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- Random Acts Of Peace - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe forces of nature have caused immense destruction over the past twelve months. A tsunami devastated huge parts of S.E. Asia; hurricanes and subsequent floods inundated New Orleans, and most recently an earthquake wrecked people’s lives in Pakistan. We may look for meaning in such events or ...
Views: 787 - Recipes For Inner Peace - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Warren RedmanIn 2005 I was involved with a wonderful group of people in the development of a peace conference in Calgary. We called it “The Art of Peace Leadership.” One thing that we all agreed upon was that peace starts right here – within each one of us. Until we have a sense of inner peace, how can we ...
Views: 556 - Recipes For Inner Peace, The Lifescale - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanOur third Recipe for Inner Peace is a unique set of ten questions. The Lifescale will help you to understand the balance you have now in your life between your positive and negative emotional energies – those things that cause satisfaction and frustration. Since I developed and began using the ...
Views: 997 - Recipes For Inner Peace. Learn From Experience - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Warren RedmanLast time I introduced you to the first of my Recipes for Inner Peace from the book of that name. The first Recipe is Listening Power. Now let’s look at the second recipe called Learning from Experience. In the book Jenny is developing a new relationship. She badly wants it to work but is ...
Views: 757 - Recipes for Inner Peace; Group Dialogue - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2008 from Warren RedmanIf you’ve ever wondered how you could change the way people behave in a group from being either passive or aggressive into one where they actually listen positively to each other, here’s a recipe for you. Whether the group you are thinking about is a family or an executive board, or ...
Views: 1060 - Recipes For Inner Peace; Storytelling - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2008 from Warren RedmanStorytelling is a uniquely human trait. It’s how we learn about our world and ourselves, and how we pass on to others the lessons of what we have discovered. In Recipes for Inner Peace, Jenny’s coach Nicolas asks her to write two stories. The first is the story of an object that Nicolas brings ...
Views: 1154 - Reunion of Wanstead County High, United Kingdom - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt took nearly fifty years, but I can honestly say at last that I learned something really important from my time at WHS. Accepting the invitation to attend the reunion of the 1951 intake was itself a major decision. It entailed travelling from Calgary in Western Canada to take part in an ...
Views: 1578 - Some Retirement! - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanAs you read this I will be miles away from home, enjoying a reunion with my daughter and family and friends in England, after which Nicole and I will be flying to Rome and spending twelve days cruising in the Mediterranean. This is not meant to make you envious. The trip is my retirement. After ...
Views: 754 - Something To Read This Summer - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanIf you enjoy reading fiction, I invite you to read an as yet unpublished novel of mine. It’s called “State of Flux” and is about four people searching for meaning in their lives. It involves romance, spiritual growth, intrigue and mystery. I will send you an electronic copy if you let me know ...
Views: 1260 - Spirituality Unifies Humanity. Religion Divides Humanity. - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanLittle causes more heated debate and potentially hurt feelings than the topic of religion between people of differing opinions and faiths. While religious values and tradition have been of great comfort to millions of people, it has also caused enmity between neighbours, civil strife and even ...
Views: 1931 - Spring Into Spring - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanAs Spring bursts into being, new things emerge. I always found it hard to understand why January would be the start of a New Year, when April makes so much more sense – in the Northern Hemisphere anyway. Newness in the plant and animal world is all around us and that newness is so often mirrored ...
Views: 863 - Start Retiring Now - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2008 from Warren RedmanJohn took early retirement after 23 years in the same corporation, by then a highly respected oil executive. At 55, he had looked forward to this day for years. He had a plan. He took his wife and teenage children on a world trip for a year. The second year, he played golf every day he could. ...
Views: 932 - Talking To Yourself Is The First Sign Of Sanity - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanI remember my grandmother saying to me, in her jovial and gentle way, that talking to yourself is the first sign of madness. She’d say that when she caught herself chatting to herself as she mixed yet another floury concoction into a bowl with her oversized wooden spoon. At seven, while I knew ...
Views: 2694 - The Acorn And The Oak Tree - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanNow that summer – in the Northern hemisphere anyway – is truly here, it’s harder to stick to writing at my computer. With a new book in the works I content myself with gazing wistfully out of the window and, when the urge takes me, simply stop mid-sentence and wander out into the garden for ...
Views: 1949 - The Best Time For What's Important Now - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from Warren RedmanAt times of crisis, such as when a loved one passes away, we are more likely to reflect on the things we haven’t done, the places we haven’t visited, the words we didn’t say, and wish we had done them, gone there, said them. I cannot be certain how or when I learned to follow my deepest desire ...
Views: 781 - The Joy Of Listening - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanOne of the joys and privileges of being an Emotional Fitness Coach and teaching Emotional Fitness courses is that I get to hear the inner thoughts and experiences of others. Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I want to spy on other people’s lives; it’s that as I hear their stories two things ...
Views: 791 - The Less I Know That I Know, The Wiser I Become - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from Warren RedmanHow much more at ease might we be with ourselves once we discard the need to have more information, knowledge and understanding? Whatever we may know, it can never be more than an infinitesimal fraction of what there is to know. Let us relax into ourselves, knowing how little we really know and ...
Views: 780 - The Less That I Know, The Wiser I Become - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2008 from Warren RedmanTo many people this is the Knowledge Age and knowledge workers have been in high demand in industries of all kinds for almost a generation. All the signs are pointing to a change. If you haven’t noticed it, this is because it has crept upon us and has hardly entered the consciousness yet. ...
Views: 970 - The Moment Of Truth Comes Any Time You Want To Hear It - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanQuote from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness by Warren Redman There comes time when we will each be confronted by a life-changing event or decision. Perhaps you have already faced one or two of those in your life. You will understand what I mean if you have. Frequently, the people who ask for ...
Views: 1224 - The Most Beautiful Sound Of All Is The Sound Of Someone Listening - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt still amazes me. No matter how many times I hear it, when someone tells me that nobody ever listened to them before, or that being listened to was the most powerful experience that they had, I feel a surge of emotion. It’s a mixture of sadness and anger tinged with elation and determination. ...
Views: 585 - The Only Coincidence Is That You Noticed It Again - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanThere is no coincidence. When we see the same thing a few times, or meet the same people, or bump into someone we have just been talking about, we tend to call it a coincidence. It happened to me today. I had just left a message for someone at an organization I am working with and left my ...
Views: 780 - The Point Of Life May Just Be To Experience It - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from Warren RedmanDoesn’t seem much does it? But delve deeper and we will discover that when we experience life to its fullest, we find a treasure trove of immense wealth. When we experience the depth of our emotions, the richness of our senses and the extent of our wisdom, we become aware of the meaning and ...
Views: 667 - The Point Of Life May Just Be To Experience It - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Warren RedmanIn the universal human search for meaning, there are almost as many answers as there are people. This is often organized into our religions, cultures, nations and communities. Victor Frankl, wrote much of his book “Man’s Search for Meaning” while encarcerated in the Nazi concentration camp of ...
Views: 850 - The Present Is The Gift - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2008 from Warren RedmanI constantly hear people talk about how they would love to let go of their attachments, not so much to things, but to their expectations. “If only I didn’t worry so much about how things will turn out, I’d feel a lot less anxious,” is a common cry. Letting go is easier said than done, ...
Views: 861 - The Ripple Effect - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from Warren RedmanWe have had a lot of conversation at the Centre recently about the ripple effect. Like dropping a pebble into a pond and watching the ripples radiate out for a while, the impact you have on a person’s life spreads further and wider than you can imagine. Someone, somewhere whom you will never ...
Views: 935 - There Are Four L’S In Life: Love, Laughter, Listening And Learning - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanQuote from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness also by Warren Redman One of the processes we use in Emotional Fitness is called the Lifescale. It consists of ten questions, which together helps us make sense of the balance we have between our satisfactions and frustrations in life. Each question ...
Views: 3079 - There Is Always Another Hand - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2008 from Warren RedmanRemember the line in “Fiddler on the Roof”? Tevya debated endlessly with himself about his daughters (on the one hand this, and on the other hand that) until he finally lost patience and declared, “There is no other hand!” For him, at that point of his frustration, there appeared to be no ...
Views: 971 - There's Nothing New, Just Different Ways Of Experiencing The Same Thing - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2008 from Warren RedmanDo you feel bombarded sometimes by the dozens of amazing, powerful, mind-blowing and – of course – NEW offers that come through your mail-box, TV screen or Internet every week? Whether it’s a brand of cleaner, a book or movie, political idea or even partner, it is the very “newness” that seems ...
Views: 898 - This Swamp May Not Be Much, But It’s Mine - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2008 from Warren RedmanQuote from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness a book by Warren Redman This is, perhaps, another way of saying “wherever you go, there you are”. Since you were born, you have been in your own place, and always a place of your own making. Like it or not, it’s yours; and here’s the point, you can ...
Views: 1260 - Time Will Only Run Out When You Do - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Warren RedmanSometimes, like today, it seems that there is not enough time to do the things I want to do, or rather, that I have set myself to do. That, of course, is an illusion. There is always time. There is always all the time in the world. We humans, after all, invented time, or at least subdivided the ...
Views: 1019 - To Be The Best You Can, Just Be Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Warren RedmanMy wife taught me this. One evening a couple of years ago, as I was leaving to give a presentation to an audience of professionals, I said to her that I hoped I would do a good job. “Just be yourself,” she told me. The affect on me was amazing, and it resulted in the best presentation I had ...
Views: 1012 - To Love Your Enemy, Understand Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt is perhaps one of the greatest challenges. How do we find it within ourselves to love our enemies? Why would we even want to? These days, I can think of nobody I know who I can see as my enemy. That wasn’t always true. Many years ago I had a boss who was in complete control of his emotions. ...
Views: 1347 - We Can All Win The Human Race - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2008 from Warren RedmanSo much of life seems to be a competition. We need to have more or be better than everyone else, or at least those in our immediate circle, and if we’re not there is that feeling of dissatisfaction and insufficiency. So when we are able to see the wonder of who we are and the completeness and ...
Views: 841 - We Can All Win The Human Race - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt’s not a race. We are, but it isn’t. Oddly we do often appear to act as though we are not from the same species and that, indeed, the race is on to be better than the other guy or to have more and show more success in whatever way we deem it. The fact is that there are comparatively few ...
Views: 1064 - We Recreate Our Childhood Until The Child Says "stop" - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanTime and again when I am coaching someone, or during one of our Emotional Fitness training sessions, I hear the same pattern coming up; the same theme song of that particular individual. And, as the coaching or training continues, that person will say “enough; I have had enough of doing the same ...
Views: 1109 - Whatever You Do Will Have Unexpected Consequences - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Warren RedmanAs conscious as we may wish to be in life, the difficult awareness to have is that of the unknown power that lies within us. Whenever we take some action, there is always a consequence. Most of the time, we plan it that way and generally hope that the consequence will be the one that we ...
Views: 909 - When All Is Said And Done, There’s A Lot More Said Than Done - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Warren RedmanHere’s one of the quotes that I didn’t think up – it’s an old one that I recall from my childhood and one that has become more pertinent the more I hear people talk without the evidence of any action. One of the key elements that constitute the 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness is that each one of ...
Views: 3723 - When Something Hurts, You Know You Are Alive - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2008 from Warren RedmanPain, whether it’s physical or emotional, is an inevitable and vital part of life. It is clearer that physical pain is an important signal to us that part of our body is under attack, whether from an external source (“ouch, I just scraped my knee”) or an internal one (“my stomach really aches”). ...
Views: 1449 - When You Mee Your Sage, You Have Met Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanIn Emotional Fitness coaching, we often use the Time Capsule, which is one of the most empowering of all our tools. In the Time Capsule, we invite you to take a look at a current incident, behaviour or feeling that is having an impact on you through the eyes of your own inner child. The dialogue ...
Views: 941 - WHEN YOUR RAGE TURNS INTO TEARS, YOUR SOUL IS TRANSFORMING - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2008 from Warren RedmanMy guess is that our souls are transforming all the time, even though, like our bodies, they still remain identifiably us. There are occasions when we may consciously recognize a shift in our very being, that is to say, in the soul. Those occasions are usually traumatic or highly significant ...
Views: 3729 - Who Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up? - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2008 from Warren RedmanHere’s a question with a lot of mystery to it, because the answer seems so obvious at first. Of course I want to be me; or I am me already, whaddya mean who do I want to be? I have to admit that for years, as a young boy, a teenager, a young and then a middle-aged man I yearned to be like ...
Views: 817 - Who Would Ever Believe Your True Life Story? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Warren RedmanTruth, the saying goes, is stranger than fiction, and I am witness to that in my own life and from the thousands of stories that I have heard from people over the last thirty years that I have practiced as a counsellor, a coach and an Emotional Fitness trainer. If you believe that your life is ...
Views: 842 - Without Any Change We Are Destitute - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanChange is, as the saying goes, the only constant. It is also the thing that most of us resist, even when the change appears positive, and certainly when the change seems out of our control. And yet every change, large or small, is another opportunity for growth, for learning and for a new ...
Views: 917 - Without Frustration We Have No Potential - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Warren RedmanWe all have some frustrations in life; the things that bring us our pain or our problems, our feelings of pressure or powerlessness. They can drag us down and submerge us. And they will, until we recognize them as the source of our inner strength, our creativity and our potential to make ...
Views: 889 - You Are The Greatest Expert On Your Own Life - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2008 from Warren RedmanThere are experts all around us. Professionals who can, and will, tell us how to handle our finances, our health, our children, our garden, our golf – even our sex lives and our funeral arrangements. Psychologists and job interviewers will hand us personality assessment tests and tell us where ...
Views: 2046 - You Know What's Wrong With You? ….…. Nothing - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Warren RedmanThere never was anything wrong with you – or with any of us. Unfortunately, too many of us received messages as children that there was something wrong, or at least not good enough about us. Enough of those messages, even if they come from well-meaning parents and teachers, and we get to believe ...
Views: 1195 - Your Secret Life Is Safe With Those Who Love You - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2008 from Warren RedmanWe all live inner lives. Thoughts and feelings that sometimes we are hardly aware of exist almost independently of our outward existence. Occasionally, when we become more conscious of what is going on within us, we might express the idea, the thought, the feeling. Often we will suppress it, ...
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