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Today I'd like to quickly share something that helps me to live a happier life.
It's this simple thought:
Sometimes a bad day will just be a bad day.
Even if you use the habits and tips I sometimes share - like tapping into gratitude or talking back to your inner critic - to turn a ... Views: 356
Just as there are no rules for life, there are no rules for relationships. That statement can be triggering for the ego, the part of us that insatiably demands definite answers and craves formulas. “Tell me how to live and how to love and then I’ll know that I’ll be okay!” the ego thinks, then ... Views: 517
Ellen G. White is a familiar name to many on the West Coast. She is known for her forward thinking approach to health as the founder of Loma Linda University and White Memorial Hospital in Los Angeles is named for her.
Loma Linda University was featured in the National Geographic Cover Story ... Views: 487
Whatever is happening in your life right now, it is time to dust off those dreams and work towards fulfilling your destiny, the one created just for you. The one that has filled your heart and mind with a passion that you have never been able to fully let go of because...it's who you are meant ... Views: 598
Anxious people aren’t typically the most easy-going people on the planet. Because our high sensitivity wires us for hypervigilance, which then causes us to scan the horizon for danger, we’re physiologically primed to have a more tightly-wound nervous system. Unless you received guidance as a ... Views: 538
This is a point or question which my students often bring up during my Psychic Development Courses, that is: if it is possible to for them or for the Psychic Reader to be able to change or even reverse certain psychic insights that come up during a psychic reading session. We are referring to ... Views: 500
When people think about analyzing their dreams, they usually think of psychics with crystal balls, dream dictionaries, or lying on a bed and psychologist tells them precisely what their dreams connote. But dream analysis is actually a valuable way to better understand yourself.
Why We Dream: ... Views: 612
When addressing anxiety effectively, we must attend to all four realms of self: physical, emotional, cognitive, and soul – or body, heart, mind, and soul. Attending only to one of the four realms is helpful, but it won’t help you heal anxiety from the root. By “attend” I mean we need tools to ... Views: 606
1. If everyone shared the truth as they see it, the devil’s forces would not know who to attack because it could come from every direction. God will bless those who share. The wedding parables have imagery of lamps burning (Lk 12:35, Matt 25) to share light. David cut off the head of the giant ... Views: 427
By definition, revenge is quite harsh. It means to inflict hurt or harm on someone for an injury or wrong done to someone else. For this post, I would like to alter the definition slightly in the following way: to avenge oneself by retaliating through healing, recovery and self-care.
Pretty ... Views: 1208
Just as there are some people who experience fear from time to time, there are also some people who experience it on a regular basis. Due to this, their experience on this earth is likely to be radically different.
One way of looking at this would be to say that when it comes to the former, ... Views: 698
“As it was in the days of Noah,” Methuselah was the oldest man in the Bible and he died the year of the Flood. His name meant, at his death, the sending forth of waters. He died the year of the Flood as a sign it was impending. This author suggested similar for Billy Graham here.
“History ... Views: 1011
We live in an ageist culture. It’s not only that we’re terrified of death and hurry to sequester the topic away under the nearest rock or stuff it into the closest corner; it’s that, in a culture that reveres youth, beauty, and physical perfection, we fear aging itself. We fear the lines that ... Views: 751
“One of the big traps we have in the West is our intelligence, because we want to know what we know. Freedom allows you to be wise, but you cannot know wisdom. You must be wisdom… The intellect is a beautiful servant, but a terrible master. Intellect is the power tool of our separateness. The ... Views: 572
Perhaps the area of our lives to suffer most from the increasingly fast pace of the culture is love, for the expectation of immediate results naturally leads to a belief that love should not only be easy, but that when there’s a problem, it should be remediated quickly. Love doesn’t work this ... Views: 569
At the core of anxiety – whether health anxiety, death anxiety, relationship anxiety, or generalized anxiety – is the need for safety. As I’ve been writing about in my last few posts, left to our own unguided minds, the ego will latch onto our stories to try to gain a foothold into the ... Views: 781
Recently I learned a former co-worker I knew in Nebraska was diagnosed with throat cancer. I wouldn’t wish any cancer on my worst enemy, but having gone through throat cancer I know first hand how difficult the treatment can be.
My ex-wife hand breast cancer and I watched her go through ... Views: 575
According to Mental Health America (MHA), the total population of Texas is above 26 million. There are 72.9 percent adults in TX; while 27.1 percent are below 18. More than 6 million Texans have a mental issue. This number includes 1.4 million kids. The estimate further shows that more than 1 ... Views: 471
Our culture fails to teach us the essential skills we need to navigate through life successfully in so many ways. As I discuss often on this site, it fails to teach us about healthy, real love. It fails to teach us about how to feel our feelings and work with our thoughts. It fails to guide us ... Views: 524
Every day that I work with clients struggling with relationship anxiety I find myself saying some version of, “Of course you’re scared. Loving is the scariest thing we do.” As I’ve written about several times on this blog, fear doesn’t always present as fear but instead shows up as irritation, ... Views: 589
When the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the delusions of separateness ... Views: 498
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.
Rumi
When we’re being asked to unpack a new layer of wound that will lead to healing, it can feel daunting, overwhelming, and ... Views: 471
Over the years, I’ve worked with many clients who have suffered from the intrusive thought, “What if my partner is gay?” (or “What if my partner is straight?” for those in a same-sex relationship), and while I’ve written several posts on the “What if I’m gay?” spike I haven’t written about what ... Views: 545
As I’ve written about before on this blog, one of the privileges of being the position of guiding people through the darkest aspects of their psyche and soul is that they share thoughts and feelings with me that they wouldn’t share with anyone else. Part of the reason why they share openly about ... Views: 507
Fear-mind has a special genius for trying to prove that it’s right. It’s like we all have this aspect of our personality – some call it ego, other call it lower self – that has secretly attended law school and graduated at the top of its class. This character, terrified of change, will gather ... Views: 537
“It’s better to make a mistake with the full force of your being than to carefully avoid mistakes with a trembling spirit.”
– Dan Millman, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior
When I was in graduate school many ago, my classmates would often ask me how I was able to write papers so quickly and ... Views: 568
When we spiral down into the deeper layers of anxiety – whether relationship anxiety or any other form that anxiety takes – we find some universal root causes that live at the center. These exist on both the emotional and psychological/spiritual planes, and they all need our attention if we’re ... Views: 835
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” – Viktor E. Frankl
If we could slow life down to micro-moments, if we could literally alter time like a movie turning it into sloooooow ... Views: 535
When the same thought, image, dream, or motif shows up across cultures and crosses all of our lines of classification (age, gender, geography, race, religion), we call it an archetype. For example, the dreams where you show up at school without your pants on or have forgotten to study for a test ... Views: 657
A coaching client recently shared the following (shared here with her permission):
A few weeks ago, I found myself obsessively thinking about a situation with a friend of mine – someone to whom I’ve given my power for many years. I was completely caught by this theme and I couldn’t get out ... Views: 566
I am becoming more and more aware that in my past I was a master at passive aggressive behaviour. I played head games with people to try and make them do things that I wanted them to do.
The reason for this awareness is because for well over the last year it has been being done to me. ... Views: 555
When my boys were learning how to write, they would freeze in their tracks for fear of making a spelling mistake. Their perfectionist tendencies were not a surprise to my husband and I – after all, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree – and it was both fascinating and painful to see how ... Views: 478
Steve, 68, had just retired. It had been his second attempt at retiring. The first was when he was 65, but his wife was still working, so he found it difficult to adjust to retired life. When his wife retired 3 years later, Steve thought he would be just fine.
But then he had difficulty ... Views: 603
Words are responsible for everything we hold to be true; We believe the things we believe because someone spoke them to us. But in our day to day lives, we rarely recognize the magnitude of our speech. We tell ourselves both good and bad things every day, often without paying attention to what ... Views: 1341
Anxiety is a messenger, a symptom, and a gift. I know that statement flies in the face of everything we learn about anxiety in a culture that is pathologically obsessed with eradicating shadow at every turn and consequently attempts to “get rid of” the symptom of anxiety as quickly and cleanly ... Views: 577
There are so many ways the ego tries to dismantle real love, and it’s favorite is to perseverate on a single question until it tires itself out, then jump to the next story. I’ve dissected many of these questions on this blog and in my courses, approaching each in the same way: name it as an ... Views: 582
One of the common fear-lines that arises when the ego is trying to deconstruct the idea of relationship anxiety and convince you that your truth is that you’re just with the wrong person is: “If what Sheryl says is true, why don’t more people talk about it?”
It’s an understandable question, ... Views: 554
One of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ... Views: 529
One of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ... Views: 428
Most of us are skeptical about exams. We always have been, right throughout our schools days. Frankly speaking, we cannot part away with this skepticism all throughout our lives. Even when it comes to facing driving tests at the end of our driving courses, that cynicism gets the better of ... Views: 501
Keeping ourselves balanced during challenging times..... can be difficult! Sometimes it may feel like you are on the roller coaster of life and you weren't even asked to get on the roller coaster. You just "happened" to grab the handle bar and are holding on for dear life! Many people feel ... Views: 574
Some people are naturally more intense than others.
They are often told that they are ‘too much,’, ’too sensitive,’ ‘too emotional.
People who feel more deeply and intensely than others are more aware of subtleties; their brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. At ... Views: 1343
It is increasingly being recognized that many individuals who receive the diagnosis of BPD are naturally highly intuitive and perceptive. What was previously thought of as a genetic vulnerability may reflect an innate talent.
People who were born emotionally intense, sensitive and are ... Views: 1540
In the past few weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about the courage it takes to step out, take risks, and put ourselves out there. Even though I know how important this is for growth, in business, and for life – I still find it tricky, scary, and challenging at times.
I also realize it’s one thing ... Views: 820
The fear response is triggered when facing danger. The ‘danger’ could be not measuring up to a desirable or imposed standard, not getting done what you set out to do, not fulfilling your own or other people’s expectations, being seen as less than perfect or failing at something. There is also ... Views: 828
Around the middle of last year, there was a day when I felt like trying yoga again, and this was partly due to the fact that I felt lighter. What also gave me a boost was that I had just spent the afternoon with a friend.
I had thought about doing this before, but I hadn’t taken the next ... Views: 1436
Recent surveys have indicated that one-third of female students in Britain had experienced sexual assault or unwanted advances while at college. But are universities doing enough? Some colleges have been criticised for not taking rape and sexual assault complaints seriously enough.
There is a ... Views: 949
My favorite fairy tale when I was a child was Rumpelstiltskin, the story of a girl who makes a bargain with an imp-like creature in exchange for saving her life from being executed by the king. First she gives the imp a necklace, then a ring, then promises her firstborn child. But when her child ... Views: 1003
In the same way that someone needs to eat in order to function at their best, it could also be said that they need to feel safe, too. The food they eat will give them the energy they need, but if they don’t feel safe enough to face the world, it won’t matter.
Taking this into account, the ... Views: 1093
My favorite part about living in New York is that everyone here has a story about how they "made it". It's almost romantic. Looking for a job is here is hyper-competitive and most recommend finding your job here before you move. However, most companies won't take you seriously until you have ... Views: 821