girl, get to discover each other. Six months down the line ...
Views: 726 - Leaving An Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2007 from Margaret PaulJennifer consulted with me regarding her 18-year marriage. "I just don't know what to do. I believe in marriage, and I have tried to believe in my marriage. But Jake's drinking has been getting worse and worse for most of our marriage, and so are his rages. Occasionally he has hit me, and last ...
Views: 2325 - Three Simple Ideas to Improve the Quality of Your Relationship - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2007 from alex blackwellRelationships, especially intimate ones, require work, dedication and patience. Great relationships just don’t happen – they happen because both people are willing to commit time and energy to it. Although building and maintaining a mutually gratifying relationship does require effort, the ideas ...
Views: 1056 - Skilled Boundary Setting - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2007 from Uzi WeingartenWe don’t usually connect “kindness” and “boundary setting.” At least, I didn’t, for many years. I imagined that kindness is about listening with empathy, responding with compassion, treating others with dignity, doing random (and not so random) acts of kindness, and the like. What did this have ...
Views: 1451 - Relationship Corner - by Following on from The Training Cycle, readers sent in some very thought provoking requests for cyber coaching. Below you can read selected issues sent in by readers, and the coaching I sent back!
Invitation: If you send your (very brief!) relationship issue/problem to lifecoach@instructor.net, ...
Views: 1155 - Invalidation vs Respect - by (My thanks to CoachCampus who have given permission for me to publish this extract from the CoachCert?training program.)
The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines the verb RESPECT as: "to consider deserving of high regard" or "to refrain from interfering with". It defines the verb INVALIDATE as ...
Views: 1528 - Why Bother Training People? - by People love to make a contribution to us. If given a chance to do the right thing for us, or to please us, they usually will. Unfortunately, they don't always know what we want, or their attention is elsewhere. OR, in the past when they've done something for us, they haven't "won" from the ...
Views: 1131 - Finding Your Perfect Partner - by The mistake is to go looking, before cleaning up your own "back yard". The mistake is to seek someone because you're so desperately lonely, and don't feel happy with your own company. You may find a partner using this approach, but it often won't last, and will rarely lead to fulfillment. ...
Views: 1065 - The Up Spiral; The Down Spiral - by Summary: If life is anything short of amazing right now, find some Positive Actions to give an Up Spiral a chance of finding you!
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The stock market is said to jump up and down at random. I do not believe this is true of life. Instead, we instead follow spirals ...
Views: 1237 - Truth-Telling (Lies and With-holds) - by "Every with-hold you have from someone, is a brick in the wall between you."
Do you tell the truth? What percentage of the time? 100%? Or 90%? And when you do tell the truth, do you tell 100% of it? Or 90%?
"You look great". "I don't mind". "Yes, sex is good". "Everything's fine at home". ...
Views: 1176 - Recharge Your Relationship - by Now you may ask why we would write an article about developing better relationships. The reason is because I believe that those who are in a relationship will be significantly and directly affected in all areas of their life by how that relationship is going, and how healthy that ...
Views: 2240 - Ten Life and Love Enhancing Attitudes and Behaviors - by Since 1975 I have sat on my office couch talking with clients in person and on the telephone about their lives and relationships. Most of my clients are contributors to society, hold jobs, raise families, and generally want to do
the right thing. Yet, over and over again I see the same kind of ...
Views: 2566 - Victorine’s Art of Seduction - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2007 from Yolanda CardenWe women in the twenty first century are the most accomplished, talented, educated women in history. But are we as charming or mysterious as women we read about from the past? Do we flirt and fascinate? I don’t mean just flirting with men. Do we flirt with old ladies, the butcher behind the ...
Views: 1331 - Things You Can Do to Keep Your Relationship Healthy - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2007 from Carl HerkesAre you in a relationship that you value but communication has been an issue for you? Are you willing to try some new techniques to help reduce or eliminate anger and frustration that has been building in your relationship? If so, this article may be for you. Today I will discuss some simple, ...
Views: 600 - Finding One In A Million ... - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2007 from Jan DeniseINSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, AUGUST 10, 2007 Finding One In A Million … Of all the people on the planet, how is it that we end up with (SET ITAL) one (END ITAL) … and maybe even purport that one to be (SET ITAL) the (END ITAL) one? What attracts two people to ...
Views: 923 - Why Do You Keep Taking Him Back? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2007 from Emily SaarWhen breaking up becomes a monthly (or weekly) event, do you take him back repeatedly asking yourself, "Why am I doing this?" You're not alone. Let's begin by understanding the stereotypical male & female. Most little girls are raised with a baby doll in their arms, a play bottle to feed ...
Views: 7535 - Single? Married? Find Your Soul Mate - by Single.
The word congers up so many meanings. Webster's Dictionary describes single as -being the only one; unmarried; unique; solitary, for one person or thing. To someone in a bad marriage the word would mean peace. To another, being in an unhappy relationship, single would be seen as ...
Views: 1019 - Is Your Relationship A 10? - by Do you and your partner in business or at home have the same arguments over and over? Do you wish they’d just pay attention at least once in a while? Why do you have to keep getting yelled at or keep yelling at them over the same things again and again? Why can’t they just understand you? ...
Views: 921 - Keeping Love Alive: It's Easier Said than Done! - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2007 from Deborah LeighKeeping love alive, when so much of the outside world threatens to overwhelm it, quickly becomes one of the most difficult challenges we will ever face in our relationships. You might be thinking, "How in the world can that be? If you're really in love with each other, keeping love alive ...
Views: 1849 - Who is the “Keeper” of your Relationship? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardHave you ever wondered why women spend so much time talking about relationships, while men seem to rarely give it a thought? Often, it is the woman that is considered the “keeper or caretakers of the relationship. This happens naturally because women generally measure their own self-worth ...
Views: 5140 - Is He Your Knight in Shining Armor? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardMost men want to be the “Knight in Shining Armor.” When the Knight arrives to save the “Damsel in Distress,” he expects that he will have to work hard. To win the affection of the Damsel, the Knight knows he must be brave, work hard and slay the dragon. He is willing to put forth this effort ...
Views: 4647 - *Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help) - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2007 from Brenda ShoshannaFreedom means different things for different men. For some, the main joy of relationships is challenge. They happily pursue a woman as long as they don't have her, but once they do, they start feeling trapped. These men feel as if excitement and new possibilities are now cut off. Once ...
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