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If someone had a problem with their car, they would probably take it to a garage to be fixed. There is then no need for them to take a deeper look into what is going on, as another person will do that for them.
However, if someone had mental and emotional problems, it is unlikely that ... Views: 825
When we are in the midst of life trauma it is very difficult to feel anything but the pain, hurt and disappointment related to that time in life. But very often, looking back in hindsight, we can find meaning, relevance, valuable lessons and insights that were the direct result of that drama. ... Views: 921
I know… mindfulness is pretty popular and everyone is encouraged to practice this weird thing. It will solve all of your problems, can eliminate cavities, will ensure that you will never feel sad again! Not exactly, but many people have found it helpful to bring awareness to what’s going on. It ... Views: 921
What the heck is EMDR? EMDR stands for eye-movement desensitization and reprocessing. Francine Shapiro, Ph.D, the woman that developed EMDR, suggests that painful or traumatic memories can get “locked” in the brain. These memories are often fragmented and incomplete and they can lead to us kinda ... Views: 1256
If someone wanted to get an idea of what it is like to experience adrenalin, they could imagine what it would be like if ten people were running after them. Not only will their body be in fight or flight mode, they will also experience a surge of energy and feel alive.
What plays a part in ... Views: 1006
Towards the end of 2012, I came to the conclusion that if I could change what was going on in my mind my life would change. The outcome of this was that I ended up having hypnotherapy.
I was in a lot of emotional pain at this time and I had no idea what inner peace was like. A little while ... Views: 942
You can practice meditation in many ways, and yet all of them are revolving around the same main aspects: to live the present moment, to shut down your thoughts, to pay attention to whatever is happening both inside and outside your mind, and to simply become an observant. And the best thing is ... Views: 1254
Immediately after a traumatic event, it is common for people to feel stunned and not being able to accept what has happened, as such events could arouse a lot of disturbing feelings in a person, giving rise to mixed emotions of stress, fear, anger and agitation. But things usually settle with ... Views: 927
Experiencing an accident can do a number on your car, your body, and your mind. The last one is quite often overlooked when we think about recovering from an accident. However, the trauma of an accident can have long-lasting effects. You need to be honest with yourself about any need for help ... Views: 1013
What I feel in my body does not match how I feel in my mind. It comes as a shock to let the number of my age surface to consciousness. How can this be? I still feel like I’m 18 years old some days.
Sure, I know I've transitioned though many developmental stages and my body has changed, but it ... Views: 1414
If someone has PTSD, it is likely to be a sign that they have experienced something that has overwhelmed their system. Or if it doesn’t relate to one thing in particular, it could show that a number of things had this effect on them.
Either way, due to how overwhelmed they were by what took ... Views: 880
If someone ends up getting into self-development, it can be a sign that their mind is their own worst enemy. So, instead of this part of them giving them the support and encouragement that they need, it will be doing the complete opposite.
This part of them could have the tendency to produce ... Views: 937
In the same way that a rupture can severely weaken a tyre, trauma can also severely weaken a human being. But even though a broken type can be replaced by a brand new one, a human being won’t be able to find a another suit to replace the one that is not in a good way.
As a result of this, ... Views: 961
By definition, revenge is quite harsh. It means to inflict hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong done to someone else. For this post, I would like to alter the definition slightly in the following way: to avenge oneself by retaliating through healing, recovery and self-care.
Pretty ... Views: 1868
Through a Simple Twist of Faith
Part two of a three-part article written by Randi G. Fine
Some who suffer adversity have had their lives negatively altered by an identifiable, pivotal event. Others gradually lose their foothold over a period of years. Though unaware that it was happening ... Views: 1200
When there is a problem, the first thing that will need to take place will be to find out exactly what is going on. Once this has happened, there is the chance that something will be able to be done about it.
If the problem is not identified, it is not going to be possible for anything to ... Views: 1441
In recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are committing suicide. This may show that it is more common than before or it may show that this is something that is receiving more exposure than before.
It has also been said that more men commit suicide than women, but ... Views: 989
Traumatic experiences can range from accidents to natural disasters, and they can leave lasting scars on the people who experience them. If you're one of these individuals, however, you don't have to let your trauma rule your life. You can start identifying, processing and working through your ... Views: 1152
Although every human being on the planet has a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that each and everyone one of them feel connected to both of these parts of themselves. It may be hard for some people to understand how someone can be out of touch with a part of themselves, but, this is how some ... Views: 1165
As a Divorce Coach and Consultant, by the time people find me, they are well beyond marital bliss and about to embark on one of life’s major life changing events, we know as divorce.
There are woman that sit in my chair and as I listen to their stories and the history of their marriage, I ... Views: 1234
It is often believed that self-esteem is the defining factor when it comes to how someone experiences life. So, if someone has a good amount of it there life will be fulfilling; whereas if they don’t their life won’t be.
On one side will be someone who is living a life that is deeply ... Views: 1187
For many individuals, the past is not past but remains an ever-present influence in their present life. Even though the physical effects of past events often demand more attention, the psychological legacy may be much more difficult to move on from. If past events are processed as experiences to ... Views: 1251
If someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met.
As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ... Views: 2205
When I was out the other day, I saw someone who had all these cuts on their forearm and I thought that this person must self-harm. Over the years, I have seen a number of people with arms that have received a lot of harm.
But, whenever I see something like this, I usually feel pain through ... Views: 1180
“MY CBT therapist told me those were ‘irrational thinking,’ which made it worse- now I just blame myself.”
“ I have gone through my childhood trauma many times, but when I argue with my partner, I still behave like a five-year-old!”
It is not as though we didn’t try- Many of us ... Views: 1515
When I was speaking to Ben Ralston, a therapist, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer, a number of months ago, he went into what someone had shared with him in the past. He said that this person had told him that human beings were basically walking trees.
I spend a fair amount ... Views: 1378
Psychological abuse leaves no visible marks and often remains hidden within families, romantic relationships, toxic individuals and groups, cults and organisations of various religious and non-religious orientations. However, it is at least as damaging as the more explicitly violent forms of ... Views: 1392
Over six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written.
I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ... Views: 1528
People’s brains vary. Research has shown that some people are born with a neurological make up that can make them more emotionally or intellectually intense, sensitive, and more open to external stimuli than the general population.
They are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes ... Views: 1698
Some people are naturally more intense than others.
They are often told that they are ‘too much,’, ’too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional.
People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At ... Views: 1958
It is increasingly being recognized that many individuals who receive the diagnosis of BPD are naturally highly intuitive and perceptive. What was previously thought of as a genetic vulnerability may reflect an innate talent.
People who were born emotionally intense, sensitive and are ... Views: 2255
Ever since I wrote the articles, ‘My Healing Technique Is The Only One That Works!’ and ‘Every Healer Has issues!’, I have been reflecting on the kind of experiences I have had on the courses that I have done. There were times when I was in a desperate position and this meant that my thinking ... Views: 1321
Some people feel more than others.
They are often told that they are ‘too much,’ ‘too intense,’ ‘too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional.
People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At their ... Views: 1926
I was recently thinking about what factors play a part when it comes to what makes someone a good healer/therapist. During this time, I thought about the kind of people who I had worked with over the years.
Over the years, I have worked with numerous healers and therapists, and I would say ... Views: 1297
Growing up with developmental trauma* can cause patterns of learned helplessness where we shut down, get small, space out, disassociate and eventually get depressed. Another response would be to go into the big one where we puff up and present ourselves as bigger than we are (see “Being the Big ... Views: 1554
A number of years ago, a few articles were written about how trauma from slavery and the holocaust can be passed down. What this means, then, is that it doesn’t matter how many years have passed since these things took place, as what happened can have an effect on their descendents.
Hard to ... Views: 1185
Physical/aggressive bullying is easy to identify. We can all see the broken bones, blood, and bruises. This type of bullying is most often chosen by men.
As a therapist, it is usually pretty easy for me to ask certain questions to get the information that physical abuse is indeed happening. ... Views: 1988
Around the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend.
I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ... Views: 1993
My favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First she gives the imp a necklace, then a ring, then promises her firstborn child. But when her child ... Views: 1302
In the same way that someone needs to eat in order to function at their best, it could also be said that they need to feel safe, too. The food they eat will give them the energy they need, but if they don’t feel safe enough to face the world, it won’t matter.
Taking this into account, the ... Views: 1419
If someone was to walk down a dark alley way and heard people running towards them, it could be said that it would be normal for them to experience fear. For one thing, they won’t know why these people are running towards them, with this being the reason why their body is getting them ready to ... Views: 1434
When working with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, the essential component is to resist the gravitational and habitual pull to attach onto the stories that appear like planets in our inner galaxy and assume that they’re true. The story of the day – whether it centers around your relationship, ... Views: 1425
LOSS AND GREAT CREATOR’S ROLE IN OUR EXISTENCE
During these end/beginning, contrived and natural times, many are experiencing loss of many kinds on many levels, including grief of all sorts. As intelligent beings, we question why and how and where is God, our Great Creator. This experience ... Views: 1780
Unwanted changes, unexpected challenges, loss, disappointments, abuse or other forms of adversity often bring with them hurt or harm. Feelings of self-pity are quite normal and understandable. Life has changed in some way and often not for the better. It is only natural to feel sorry for ... Views: 1359
Why Memories hurt.
When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed.
As ... Views: 1429
Why Memories hurt.
When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed.
As ... Views: 1405
Each experience is telling us something about ourselves, other people, the society we live in, the country, the world. The messages we receive from our experience are filtered through our belief system, previous experience and cultural norms. For example, one person may see adversity as ... Views: 1821
A gift to yourself
The idea of forgiveness makes many people shout, Never!! Indeed, resentment, blame, recrimination and desire for revenge seem so much more natural than forgiveness.
Is there anything to be gained by forgiving an offender? Formerly associated only with spiritual ... Views: 1400
It could be said that whenever one spends time around others, they are going to be seen. Therefore, the only way for one to not be seen by others will be for them to spend time by themselves.
Black and White
This is then something that is not hard to understand; in fact, it is perfectly ... Views: 1337