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- Relationships: Why Do Some People Act Aggressively When A Relationship Comes To An End? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone behaves at the beginning of a relationship can be different to how they behave as time goes by, and while a certain amount of change is normal, it doesn’t mean it is normal for someone to completely change. This could mean that as time passes they end up becoming someone else, or it ...
Views: 1346 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Deserve To Be Treated Badly? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is being treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will realise what it taking place. This might be hard for some people to believe though, and this is because of how they experience life. For example, if one is in a position where they have been treated badly for a certain ...
Views: 1373 - Music: Can We Use Music To Improve Our Mood? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels good, they may be drawn to things they wouldn’t be drawn to if they felt bad. What this shows is how much of an impact one’s mood has on their life and that this is not something one can simply overlook. However, if one is committed to something, they might be able to ...
Views: 1451 - Letting Go: Is Crying An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what they used to wear when they were younger, they are likely to see that they no longer wear the same clothes. Perhaps they got to a point where they no longer fitted them and this caused them to wear something else. They had to let go and while they may have ...
Views: 1484 - Relationships: Is There A Reason Why Some People Attract People Who Can't Love Them? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people think about what it is like to be in a relationship, they might get a sense of being around someone who is truly there for them. This means that the other person is not only physically available, they are also emotionally available. Now, this could be because they are ...
Views: 1509 - Relationships: Can Someone Put An End To Dysfunctional Relationships By Leaving Relationships That Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people on this planet who have relationships that are life-affirming, there are others who have relationships that are the complete opposite. They are then living on the same planet, but the experience they have on this planet is going to be radically different. When ...
Views: 1596 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Feel Good? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings want to experience pleasure and to avoid. Based on this outlook, each person on this planet is going to have the same intention, and even if their actions are not allowing them to experience pleasure in one moment, they are going to hope that they will lead to ...
Views: 1481 - Self-Punishment: Why Do Some People Feel As Though They Deserve To Be Punished? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can punish themselves, and on the other side, they can be punished by others. And while this is the case, it is often easier to see when one is punished by others. If one ends up being treated badly by someone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they will be looked ...
Views: 1986 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Intolerance? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the propose of the media is, they may start to think about how it is there to inform people about what is taking place around them and in the world at large. Based on this outlook, it will be normal for them to look towards the media in order to be informed. In ...
Views: 1771 - Self-Awareness: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Having Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperTo be human means that one not only has the ability to think and to feel, they also have the ability observe their own thoughts and feelings. Therefore, it is possible for them to experience life on one hand and to observe life on the other. When it comes to observing one’s outer experience, ...
Views: 1408 - Survival: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Believe That The Purpose Of Life Is To Survive? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be some people who believe that life is matter of survival and then there are going to be others who believe there is more to life than simply surviving. And because they see life differently, there is a strong chance that they are going to experience life differently. ...
Views: 1329 - Happiness: Should You Do What Makes You Happy? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what the meaning of life was, they may say that it is to be happy. And as human beings are programmed to seek pleasure and to avoid pain, it is not going to be much of a surprise to hear this. When one is happy, they are going to feel good, and this experience is going ...
Views: 1398 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a woman wants to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that this takes place. However, while there will be some women who realise that this is because they fear intimacy, there are going to be others who are unaware of why they are unable to experience it. In the first ...
Views: 2480 - After Death Communication: Do Some People Try To Contact Their Loved Ones To Avoid Facing Their Grief? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people lose a loved one, they may think that that’s the end of it and that it’s not possible for them to talk to them again. In this case, they will have to rely on their memories and the memories other people have. There are then going to be others to believe this is not the case, ...
Views: 1748 - Social Media: Is Social Media Eroding The Meaning Of Friendship? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to ask a group of people who have been on this planet for over thirty years and another group who have been here for less than twenty years what their definition of friendship is, the feedback they receive might end up being completely different. This could be put down to fact that ...
Views: 1720 - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That Support Is Conditional? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf it wasn’t for one’s bones, muscles and joints, it would be possible for them to do anything. Through the support that each of these provides, it is possible for one to move their body. However, even though one feels physically supported, it doesn’t mean they will feel supported when it ...
Views: 1189 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Shame Others For Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who embrace their inherent vulnerability, there are others who do everything they can to come across as invulnerable. This is not to say that these are the only options available, as there are likely to be people who alternate between the two. There will then be ...
Views: 1994 - Relationships: Should We Expect Our Friends To Accept Us If We Change? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a friend who they connect with, it is going to come down to the fact that they enjoy being in their company. This doesn’t mean that they are ‘perfect’, but they are going to be ‘perfect’ for them. If one was to take a closer look at why they enjoy being in their company, they ...
Views: 1467 - Self-Image: Is Someone Who Feels Inferior More Likely To Get Help Than Someone Who Feels Superior? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has a challenge in their life, they can think that they don’t need to put in a lot of effort or they may think they need to put in a lot of effort. It can all depend on what part they believe that are playing in what is taking place. However, just because one is playing a part in ...
Views: 1181 - Disrespect: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Low Tolerance For Disrespect? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is shown respect, they are likely to respond in a certain way, whereas, if they are not respected, they are likely to respond in another way. However, this is not to say that everyone feels they deserve the same level of respect. But when someone doesn’t get the level of respect ...
Views: 1829 - Relationships: Why Are People Who Act Superior Attracted To People Who Act Inferior? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn a relationship were each person is at the same level, one person is not going to see themselves as being above the other. This is not to say that each person is at the same level materially, for instance, but this is not going to affect the amount of respect they have for each other. ...
Views: 2892 - Loyalty: Is Your Need To Be Loyal Keeping You Stuck? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can have the need to achieve something in their life, it doesn’t mean they are able to achieve it. And while this may be a sign that their expectations are too high, this might not be the case. As a result of this, they are likely to be in a position where they are used ...
Views: 1457 - Aggression: What Can Happen When Men Reject Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across as happy, they are likely to be accepted by the people around them. However, if they were to come across as aggressive, they may not receive the same level of approval. Now, this is not to say that this is black and white as it can all depend on the context, but ...
Views: 1529 - Higher Power: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Higher Power? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to identify with something larger than themselves, there are others who are unable to do so. When this is possible for someone, they are likely to feel connected, whereas, if this isn’t possible, they might feel disconnected. This might be a ...
Views: 1550 - Relationships: Why Is 'Ghosting' So Common? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperModern day technology has not only had an impact on how relationships begin, it has also had an impact on how they end. In the past, one would have met someone in person and then it would have been possible for them to develop a relationship or something more casual. Nowadays, the first step ...
Views: 1820 - Self Development: Can Self Development Make Someone Dependent On Other People's Advice? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has a question about an inner or an outer challenge, there is a strong chance that they will soon be able to find an answer. This is something that can take place without them having to move too far, and this is because they only need to go online. Through using the internet on their ...
Views: 1280 - Expectations: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Unrealistic Expectations? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who have clear expectations in life and then there are others who just ‘go with the flow’. When someone is clear about what they want out of life, it may give them the chance to fulfil their needs. Whereas, if they don’t have this outlook and they just coast along, they ...
Views: 1450 - Man Up: Is Saying 'Man Up' Sexist? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there is far less pressure on men and women to conform to certain roles, and this has made it easier for them to be themselves. However, change doesn’t happen overnight, and while so much has been archived, there is still work to be done. In the past, men had to be ‘strong’ ...
Views: 2125 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Listen As Important As Being Able To Talk? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, human beings have the ability to talk, and on the other, they have the ability to listen. And as they have two ears and only one mouth, it could be said that it is a lot easier for them to listen. However, even though it is easier for someone to listen, it doesn’t mean that this ...
Views: 1576 - Relationships: Is It Important To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone they appreciate, there is a strong chance that they will end up feeling ‘good’. Yet, if they were to think about someone who presses their buttons, for instance, they are unlikely to have the same emotional experience. And when they feel good, there is not ...
Views: 1239 - Anger: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Angry? - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be people who feel comfortable expressing every emotion on the spectrum and then there are going to be others who are not in the same position. When someone does feel comfortable with their emotions, they are not going to deny how they feel. This will allow them to not ...
Views: 10513 - Suicidal: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that people talk openly about in today’s world that wouldn’t have been spoken about openly in the past and what is being spoken about can define whether progress is being made. However, there are many things that people talk about that show how far humanity has come. ...
Views: 1429 - Communication: Does It Matter How You Greet Someone? - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in one’s life when they meet someone for the first time, and how they greet them is likely have a big impact on what happens after they have met. This is because the other person’s first impressions are going to be heavily influenced by what takes place during this ...
Views: 1941 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Always Moody? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when someone feels happy and moments when they don’t, and while they may prefer to be happy all the time, this is not going to be possible. When it comes to the people someone spends their time around, they may also find it easier to be around them when they are ...
Views: 2874 - Breathing Problems: Can Trapped Grief Cause Breathing Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that our greatest wealth is health, and it doesn’t take much thought to realise why this is. When someone has good health, it will be lot easier for them to live a fulfilling life. If they are not in good health, it is going to be a lot harder for them to enjoy their time on ...
Views: 1829 - Selfless: Is Being Selfless Part Of The False Self? - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone puts their needs first, there is the chance that they will be described as selfish. Whereas, as if they put other people’s needs first, they may end up being described as selfless. And although these are only two of the options that someone has, they can end up being seen as the ...
Views: 1405 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Hold Onto Past Relationships? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can let go of a relationship once it is over, there are others who are unable to do so. When someone is able let go, it will be possible for them to move on and to embrace the present moment. However, if they are unable to do this, it is not going to be possible for them to ...
Views: 6275 - Self-Love: How Can Someone Love Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a person gets to a certain age, there is a strong likelihood that they will attend some kind of school. During this time, they will begin to learn about different areas of life and the kind of subjects that will allow them to function in today’s world. While their time in education may ...
Views: 3172 - Relationships: Do Some People Reject Others To Avoid Being Rejected? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what someone looks like or where they have come from, they will have experienced rejection. What this comes down to is that it is part of life and this is because it is not possible for one to always be accepted. And if one was to look back on their life, they would also realise ...
Views: 3710 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Objectify Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings can be objectified by others, they can also be objectified by themselves. What this means is that someone can feel as though they are being taken advantage of by others and it is the outside world that is victimising them, or they can take advantage of themselves, and they are ...
Views: 1456 - Sunbeds: Why Are Some People Addicted To Sunbeds? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhat people do at one point in time to look good is not necessarily going to be the same as what they at another point in time. This is not to say that everything will change, but it would also be inaccurate to say that this is an area of life where change doesn’t take place. There are some ...
Views: 1362 - Customer Service: Is Customer Service Important? - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAll businesses, no matter how big or small, need customers, and this is because they depend on their custom. If this custom was to disappear, it is not going to be long until a business goes out of business. Based on this, it is clear to see how important good customer service is, and no ...
Views: 1689 - Social Media: Can Social Media Make People Flaky? - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is now easier than ever before for people to stay in contact with each other, and this can happen through words being exchanged on a screen or through a conversation taking place with a camera. The only piece of equipment someone needs, in order for this to occur, is a Smartphone. For ...
Views: 1690 - Social Media: Can Social Media Give People A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many different needs, and one of those needs is to feel important. However, this is not to say that everyone will be influenced in the same way by this need; as some people will have a greater need to feel important than others. It could then be a need that is no more ...
Views: 3465 - Grief: Is Grief A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, more and more normal human experiences are being given labels, and what was part of life at one point in time, ends up being seen as a mental illness at another. For example: if one was experiencing anxiety in the past, they might believe that it is just part of life. It is ...
Views: 1797 - Relationships: Is Being Able To Grieve An Important Part Of Being Able To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time around people who have an open-heart, they are likely to appreciate being around them. Whereas, if they were to spend their time around people who were the complete opposite; there is the chance that they will feel uncomfortable. This is because when people ...
Views: 1459 - Smartphones: Can Smartphone’s Cause People To Be Self-Absorbed? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to use the internet, they no longer need to sit in front of a computer; the only thing they need to do it to use a Smartphone. This means that one can go online no matter where they are or what they are doing. As a result of this, going online has become a normal part of ...
Views: 2232 - Relationships: Do Some People Analyse Others In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it could be said that there are some people who are highly curious, it could also be said that there are others who are the complete opposite. This is not to say that this is something that is black and white; as there are going to be people who fall into the middle of the spectrum. ...
Views: 2783 - Self Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Into Self Development? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side of the spectrum, there are people who had a childhood where most of their needs were met, and on the other side, there are others who had a childhood where the majority of their needs were ignored. And in the middle of these two extremes will be people who would have had moments ...
Views: 1412 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Delude Themselves? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone spends their time with people who affirm their worth, it will be possible for them to feel good about themselves. This is because human beings are interdependent, and this is why the responses of others play an important part in their self-image. However, although one’s ...
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