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- Why Men Pull Away From Love - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2012 from Robert LeesHere's a basic layout of why this happens from first date to when the men drift and seem like there interest in you has disappeared. It is quite simple really, but can be something that you overlook, or just don't understand this basic fact... Why He Pulls Away: Common Facts Right from the ...
Views: 3587(2 votes) - Can Hypnotherapy Help in Treating Sex Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe usual response to the suggestion to one of my clients that hypnotherapy might be useful in the treatment of sexual addiction is typical of the general public’s misguided understanding of hypnotherapy: “I’m afraid of going into trance – I might lose control”; “You’ll find out things about ...
Views: 3543 - ***Bacon Flavored Red Meat Treat You Don't Have to be a Man to Eat (Recipes for You, You Don't Cook!) - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Emily Erickson-SandstromPeel about half a head of garlic and leave it in tiny pieces in your food chopper. If you don't have a food chopper, get one – and for now just smash the garlic in a baggie with a hammer. This will motivate you to get a food chopper. I know this! Cut any red meat into bite-sized thin ...
Views: 3506(6 votes) - ***Why Do Women Go Out With Jerks? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Women go out with jerks because of reasons you would not suspect. None of them are logical. None of them are “right” or “fair” in a fair world. It is unfair that sexual attraction and dating are “unfair” once you learn the nature of human instincts between the genders. The reason that they ...
Views: 3494(10 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: why are men in their mid 40s-50s attracted to 20ish girls? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I was wondering if in any of your books or articles you discuss about why men in their mid 40s-50s might be attracted to 20ish girls. I kind of know the obvious reasons, but being more curious about what that might mean maturity wise etc. Dear Reader: From your ...
Views: 3481(2 votes) - Three Keys to Reboot the Romance in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Jonathon AslayWomen have probably heard this phrase many times in their lives: “If you really love me, you’d....” fill in the blank. Most of the time those comments are referring to the guy wanting her to prove her love by having sex with him, but today I want to hit on THREE ways women can put out that will ...
Views: 3473(2 votes) - Why Do Bad Breakups Happen? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Jesse MartinBreakups hurt as anyone going through one will attest to. Some people feel sad for a while, change some routines in their lives, reconnect with friends, and bounce back rather swiftly. Others, however, become entrenched in insurmountable sadness and gut wrenching grief. Why is it that some have ...
Views: 3389(1 vote) - How to Survive Dating Men - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2011 from Suzanne WiebeOne of the most common questions asked by women is ‘What do Men Want.’ The most painful question is ‘Why?’ These two questions put together cause heartache and distrust in millions of women. It is easy to start seeing every man as a commitment-phobe, or someone with attachment issues, but this ...
Views: 3383(4 votes) - Dilemmas of Codependent Men - by Submitted on May 26, 2012 from Darlene LancerThe dilemmas of codependent men aren’t talked about. Unlike women, men don’t discuss their relationship problems with friends and family. Instead, they internalize their pain. Many are in denial, suffer in silence, or become numb to their needs and feelings. They shun attention and try to do the ...
Views: 3377(2 votes) - ***How To Get A Woman's Number - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.Under most circumstances with a woman, it’s utterly fruitless to get a woman’s number if she is a.) not sexually attracted b.) not friendly or feel a sense of fun or friendship from you, or c.) not a good match for you intellectually, in maturity, culture or tastes. Why would you even bother? Or ...
Views: 3270(2 votes) - ***What To Do On A First Date With A Woman - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.A first date with a woman had better not be the only date on your social horizon. Get that straight right from the beginning. I don’t care if you are short, fat, bald, “ugly,” haven’t ever played a guitar or rode a motorcycle. I don’t even care if you can’t dance, have a small penis, and ...
Views: 3228(9 votes) - ***From Boys of Violence to Men of Steel - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2012 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The divide between boy-thinking and mature male thinking is deep but narrow. Learn how destructive behavior can be turned to the power to build a career, a romance, and a life... Many of you have discovered the unprecedented value in the entirely FREE, Do It Yourself Dating and Attraction ...
Views: 3203 - The "Mindfulness" of Sex Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenMindfulness is a method of awareness and introspection which involves a conscious attempt to focus attention intensely on the present moment, noting thoughts, feelings, perception, images and sensation without judging them, participating in them or acting on them. The contents of the mind appear ...
Views: 3198 - What is an ideal gentleman in a mod lady's point of view? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2011 from Joanna AndersAs it turns out the expression "ideal gentleman" is seen by male creatures and women quite differently. It is because of this misapprehension there exist all sorts of struggles and difficulties between madams and guys. This relationship problem is as old as the human race itself. Scholars and ...
Views: 3176 - ***The "Five Shoes" of Forgiving a Woman (and Being Forgiven) - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.We usually hear about the importance of resolving arguments with empathy and perspective for the other person described as "there are two sides to every coin," or "what would it be like if the shoe was on the other foot?" What about thinking about the shoe itself in that metaphor? Today we ...
Views: 3168 - ***How To Meet Women - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.How to meet women is a different subject than where to meet women, and WHETHER you will meet women at all. Do you have particular goals with women? Or in the skill to meet them? Do you know what you even want in a woman? Or in what you will share with her? Do you want casual dating? Or a serious ...
Views: 3154(3 votes) - ***The Social Injection Exercise - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The advantages of the exercise that you are about to learn, for free, will be: 1. You will meet more women, or have a richer connection to the one you're with. 2. You will get a new career direction, resources, and guidance, or inject your current career with all new ideas, teammates, and ...
Views: 3020 - The Psychological Underpinnings of Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe diagnosis of sex addiction is the same as every addiction: loss of control and continued behavior despite adverse consequences. Sexual addiction differs from other addictions, however. Our sexuality reflects unconscious conflicts, longings and wishes of which we are not aware. In essence, ...
Views: 3020 - Proper guidance of sexual health for male to avoid low sex stamina - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2015 from Margaux DiazOverview To last long in bed is every man’s desire and as well as their partner’s desire. Every woman wants their man to be a man in bed. Low sex stamina is a curse to a man and everybody should take care of their sexual health to avoid low sex stamina. To keep your partner happy in bed or to ...
Views: 2991 - Canned Conversation: The Truth Behind Great Conversation Starters - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Chris ChandraLet’s face it. If you have shyness working against you then making conversations can be really tough. But did you know that many great conversations can start from canned material? Meaning its stuff you planned to talk about ahead of time. The problem is knowing what material to talk ...
Views: 2954 - How American Media Destroyed a Generation Of Men - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2014 from Bave New ManI grew up in the 1980's and was a teenager in the 1990's. Most of the kids of my generation were exposed to virile and resourceful representations of men. Take American mainstream media; we had movies like Terminator, where a fit male character did everything he could to protect those he loved, ...
Views: 2947 - Everything You Want to Know about Penis Size but are Afraid to Ask-- The Folly of Modern Stereotypes - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2013 from Zen-Jay ChuangA curious episode happened in the small city-state of Singapore in the fall of 1967. More than 400 panic-stricken men rushed to the hospitals there, fearing losing their penises. According to Dr. Scott Mendelson, author of the book The Great Singapore Penis Panic: “Each feared that if his ...
Views: 2935 - ***How To Ask A Woman Out - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.The best situation is of course, for a woman to ask YOU out, but that presents a different set of challenges than those around how you’re going to “get up the nerve,” whether or not she is already with someone else, or any other manner of concerns you may have that prevent you form what comes ...
Views: 2933(2 votes) - Can Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Help Heal Sex Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenThe philosophical basis for cognitive therapy goes back to the Stoic Philosophers who taught that it is not the external event that causes our distress, but rather our perception or interpretation of the event that is distressing. According to the Stoics, people are capable of considering ...
Views: 2918 - What are the Objectives of a Total Program of Sex Addiction Treatment? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenFifteen years ago, people didn’t even know there was such a thing as sex addiction, never mind how to get help for it. With Patrick Carnes’ groundbreaking book Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction, people who suffer from self-destructive sexual acts had hope of knowing what ailed ...
Views: 2887 - ***The Power of the "Underdog" Male - by Submitted on Dec 31, 1969 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.If you have ever been beaten down by life, rejected by a woman, fired, laid off, divorced, struck with a health problem, or some other challenge of life as a man - then you need to know THIS... Some of you may have seen the film, Invictus, with Morgan Freeman and Matt Damon, but like me, you ...
Views: 2869 - Do Women Over-Generalize? Always & Never - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardMen and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings. Women have a tendency to over-generalize statements, using words like ALWAYS and NEVER. Women sometimes say to men, “You ALWAYS do this,” or “You NEVER do that.” The use of these words is not meant to be taken literally, ...
Views: 2831 - 30 Questions To Help You Find Your Best Self - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2012 from William Cottringer30 Questions To Help You Find Your Best Self By Bill Cottringer "You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be." ~ Lou Holtz. The self-growth movement is all about people finding ways to help themselves and each other become their ...
Views: 2819 - How Internet Porn Lies to You - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenWhat kinds of ideas is porn putting into our heads? If the wrong things keep getting dumped in, your mental environment can get so polluted that your life is going to have problems. One of the most vital parts of mental environment is a healthy idea of who we are sexually. If these ideas are ...
Views: 2811 - What Happened To Tiger Woods? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2011 from Joan ChamberlainA Deeper Look at the Exaggerated Superiority Personality and Awareness of Self. Good ole’ USA Today; they even make the sports page interesting. Last week in a wire service report, there was a short article about both Tiger Woods and Vijay Singh. Only five paragraphs about Tiger Woods. ...
Views: 2787 - How You Can Seduce Women Using ‘Deflection Theory’ - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2011 from Mac RobinThere’s something normally happens when you’re out there engaging in the ‘seduction game’ - which is, when you’re actively scouting out for women you believe you’d like to hook-up with. Lots of men experienced it, and many guys nevertheless do experience it when they are out playing the game. It ...
Views: 2774 - ***Decades of Women - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.We often lump women together into one group; as if they were all cut from the same cloth. While to a certain extent, it is possible that feminine instincts are uniform across demographic boundaries: the desire for resources, the desire for friendship or belonging to a group with focus, the ...
Views: 2756 - The Narcissist's Stripped Ego - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2016 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The narcissist's True Self is introverted and dysfunctional. In healthy people, Ego functions are generated from the inside, from the Ego. In narcissists, the Ego is dormant, comatose. The narcissist needs the input of and ...
Views: 2747 - Narcissist Loves Pain: His and Others' - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Most narcissists enjoy an irrational and brief burst of relief after having suffered emotionally ("narcissistic injury") or after having sustained a loss. It is a sense of freedom, which comes with being unshackled. Having ...
Views: 2743 - Why Most Men Fail With Women - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2013 from Dustin HinesIt's a controversial issue to be sure. There are many opinions on why men fail when it comes to meeting, attracting, and ultimately keeping exceptional women. Navigating all of this info can be a daunting task and lead you just about nowhere. Through years of study, conversation, and testing, ...
Views: 2720(1 vote) - Roland - A Guardian Angel to the Mayans of Guatemala - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2012 from Harold BeckerA few years ago, as I read through my morning group of incoming emails, I came upon a simple, yet unusual inquiry from a man in Guatemala. His name was Roland and he was from Sweden. He was seeking potential assistance from our organization, The Love Foundation, for a Mayan village that had been ...
Views: 2712(1 vote) - Self-Compassion: Survival, Not Selfish - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2016 from Michael MantellEver travel with children or those needing assistance? Then you are quite familiar with the instructions flight attendants give passengers to put the mask on yourself first before helping others. Makes sense right? Perhaps Lama Yeshe said it best, “Be gentle first with yourself if you wish to ...
Views: 2691(1 vote) - How To Make A Girl Like You If You Are A Nerd? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2011 from Steve KoenigOK, guys, YOU ALL KNOW that being a nerd isn’t really a turn on. Chicks don’t dig nerds. Well, at least not until they get rich. But until then, these guys will spend MANY HOURS trying to figure out: “How to make a girl like you?”. There are a lot of nerds out there. Many of you guys are ...
Views: 2679(1 vote) - Self Worth: Why Do Some Men Let Women Define Their Self Worth? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone looks towards other people to define how valuable they are, they are going to be dependent on their approval and acceptance. And the other hand, if one was to define their value and not look towards others, the need to receive the acceptance and approval of others is not going to be ...
Views: 2675 - How to Catch a Man and Keep Him Happy - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Jonathon AslayIt doesn't take a rocket scientist to realize that men are attracted to gorgeous women, but it does get complicated for women to understand what keeps men interested. As a Guy Spy into the Male Mind women are always asking me what men are looking for in a woman. They want to know what he needs ...
Views: 2670(3 votes) - 19 WAYS TO FIX YOUR WIFE WHEN SHE IS FALLING APART - by Submitted on May 31, 2017 from Bisi AdewaleYour wife can be dying in silence why still performing her wifely duties, you will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed. When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yell on Children, can easily sleep or sleep a lot, she may be with battling something you are not careful enough to ...
Views: 2660 - 5 Reasons I've found why men cheat - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Kizito KatawongaA question asked me by a disillusioned young lady I used to work with. A friend of hers had just had a terrible experience and she was looking for some answers. She was clearly disturbed and contemplating the troubling likelihood that someday, the same would happen to her. Even though it wasn’t ...
Views: 2648 - ***The Universal Responses to Women's Tests - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Paul Dobransky, M.D.I would grab women's attention usually with my height and the wide and varied things I've done with my life, even at a young age. They would let me know indirectly - moving differently than for other men in the vicinity, trying to label me, whether it was as a nice guy, a player, a charmer, a ...
Views: 2643(1 vote) - A Behavioral Modification Approach to Treating Sex Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy Hayden“Brainlock”, a four-step self-help guide for treating OCD is a book written by Jeffrey Schwartz, M.D., a physician who spent most of his career treating and doing research on Obsessive/Compulsive (OCD) behaviors. His has developed a four-part program self-help program that can be used for ...
Views: 2638 - Can Neuro-Linguistics Programming Help with Sex Addiction Recovery? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenNLP is an approach to doing psychotherapy that was all the rage in the 70’s and early 80’s. It is a model of the structure of your inner, subjective experience and how that experience influences behavior. It provides a framework for eliciting the way you experience reality with a focus on ...
Views: 2628 - Understanding the Wounds of the Men and Opening to Your Compassionate Heart - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Luminessa EnjaraAs a writer, I became interested in understanding the plight of men back in the nineties when Robert Bly, Sam Keen and other men who pioneered the Men’s Movement began to write and speak up. I was curious and it fascinated me to read books like Fire in the Belly and Iron John. It also helped ...
Views: 2617 - Men Are Like Waffles - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Karen CardWhy is it so hard to figure out the opposite sex? Because our brains work differently. Men’s brains are really good at focusing completely on just one thought and women’s brains are really good at thinking many thoughts at the same time. This difference can make it hard to figure out what ...
Views: 2616 - Sex Addiction as an Intimacy Disorder - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2013 from Dorothy HaydenAttachment patterns have to do with how the infant is tended to by his/her primary caregiver, typically the mother. This means that when an infant is upset, or dysregulated, the "good enough" mother soothes the infant thereby regulating his/her nervous system. This kind of consistent tending to ...
Views: 2608 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Hate Women? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article may sound a bit extreme and yet when it comes to male and female interactions, there is not always peace, harmony or respect. Throughout time, women have been murdered, manipulated and abused by men. And although the rights of women have gradually improved in certain ...
Views: 2599 - How To Treat Premature Ejaculation Naturally? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2012 from Wisey LimIs premature ejaculation causing you much embarrassment? Have you been trying to find the natural cure to end this misery? Let me share with you 3 simple steps which you could apply immediately. You have found the answer to the question of how to treat premature ejaculation naturally. The 3 ...
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