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- Watch Your Language! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2008 from David Oswald www.theoutsourceking.com“Watch your language!” That’s what your parents might have told you growing up. The Diamond is telling you that right now. I got three separate phone calls in the past 24 hours, all of which started out with the following opening, “Hey Dave, I got a problem” or ...
Views: 1594(1 vote) - Assertiveness-The Power Of Expression - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2008 from Mohit Sharma"Assertiveness"- If you visit a bookstore and try to search books on Assertiveness, chances are that you would be a little disappointed. Though the behavioral school of thought has recognized the importance of Assertiveness as a behavioral trait, still there is some confusion and mystery glued ...
Views: 4974 - Assertiveness-The Power Of Expression - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2008 from Mohit Sharma"Assertiveness"- If you visit a bookstore and try to search books on Assertiveness, chances are that you would be a little disappointed. Though the behavioral school of thought has recognized the importance of Assertiveness as a behavioral trait, still there is some confusion and mystery glued ...
Views: 1467 - The Art of Selfishness: It’s Not What You Think - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from Krissy JacksonAchieving a harmonious balance between your work responsibilities and your personal life requires that you become selfish. That’s right, selfish. Stop frowning and wipe that look of disbelief from your face. Let’s look at this concept in more detail by examining the word “selfish” in more ...
Views: 1803(1 vote) - Why Do Bullies Get Ahead? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2007 from Julie ChristiansenI just read an intersting article in the Epoch Times (www.theepochtimes.ca) that stated that in a recent survey it was found that over 90% of workplace bullies were promoted or in some other way rewarded despite their inappropriate behaviour in the workplace. Indeed, throughout my 15 year career ...
Views: 4556(2 votes) - Dealing With Helicopter Parents - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2007 from Niquenya FulbrightI am the victim of a hovering parent. At times, it seems that almost nothing I do is right according to my mother. My decision-making is questioned in regards to my parenting skills, my relationships and even how I keep my home. She means well but she can be a bit overbearing at times. I used to ...
Views: 6880(1 vote) - FAQs on Assertiveness/Confrontation - by Why do I have so much trouble confronting people?
Oh, get over it. No, I'm just kidding. While we seem to return to temperament over and over again, it is true that outgoing cholerics (see FAQs on Temperament and Personality) and critical melancholies find it easier to confront than ...
Views: 5956 - FAQs on Self Image/Self Concept - by Just what is my self-image? Is it different than my self-concept?
Self-concept or self image is that internal picture we hold of ourselves - it's who WE think WE are. The amazing thing is that often others hold different pictures of us that don't agree with who we think we are. Each of us ...
Views: 3866(1 vote) - Can You Take A Compliment? - by Many people confuse being self-effacing with politeness. When complimented, instead of saying a simple thank you, they disparage the compliment. Someone says, "That's a nice dress you're wearing." And the reply often is, "Oh, this old thing? I don't know why I put it on." This is possibly ...
Views: 2403(1 vote) - What is Online Counseling? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamWhat is Online Counseling? Online consulting? It is the process of interacting with a professional online in ongoing conversations over time when the client and the online psychologist / counselor / consultant are in separate locations and utilize the phone or e-mails or internet ...
Views: 1169(1 vote) - Proactively Speaking Up - With a Smile - by An opportunity for advocating for yourself by speaking
up occurs every time you begin a new relationship with
any type of salesperson, an attorney, a mechanic, or a
physician.
Let's look at each of the above examples:
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The ...
Views: 1554(1 vote) - Assertive Resolutions for the New Millennium - by ASSERTIVE RESOLUTIONS FOR THE NEW YEAR
January 1, 2000 has arrived. One way to prepare for the
Year 2000 is to make a few New Year's resolutions.
A resolution is an assertion that you make to yourself
and sometimes to others as well.
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CHARACTERISTICS ...
Views: 1228 - The Power of Saying, "No" - by =======================
"No" is such a simple word....
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only two letters. Yet saying "No" out loud is harder for most people than saying, "I'll be glad to..." (eleven letters)or "When do you need me to..." (seventeen letters)
Most of us said, "No!" quite well when ...
Views: 34887(6 votes) - Just because a question is asked, an answer is not required! - by A QUESTION IS ASKED...IS AN ANSWER REQUIRED?
When a question is posed to most of us, we feel compelled to answer it. It is as if a question is actually a demand that an answer be given.
We are trapped. We MUST answer.
No, no, no. You ALWAYS have a choice.
In a story in Winnie the Pooh, ...
Views: 7297(1 vote) - An Assertive Person is not an Adversary - by An Assertive Person is not an Adversary
Speaking up for oneself in an assertive manner sometimes brings to mind the image of two people warily circling each other, fists raised, prepared to strike. Each person wants to get his/her way.
In fact, the most effective assertiveness is not ...
Views: 2827 - HOW TO MAKE POWERFUL REQUESTS - by Have you every noticed that some people have no trouble making requests while other people seem incapable of making a direct requests. Yet, one of the principle laws of prosperity is, "Ask for what you want when you want it and to then be responsible for whatever you get."
At the same time ...
Views: 2841(1 vote) - How Assertive Are You? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Terry DohertyDo people walk all over you? Do you often feel resentful? Have you ever said, “I give and give and give…”? If so you should evaluate your level of assertiveness. Assertiveness can be simply defined as behaviors that operate in our own interest. In other words, do you put your ...
Views: 1128 - 7 Helpful Tips To Immediately Increase Your Confidence - by 1.) Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all have a certain amount of energy so let’s apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy ...
Views: 33689(7 votes) - WHY FAILURE IS SO POPULAR - by _________________________________________
"WHY FAILURE IS SO POPULAR"
Written By: Darren Roberts
Copyright ?1998, All Rights Reserved
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Success! Failure! Apart from the spelling is there a further difference? Naturally! One gives you what you want and ...
Views: 1119(1 vote) - Trying Too Hard on The Track - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2007 from Patrick CohnDo you perform relaxed and tension-free in a practice but then race tense or scared in races or national events? This is a big sign that your mindset breakdowns when you go from practice to race situations. Why would your mind get in the way when you think the race really counts or is important ...
Views: 1256 - Why You Should Aim For The Stars - by __________________________________________
"Why You Should Aim For The Stars"
Written By: Darren Roberts
Copyright ?1998, All Rights Reserved
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Our upbringing, schooling, tertiary education, family, work colleagues, community, friends; virtually all of ...
Views: 1116(1 vote) - Be Safe Now: A Simple Self Defense Tip for Everyone - by You never know, when someone is going to flip out, and start firing a gun into a restaurant or store filled with innocent people.
It could happen. It has happened. And now we have the threat of terrorism added.
So, how do you stay safe?
Here's a simple tip, adapted from the world of ...
Views: 1276 - Lie Detection - Trapping A Liar - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2007 from Steve GillmanLie detection may start with watching for signs of lying in a person. But sometimes you have to do more than just listen and watch. Sometimes you have to trap a liar. Here is one of the many ways to do that. Lie Detection - Introduce An Assumption This is a common trapping technique. Here is ...
Views: 7048 - Dealing with Difficult People - by In my travels across North America speaking on motivation and human potential I hear the same question asked repeatedly, " How can I become more assertive?" There is no doubt about it, there are people in our lives who are harmful to our health and we don't like it one bit.
I read recently ...
Views: 11220(2 votes) - The Art of Selfishness: It’s Not What You Think - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Krissy JacksonThe Art of Selfishness Achieving a harmonious balance between your work responsibilities and your personal life requires that you become selfish. That’s right, selfish. Stop frowning and wipe that look of disbelief from your face. Let’s look at this concept in more detail by examining the ...
Views: 8511 - Working with Need Conflicts - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2007 from Robert NajemyWe have in the previous chapter mentioned a few possible need conflicts. We unfortunately seldom communicate very clearly and objectively in these cases, and this lack of effective communication adds to the problem often resulting in conflict. A classic example is a couple I remember who had ...
Views: 3374 - Setting Professional Standards and Boundaries - by Professional standards are strong guidelines for how you treat yourself within your business or career. They can include a code of ethics, guarantees, how many hours you work, etc. Professional boundaries are about how you want your clients to treat you within your business. They can include ...
Views: 1083 - THERE IS NO HONOR IN HARD WORK - by “There is no honor in hard work?was a statement hurled at me many years ago by a hippie-type. I, of course, dismissed it, considering the source, despite the fact that the young man who favored me with that piece of his mind traveled world-wide, and did pretty much as he pleased, while I ...
Views: 2745 - Take Control - by CHAPTER 1
THE POWER OF CONTROL
Man is still responsible. He mast turn the alloy of modern experience into the steel of mastery and character. His success lies not with the stars, but with himself He must carry on the fight of self-correction and discipline. -Frank Curtis Williams
In today's ...
Views: 4351 - EVEN THE BRAVEST NEEDS A SHOVE - by Life is one great adventure after another for those who will try something new. There are those who consider life a success if they can tip-toe from birth to death and no one notices them. There are others who not only accept challenges, but actively solicit them. Those in the last group are the ...
Views: 1141 - Customers Want To Take Your Money! - by Many years ago, I ran a part-time resume service out of my New York apartment. My client showed up on time for her first appointment, nervously clutching her old resume.
"Can we just talk for awhile?" she asked.
"No," I said firmly, amazing myself. "If you want me to work on your resume, ...
Views: 1233 - The Nanny Diaries: Lessons for the Small Business Owner - by Nanny Diaries has achieved the dazzling height of Number One in book sales on amazon.com. The authors serve up delicious pseudo-gossipy scenes of a dysfunctional Park Avenue family, "Mr. and Mrs. X."
From the perspective of a career coach, Nanny is an independent contractor -- a very small ...
Views: 1381 - Life Lessons - by "A life spent making mistakes is more useful than a life spent doing nothing." ~ George Bernard Shaw
Some people say there are no mistakes in life, only lessons to be learned. When we get clear of the lesson, we grow. When we don’t learn the lesson, then it will repeat itself over and over ...
Views: 1114 - Life's Toughest Challenge: Living Well Enough Alone - by It scares us more than anything except death.
Being alone.
For some it is a little death. Our fear of solitude is so ingrained that given the choice of being by ourselves or being with others, we opt for safety in numbers, even at the expense of lingering in painful, boring or totally ...
Views: 4739 - Self-Awareness through Breath - by Breathing is something we do more than 14,000 times every single day. Yet the breath is something we rarely devote any attention to, and breath is one of the most powerful ways to develop awareness of our physical dimension. Breathing provides a link between our physical dimension and ...
Views: 2574 - Civility - by My goodness! Where has civility gone? Is it still here? Is it in hiding or has it been stomped on so much that it can't get up and function? Perhaps it is all of these. I believe civility is still here but only practiced on those occasions when we want to present ourselves in a good light. Then ...
Views: 1615 - Healing From Within Through Self-Awareness - by If you suffer from Bipolar disorder,you can try the following six steps to daily heal yourself from within. "Quotes Added".
1) Self-Discovery= I spent many years not knowing who or what I was. Any type of discovery takes knowledge and time.
Once you receive the knowledge you need about your ...
Views: 1123 - Stages of Learning to Say "No" - by One of the most important skills we can learn that will help us manage and fulfill our priorities is to say "No." Once we get there, it becomes easier and easier, but initially it can be extremely awkward and unpopular with others. Knowing the stages we’ll go through can help us realize that ...
Views: 9487(3 votes) - Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your life! - by Submitted on Sep 26, 2006 from Caroline Jalango"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no ones definition of your life. Define yourself." ~Harvey Fierstein ~ Why do you allow people to talk to you like that? Is there a sign on your forehead that gives people permission to talk to you in an ...
Views: 16390(4 votes) - Get What YOU Want...be Assertive! - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2006 from Teresa GiosiaBE ASSERTIVE AND GET WHAT YOU WANT! We all desire to attain the best out of life. In order to do that, we must begin with knowing what we desire and being assertive in going after our goals. 1. It all starts with passion. What do you like to do? What are your interests? 2. Now ask yourself ...
Views: 1240 - Saying No Doesn't Really Hurt - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2005 from Eric GarnerQuestion: I’m not a very assertive person. How do I learn to say No to people who ask me to do things I don’t really want to do? I have this problem not just with my colleagues but with my boss too. Answer: Don’t think you’re alone. We all find ourselves in situations where we say “Yes” to ...
Views: 2604 - Are You The Driver Or The Passenger? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Sonny JuliusIn your journey through life are you the "driver" or the "passenger"? Let me be perfectly clear what I mean about this statement. In other words,do you take charge of your own life? Do you make the judgment and set the goals for what you want your life to be like? - Or - Do you let others do ...
Views: 1191 - The Body Builder - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2005 from Larry HochmanImagine a very muscular guy, surrounded by lots of weaker people. He's just finished lifting his weights. He's feeling strong and confident, ready to take on the world. On his way out of the gym he finds a giant boulder in his path. He must get past it. It's in his way. He's got places to go, ...
Views: 1373 - 20 WAYS TO TELL SOMEONE “NO” - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Ramona CreelTell me if this sounds familiar -- someone asks you to do something that you really don’t want to do or you honestly don’t have time for. It might be a church bake sale, a school fundraiser, participating on a committee, or even just working late. But you feel like you will let the other person ...
Views: 27241(3 votes) - The Power of Conquering Fear - by Submitted on May 24, 2011 from Myles Miller“You must do the thing that you fear until the fear of that thing becomes no more.” - Brian Tracy One day, not too long ago, I was in the middle of a 5 day fast. I was looking for spiritual answers to some situations that I was facing. On the third day, I got hit with the truth. ...
Views: 12372(9 votes) - The THREE "C"'s of ASKING - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2004 from Danish Ahmed[This is a follow-up article to last week's issue on asking. If you haven't read it yet, you may want to view on our homepage, http://www.ordinarywords.com.] Does asking really work? Is it "that" simple? Did you try it? Some people tried it on me! A few subscribers wrote and asked me if I ...
Views: 1567(5 votes) - Your Personal Policies And Procedures - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2009 from Ramona CreelImagine a store that doesn't bother putting together any policies or procedures. No one has ever decided what their business hours will be, so the customers don't know when the shop will be open -- it could be 10-2 one day and 6-6 another day. No one has decided what the store will sell, so ...
Views: 2381(1 vote) - 10 Ways to Reclaim Your Self-Esteem - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Michelle CastoThe way you feel about yourself impacts how and why you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are, then what you do will be an outside reflection of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Contrary to popular belief, self-esteem is not something anyone or any accomplishment can ...
Views: 4083(2 votes) - You Are What You Think? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2003 from Dave WinsorConsider this: Your world is created as you wish it to be. If you believe that you are a victim of circumstance, then you will always be a “victim”. There is a benefit to being victimized. You will always have people around you who will support you and feel sorry for you. That is ...
Views: 1317(1 vote) - Tools For Enforcing Personal Boundaries - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Julie DonleyHas anyone ever spoken to you in an inappropriate manner? Often people are caught off guard and are not prepared to handle these challenging situations. But, as a leader, whenever you are in a situation that’s uncomfortable, it’s imperative that you speak up; the person needs to know that the ...
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