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The other day, someone left a comment on a video that I had made about a mother-enmeshed man. They essentially asked me if a man in this position would be different if he dated a woman who was from a different racial group.
This was not something that I had been asked before and I thought ... Views: 196
If someone didn’t have at least one parent who was able to see them as a separate individual who had their own needs and feelings, and generally attuned to them and met their needs, they might not be aware of this. Now that they are an adult, they might not be able to remember a great deal about ... Views: 186
In the self-development world, it is often said that the past only exists in someone’s mind. Therefore, if they often think about what they have been through and this is causing them to suffer, they just need to change what is taking place in this part of them.
Now, what can’t be denied is ... Views: 159
Most likely, someone will live in a society that is built on the view that they, along with their fellow citizens, are passive observers of what takes place externally. What is going on inside them, then, won’t influence what is going on outside them.
Thus, unlike the few that have power, ... Views: 182
What can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world.
If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of ... Views: 201
In the article that I wrote about Yellowstone titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I briefly spoke about John’s youngest son, Kayce. I said that he was a loose cannon, and, in addition to the drama in his life, he was inches away from being killed or ending up ... Views: 223
In and Out of Ruts
by
Bill Cottringer
“It takes guts to get out of the ruts.” ~Robert H. Schuller.
First of all, here are the two main elements of a “rut” that can help us arrive at a common understanding of what we are talking about here.
• Being somewhere where you don’t want ... Views: 298
Irrespective of how many years have passed since a man was a boy, it doesn’t mean that he has fully moved on from this stage of his life. This might not be something that he is aware of, though.
If someone who understood the impact that early deprivation can have on someone was to take a ... Views: 176
For a little while now, someone may have been looking into the different past lives that they have had. They might resonate with one life more than the others or they could feel equally connected to all of them.
Furthermore, in each life that they have been able to remember, they might have ... Views: 214
So, shortly after I had written the previous article about Yellowstone, titled, ‘Can Someone Learn About Enmeshment By Watching Yellowstone?’, I thought about how I had more to say. In this article, I spoke about how Jamie, John’s second youngest son, is very sensible and reserved and how ... Views: 214
Navigating Conflicts Successfully
by
Bill Cottringer
Conflicts are an inevitable part of life and when they are not resolved, they often come back with increased velocity and vengeance to take a bigger bite from a part of the anatomy that really hurts. ~The author.
Conflicts ... Views: 302
When I was on a plane at the end of last year, I started watching a few episodes of a series called Yellowstone. I think I may have heard about it before or I might have just been curious about it after I saw the cover and read the description.
Anyway, I was soon engrossed in the series and I ... Views: 201
What can be normal is for a woman to wear very revealing clothes, and it might not matter where she is. Now, she could have a figure that not only makes her desirable to a lot of men but a lot of women could both appreciate and want to have the same figure.
This might be a figure that she was ... Views: 189
For a woman to have been with one man who was caught up in his mother’s world would have been tough, but, to have been with a number of men who were like this will have been even worse. Assuming that she has been in this position more than once, she might have decided to turn her back on this ... Views: 373
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that, when it comes to the areas of their life that are not going well, they hope that things will change. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember.
Therefore, they are not ... Views: 184
When a man sees a woman to who he is attracted, it might not typically occur to him that she is a human being who has her own needs, feelings, hopes, fears and insecurities, for instance. Instead, she can purely be seen as an object that can satisfy his sexual needs.
There is the chance that, ... Views: 183
In general, someone could simply go through the motions in life and perhaps often wonder why they are even alive. During the week, then, they could wake up, get ready for work and then head to work.
Once they are there, they could perform one or a number of tasks, with it being as though they ... Views: 313
Although someone has a mental, emotional and physical self, they might typically only be aware of the thoughts that are in their head. In fact, they might even see themselves as a being that is purely mental.
This is going to mean that they won’t have a good connection with their body. By ... Views: 211
If a man believes that both he and others are being controlled by something ‘out there’, he is unlikely to be short of support. In his eyes, then, there could be a group of people who operate behind the scenes who are controlling most of humanity.
This could just be something that he shares ... Views: 192
Right now, a woman could feel very frustrated and angry, and be deeply deprived. This could show that she is in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically available, and, when he is, he is typically somewhere else emotionally.
The reason for this is that he can generally be focused on ... Views: 184
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that their life is not very fulfilling. But, if this is so, they might not believe that they deserve to experience life differently.
They could believe that it doesn’t matter what their needs are or ... Views: 189
After having been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother’s needs and were not available, a woman could believe that she is unlucky. This can partly be because of how different she is likely to be from these men.
Unlike these men, she is unlikely to be focused on one of ... Views: 198
If someone was deprived during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place.
However, while what took place will be in the past, the impact that it had on them is likely to ... Views: 196
After feeling lonely for many years and becoming aware of this, someone could find that they have the tendency to feel invisible. They are then going to exist and be able to be seen by others but they generally won’t feel as though they exist or are seen by others.
Naturally, experiencing ... Views: 200
Even though a man will be made up of both the masculine and the feminine, it doesn’t mean that this will stand out. He can typically come across as though he is only made up of one part.
This can mean that he will generally come across as easy-going, do what he can to please others, put up ... Views: 188
A number of days, weeks, or months ago, a woman may have experienced a breakup. If so, since then, she might have put in a lot of effort to change her appearance.
Now, this could mean that she has bought new clothes and perhaps wears things that she didn’t wear before. Then again, it might go ... Views: 192
If someone is struggling mentally and emotionally, they can end up looking for a therapist to work with. They might have been in a bad way for a little while or this might be an experience that is relatively new.
If this is not something that they have just started to experience, it is good ... Views: 180
One thing that can plague a man’s mind, if he has come to see that he was unable to attach to his mother, develop a strong sense of self and then break away from her, is why this process didn’t take place. He can feel angry, enraged and deeply betrayed.
But, as the person who he came through ... Views: 196
What someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they haven’t been able to get it together, so to speak. So, unlike their friends, they could often struggle for money and have a job that is anything but fulfilling.
Additionally, they could often be in a ... Views: 191
Right now, someone could have a few areas of their life that are going well and a few that are not. This could be how their life has been for as long as they can remember.
Due to this, they could have well and truly had enough and be desperate for their life to change. But, if this has been ... Views: 242
If a man was to see that he is overly focused on his mother and doesn’t have much of a life himself, there are a number of things that could take place. He could feel deeply frustrated and helpless and believe that his life will always be this way.
Alternatively, he could feel deeply ... Views: 153
For many, many years, someone may have spent a fair amount of their money on certain or several clothes brands. Assuming that it is one brand, this is then going to be a brand that they greatly value.
Therefore, the money that they have spent over the years will be seen as an investment. So, ... Views: 198
If a man were to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he could find that he doesn’t have a very empowering view. He could find that he sees himself as someone who doesn’t have any value.
What could then stand out is how this view is having a negative impact on his ability to ... Views: 192
In general, a man might be out of touch with his need to be with a woman. Thus, he won’t be aware of his need for emotional closeness and support, affection, or sex.
This can mean that he will spend a lot of time in his head and very little time in his body. The reason for this is that these ... Views: 193
What can be normal is for someone to spend a fair amount of time using one or several social media sites. This can be somewhere they primarily browse and don’t share a great deal about themselves.
Then again, they could spend a lot of time sharing parts of their own life and pictures of ... Views: 187
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what may stand out is that they often feel anxious and even fearful. Due to this, they are seldom going to be calm and at ease.
Still, they may find that if they do feel calm, it’s because they are around others and are not alone. At the ... Views: 191
In recent years, the cannabis industry has experienced a significant transformation, shedding its underground image to emerge as a legitimate and thriving sector. With this transformation, a multitude of marijuana dispensaries have cropped up across the United States, offering wide options of ... Views: 318
Even though someone is an individual, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. In general, they could act as though they are nothing more than an extension of others.
As a result of this, it will be normal for them to please others and to ignore their own needs. But, if this is just what ... Views: 218
For someone to meet their needs, they are going to need to know that they are worthy of having them met and to take action. Another way of looking at this is to say that there is the being element and the doing element.
However, although both of these elements are important, someone can be in ... Views: 197
If someone was mistreated during their early years, they are likely to carry a lot of anger, rage, and hate. These feelings will be a natural consequence of having been violated throughout this stage of their life.
However, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of ... Views: 221
If a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother’s needs and neglects himself, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t take care of his needs. Furthermore, she is likely to wonder why he doesn’t stand up to his mother and make it clear that he is not responsible for her.
Therefore, ... Views: 225
As a result of what is taking place in the Middle East and Ukraine, someone can often feel down and depressed. Due to this, they might not do a number of the things that they used to do before.
Quiet simply, they won’t have the desire or the energy to do a great deal. Apart from going to ... Views: 207
Although a man can need to keep women at bay, it doesn’t mean that he will be consciously aware of this. As a result, it can seem as though someone or something ‘out there’ is simply holding him back.
If he is in this position, this area of his life is not going to be very fulfilling. So, ... Views: 202
What can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time by themselves, having very little interest in being around others. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember.
Therefore, they might not wonder why they are this way or have the need to change their life. Then ... Views: 186
If someone were to step back and reflect on their life, what they might see is that just about every area of their life is one big battle. Due to this, they will be used to putting in a lot of effort while getting very little in return.
If there is a plus to the life that they lead, it could ... Views: 208
One thing that someone could wonder, if they had a mother who was typically not very nurturing, is why she even had a child or perhaps children. But, based on how she generally behaved, this is to be expected.
If she had generally been nurturing and supportive, there would be no reason for ... Views: 192
Unless a man is working, he could be doing something for his mother. And, even if he is not doing something for her, he could spend a lot of time thinking about her and what he should be doing for her.
If so, as opposed to his mother being another person in his life, she will be the centre of ... Views: 167
After having been up with a number of men who were focused on their mothers and were not available, a woman can be angry and frustrated. But, as she will have given a lot and received very little, this is not a surprise.
What may also play a part in this is that she could believe that she has ... Views: 188
If someone were to think about something that they wanted to attain or experience, they could soon think about what it is that they need to do to achieve their goal. So, a number of steps could enter their mind, and, before long, they could take the first step.
As the days, weeks and perhaps ... Views: 194
What can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel and a number of their needs. Consequently, when they are around others, they are going to typically put on an act and hide who they are.
This can mean that they will generally come across as though they are fine and that nothing is ... Views: 189