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- Apples and Oranges: Differences Between Tranditional Families and Stepfamilies - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2013 from Dianne MartinMany couples make the mistake of thinking their stepfamily is no different from the traditional or first family unit. Failing to have a solid understanding of the significant differences between the two usually creates massive conflict and confusion. Traditional families are born out of ...
Views: 2473(1 vote) - Beliefs & Stories (BS for short) - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Steve DahlWe have often heard they hurt my feelings or if that happened I would finally be happy. What someone did or what happened is just an event, it is our story about it, our beliefs about it that create our feelings. Some clarity on the difference between events and stories. Events just are ...
Views: 1696(1 vote) - Co-Parenting with a Frosty Ex during the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2012 from Nancy KayFor many parents who are divorced or in the process of going through divorce, holidays are especially challenging to navigate through without losing your cool. As you begin to prepare for the holidays by filling up your freezer full of turkey and pies, it is also wise to prepare ahead of time ...
Views: 2558(1 vote) - Dealing along with Infidelity and Your Marriage When You Were the one that Strayed - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Lance RugglesWhen you’ve strayed from your spouse and cheated or had an affair, coping with the aftermath is difficult. You not only have to face the reactions of your spouse, but you also have to cope with your personal emotions. You need to work out how you feel about the problem in order to manage your ...
Views: 1189(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My father opposes my inter-racial relationship - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: My question of the week is how to deal with family opposition of my inter-racial relationship. My dad, who is in his 70s, is vehemently opposed to my relationship with my fiance (who is white). He hasn't even met him and given him a chance. It is quite frustrating given that ...
Views: 869(1 vote) - Divorce Issue #1 Question and Answer - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2011 from Jackie PaulsonI want to file for a divorce. Do you want to Hire an Attorney or Pro Se? What am I entitled to after 10 years of marriage in Illinois? Divorce laws regarding property division in Illinois do not presume that property will be divided 50 / 50. Illinois is not a “community property state – it is ...
Views: 4170(1 vote) - Do You Think of Other People As Separate Individuals? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Peter MainThis is the sort of question that people will instinctively answer yes to, without really taking a moment to consider the real implication of what the question is asking, and why it is particularly important to any notion of personal development or self growth. At some level people think of ...
Views: 1930(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany years ago an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it: "Outwitted" He drew a circle that shut me out —Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout.But Love and I had the wit to win:We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people who are distant or ...
Views: 3147(1 vote) - Dr. Romance Video: Creating a Blended Family When You Have a New Wife - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2012 from Tina Tessina(View my YouTube video on this topic here: http://youtu.be/hB-SuKLvJlk.) Dr. Romance's 4 tips to smoother step-parenting: 1. Give your blended family a chance to bond. Don’t worry if everyone doesn’t settle in right away; bonding takes time. Hopefully, you all got to know each other ...
Views: 2684(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Creating a Blended Family When You Have a New Partner - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2019 from Tina TessinaOnce you have gone through the wrenching experience of loss or divorce, it's not easy to pick up the pieces and find a new love. If you have children, they have been through a lot of upset, also. So when you do find a new love and want to create a blended family in a new way, these ...
Views: 1081(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: Improving Relationships between parents and stepchildren - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Tina TessinaAh, the ugly step parent, celebrated and villainized in fairy tales. Do you have to take on the role? "Dr. Romance" licensed psychotherapist and author, says you don't, and shows you how to manage to be the kind of step-parent that causes your children to say "My step-parent was the best ...
Views: 916(1 vote) - How To Date/Marry A Widow or Widower - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2012 from Ellen GerstIf you are dating or planning to marry a widow or widower, here are some suggestions and thoughts to consider. LEARN ALL ABOUT GRIEF Do some research about grief, read books and talk to others in similar situations. Know what to expect on anniversaries, birthdays and other days that were ...
Views: 27021(1 vote) - How to Transform Your Life Using the Magic of Words - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2012 from Janbreathe@aol.com Janbreathe@aol.comI am a great believer in the tremendous transformative power of words. As Dumbledore said to Harry Potter, “Words are our most inexhaustible source of magic, capable of both inflicting injury and remedying it.” We are all products of the words that were repeatedly said to us as children, and ...
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Views: 882(1 vote) - Surviving Infidelity: Three Guidelines to Repair your Marriage & Survive Infidelity - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2011 from Lance RugglesIf you are trying to tolerate infidelity, I really hope that this article will provide you with some help and a bit of direction. Making it through infidelity is among the toughest and many harmful points an individual can perform and you’ll actually end up being asking yourself exactly how your ...
Views: 1297(1 vote) - Ten Simple Steps For Spiritual Growth and Enlightenment - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Kevin MillerWhen I talk to the angels in my life, I learn a great deal. Listed below are ten life-altering lessons they've taught me. One. Live your life with integrity. The angels instructed me, "Spend your time performing activities that match your highest intentions. Get rid of things: energies, that ...
Views: 1224(1 vote) - The Animal Human Connection - A Brief Overview - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2016 from Judy WrightFor thousands of years dogs have provided people with protection, companionship and support. What we today recognize as the domestic dog became a part of human society when nomadic bands of hunter gatherers were roaming the Earth. There is evidence to suggest that these dogs, descended from the ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - The Islamic Bangla State of Portugal. - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2012 from Abdul Haye AminThe Islamic Bangla State of Portugal. Dear Lord Jesus Christ. My Regard, Love and salaam to you and your Friend, Families, colleague and member of Religious Representatives, Prophets, Apostles, and your beloved father, “As-Sa-La-Mu-A-Lai-Kum-Ya-Rak-Ma-Tu-La-He-O-Ba-Ra-Ka-Tu” Christmas ...
Views: 3363(1 vote) - THE STEPFAMILY CHALLENGE - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2012 from Gloria LintermansAs a step and biological Mom, and the author of a book on stepfamilies which included not only my own experience but research with stepfamily authorities and other stepfamilies, I am aware, all to often, of the high rate of divorce among these families. One reason is that there are no ...
Views: 2703(1 vote) - Time to Stop The Birth Mother - Stepmom Animonsity - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Dianne MartinIsn’t it Time to Stop the Bio- Mother ~ Stepmother Animosity? Your stepchild’s Bio-Mom (BM) will always be a part of your life. Over the years you will both attend graduations, sporting events, family celebrations, marriages, births, grandchildren, illness or death of a mutually ...
Views: 3361(2 votes) - Thinking of Leaving? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2009 from Adele CornishI regularly receive emails from men and women worldwide who are seeking advice on their blended family. These come to me here in New Zealand, a small but famous country southeast of Australia. Sometimes these emails are from individuals saying they want to leave their relationship. Here I ...
Views: 1934(6 votes) - 5 Golden Rules for Grandparents in a Blended Family - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Shirley Cress DudleyYou and your new spouse have married and blended your two families. Your parents are happy for you but unsure how to treat this new additions to the family. Here's a few golden rules to help them figure out how to respond to your newly blended family: 1- Treat every child the same Treat ...
Views: 4966(2 votes) - Blended Families Can Be Successful - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2007 from Judy WrightMany families today are blending members from past relationships. It would be easy to give up when faced with all the conflicting methods of parenting and discipline that come to a family who has joined forces together. As I was doing research for a recent book, I interviewed a young counselor ...
Views: 1361(2 votes) - BUILDING TRUST AND ACCEPTANCE WITH STEPCHILDREN - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2007 from Dr. Waln BrownBUILDING TRUST AND ACCEPTANCE WITH STEPCHILDREN By Waln K. Brown, Ph.D. William Gladden Foundation If you are having trouble building a relationship with your stepchildren, do not despair. You are not alone. Nearly 50% of all families in the United States are stepfamilies. Many of these ...
Views: 3720(2 votes) - Continuity in the Care of Your Children - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2011 from Brian JamesConsistency is something that I think most people desire as part of their lives. Though change brings the opportunity for new beginnings and renewal, the things that give us a "sameness" are comforting. This is especially true for children. The people and things that remain consistent and steady ...
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Views: 158(1 vote) - Cooperative Co-Parenting - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2009 from Ron DealBlended families are often torn apart by between-home conflicts while children are caught in the middle of warring parents. Strengthen your blended family by improving your co-parenting relationship. The goal of co-parenting (at a minimum) is to contain the anger and conflict expressed between ...
Views: 3705(2 votes) - HIS KIDS: BECOMING A W.O.W. STEPMOTHER - by A stepparent's role is not that of a biological parent, but of a real parent nonetheless. WOWs (Wives Of Widowers) should not be quick to replace the late wife as a mother, but to become to the child the closest thing to a mother he or she has got. The WOW who loves her husband accepts that his ...
Views: 14875(1 vote) - HOW IMPORTANT IS COVERSATION? - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Vinod AnandHOW IMPORTANT IS COVERSATION? (Vinod Anand) Is conversation a dying art? Texting is communication. The impersonal virtual space is best to argue and engage. If we don’t like someone’s views, we tune off But talking — or Listening — is simply not an option anymore. Let us look at it ...
Views: 2308(1 vote) - How To Accept Gay Marriage As 'Normal' - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2012 from Elizabeth Lucye RobillardThank you for taking the time to consider these words closely. This is never an easy subject as someone is nearly always going to be offended by anything that's written about homosexuals, however; If the truth offends you, that's actually not a problem for anyone else, as most of us prefer ...
Views: 3218(2 votes) - How To Handle Difficult Family Members - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Kimberley CohenA family may include parent(s), sibling(s), partner, children, aunt(s), uncle(s), cousin(s), grandparent(s), grandchildren, step-parent, step brother(s) and sister(s), foster and adoptive families, and in-laws, to name a few. Whew, that's a lot of people to get along with! Whether you have a ...
Views: 2719(1 vote) - Joint Custody? 4 Flexible Jobs for Co-Parenting - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2019 from Anica OaksThe job of a parent gets a little more complicated if you have to co-parent. One thing that complicates your ability to parent is your job because it may not be as flexible as you need it to be. The following are four jobs to consider to give you a little more freedom. Call ...
Views: 689(1 vote) - Loving A Stepchild - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2007 from Judy WrightLoving your step- child can be both simple and hard. It is not enough for parents, step parents and extended family to feel a deep glow of love for the children in your circle of influence. You must convey that feeling into a message that is heard, felt and integrated by the child. Children ...
Views: 2738(2 votes) - Marrying a Single Parent by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomMarrying a single parent by Rosemary Price psychic. Despite marriage becoming old fashioned and undesirable to some there are still those who believe in love, romance, commitment and that all important piece of paper that tells their partner that they at least started off with the best of ...
Views: 3504(2 votes) - Some Advice For Coming Out As Bi - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2019 from jianghe chenMany bisexual people who suffer from mental illness because of closest. It takes a lot of courage to show your bisexual identity correctly. Here are some tips for coming out as bi. 1: Recognize your bisexual orientation You must revisit your sexual orientation, not because you like something ...
Views: 924(2 votes) - Some Blended Families Just Don't Get Along - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Shirley Cress DudleyTwo adults marry and bring children into the new marriage. Some of these families get along wonderfully, and some families, who have been blended for years never accept each other as family. Here are some reasons a blended family may stay incompatible and not blend. The couple has children ...
Views: 9211(2 votes) - Spotting the Signs: Is Your Child Being Cyberbullied? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2017 from KidGuard Inc.As cyberbullying has emerged with the development of technology, for many parents, it may feel a bit like uncharted territory. On many difficult topics, We often relate to our children by similar experiences during our childhood. However, due to its recent appearance, cyberbullying is likely not ...
Views: 1242(1 vote) - When kids go back home? By Michael Harris, PhD - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Michael HarrisWhat would you do if your parent asked you to move back home to help with managing the household because your other parent was ill? What if you lost your job and couldn’t find a new one? What if a combination of factors-including but not limited to the recession, economy and life issues-created ...
Views: 1773(1 vote) - Why do Bisexual Singles Need Dating Sites? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2019 from jianghe chenBisexuals are part of the LGBT category. Even though bisexuals are members of the community, sometimes they are rather marginalized from other members. Therefore, bisexuals usually have difficulty finding partners in the usual way. People may be used to lesbian and gay. Because even though their ...
Views: 954(2 votes) - Navigating Parenting Differences - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2004 from Emily BouchardNavigating Significant Parenting Differences A significant difference in parenting styles is one of the most difficult aspects of blending a family. Each adult arrives in the partnership with their background, their experiences, and all the beliefs they have associated with being a parent. ...
Views: 2914(3 votes) - Creating Connections: Draw Them In - by Submitted on May 12, 2012 from Tina TessinaMany years ago, an Edwin Markham poem inspired me, and I’ve tried to live by it "Outwitted" by Edwin Markham He drew a circle that shut me out — Heretic, rebel, a thing to flout. But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in! As Markham says, we could see people ...
Views: 3915(2 votes) - The Lost Children: When Behavior Problems Traumatize Siblings - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2011 from James LehmanQ: What do the other children in the family experience when they have a brother or sister who’s hostile or acts out chronically? James: It’s traumatizing when something hurtful happens to you, and you can’t control it, you can’t stop it, you can’t predict how hurtful it’s going to be, and ...
Views: 2831(2 votes) - 3 Ways Your Self-Esteem May Be Sabotaging Your Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2010 from Rhonda Rabow3 Ways your self-esteem may be sabotaging your relationship When we think of relationships, we normally think of how our partner is treating us, whether we are happy and having our needs met. We tend to weigh the pros and cons of the relationship and then decide if it is working out or ...
Views: 3845(5 votes) - Electronic Free Activities For Families That Build Social Skills - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2009 from Judy WrightIf you are like most parents, grandparents, teachers today, you probably think that children are watching way too much television today. Not only are they sitting on their rear ends inside, when you can get them outside, they are playing video games on their cell-phones or other electronics. ...
Views: 2293(3 votes) - Roles Vs Place in The Family - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Michael NunnIt is important to understand the difference between roles in the family (environment) and someone's place in the family. All too often, people are ostracized from a family due to their inability or unwillingness to fulfil certain roles within it. Sometimes that inability or unwillingness may ...
Views: 1878(4 votes) - ***Managing Your Stepfamily - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2009 from Garrett CoanIf you are a member of a stepfamily, you know how difficult it can be to integrate all of the new members and adjust to the new boundaries and rules. The following ideas may help you make a successful transition during this challenging process. Have patience. Establishing new families takes ...
Views: 1544(4 votes) - A Deeper Look at “Yours, Mine and Ours” - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Joan ChamberlainThe Story Line. This is such a great story, at least from my values perspective (more later on that). It’s really funny, too, but not ridiculous. It’s a very light couple of hours, nothing heavy. And, for most of us that’s a good thing, at least once in a while. Frank and Helen, who were ...
Views: 4295(1 vote) - A Dysfunctionally Functioning Family - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2012 from Sarah RuizI know I am not alone when I say that I have a dysfunctionally functioning family. Based on all the research I have done, and people I have spoken to, it is more common to have a dysfunctionally functional family rather than one that is “healthy.” When speaking to most people they were ...
Views: 3053(2 votes) - Becoming an Effective Stepparent - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2010 from Emma CookToday’s family portrait is just as likely to display a blended family as a nuclear family. However, with over 75% of adults with children remarrying and 60% of those marriages ending in divorce, mostly because of the children, indicates that something is desperately wrong. Perhaps The Brady ...
Views: 1397(2 votes) - Disappointed Stepdad - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2009 from Diana Weiss-WisdomDear Dr. Weiss-Wisdom, My wife and I have been married for two years. She has children from a previous marriage. Since, I don’t have any children, I was hoping to be a father figure to her kids. But it just hasn’t worked out that way. They reject any of my attempts to discipline them and ...
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