Remember the line in “Fiddler on the Roof”? Tevya debated endlessly with himself about his daughters (on the one hand this, and on the other hand that) until he finally lost patience and declared, “There is no other hand!”

For him, at that point of his frustration, there appeared to be no other way than the one he had traditionally been taught. Certainly, when our most cherished values are under attack, we will decide what is absolutely right for us and act on that. Even then, there are as many points of view as there are unique individuals living.

When I recently wrote about spirituality and religion, several comments from different people claimed that their version of the truth is the one. The stronger the faith, the less willingness it appears there is to accept another’s. I’m hot on supporting the first, but little gets me angrier than the lack of acceptance between people.

My take on it is that we can all hold our personal beliefs and still offer a hand to others who may want our support and acceptance without wanting to convert them to our way of thinking. That way there will always be another hand.

In peace
Warren Redman

Author's Bio: 

Warren Redman trained in the UK as a psychotherapist, facilitator and coach and has developed his own unique style of Life Coaching which he calls Emotional Fitness Coaching. He is president of the Emotional Fitness Institute (formally the Centre for Inner Balancing), writing about, teaching and coaching people in success skills of Emotional Fitness. He is the author of fifteen books, including the Award-winning The 9 steps to Emotional Fitness, Achieving Personal Success and Recipes for Inner Peace.

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