It's so easy to become gullible with words without paying close attention to the actions in the words uttered. This usually happens when a woman has been alone (without a date) for a while.

There's the longing and yearning to be with someone even though it may sometimes be denied. There's the yearning to have a guy talk to you at parties, you usually want to get noticed and are dressed to kill in order for you to attract the men. It just so happens that when you have the craving is when you are most likely to fall into the wrong hands of those who play. It may not even be a player as much as someone who just wants to take advantage and seize the moment.

Having waited for a while to date can also result in you settling for any man who comes your way. You completely forget you have standards, although you may try to remind yourself that you do. In most situations, some women forget about their set standards and just give in easily to the very first man who shows up and entices you with the sweet words. Here are some reasons why it's easy to get hurt when you have been out from the dating world for a while:

Loneliness Has Begun to Set In

You all of a sudden feel lonely and like there is no one who cares. You long to be in a man's arms, kissed, cuddled and love on. You may have also been watching romantic movies or watching couples express their love for each other with you as an onlooker. You silently rage with jealously or envy. You think out loud wondering why they have to show so much affection without thinking of those around and staring. Hmm, if only that was you with someone to hold you and shower you with love. Yes, it has finally sunk in that you are lonely and are missing out on love. Oftentimes when you settle for anything less than you truly deserve, you will end up thinking it's worth having than having nothing at all but reality it that love worth having is worth waiting for.

Your Emotions Have Come into Play

You tend to listen to the words uttered. You got engaged in a conversation that made you speak up about your last relationship. The man was able to express his sympathy for your breakup and he has been able to engage you deeply with sweet talks. All you can hear are the words spoken not the actions in between the words. He seems to have you locked up in your thoughts about him and you can't seem to breakthrough from listening to him talk to you. Unexpected fireworks have suddenly begun and your emotions are ready to go on a sprint. You start getting emotional when the man starts to serenade you with words that may actually not mean anything at all. It may just be a race to nowhere but "hurt land."

You Forgot About Your Standards

We women often would not admit to it most of the time but reality is that when we have been alone for a while and someone comes suddenly comes along, we unconsciously throw aside set standards. He may not necessarily be what you need but you think to yourself, "Oh well, better to be in a relationship than to be lonely." Truth is that it is better to be alone than to be in a messed up relationship. Never lay aside your standards just to be with someone. Let your standards match up to your needs. Don't forget about them just so you can be with someone.

He's Being Assertive

Women tend to like men who show confidence and have some sort of personality that make them feel cared for and loved though it may not be love but mere infatuation. Looks tend to be deceiving sometimes and it's easy to fall for a good-looking man with charisma than to fall for one who struggles to put his words together and seem timid. This may also result in you becoming gullible and leaving you broken at the end of the day. Don't be deceived by his confidence. It is good to get to know and understand the man first. It is always good to be friends first before heading into a relationship. This will help you determine if it's worth moving forward or taking a step backward.

You can't always avoid being vulnerable but you can learn to pay attention to details by becoming an active listener than "talker." Doing more listening than talking will make you figure out what's in the package. You also want to learn to not rush especially at the very beginning. Ensure you focus more on your needs than your wants. Wants usually show up when there is a craving or loneliness. It is vital you figure out how compatible you are while still friends so that you can learn more about the man in the picture than believe everything you are being told. Waiting may seem like it takes forever but it is better to be loved than to be hurt.

Author's Bio: 

Kemi Sogunle is a multi-award-winning author, international speaker, certified professional coach. Kemi supports singles (including divorcees) to find and love themselves after a broken relationship or divorce, identify their needs, understand what love is prior to starting a new relationship and find love again. She also works with married couples (with conflict resolution, intimacy and trust issues). She is also the Founder/CEO of the nonprofit organization (501c3), Love Not Hurt, an organization that promotes self-development, building healthier and stronger relationships while living with purpose.
She is dedicated to helping others transform their lives through self-development and growth, gaining knowledge and understanding of self-love and who they are before becoming involved in a relationship, find what works best and how to stay true to oneself while connecting with others to build solid relationships that will make their lives better not bitter. She believes that living truthfully is paramount to long-lasting relationships and healthy living.
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