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Everyone knows that unpaid medical bills cause a major financial struggle and millions of bankruptcies a year. If you have a medical debt, or believe you were overcharged, it is common, and there are many different options to pursue. Your options are much stronger when you can pay (even small ... Views: 191
I think there are five key things we can do inside ourselves to be happier, stronger, wiser, and more loving this year:
Drop the stone
Let it flow
Learn as you go
“Us” all “thems”
Be Amazed
Drop the stone explored the first of these: how to lay down the burdens of useless ... Views: 246
Because this practice could seem so abstract or so obvious that it’s not worth doing, I am going to take longer than usual to explain why it’s so important.
As I grew up, my family and schools felt like shaky ground. I didn’t understand why my parents and many kids reacted the ways they did, ... Views: 259
I loved being a girl and adore being a woman. I was daddy’s little fiery daughter, but life for me changed when I grew into my sexuality and I started to date. I’ll never forget how dad looked at me while I introduced a new boyfriend. It was as if I had dirt on my clothes, and I knew then that ... Views: 331
1.No, no, we don’t have to get afraid of negative thoughts.
2.We do not have to come into any kind of suffering either, for it won’t help us get anywhere.
3.Rather we must maintain awareness when such thoughts arise.
4.The moment negative thought for some third person arises in our ... Views: 183
So many things change. Leaves fall, friends move away, children leave home. My dad died a year ago, and my mom about ten years before that. I don’t know about you, but I’m getting older (darn, there is no fooling the mirror).
The world changes, too. Evolving technologies alter jobs and lives. ... Views: 236
Married couples, especially if they have kids, hope to stay happily married ‘till the end. However, sometimes love fades away and numerous problems take the spotlight. Even though spouses can work on the problems, sometimes the divorce or separation are better options instead of constantly ... Views: 295
It may seem counterintuitive to have any trust when it comes to business ventures during this time of crisis. This may be especially true if you have suffered setbacks that are related to somebody that you trust who is not coping well with current circumstances. The importance of patience and ... Views: 227
Anger is tricky.
On the one hand, anger – feeling annoyed, irritated, resentful, fed up, mad, outraged, or enraged – alerts us to real threats, real injuries, and real wrongs that need correcting, and it energizes and fuels us to do something about them. In my family growing up, my parents had ... Views: 232
This practice might sound extreme or pushy, and I want to tell you what I mean by it.
Everyone has lots of neighbors, and they come in many shapes and sizes. Obviously the people living across the street are neighbors, but in some sense so are the people you live with. Friends, relatives, ... Views: 248
MENTAL HEALTH
At present, people's understanding of mental health is still at a relatively shallow stage. They consider themselves to be one of the mentally healthy groups if they perceive their senses as normal, control their behaviors, take care of their own diet, and work (learn). But this ... Views: 231
What’s the spark and what’s the fuel?
The Practice:
Welcome joy.
Why?
Positive emotions – such as feelings of gratitude, love, and confidence – strengthen the immune system, protect the heart against loss and trauma, build relationships, increase resilience, and promote success. Based ... Views: 252
We are all aware of the ill effects of negativity in our lives. We become pessimistic in our thoughts, antagonistic and unenthusiastic in our speech and our actions invariably reinforce our bleak view of things. Whilst this can occur consciously, this negative state of mind may well be ... Views: 185
I've been to New Zealand, and really respect and like it. There's a Maori term - turangawaewae, "a place to stand" - that I've come back to many times.
I'm sure I don't know the full meaning of the word in its cultural context. But at a basic level, it's clear that we all need a place to ... Views: 231
Innovation comes in many forms. Unfortunately, the term is often confused with an invention. However, an invention is not an innovation, but innovation is an invention. Quite confusing. This article will create clarity in the different terms that are not the same but are related to each other: ... Views: 1132
You may well have heard those words before - ‘Boys don’t cry’, ‘Boys shouldn’t cry’.
Whilst growing up, I was very fortunate to be raised in a stable, loving family; a lot of us may have experienced something similar. However, many of us may have experienced something completely different – ... Views: 299
As we move into 2019, here are my top five inner practices for helping this year be a good one for you and others (click the links to see the first four):
Drop the stone
Let it flow
Learn as you go
“Us” all “thems"
Be amazed
By “be amazed,” I mean staying open to a sense of ... Views: 253
The best ways to achieve your personal development goals are to identify your current problems and the solutions you can accept or avoid and maintain your mental health. These can be very different from each other, so it's important to be specific in your solutions.
If you are completely sure ... Views: 343
What's in your mind?
The Practice:
Be mind full of good.
Why?
It's kind of amazing: right now, what you think and feel, enjoy and suffer, is changing your brain. The brain is the organ that learns, designed by evolution to be changed by our experiences: what scientists call ... Views: 254
"If you play your own game you'll win the championship."
A friendly competitor told me this after I told him how in my head I was about another competitor of ours who had just made 90 sales at a tradeshow, and we didn't make one.
It felt like a gut punch, but not because I wanted the ... Views: 288
GREEN, YELLOW & RED LIGHTS
By
Bill Cottringer
“Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha.
The sheer power of the number three, or dividing things into thirds, is probably one of the first governing principles of the universe discovered and ... Views: 355
Have you ever wondered what lies beneath buildings, parking lots and parks?
When an original wall of the Erie Canal was discovered in Buffalo, a state agency came up with an ingenious idea for its display. The first part entailed making a parking lot out of the area. But wait, if that wasn’t ... Views: 307
Sometimes something happens. Perhaps your sweet old cat takes a turn for the worse, or there’s a money problem, or your son waves goodbye as he gets on a plane to start college on the other side of the country. Sometimes it’s on a larger scale: maybe there’s been an election and you’re grappling ... Views: 234
Reality Eclipsed by Virtual Reality
Paul Dunion
There appears to be increased alarm about young males becoming obsessed with playing video games. The concern may be approaching epidemic proportions as there are now counselors and psychologists identified as experts who treat ... Views: 264
Modernize Your Mind
by
Bill Cottringer
The year 2020 might be a good time to think about modernizing your conventional mind, that is, if life hasn’t already forced you to do this. Here are some low-resistance, practical tips on facilitating mind- modernization:
1. Meta-thinking. ... Views: 375
At the beginning of each year, people set their resolutions, hopes and visions for their lives. It's an exciting time because it feels like a fresh start. However, you can choose any time to reinvent yourself. You don't have to wait until January 1st comes around. Consider the following tips you ... Views: 249
I usually describe a practice as something to do: get on your own side, see the being behind the eyes, take in the good, etc. This practice is different: it's something to recognize. From this recognition, appropriate action will follow. Let me explain.
Some years ago, I was invited to give a ... Views: 226
Everyone prefers to be happy rather than being unhappy, sad or miserable. And there come numerous occasions in our life when we feel happy. However, all too often this sense of joy fleets as we encounter another challenge in life through unfolding circumstances. The key question, therefore, is ... Views: 207
The four-day trip around the Channel Islands, just off the coast of Southern California, started out like it was supposed to—calm seas, plenty of sunshine, and moderate wind speed of 18 to 20 knots. The channel was only about 35 miles across, which meant we would make safe harbor for the evening ... Views: 245
We all have issues - including demands upon us, stresses, illnesses, losses, vulnerabilities, and pain. (As Alan Watts put it: "Life is wiggly.") Of course, many of our issues - in the broad sense I'm using the word here - are related to important sources of fulfillment, such as starting a ... Views: 273
It's not always easy to feel like our best selves. The phrase itself is fairly common these days. But in many ways that can actually speak to the difficulty in attaining the goal. People usually talk about feeling like their best selves because they're working so hard to achieve the goal. What's ... Views: 641
The easiest and usually most effective way to replenish your body is through good nutrition.
Most of us have a diet that is very different from the one that we are adapted to through millions of years of evolution - a diet of mainly vegetables, fruits, nuts, and meat. Humans first started ... Views: 251
The increase in violence/shootings/bombings, bullying, threats, and judgment in the U.S. is spiraling out of control. Americans are afraid to send their children to school or attend public events. Kids can’t even play outside these days for fear of being abducted or shot on the street. Something ... Views: 295
Do you ever catch yourself in the middle of a swirl of negative self-talk? Maybe you find yourself imagining a conversation with someone you know, and before you know it, you're irritated and grumpy, maybe it's even keeping you up at night, making you restless.
What’s crazy is the control ... Views: 271
Remembering everything you read as a student is a very important part of one’s academic life. The memory requirements for youthful children are enormously higher than they are for grown-ups. We grown-ups have gathered enough knowledge to survive in our everyday life. On the other hand, a student ... Views: 437
[Note: This JOT is adapted from Mother Nurture, a book written for mothers - focusing on typical parenting situations and gender differences that are experienced by many, though not all, mothers and fathers, and by parents in same sex relationships. Parenting is a complex subject, plus it ... Views: 261
[Note: This JOT is adapted from Mother Nurture, a book written for mothers - focusing on typical parenting situations and gender differences that are experienced by many, though not all, mothers and fathers, and by parents in same sex relationships. Parenting is a complex subject, plus it ... Views: 204
The central teaching of mysticism is that Everything is One, whereas from the side of rationalism the universe is Multiple. The essence of the mystical tradition is not a particular philosophical system, but the simple realization that the soul of any individual/existence is identified with the ... Views: 293
Of all the areas of the human-animal bond currently being explored, one of the most well-researched is the impact animals can have on children with autism. Pets have the uncanny ability to reach children with developmental issues and lure them out of their shells.
Researcher Maggie O’Haire ... Views: 398
[Note: This JOT is adapted from Mother Nurture, a book written for mothers - focusing on typical parenting situations and gender differences that are experienced by many, though not all, mothers and fathers, and by parents in same sex relationships. Parenting is a complex subject, plus it ... Views: 347
In my early 20's, I went through Rolfing, a form of deep-tissue bodywork, and I nervously anticipated the 5th session, the one that goes deep into the belly. But instead of gobs of repressed emotional pain, what poured out was love - waves and waves of love that I'd pushed down due to ... Views: 260
A Belief Worth Questioning
By
Bill Cottringer
“Tolerance implies no lack of commitment to one's own beliefs. Rather it condemns the oppression or persecution of others.” ~John F. Kennedy.
All the world’s dreadful problems and the unwanted miseries they bring, are caused by one ... Views: 453
A Few More Thoughts About Happiness
by
Bill Cottringer
“Breathe in common sense and breathe out nonsense.” ~The Author.
Happiness has as many different definitions and ways to get it as there are people on the planet. Here are a few more thoughts about happiness I have had recently, ... Views: 422
No matter how fortunate you are, there are certain struggles that are almost certain to occur at some point in your life. While you may do your best to avoid them, it's more realistic to figure out how to deal with them in an effective manner. Below are a few of the more common disasters that ... Views: 524
Gravity and entropy are powerful processes in the natural world. Gravity draws things together, toward a center, while entropy scatters them into disorder. In much the same way, in our own lives, some things bring us to center, while others disturb and disperse us.
In terms of centering, be ... Views: 233
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“The venerated Shakti, source of energy, opens her eyes and the universe is reabsorbed ... Views: 453
Today I am going to share with you a very important skill which everyone must master in their life. Because life is too mean and rude with everyone, at some places, life will put you in such times where you will feel too lonely, and you will feel like there will be no one who can help you in ... Views: 357
Two people. Same life circumstances. One has a positive mindset. The other…doesn’t. Think about them both for a moment, what images come to mind? Does one appear happy, handling life with grace, taking setbacks with perspective, while the other seems “off”, struggles with bumps in their path, ... Views: 334
Most people spend most minutes of most days doing one thing after another. I sure do. Typing these words is a kind of doing, as is driving to work, making dinner, brushing one's teeth, or putting the kids to bed. For all the "labor-saving" devices of the past 50 years - dishwashers, phone ... Views: 278
In this busy life, it's hard for anyone to take a break for a moment. But A small break is must, when you are done with your work for long. This break will give you a time to think & spend time for yourself,too.
Life is not only limited to work only, but there are also many things which all ... Views: 335