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- Life: A True Story - Connecting With Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe strangest stories are usually the true life ones. Take Marnie (not her real name), who recollected as a child ingrade 3 how she would roll a large piece of art paper around herself and stand in a corner. Her teacher would try to get her to come out; the other children would make fun of her. ...
Views: 2728(1 vote) - Emotional Fitness at Work - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Warren RedmanIt is well known by now that work-related stress is a major contributor to loss of productivity. What isn’t so well understood is how leaders within the organization can make simple changes to decrease stress and bring quantifiably better bottom-line results. Even where stress doesn’t appear to ...
Views: 2911(11 votes) - Five Things Great Dads Do - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanFor many years we have been, quite rightly, acknowledging moms and the balancing act that they have to maintain to do all the things that good moms do. More recently attention has started to focus on the vital role of dads in the healthy and positive upbringing of their children. At last, one ...
Views: 850(1 vote) - 2006 - Your Year Of Fulfillment - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanI wish you all the fulfillment that you desire in this new year of 2006. Before we get into too much of this year, and perhaps even before any resolutions have already been washed away in the tide of duties and responsibilities and all the flotsam of life, I invite you to take a moment and think ...
Views: 809 - A Secure Border Needs No Barbed Wire - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Warren RedmanOccasionally, very occasionally, it may be prudent to take precautions and put up some kind of defensive wall against potential marauders. But our society and communities today appear to have moved to extremes in reaction to the fear that is sweeping into many corners of our lives. Do the ...
Views: 1007 - A Smile Today Could Save Somebody's Life Tomorrow - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2008 from Warren RedmanMostly, we have no idea of the effect we have on other people’s lives. How a kind or an unkind word to a stranger can improve or damage their day; how an angry glance can upset a child, or a nod of encouragement help that same child to strive for something great. Mostly, we are concerned only ...
Views: 5722 - ACT AS THOUGH YOU ARE THE WORLD'S MAJOR POWER WISELY - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Warren RedmanThis could, perhaps, be a message to George W. Bush. But it’s to all of us, since we are each accountable for the world around us, whether we influence a few people or a few billion; whether we oversee a small flower-pot or a huge acreage. Nobody acts with foolish intention. In fact most ...
Views: 928 - Assumptions Are The Death Of Communication - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanAlmost all of what I teach is, in one way or another, how we can listen at a deep level to others and ourselves. Part of listening – or Listening Power as I call the process – is to understand what the other person is trying to say. Understanding ourselves is sometimes a tough call; to ...
Views: 598 - ASSUMPTIONS ARE THE DEATH OF COMMUNICATION - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanQuote from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness a book also by Warren Redman “I thought you said you’d done that.” “No, I said I’d need more time and some training before I could complete it.” “Well, I assumed you were getting the training.” ...
Views: 1467 - Beyond Therapy …. Is Growth - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2008 from Warren Redman“Emotional Fitness Coaching; what’s that?” That’s a common reaction when I describe what we do at the Centre for Inner Balancing. Another reaction is, “but I don’t think there’s much wrong with me.” Indeed, there’s nothing wrong with any of us, and it’s also true that we could all grow beyond ...
Views: 814 - Birth And Death Are Certainties; It’s The Bit In Between That's Unclear - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt seems odd to me that most people go through life imagining that they know exactly what will happen and get shocked or surprised if things don’t go the way they expect. It is even stranger to me that those same people appear to believe that they are immortal. Today I had a conversation with ...
Views: 895 - Catch A Falling Leaf - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Warren RedmanHave you ever tried catching an autumn leaf as it falls from the tree? It’s something I like to do each year. Imagine – a 65 year old man, a serious author, psychotherapist and coach, running around like a five-year-old trying to catch one elusive, capricious leaf as it sails unpredictably ...
Views: 4474 - Change Someone's Life Today. Smile - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2008 from Warren RedmanWe don’t always feel like smiling. Sometimes I find myself walking from my house a few blocks, my head full of thoughts about what I have been doing or am about to do, when I pass by somebody who smiles and nods a greeting. Almost instantly, my life in that moment is transformed. I start ...
Views: 980 - Creativity Is The Singing Of The Soul - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Warren RedmanWe all have a creative spark. Some of us allow that spark to light a flame that burns brightly. Others let it fizzle and splutter. A few weeks ago Nicole and I stood gazing up at the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, that marvel of artistic endeavour created by Michelangelo, wondering at the ...
Views: 1003 - Dads - Celebrating The Difference - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanI‘ve heard a lot recently from dads who have felt displaced inside their own family. This is how a typical conversation has gone: “For years I did what I thought was expected of me. I have been the chief bread winner, and my wife has mainly taken care of the children. I realize now that I ...
Views: 653 - Dads - The Inside Story - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Warren RedmanMy daughter came from England to visit a little while back. It was the first time I'd seen her for nearly four years, and this had felt far, far too long. I had missed the closeness of her. Phone calls and e-mails are fine, but never the same as being there. Lin is 34 and still my little girl ...
Views: 638 - Do Not Ask “Why The Pain?” Ask “What May I Do Wity It?” - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Warren RedmanThis was a favourite quote of my mentor, teacher and friend John Heimler. He had some experience with pain, both physical and emotional, as a survivor of Auschwitz and other concentration camps; pain that is unimaginable to most of us. We all have our own pain to bear at different times during ...
Views: 923 - Don't Be A Back-Seat Driver In Your Own Life - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanSome months ago I listened to a woman (let’s call her Kate) calling me long-distance. “I should have taken that opportunity when it came up,” she told me. “Now I feel it’s passed me by.” A few minutes later she wondered out loud if she should leave her current comfortable but far from ...
Views: 1055 - Emotional Fitness At Work - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt is well known by now that work-related stress is a major contributor to loss of productivity. What isn’t so well understood is how leaders within the organization can make simple changes to decrease stress and bring quantifiably better bottom-line results. Even where stress doesn’t appear to ...
Views: 550 - Emotional Fitness, The surprising secrets about the healthy man - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanWhen I first met Tom, more than ten years ago, he was a single man of 32, who sold vending machines for a living. He was successful at this, one of the best salesmen in the company, despite being unable to write because of his dyslexia. But he felt himself to be a failure, and that he had not ...
Views: 797 - Emotional Fitness: The Surprising Secrets About the Healthy Man - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Warren RedmanWhen I first met Tom, more than ten years ago, he was a single man of 32, who sold vending machines for a living. He was successful at this, one of the best salesmen in the company, despite being unable to write because of his dyslexia. But he felt himself to be a failure, and that he had not ...
Views: 1473 - Equilibrium December 2004 - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe invitations have started arriving, the lights are going up, the stores are playing Christmas music and people appear to be bracing themselves for family reunions. There is an air of unreality about all this: a case of people seeming to try too hard, of going through the motions without ...
Views: 755 - Equilibrium February 2005 - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanAlready a month into 2005 – and what has the year brought so far? A sociologist in Britain has observed that January 24th is “the worst day of the year” – presumably in the Northern hemisphere. The excitement of Christmas and anticipation of the New Year has worn off, credit card bills have ...
Views: 791 - Equilibrium January 2005 - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanIf we did not fully understand the connectedness that we have to each other and to the earth, the effect of the tsunamis on millions of people in eleven countries bordering the Indian Ocean has demonstrated that connectedness. Who has not been touched in some way by this disaster? At a very ...
Views: 832 - Equilibrium July 24th 2008, Calling All Dads! New CD Out Now! - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2008 from Warren RedmanBE A GREAT DAD – building your legacy is the title of a new CD produced by Warren Redman in conjunction with Families Matter, a Calgary-based not-for-profit organization dedicated to the healthy development and well-being of families. The CD is a series of interviews with dads, kids and moms ...
Views: 582 - Equilibrium June 2005, A Summer Special - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2008 from Warren RedmanThis month I am making a special offer, in preparation for the launch of three new projects that will be coming on track over the next few months. The first project is the publication of my next book, title under wraps so far (until I decide what it is!). The theme of the book is recipes for ...
Views: 733 - EVERY CHILD'S BIRTHRIGHT IS TO KNOW THE LOVE OF ITS MOTHER AND FATHER - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt would be a different world if we each received our birthright of knowing love from our parents. The fact is that not enough children do know that they are loved. As parents, our most important legacy is to offer our children that love. If they know they have it, they can deal with almost ...
Views: 925 - Everything Is Simple. We Just Make It Complicated - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2008 from Warren RedmanEver felt that life dealt you so much that it was too complicated to handle? There’s the new project at work that you just got handed to add to the myriad of others things that you have to handle. Your spouse wants you to help plan that vacation you’ve been putting off talking about. The kids ...
Views: 1846 - Finding Your Emotional Balance - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2008 from Warren RedmanOur Emotional Fitness has a significant bearing on the rest of our health. If you have any doubts about that, simply look at how you are affected when you become anxious, or overly angry, or very joyous, or feel a lot of stress. Do you experience mental or physical reactions to those emotional ...
Views: 1291 - Great Wealth Is No Substitute For Richness Of The Soul - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Warren RedmanMoney isn’t everything, as the saying goes, but it sure helps. Sadly, the amount of energy put into attaining money does make it look as though it is everything to most people. The very fact that wealthy people always seem to seek more money reinforces that image. I have worked with some ...
Views: 1566 - Having No Choice Is Always A Personal Opinion - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanAt first glance this statement may appear to be gratuitous. After all, some people appear to have little or no choice in the circumstances in which they find themselves. Sometimes, it’s true, we are subject to events outside our control. I know of one man who became a paraplegic after an ...
Views: 739 - Having No Choice Is Always A Personal Option - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2008 from Warren RedmanQuote from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness also by Warren Redman Last week I was in the UK spending time with family members – something that doesn’t happen often for me these days. It was the occasion of my father’s 90th birthday. He was surrounded by his children and most of his ...
Views: 1881 - How Emotionally Fit Are You? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanA few months ago I went to a school reunion in England. As events go, maybe this does not rank as amazing. But amazing it was and taught me more about how we develop as adults than reading a ton of books on the subject. Here was a group of fifty or more men and women, most of whom were fairly ...
Views: 559 - How Emotionally Fit Are You? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Warren RedmanA few months ago I traveled from Canada to a school reunion in England. As events go, maybe this does not rank as amazing. But amazing it was and taught me more about how we develop as adults than reading a ton of books on the subject. Here was a group of fifty or more men and women, most of ...
Views: 1307 - How You Feel Is What We Get - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanHow do we know anybody else? How does anybody else really know who you are? The truth is that we can only ever know what is in our own perception, so that I may see you through my own eyes differently from how someone else might see you. There is another, very important factor in my ...
Views: 836 - I Think, Therefore I Am; I Feel, Therefore I'm Human - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanBeing is not only thinking. For us, much of our existence is experienced though our feelings. Odd then, that so much of what we talk about, read about and see going on in the world is dealt with through the realm of thinking and logic. What a huge piece of the human condition we miss when we ...
Views: 897 - If Problems Are Opportunities, How Unlucky You Are To Have Missed Some - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2008 from Warren RedmanProblems seldom feel good when you are in the midst of them. Most inspirational speakers and books, and many bosses, encourage us to see problems as opportunities, which is fine if at that moment you don’t feel weighed down by them. The interesting thing is that looking back at what seemed ...
Views: 1003 - If You Want To Change The World, You’d Better Know What You're Doing - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2008 from Warren RedmanIt’s a new year and I have an announcement to make. But first, let me wish you all fulfillment, health and serenity in 2007. It has been a delight to hear from you and work with many of you during the past year and I look forward to the road ahead. It has been eleven years (January 1st 1996) ...
Views: 861 - It Is More Important To Ask The Questions Than To Have The Answer - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2008 from Warren RedmanWe love to have the answers. Today’s society seems focused on problem-solving and coming up with the “best” way to do things. Look in the bookstores. They are filled with self-help books by self-styled gurus who tell us how to live our lives, as though they have the answers for us. And millions ...
Views: 802 - Just Think What God Could Have Done With An Eighth Day - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe story of Creation in the Old Testament tells us that God created heaven and earth and all that’s in it in the space of six days, and rested on the seventh. Whatever you believe, just imagine for a moment that God had used an extra day. For a start, we would have eight day weeks now and ...
Views: 875 - Laughing And Crying Are Good For The Soul; Try Them Both - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2008 from Warren RedmanAny expression of emotion is good for the soul if we allow it. Withholding our laughter can be as damaging as suppressing our tears. There was a time in my life when I held back both. At a level just below my consciousness I knew that they were there. It felt as though I was punishing myself and ...
Views: 2498 - Laughter Is Contagious. Spread It Arund - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2008 from Warren RedmanOver the past few weeks I have been surrounded by people who have colds, coughs and flu-like symptoms. Fortunately for me, I have not succumbed to the germs and viruses that have been spread around, partly secure in my belief that being emotionally fit is what protects me. I am not immune from ...
Views: 921 - Learn From Experience - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Warren RedmanIn the Jan/Feb 2006 article I introduced you to the first of my Recipes for Inner Peace from the book of that name. The first Recipe is Listening Power. Now let’s look at the second recipe called Learning from Experience. In the book Jenny is developing a new relationship. She badly wants it ...
Views: 546 - LIFE DOESN'T COME WITH A TOOL-KIT, YET WE STILL HAVE TO MAKE IT - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Warren RedmanThe collection of skills that adds up to Emotional Fitness is not easy to quantify or even define. In the corporate world they are often obliquely called “the soft skills” for that reason. This distinguished them, I suppose, from the “hard skills” that are more ...
Views: 920 - Love Doesn't Come With An “If” - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2008 from Warren RedmanSure, there are some things that are conditional, and are entitled to be. Trust counts among them; entering into a business contract is another; agreeing to take on another responsibility a third. Love is not one. There can be nothing conditional about love, or it is not love. We humans have an ...
Views: 925 - My Ten Seconds With Gandhi - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Warren RedmanLast week I met with Gandhi. He was standing, wearing his familiar white cotton robe, his bare feet on the old cobbled pavement of a market square. People were going about their business, occasionally greeting him politely but otherwise taking little notice of the great man in their presence. I ...
Views: 917 - Next Time You Breath, Notice It Is A Miracle - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2008 from Warren RedmanQuote from The 9 Steps to Emotional Fitness also by Warren Redman Taking things for granted is the way most of us live our lives; right up until we see or experience something that brings us up sharply. Flicking on a light switch or turning on the tap for a kettle of water may be an automatic ...
Views: 1255 - Once You've Lived A Little, Why Not Go The Whole Way? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2008 from Warren RedmanLast week I received in the mail a copy of the latest newsletter from my old school, a place I last attended over fifty years ago. It was filled with reminiscences from past students and obituaries of contemporaries. I was struck with the seemingly mundane existence of some of them, although the ...
Views: 891 - One Hug Makes Two People Happy - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Warren RedmanAs long as both are willing, of course, one kiss, one hug, one look into the eyes, one smile, brings happiness to at least the two people involved. I wonder, then, why so many people shy away from those small intimacies that can help to bring joy to the giver as much as the receiver. What ...
Views: 1257 - Put Your Buts Into A Can - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2008 from Warren RedmanThere is nothing wrong with that little word “but”, but I take care how I use it, since an over or inappropriate use gives the message that I negate myself. Emotional Fitness includes the ability to consciously choose our language and how we use words to express ourselves. Words are powerful. ...
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