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It’s amazing what my vitamin cabinet looked like after a while, I was a pill addict and there was no stopping me either. What had I become due to this anxiety disorder I thought to myself? How much money had I wasted on all of this stuff, as well as online miracle techniques that just just kept ... Views: 1575
Fear is defined as a distressing emotion. It’s aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc. It doesn’t matter if the threat to us is real or imagined; that feeling is real!
When those feelings are imagined, we stir them up with our thoughts. We can shift those thoughts and choose to focus ... Views: 2145
Fears well up from many different causes. You may worry about losing your job or feel terror about delivering a presentation in front of an audience. Or you could be panicking about how you’re going to pay your bills or about challenges in your relationship or your health. Or maybe you’re in a ... Views: 6102
Think about an Attachment and we may experience a nice warm-fuzzy feeling. We are of course attached to our family, our homes, our relationships, money, our beautiful stuff, and so forth. Think about an Aversion and what happens – instantly we are facing some resistance. If you are paying ... Views: 3090
It started with the toaster.
My wife and I get up one weekend morning, plug in our humble little toasting machine, drop in a few slices of bread, then sit back and wait for toast. One minute goes by, then another, then another, and then still another. By now we should have made charcoal let ... Views: 3578
How do you eliminate fear in your life? Here are five quick tips to get your started:
1) Understand what fear is
First off, it’s important to understand that fear serves no purpose whatsoever. The phrase “we have nothing to fear but fear itself” is highly inaccurate. Why are you afraid of ... Views: 1825
Happiness comes from a quiet mind. I wonder how many are still with me after reading that. Many will bail out. The world isn’t interested in a quiet mind. The world is interested in a noisy, agitated, worked-up mind. Is it any surprise most people in the world aren’t happy? Is it ... Views: 4506
Why are anxiety disorders SO misunderstood?
Recent press and TV items about anxiety disorders including PTSD and OCD have sparked international anxiety recovery expert and author, Charles Linden, to speak out for people who sufferer like he once did about the massively damaging ... Views: 3936
What would you like to have?
What would you like to do?
What would you like to be?
Yes, what is it?
Now, whatever you said, what’s stopping you?
Why don’t you have it? Why don’t you do it? Why don’t you be it?
Put yourself on the spot, what is it? Be brutally honest with ... Views: 2516
Why another blog on 9/11?
Because I want to remember this date by offering something that hopefully can shed further light on some of the repercussions of the fateful events of ten years ago.
As a psychotherapist, I am deeply aware of the importance of traumatic events that occur ... Views: 1295
Marianne Williamson’s “Our Greatest Fear” provides this powerful reminder:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, ... Views: 1240
Building a qualities driven association includes substantially more than slapping a couple of cutout words onto a page: it's tied in with uncovering the convictions that issue to your group and placing them into movement. Whenever enacted, those convictions will transform into your ... Views: 1126
These mental habits of thinking and talking to your self are very common mistakes. And they do wreck your confidence, perhaps without your realizing it. The remedies usually take some practice, but the resulting increase in confidence is completely worth the effort.
1. Be nasty to yourself. ... Views: 2085
“The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.”
Mahatma Gandhi
There are basically two major motivators in our lives, fear and love. The problem is that fear is the one that we predominantly use to dictate what decisions and what direction we are going to take in our lives. When ... Views: 1605
With the ever-increasing pace of life and the demands placed upon us, we are experiencing more and more prolonged periods of stress, which can lead to burn out and more serious illnesses if not dealt with. Fear/anxiety related illnesses such as cancer, heart disease, diabetes, chronic fatigue, ... Views: 4473
One man, too inebriated to drive, was walking home along railroad tracks when his foot suddenly became stuck. He pulled and tugged, but could not free it from the tracks.
Then he heard a noise and turned around to see an oncoming train. In a panic, he prayed. "Dear God, please get my foot out ... Views: 1064
“In the middle of the journey of our life, I came to myself in a dark wood where the straight way was lost. Ah! How hard a thing is it to tell what a wild, and rough, and stubborn wood this was, which in my thought renews the fear! So bitter is it that scarcely more is death: but to treat of the ... Views: 1590
“Now that I am trying to change, I don’t like who I am.”
At some point, many of my clients say this or something similar. When they finally see a new way to be, but are not yet capable of acting that way, they begin to attack themselves.
judges gavel“I am a horrible person.”
“Being this ... Views: 1155
I recently created a meme saying, “Allow People to Align With Your Truth,” and thought I’d explain what I mean by this. It all starts with aligning to yourself first, meaning acknowledging what you want and need to be happy and fulfilled. Knowing your truth will help you communicate it to those ... Views: 4962
This year’s competition may be over; but there will be another American Idol next year. And, there will be hundreds of thousands of would-be superstars entertaining ideas about being “The One.” But, to anyone who’s ever watched that show, it’s obvious that most ... Views: 1209
Greetings friends,
For the past few months, I have been studying and focused on a way to effectively clear all past analogical experiences from people so that they don't get triggered and keep repeating the same emotional reactions over and over. This has led me to studying neuroscience and ... Views: 10094
Are you stuck in a rut in your life? I once heard a rut defined as a grave with no end. When we experience being in a rut it’s generally because we believe it’s safe there. We feel the risk of loss is less if we just stay where we are. Something outside that rut seems risky, and so we settle in. ... Views: 2057
Do you have excuses that you are using a little too often? Do you notice that “I’m too tired” is a common response of yours? Do you hear the bit of resentment you are hanging on to in your “Why bother” response that you catch launching out of your mouth 3 times a day? I encourage you to dig ... Views: 1336
Everyone has their favorite of excuse for not wanting to change or start something new. The more resistant to change, the more excuses. Making significant changes in your life is hard work!
But what if you really could start from scratch? What if you put aside everything from your past, all ... Views: 1562
Avoid being hustled. Last week someone told me they had been cheated out of a lot of money. Yet really this was not strictly true. They had gone onlne and gone onto a website they had never used before. The website claimed to be able to do powerful white magic and black magic spells.
They ... Views: 1701
This review is from: Awakening Through a Course in Miracles (Paperback)
I studied A Course in Miracles for 19 years and thought I understood it. But reading Awakening Through A Course In Miracles took me to a much deeper level. What is so different about this book is that the author, David ... Views: 3482
Last week, a friend of mine gave me a best-selling business book that forecast the rise of the right brain thinker and the demise of the left-brain thinker. Scientists have identified the right brain as the emotional, empathic, artistic side and the left-brain as the side of logic, intellect and ... Views: 1446
Sometimes we get frustrated because things do not move fast enough or we are too close to the situation that we cannot see any progress, even if we know that things do not just happen overnight.
We have to concentrate on building a good solid and strong foundation and learn as you go. Life ... Views: 5713
“The times they are a changing..” , again. I recently attended a networking breakfast with Steve Levy, New York Suffolk County Executive, headlining and Jean Kelly, Executive Director of the Interfaith Nutrition Network, receiving honors. Mr. Levy spoke of the necessity of “non-partisan ... Views: 2225
As a coach, I come across numerous clients with different areas of life needing clarification or improvement. No client is exactly alike yet everyone has similar issues or thoughts to work on or work through. They all have a common thread.
The number one reason a client comes to me is Fear. ... Views: 1282
Alternative Stress Solution #1
Breathe for Your Life
“Stand up straight, suck in your belly, chest out”, these are the instructions most of us have filed away in the folder marked good posture. When we are told to take a deep breath we instinctively contract our bellies back towards our ... Views: 1320
I was awakened from a peaceful sleep at 1am to hear my son’s voice saying, “My plane almost crashed. We had an emergency landing and had to brace for impact.”
I did not hear anything else after that but began to breathe slowly and purposefully. I knew to breathe through the fear so I could ... Views: 1617
Hope is one of those things that shows up in the oddest places; at the oddest times. It can be found where you would imagine only despair to reign… and it can be missing from places where you think it would be in abundance.
Without it, lives are lost; dreams are destroyed. Fortunately, HOPE ... Views: 1824
What is more wonderful that feeling confident? You are calm and centered, sure of yourself without being arrogant. You can accomplish your goals and dreams without being hampered by fear and anxiety.
You may be sabotaging your self-confidence without even realizing it, if you are guilty of ... Views: 1412
Are you like most people and would totally love the results and the good feelings that come as a result of changing your life? If so, there’s a downside to change – and here it is, despite how much you sincerely want a change, there’s always something that holds you back.
It can be the ... Views: 1904
"Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He's going to be up all night anyway." ~ Mary C. Crowley
Constant worry is a trait that many of us have - but it doesn't have to be that way.
When each of us was born, we were given the most magnificent gift and the ability and freedom to use ... Views: 909
Bach remedies are Willow for withholding open resentment and defiance, those emotions having been expressed in psychosomatic protest through the dysfunctional bowel system. Agrimony deals with the tendency to submerge conflicts and not deal with them and persist in accommodating on the surface. ... Views: 859
In order to help people understand the basis of their anxiety, it is important to make sense of the role that control plays the cycle of fear and worry. When people are trying to understand why they contend with worrying about specific things or situations, or why they worry about most things in ... Views: 1535
I was recently asked to share my story of courage and the first thing that came to my mind was that my story isn’t that remarkable. It doesn’t seem to me that it’s much different than that of so many other people. I would like to say that when I was out there on that limb and hanging on for dear ... Views: 1467
Mind over mountain! That's what we were told throughout the seven day climb to the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro -- the tallest mountain in Africa at 19,341 feet. I expected the climb to be challenging. In fact, that's one of the reasons I wanted to endure the long days, rain, cold, wind, and altitude ... Views: 1158
It's important, I find, to recall and re-use old tools that have proven helpful in difficult situations in the past. Sometimes we think we've moved so far forward that a "Been there, done that!" attitude clouds our memory and limits our options. Fear is an ongoing challenge in this world so we ... Views: 2008
To cure illness and suffering, we need to know the underlying CAUSE. Practitioners are often content to work with and remove the symptoms alone. Unfortunately these symptoms will eventually reactivate within the individual until the route cause of the illness has been dealt with, mentally, ... Views: 3328
If you are dealing with anxiety you’re not alone, I’ve had nagging feelings of insecurity for as long as I can remember. On more times than I care to admit I doomed myself to failure because of negative thinking. As painful as these experiences have been to my psyche, it has made me the person ... Views: 1273
Fear of rejection is one of the leading factors for developing avoidant behavior that is so common to people with social anxiety. When we get rejected, we usually get upset and in some circumstances even depressed.
A series of rejections can lead to extreme fear of rejection, and that in ... Views: 2511
ARTICLE - HOW COMFORTABLE ARE YOU WITH CHANGE?
1997 Article
New form of life and career counseling creates clarity around issues of change
By Eve K. Bernshaw
Have you felt powerless around the need to make certain decisions? Has the fear of change or transition created concern, or ... Views: 3433
Understanding the definition of stress and overcoming anxiety
attack symptoms.
Stress is also used for the word anxiety.
These words are also used to define what we call certain moods.
Moods are normal and natural human emotions and therefore some
levels of stress or anxiety are both ... Views: 2091
Rational means it makes logical sense in a mathematical, quantifiable way. Think Spock from Star Trek, or even Dr. Manhattan from The Watchmen. At times, they are coldly rational and only consider pure logic even if absurd moral or ethical sacrifice is involved.
Reasonable means it is a ... Views: 915
People don't intimidate you. You allow yourself to be intimidated by people. There's a distinct difference. And it all boils down to the assumptions you make about what they are thinking, most of which are untrue and born from self-doubt. Are you ready to leave the doubt behind and give up ever ... Views: 1445
People don't intimidate you. You allow yourself to be intimidated by people. There's a distinct difference. And it all boils down to the assumptions you make about what they are thinking, most of which are untrue and born from self-doubt. Are you ready to leave the doubt behind and give up ever ... Views: 1445