Do you feel bombarded sometimes by the dozens of amazing, powerful, mind-blowing and – of course – NEW offers that come through your mail-box, TV screen or Internet every week? Whether it’s a brand of cleaner, a book or movie, political idea or even partner, it is the very “newness” that seems to attract.

We humans are innately curious. Our curiosity has inspired us to great things and discoveries. Disasters too. And disappointments. But we always come back for more and are suckers for the promises of greater happiness that something or someone new might bring us.

Dig deeper into the newness and, with some very scarce exceptions, (which is the carrot that draws us in to continually search) there really is nothing new at all. What appeared new because of the different packaging becomes another version of what we have experienced before. What’s the lesson there for us?

The lesson for me is that I want instead to look again, and more deeply, into what is already there. Look into the familiar and see what I’m missing. Look into the simple, no frills version of life and I’ll discover something of great value that was always there.

Do I respond to the invitation to go see the “amazing” speaker coming to town next week who has something so “new” to say that (I’m told) I’d be missing a “wonderful” opportunity if I didn’t go? Or do I go to breakfast with my wife? These are the kind of decisions that have become easier. I could be wrong, but I believe that the impact on my life of having breakfast with my wife will be greater and more fulfilling than going to listen to that speaker. I can experience something new each time I do the same thing when I am open to it. I can experience the ennui of the “same old thing” dressed up in different clothes when I am closed to the potential in a so-called “new” offering.

So, when I tell you that we now have a new name – the Emotional Fitness Institute – don’t be fooled. We are doing the same things that work because they have always worked. We listen, and we help you listen to yourself and to others. There’s nothing new in that. It just doesn’t happen very often, maybe because we are told it has to be new to be good.

In Peace

Warren Redman
1-866-310-3348 (EFit)

Author's Bio: 

Warren Redman trained in the UK as a psychotherapist, facilitator and coach and has developed his own unique style of Emotional Fitness Coaching. He is president of the Emotional Fitness Institute (formally the Centre for Inner Balancing), writing about, teaching and coaching people in Emotional Fitness. He is the author of fifteen books, including the Award-winning The 9 steps to Emotional Fitness, Achieving Personal Success and Recipes for Inner Peace.

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