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- ***Learn to Love Yourself and Eliminate Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Sandra DawsonWhen you feel anxious, you may not have a way to calm down, and you may be terrified that your anxiety will also trigger a panic attack. An overactive nervous system is causing your anxiety and panic attacks if you are experiencing them when you are truly safe. The reason you feel anxiety in ...
Views: 4329(5 votes) - Fix Your Sexless Marriage & Get The Passion Back Fast - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2010 from Tony BrownThere are some things you should and should not do when you are trying to fix a sexless marriage. You Should Not Do Any Of These Things Don't Get Angry You are obviously frustrated with your current situation but taking this anger out on your partner is not going to turn this around - ...
Views: 918 - Intimacy in Relationships - Remembering How You Got There - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2010 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonAre you starting to feel as though the intimacy in your relationship is dissolving right before your very eyes? If so, it doesn't have to be this way. Intimacy and relationships don't have to be mutually exclusive. You can begin to rekindle the intimacy in your relationship by learning a few ...
Views: 2110(1 vote) - The Science of Love Part I: Calming the Hurricane - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2010 from Pat LaDouceurI love Rich," Diana told me during our first session. "But I don't know if we can stay together. The arguments we have are too painful. The wounds are too old and deep." "And I love Diana," Rich echoed. "And respect her. But we see the world completely differently. That's just how it is. ...
Views: 1472 - Discovering Authentic Feelings - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2010 from Tom WrightThere is a balance point between feelings, that when practiced, makes for harmonious relationships. We're not usually at that point, due to the masculine/feminine bent toward opposites poles in relationship to the way we use feelings, not feelings themselves. And it's this "use" where our ...
Views: 1767(1 vote) - Women’s Shoes for a Happy Marriage: Take Inspiration from a Victoria Beckham Ad - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2010 from Dawn BonnerWomen’s shoes can be the catalyst for a long and happy marriage. One type of women’s shoes in particular can be a big boon; the iconic and enduring high heel. Victoria Beckham may have lost her contract with Armani for underwear ads, yet it is doubtful she is going to lose her husband anytime ...
Views: 2712(5 votes) - Disadvantages of Debating and How To Avoid It For Better Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from J. AcobArguments - what's it good for? Debates are rarely "won." When you think you won an argumentation, what did you gain? The "loser" at least learned something, right? But what did you get? arguing practice, ego satisfaction, and diminished Brain power. Argument Decreases Brain Power? At ...
Views: 4913(1 vote) - Listen to Your Love With Your Ears Closed, and You Will Finally Hear What They Are Saying. - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellI have learned many things in my life. Most of what I learned was through trial and error. Mainly through error is when I grew the most. I believe the relationships I had in the past were to prepare me and make me ready to be the right partner for the one I was to be with. While I wish I had ...
Views: 1822(2 votes) - "Are You Afraid to Open Up?" - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2010 from Sandra DawsonIf you are committed to finding true love or keeping your love relationship alive and well, you will need to overcome your fear of opening up so you can create true intimacy. Why is opening up so important? Relationships are based on the commonalities you have with your partner and your ...
Views: 6215(2 votes) - The Art of Intimacy - Part Two - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellHaving a close relationship with the love of your life is both easy and challenging. If you start off your relationship being close it is much easier to continue this as your relationship grows, but it is never too late to get closer. A key element of a happy and rewarding relationship is ...
Views: 955(3 votes) - Aphrodisiacs: For A More Satisfying Sex Life - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraSex is essential to a marriage or any other romantic relationship. Without it, no matter how much you love each other, you will feel there’s something missing. Sex is an expression of your love and it releases tension and makes you feel good afterwards. But no matter how much you love to have ...
Views: 940(1 vote) - THE SUBTLETY AND VARIETY OF EROTIC TALK - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2009 from Bonnie GabrielMany people initially think of "talking dirty" when they hear the words "erotic talk". But as I explain in my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Lover with Words (Random House), the phrase means so much more than that.: "Words are wonderful ...
Views: 4078(2 votes) - The Ultimate Holiday Gift: Nurture your marriage this holiday season - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2009 from Richard NicastroIf it's the season to be jolly… …then why am I seeing so many stressed, beleaguered couples walking around? Is it more apt to say, 'Tis the season to feel tense, frustrated and constantly on the go? Whether you're feeling totally overwhelmed or slightly frustrated, it's easy to lose ...
Views: 1023(5 votes) - Power Partner's, Intimacy In Top Form - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2009 from Lori SnyderThere's one sad truth in life I've found while journeying east and west - The only folks we really wound are those we love the best. We flatter those we scarcely know we please the fleeting guest, And deal full many a thoughtless blow to those who love us best. ~Ella Wheeler Wilcox Many ...
Views: 1162(1 vote) - Naked, the Only Way to Be In Love - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, DECEMBER 11, 2009 Naked, the Only Way to Be In Love I launched this column 10 years ago as "Naked Relationships" to help you experience the ultimate in authentic, loving relationships -- something I had yet to get my arms ...
Views: 1412(2 votes) - He's Rich, She's Hot! So What? - Beyond Appearances and Towards Real Love - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt's the stereotypical trade - sex objects for success objects. Attractive women (or men) for wealthy men (or women). This barter of status (looks and wealth) is ancient and deeply ingrained in the human psyche. And, it is pitched to us as the ideal over and over again in the media (television, ...
Views: 2676(2 votes) - The Best Gift of All - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Mike RobbinsDuring one of her shows a few years back, Oprah Winfrey made a profound and beautiful statement that I appreciated very much. She said, “We do shows about lots of ‘stuff’ and my ‘favorite things,’ but what people want more than anything else is to know that they’re appreciated...that’s the best ...
Views: 1289(2 votes) - Love Myth: Love is Blind -- Love Truth: Love is Consciousness - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIt’s a common saying, “Love is blind.” And, it’s a phrase that has been stated by numerous well known people. Many movies also proclaim it. Yet, is this really true? Or, is it just another myth about love that prevents us from knowing what love really is, and therefore, stops us from attracting ...
Views: 6590(1 vote) - Is Your Marriage Intimacy Alive And Well? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonIf you're married, you may have began to notice that your marriage seems a bit comfortable--not at all like when you were dating--in fact you may have even heard yourself thinking something like, I can relax, they're not going anywhere. The problem is with this kind of thinking is that many ...
Views: 1967(1 vote) - The Good, The Bad, and the Beautiful - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellEvery day of our lives we are confronted with the good and the bad. Our work, our friendships, commute, relationships, everything has its ups and downs. When in a relationship, whether it is a marriage or boyfriend/girlfriend, we can be flooded with warm feelings that make us secure and feel ...
Views: 881(3 votes) - Want more action in the bedroom? Then do the ironing.Submitted on Dec 05, 2009 from Chibs ClovellyEver been turned on by your partner vacuuming the floor, washing the dishes, or cleaning the bathroom? It might sound obscure, but studies have revealed that seeing men perform household chores like these is a turn-on for most women. And it doesn’t just apply to housework. Studies by ...
Views: 1343(2 votes) - ***Healing the Fear of Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhy would someone be afraid of intimacy? Don't we all want to feel close and connected with someone?Yes, of course we want that, but there are very real fears that keep us from opening to emotional intimacy in a primary relationship.The FearsWhat is the first fearful thought you think when you ...
Views: 6290(4 votes) - The Three Myths of Flirting - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Meghan GehanANYONE can be successful at flirting and dating, however there are certain misconceptions that you must overcome in order to flirt effectively and naturally. After all, isn’t the goal of flirting to improve not only the number of dates you have ahead of you…but also the quality, strength and ...
Views: 2010(1 vote) - 5 reasons marriages end in divorce - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I'm getting married in a month and want to know why so many marriages end in divorce. What should I look out for? How can I prevent divorce?" ~Sandra, Houston TX A: Understanding why a marriage or relationship might fail can alert couples to their own unique relationship ...
Views: 1995(3 votes) - Meet Six Needs and Bond for Life - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 27, 2009 Meet Six Needs and Bond for Life Relationships make for a happy, fulfilling life or a miserable existence. So, why didn't our parents sit us down early on and teach us to do relationships well? If you think about ...
Views: 1415(5 votes) - ***The Importance of Touch in Building Sexual Charge and Love - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2009 from Carla TaraIn this busy age when we’re always pressed for time, people have forgotten what it’s like to touch each other just for the pleasure of it. Even if that opportunity arises, the tendency is to get caught up over ejaculatory orgasms. Admittedly, ejaculatory orgasm produces intense pleasure, but ...
Views: 4015(7 votes) - The Power of Eye Contact - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2009 from WEE DILTSWhat is eye contact? Several popular definitions are: 1. Eye contact is one of the most important nonverbal channels you have for communicating and connecting with others. 2. Defined as a meeting of the eyes between two people expresses meaningful nonverbal communication. 3. Contact ...
Views: 3119(4 votes) - Essence of Readiness by Susan Sheppard - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2011 from Susan SheppardAre you really ready for a relationship? So often I hear, I want a boyfriend, I’m married but I’m not happy. I just got divorced and I don’t want to make the same mistake again. When will I find someone? It occurred to me recently that in order to be in a relationship that works, it’s ...
Views: 1581(4 votes) - Words for Lovers: Erotic Appreciation - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Bonnie GabrielWith Thanksgiving drawing near, I believe this would be an ideal time to discuss the role of gratitude, validation and appreciation in the art of lovemaking. Of course, when we feel validated and appreciated in any aspect of our lives it deepens our sense that we truly matter in this crazy ...
Views: 5531(4 votes) - Understand the Purpose of Communication and Improve Marriage Intimacy - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonCommunication Is Important Right? Most people realize how important communication is for improving their marriage intimacy. They know they must be open and honest with their partner and that they must be willing to listen to their partners wants and needs. Yet knowing what you should be doing ...
Views: 3649(2 votes) - Show Your Gratitude and Improve Your Marriage Intimacy - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonWhen couples begin to have problems, their first instinct is often to look at what they're not getting. They recognize that they're not happy and that they don't have the level of marriage intimacy that they want or need. This leads to introspection and wondering what it is that's missing. While ...
Views: 2720(3 votes) - "Is the Fear of Rejection Blocking Intimacy For You?" - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Sandra DawsonThe biggest obstacle to intimacy is fear of rejection. If fear of rejection is blocking intimacy for you, then you may be feeling very lonely. I know you desire the deeply fulfilling experience of being close, but your fear of being rejected is too strong to allow you to open up and truly ...
Views: 3035(4 votes) - How to Satisfy a woman in Bed - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from tim jamesMen you have finally found the woman of your dreams and now you're not quite sure how to satisfy a woman sexually. You are sure this one is special and you want to make sure you have the sexual prowess to keep her happy. Just imagine how strong your relationship will become when you start ...
Views: 10353(3 votes) - Community and spiritual evolution - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Jonathan EvattSince childhood I have had the memory (or "a vision of the future", if that's easier to understand) of people living in relatively small intentional communities. I say small relative to the large cities which have become increasingly the normal way of life in the past few hundred years. We might ...
Views: 1373(4 votes) - Lose Weight, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2009 from Jan DeniseINSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 20, 2009 Lose Weight, Change Your Life Last week I asked: How would your life change if you were to lose weight and satisfy the hunger that food can't? To help answer the question, I also posed it to Keith Ahrens, the man I ...
Views: 1584(5 votes) - Why are Partners Unfaithful - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2009 from Marty TashmanWhy are Partners Unfaithful Over the years I have been asked “Why did he/she do it” below are reasons that partners make the choice to go outside the marriage. This is a list of 13 of the most common reasons that people go outside of the marriage for an affair is not a justification, it is ...
Views: 1606(2 votes) - Love's Perfect Questions - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Lex SisneyHave you ever noticed how the work week tends to build up a dust of separation and isolation between you and significant other? You’re doing your thing. Your partner is doing his/her thing. You’re both busy, doing your best to juggle the demands of work, home, family, kids, money, carpools, ...
Views: 1075(1 vote) - A Human Without Love Is Not a Human Being - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2009 from David SamuelA human without love is not a human being. To live without loving is merely existing, it is a robots life. To be truly alive, to live, to feel, one must have someone to love. Love must be given to someone who can receive it for the lover to feel love. If love is given to one who cannot ...
Views: 16030(6 votes) - 3 Easy Tips To a Better Sex Life - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2009 from Dingane .The sex usually starts off great. It’s fresh, it’s exciting and you worship your partner. Why then does this excitement fade away? Why does the sex and the relationship fade out over time? Well, there are many reasons but keeping your sex life healthy is all about self growth. As a guy, the ...
Views: 1365(5 votes) - Marriage advice: Why love is not enough--does your partner still like you? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhy is it that we have no problem lounging around in our favorite sweatpants (with the hole in the knee) and our favorite threadbare T-shirt (with the rip in the sleeve) in front of our spouse/partner, but if our friends/co-workers were on the way over, we'd change into something "decent" in a ...
Views: 1235(3 votes) - "Even If You Lost the Parent Lottery, You Can Have or Find True Love" - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Sandra DawsonI lost the parent lottery. My mother was verbally abusive and my father threatened my life for 18 years. I am one of the happiest people you will ever meet today, and I am excited to be telling you how you can transform your life too. You can have true love or find true love and success in ...
Views: 2120(5 votes) - The truth about marriage advice and why you should be skeptical - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from Richard NicastroAny couples counselor will tell you that not all marriages or relationships are salvageable—despite my best efforts (and my pro-marriage and pro-commitment attitudes), some of the couples I've counseled will still make the painful decision to end their marriage or relationship. A sad fact is ...
Views: 1155(3 votes) - Get Yourself off Shaky Ground – By Shaking It Up – And Improve Your Marriage Intimacy - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonWhen couples are on shaky ground, they often think that it's best to lay low and let the storm pass. They think that because they are having trouble, it would be the worst possible time to make changes. “Why shake things up when we're already on shaky ground?” they ask themselves. The truth is ...
Views: 3125(1 vote) - Essential Definitions for People Trying to Gain Assertiveness Skills - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Peggy FergusonAlthough most people have some pretty clear-cut notions about what assertiveness is and isn't, assertiveness is often confused with aggression. Assertiveness is not necessarily about having your will prevail over the will of others. That is actually more descriptive of aggression. Especially ...
Views: 1877(2 votes) - Marriage help: Are your arguments helping or hurting your marriage? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Richard NicastroQ: "I need some marriage advice. Is arguing bad for a marriage? My husband says it's healthy to argue from time to time but I try to avoid marital conflict at all costs. Can you shed some light on this for us?" A: Relationship conflicts are a natural part of marriage or a long-term ...
Views: 1152(3 votes) - Marriage Advice: Want to build a stronger marriage? Watch your mouth! - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2009 from Richard NicastroHere is my marriage advice to all couples: If you want to strengthen your marriage or relationship: Watch your mouth! Marriage help: It's all about the words we choose There's an old Bee Gees song that says, "It's only words, and words are all I have, to take your heart away." When you ...
Views: 1234(5 votes) - Marriage Intimacy - Take the Simple Approach - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2009 from Beth Banning and Neill GibsonMarriage Intimacy Doesn't Happen by Itself Many couples assume that the longer they're married, the closer they'll be to one another. They assume that marriage intimacy comes from knowing their partner well, and the better they know their partner, the more intimate they will be with one ...
Views: 1923(3 votes) - Could I be more joyous!? Could you? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Tambra HarckCould I be more joyous!? Could you? I hope your answer, like mine, is, “Yes! I could have more Joy in my life!” You see, I know that there is no “cap” on joy, except as we put there for ourselves. Raising that “cap” or set-point is possible. When you do it, each time you do it, it is ...
Views: 1403(4 votes) - Men and Intimacy: Is It Really a Fear of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Richard NicastroWhat is a fear of intimacy? The term "fear of intimacy" is often used to describe someone who has difficulty creating a close connection with their spouse/partner. Typically, the phrase highlights a person's struggle to become physically and/or emotionally close, and we often describe this ...
Views: 1214 - Marriage advice: Your marriage needs this simple communication strategy - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2009 from Richard NicastroArguments are a regular part of Lindsey and Hector's relationship. During a recent couples counseling session, they volleyed insults back and forth with such intensity that I almost stopped the session. But then something remarkable happened: Lindsey said, "Our marriage is too important to me ...
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