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If one was to think about a close friend, it could be someone they have known for a number of months or it may be a number of years. Yet regardless of how long they have known each other for, they will have a strong connection.
And through having this bond, their life is going to be a lot ... Views: 1501
“Dr. Mantell, it seems that ‘being authentic’ is the hottest topic in self-improvement. Is that true?” If 119,000,000 hits on Google means something is hot, then yes, authenticity - in our age of inauthenticity - is hot.
Just what does being authentic mean? Where does this originate? ... Views: 1373
If one needed something, they may find that there is someone who they can call on to be there for them. In fact, there could be a number of people who would be only too happy to support them.
And the reason they have this outlook is going to be because these people have been there for them ... Views: 1555
If one wanted to form new relationships with others, they could pay attention to their appearance and then look into what they can do to improve it. Along with this, one could also look into what else they could do to improve themselves.
And once they have done this, they could end up ... Views: 1513
If one wanted to find out about what their friends have been doing, there is a strong chance that they will use social media. The primary reason for this is that it is likely to be the easiest option.
And when one goes online, they might only need to scroll down their news feed to get an ... Views: 1447
While there are some people who experience deeper connections with others, there are others who don’t. This means that the interactions that they do have with others will generally be surface level.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they will be on the side of a swimming pool; ... Views: 1656
Although relationships are based on give and take, it doesn’t mean that this is something always takes place. Instead, one can be in a position where the majority of their relationships are out of balance.
As a result of this, one can find that they give far more than they receive, and this ... Views: 1609
Many of us are lucky enough to have had a couple of people come into our lives and bless us with the love of a friend. Some of them were fleeting friends, they left just as quickly as they came. Some of them were part of our lives for years. But the art of maintaining and nurturing a friendship ... Views: 1160
As the Year of the Goat came to an end along with the arrival of the Year of the Monkey, I sat down to contemplate about the highlights of the passing year and my hopes and aspirations for the new one.
One of the highlights of the year of the goat was my discovery of the mesmerizing beauty of ... Views: 1310
While someone can have moments where they take care of their own needs and the needs of others, they can also experience life differently. What this means, is that they can be in a position where they only focus on their own needs or on other people’s needs.
Balance
Life is about give and ... Views: 1434
Someone with low self-esteem can be limited by beliefs that they do not even know are in their way. These beliefs may have been your "normal" for so many years, that they seem to be the absolute truth. However, there is no absolute truth. There is your truth, my truth, his truth, her truth; ... Views: 2236
If one had the chance to get something for free, they could either take what they need or they could take as much as they could. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they can act with grace or they can act with greed.
Two Outlooks
When one only takes what they need, it ... Views: 1796
If one was to use social media, not only could they see what their ‘friends’ have been doing; they could also see what certain celebrities have been doing. What this comes down to is that their news feed is going to be filled with updates from people they now and from people they don’t know.
... Views: 1594
Unique New Year ideas
So it is the end of another year, and an onset of new happenings, new happiness and new joys. This is exactly the way you must be witnessing the coming year to be. Whether you belong to a small city in a quaint town or is an inhabitant of the metro culture, it is a very ... Views: 748
It should be fun meeting new people over the holidays, but socializing can be stressful for many people.
So develop a strategy first and do your homework: assess your own ‘things I like to do’ list and know which activities and personalities that best support your energy.
Whether you are ... Views: 962
Nobody -- whether single, in a long-term committed relationship or anything in between -- is completely immune from that often-painful feeling of loneliness. That is, however, until you can see it for what it is: an attitude that's completely within your power to change.
Merely being alone ... Views: 1271
When it comes to the people one has on their friends list, there can be the people they know and there can also be the people they don’t know. As a result of this, just because someone is classed as a friend it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case.
The Same School
For example, one ... Views: 1461
Have you tried to get your ex back but nothing has worked? the fact is almost all breakups can be resolved even will you feel you did the unthinkable nobody will ever forgive you, becoming victorious in winning your Ex back is as easy as knowing your alphabets. All you need to do is get the ... Views: 1143
If one was to treat someone with respect, there is the chance that they will get a certain response. Whereas if they were to treat someone with disrespect, there is the chance they will get a completely different response.
When it comes to the first example, one might expect another person ... Views: 1506
If someone was to go and watch a film, not only would they watch the screen, they would also pay attention to what is being said. On one hand, they will have paid to watch it, and on the other hand, it will be something they want to see.
No Consequences
However, if they were to take ... Views: 1974
Bullying remains a dark reality for hundreds of people. It doesn’t just impact the 6 out of 10 students who say they are victims of bullying on a daily basis but also a growing number of adults in the workplace. Technology has extended the reach of bullying beyond the confined spaces of school ... Views: 1491
In existential terms, for us to transcend dysfunction, we must accept the anxiety generated by the awareness of the nature of existence as inherent to our lives and learn to live with it as authentically as possible. The authentic self, which is both grounded in and aware of its transient ... Views: 1153
Dr. Romance writes: There are people in my life who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to ... Views: 1273
Dear Dr. Romance:
I have a number of people I would consider friends - two in particular, that have lately become acquaintances, rather than friends, per se. One, in particular, my ex-girlfriend (who was a good friend 12 years prior to romance), no longer contacts me: calls, notes in the mail, ... Views: 1257
If one made a mess somewhere, they could either clean it up or they could leave it where it was. If they were to take the first option, it might take them a while, and this may mean they have to put something else on hold.
However, if they were to take the second option, it might allow them ... Views: 5887
While there are some people in the world who always try to see the best in others, there are also people who always try to see the worst in others. In their eyes, the outlook they have could be seen as best one to have.
Through having a different outlook, it is likely to mean that their ... Views: 1334
While a relationship can last a lifetime, there is also chance it will only last for short amount of time. It could also be said that there is a greater chance of one staying friends with someone for a lifetime than there is of them being in an intimate relationship with someone for the same ... Views: 1522
Millions of Americans live their lives with low self-esteem. Teenagers learn it from one or both parents. Others choose it by comparing themselves with movie stars. Many young women mutter to themselves, “I’m not good enough…I’m not as pretty as Becky the captain of the cheerleading squad…I’m ... Views: 1034
Where Has Our Ability to Empathize Gone?
Excerpted from August 2, 2012 show on A Fine Time for Healing, Is Our Ability to Empathize Eroding?
Empathy is the ability to emotionally put oneself into someone else’s shoes—the capacity to share and understand the feelings, emotions, and ... Views: 1547
When I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly even when I was a very small child. She ... Views: 1136
Most of us know someone who accuses us of wrong-doing whenever we ask that they do what they should have done. For example, you may have a colleague who should have finished some work by a certain deadline, and your part of the work depends on their finished work. And when you ask for their ... Views: 2167
It is often said that one’s friends are the family they choose, and this is why someone can feel as close to their fiends as they can to their family. In some instances, the connection one has with their friends could be greater than the connection they have with their family.
When this ... Views: 2267
Dear Dr. Romance :
I am a 20 year old college student. I have been going out with a man for almost 2 years, I feel he is the one I want to marry but now we are having problems and I don't know how we are going to stay together. I made the mistake of telling him about my ... Views: 1177
There are times when one will meet someone without knowing anything about them and then there are other times when this won’t be the case. In this instance, one will have heard about the other before person they have even met them.
When this happens, one can feel as though they already know ... Views: 1376
I read somewhere that if there is a way of living that you would like to accomplish, a goal that you have set for yourself and haven't gotten there yet, the best way to magnetize it would be to pretend you are already there. So in essence you would create a circumstance that has you doing (even ... Views: 1396
Whilst there are some people on this planet who have relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who have relationships that are the complete opposite. They are then living on the same planet, but the experience they have on this planet is going to be radically different.
When ... Views: 1611
We live in an era of advice overload. I don’t know about you, but my Twitter and Facebook feeds are filled with 101 ways to conquer an interview, find love, lose weight, and even how to clean the shower the right way! I’m just saying;)
It seems there’s a demand for answers. There’s a hunger for ... Views: 1462
Greeting cards are not only warm and thoughtful but the best way to convey a massage. Whether it’s Independence Day, birthday, Christmas or any occasion, a card will always do. Normal cards are boring and so most people nowadays have resorted to ecards that are customized to the individual ... Views: 937
If one was to ask a group of people who have been on this planet for over thirty years and another group who have been here for less than twenty years what their definition of friendship is, the feedback they receive might end up being completely different. This could be put down to fact that ... Views: 1734
While there are some people who embrace their inherent vulnerability, there are others who do everything they can to come across as invulnerable. This is not to say that these are the only options available, as there are likely to be people who alternate between the two.
There will then be ... Views: 2004
When one has a friend who they connect with, it is going to come down to the fact that they enjoy being in their company. This doesn’t mean that they are ‘perfect’, but they are going to be ‘perfect’ for them.
If one was to take a closer look at why they enjoy being in their company, they ... Views: 1483
How it feels when you receive a warm message from your friend, brother, sister or mother? certainly, you feel very happy, loved and remembered. Your message for your loved ones conveys your emotions and feelings towards them. A value of beautiful message that conveys love and care cannot be ... Views: 930
I am willing to wager that you have a secret.
Your secret is a story--or many stories--that culminate in a shameful "truth" about yourself and who you think you are. You go through life hoping nobody discovers this truth. It would all fall apart if everybody figured out what you "really" ... Views: 1252
Dr. Michael Mantell coaches people to stir their healing power in the medicine of laughter and play. Living with stress, feeling uptight, being worried, not sleeping, and thinking limiting thoughts, kill the joy in your life—as well as your health and wellbeing.
One of the best anti-stress ... Views: 1443
While someone can be by themselves, it doesn't mean they will end up feeling lonely. This is similar how someone can be around others and still end up feeling as though they are by themselves.
What this shows is that it can all depend on how one feels in their own company, and how they feel ... Views: 1620
Since co-dependent relationships are not healthy for you, why is it so hard to extricate yourself? Why is it so difficult to get out of a situation that is harmful to you? Well, we all hate change, even if that change may be for the better. And if you’ve been in a co-dependent relationship your ... Views: 1600
Research shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family, but all friendships are not beneficial. A healthy friendship has mutual caring, mutual respect, mutual responsibility and good communication.
Breaking up with an important friend ... Views: 1557
Maybe you grew up in a dysfunctional home in a codependent relationship. In the bestselling book, The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls tells of her hardscrabble childhood. Her father was an alcoholic, her mother abdicated her role as caregiver, and the children had to fend for themselves. Walls’ ... Views: 6681
Remember Eleanor Rigby by the Beatles? All the lonely people. She kept her face in a jar by the door. We all have these faces, they are our defense mechanism to protect our vulnerable self. The problem is not that we have them but that we don't know the false from the true. We live ... Views: 1452
It's so easy to become gullible with words without paying close attention to the actions in the words uttered. This usually happens when a woman has been alone (without a date) for a while.
There's the longing and yearning to be with someone even though it may sometimes be denied. There's the ... Views: 2375