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I have asked countless number of children “Is getting mad bad?” Very close to 100% answered yes. This has made me very curious as to the message we are presenting to children about anger. It has made me wonder how we adults express our anger and how that affects our children’s perspective ... Views: 4427
Have you ever wondered if venting was a useful way to release your emotions? Simply put, is venting good for you? I guess that depends on what you mean by venting. If by venting you mean screaming, yelling, ranting or raving about your problems, feelings and emotions with anger, then no, venting ... Views: 16072
Looking deeper
If you take a spiritual perspective, assuming that every experience in life is a potential healing lesson, an invitation from your higher self to learn and to grow, then challenges in your life may have a different “feel” to them. This is a major reframing!
If someone does ... Views: 1327
Anger expression management
Letting it out in acceptable manners is one way to deal with anger.
Sports activities provide helpful physical outlets for pent up tensions. When I was under emotional stress in the Air Force during the Viet Nam war, I played racquetball or squash six or seven ... Views: 1352
There can be more to anger than just feelings. Often people come to my office because of anger management issues and when I assess them for the reason behind the anger, they have extensive alcohol or other drug use. Others may have a brain injury.
In cases where drinking or other drug use is ... Views: 931
Lesson # 1 Acknowledge that the simple, pure emotions of anger and sadness that children express are at the root of more complicated adult feelings.
When children are traumatized, they heal from it naturally as long as there is a safe environment to do so. Many children experience a wide range ... Views: 1090
You Mean I can Have What I Want?
Fabienne drooled over that gorgeous pair of shoes in the store window. Just for once she wanted to indulge herself by splurging on something personal that wasn’t an absolute necessity. She had spoken to Larry about it and he gave her the go ahead. This weekend ... Views: 3115
Domestic violence goes far beyond the typical stories you hear so often in the news. It can involve a spouse, former spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, a child, parent or live-in partner. Hitting is but one aspect of domestic violence, a social issue across the globe that has a far-reaching impact. ... Views: 2316
You can feel your blood pressure rising when someone cuts you off in traffic. You lie awake at night thinking about all of the ways a particular co-worker has ruined your chances for a promotion. You cannot forgive your parents for the cruel words that were repeatedly spoken to you as a child. ... Views: 4445
The age in which we live is full of stressors that can build and trigger a slew of negative emotions. Anxiety and frustration are everywhere in today’s society and the way in which we choose to deal with them can have a profound impact on our lives. What we choose to do with our pain is up to ... Views: 1657
The true purpose of anger is to stimulate us to take action. The more that we can be present in us with our feelings and express them in some way we release anger with greater ease. The best example of the expression of anger and letting it go quickly is from animals. They are direct with ... Views: 1172
I was talking with a friend who told me that he had spent his entire life either living in the past or the future. He lived in the past in resentments to what had happened to him or was in the future thinking about how he could avoid the pains of the past from reoccurring.
Our mind can do some ... Views: 1749
A young man, who had suffered with trauma following a road traffic accident came for treatment. One of the unusual experiences that his wife described related to his behaviour in sleep. She had noticed that if she was to touch him, even inadvertently when he was sleeping, he would lash out with ... Views: 2761
“Ducks don’t do anger. Ducks fight over a piece of bread and then they just swim away,” says our dear friend Deepesh.
None of us like to admit that we get irritated, bitchy, or lose our temper; we much prefer to think of ourselves as being tolerant and kind. But there is a lot of anger flying ... Views: 889
Explosive Anger Disorder! (EAD). Or, Intermittent Rage Disorder (IRD). Take your pick of labels and/or abbreviations.
These are "new" labels in the lexicon of the psychologists and psychiatrists. (You should know that most such labels are made up in order to get paid by insurance companies, ... Views: 4801
Narcissistic Injury
An occasional or circumstantial threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist's grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack ... Views: 13085
In order to have children who are sovereign and well adjusted it is vital for non co dependent relationships to be present between parents especially during the phase of the child’s life when the individual is maturing dating and beginning to engage sexually.
What is over protection? Is it ... Views: 1648
The other day I was driving down a four lane road at about 3:00 in the afternoon. There was light traffic and I was in the right lane. All of a sudden this car cuts right in front of my as he swerves into my lane and THEN he hits his brakes. My first impulse was to get both of my hands ... Views: 1592
It’s not uncommon to hear or read of workplace instances where talented employees "lose it!" Workplace anger has been on the rise recently with variances of behavior from throwing the copier out the 5th story window to yelling at the security guard when the office key card does not work. When ... Views: 2453
You probably can't hit a baseball as well as Albert Pujols. Why? Certainly major league players were born with some level of physical advantage over the rest of us, but most of their skill comes from training - relentless training, year after year. Imagine a baseball coming toward you at a ... Views: 1516
“I’m riding my bike to work this morning.” my husband tells me at 7:45 am. “I will need to leave by 8:15 am.” he continues. “OK.” I say, as I realize what this means. I will be the one dropping the kids off at school. Feeling time pressured now, I rush to finish the lunches, change clothes, ... Views: 1757
No Welcome Home Made Jeremy Angry
There was no happy smile. There was no light in her eyes. There was no bear hug. There was no gasp of welcoming delight. Jeremy’s expectation of a warm and affectionate homecoming was decimated. Wasn’t it only yesterday that they had exchanged messages of ... Views: 1590
You may not think that it is an easy transition from suffering and wallowing in your negative emotions to being at peace with positive feelings but if you could see what I see and knew what I know you would reach for your fork whenever you get upset. Tuning forks can assist in releasing the ... Views: 2293
The deeper I go into forgiveness...in the ecstatic, radical sense of the word...the more I see that its invitation is surrender. Forgiveness is the golden door, the way past all fear and grief, and an entry into life beyond dictatorship of the ego.
What is radical about radical forgiveness? ... Views: 1350
A few years ago, after I met one of those helpful highway patrolmen on the road one too many times, I received an invitation in the mail to take a refresher, compulsory, driver's improvement course. Full of disdain, I indicated the date in my day timer (this was before the days of the PDA). I ... Views: 1429
Have you ever found yourself angry with people you care about and didn’t seem able to stop yourself? Do people who love you tell you that you have anger management issues? Have you lost some important relationships or created problems for yourself at work because you couldn’t seem to control ... Views: 2684
Anger. No one likes the feeling. Your body tightens. Your blood pressure heightens. You feel out of control.
Have you ever asked yourself why you get angry? The tendency in our world is to think that someone or something has made us mad. The truth, however, is that our anger comes from ... Views: 1689
Being open hearted is living with a heart full to overflowing with loving kindness. It is a life of power from within, a life filled with purpose and service to humanity. It is a life that can be easily manifested by nurturing your heart with a meditation on loving kindness.
Go to a quiet place ... Views: 3425
Did you ever wonder about why you get angry? Or do you just feel that anger simmering inside you and not know quite why it is?
I had a recent learning about three roots of anger. If you are angry it could be for one of these three reasons:
1. Fear
What are you afraid of happening? What is your ... Views: 15670
When you find yourself crying a lot, getting angry a lot, complaining a lot, feeling depressed a lot (you get the idea); your emotions are out of check. You’re being flooded with emotion, which makes “thinking”, good judgment and decision making impossible. This so frequently happens as we ... Views: 1296
OUCH!
Before he turned off the engine as he pulled into the driveway, Mia got on his case. He never appreciated her, he hadn’t fixed the shower door, he failed to pick up their son from the child care facility on time, and he drank too much!
Doug’s breath came hard and fast. He felt attacked ... Views: 1604
I Can’t Stand It - My Family Treats Me Like An ATM Machine!
How the hot button was created
Sharon helped her sister Ellisa prepare the party for their father's 80th birthday. As the guests left they thanked Ellisa and wished her father many more years of healthy life. Sharon drove home hurt ... Views: 4762
It isn’t the prettiest side of your personality, but there it is: jealousy.
Ick.
How very seventh grade of you.
But all of us, no matter how far beyond seventh grade we’ve gotten, feel jealous sometimes. And here’s the news flash: jealousy is a gift.
Jealousy is your gut’s way of telling ... Views: 1231
Kodi put his legs up and switched on the television. Checking out of his life by jumping into a hilarious reality show was just what the doctor ordered. Two minutes later Ciana sat by him and asked how he fared in his Engineering seminar.
“ It was fine.” Kodi replied to shut it down.
“ Did ... Views: 2474
Ever run into a situation where all of a sudden you're in a full-blown crisis—angry, perhaps yelling or doing or saying things that later you wished you hadn't? And then later find yourself in another situation, seemingly completely different, but with the same damaging outcome? The structured ... Views: 3186
In a relationship, anger can have destructive effects. A relationship expert especially a marriage counselor must look for effective techniques to deal with anger to help married couples to build and strengthen a caring, fulfilling and enduring relationship. Rage can have negative repercussions ... Views: 4371
Most people dread arguments, power struggles, and the silent treatment. Exploring and resolving differences are skills as important as the 3Rs and the skills least likely to be talked about. Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away. Instead , when we explore conflict, we paradoxically experience ... Views: 1549
Like many fields of therapy that deal with emotional problems, anger on the surface seems to be nothing more than an exasperated emotion. A person gets mad and we assume either he has anger management issues or there was something legitimate that elicited the response.
Even in people who have ... Views: 2218
Anger is a normal part of life. However, if it gets out of control, it can really damage your family, your work, the people around you, and your lifestyle. If you are easily irritated and get angry over minor problems, it is important to learn how to curb the excessive energy that this emotion ... Views: 6368
Conflict can be defined as “a perceived divergence of interest, or a belief that the parties’ current goals (needs) cannot be achieved simultaneously.” Does that mean conflict is a bad thing? Not necessarily! Conflict has many benefits. It produces change. It builds collaboration. And, it ... Views: 1240
A marriage may suffer from irreversible damage due to a regular existence of anger outbursts from a spouse. Having a limited knowledge on how to handle the situation can make coping with an angry spouse very difficult. Anger is hostility resulting from a variety of triggering behaviour and ... Views: 3858
We were given thought and emotions and while it's our choice whether we use them for positive or negative, why even have negative emotions? It is not realistic to say I don't get angry or frustrated anymore since I found the Law of Attraction. Even the best of us will have negative emotions ... Views: 3837
What to do when life throws you a curve ball:
Keep batting and don't give up. Learn to hit them right out into the stands and run all the bases for a home run. Hear the crowd go wild. Feel the glory inside that you didn't throw down your bat in defeat.
We are all pitched a few curve balls ... Views: 13702
Anger is only an emotion. It is witnessed in the best of us and the worst of us. Experiencing anger certainly does not make us lesser human-beings.
If it’s only a feeling-an emotion, why do we let it take control of our lives?
Good Question. The answer though is not that simple. Anger may be ... Views: 1530
We spend a major portion of our lives at work. No job comes with a stress-free tag. If we want to work we have to accept the stress, pressures and responsibilities associated with it. In simple words, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. The stress and pressure we face at work often gives ... Views: 4463
We are all emotional beings. We may experience emotions in varying levels of intensity but nobody can deny having emotions. Recognizing and understanding emotions is of paramount importance in our personal lives and interactions with others.
Emotional Intelligence is a relatively new concept in ... Views: 6479
Do you experience extreme feelings of frustration? Do you see red when something doesn’t go your way? Do you get aggressive and agitated easily? Well, if the answer is yes then you are a potential candidate for anger management classes.
Anger can manifest itself in numerous ways. Crimes of ... Views: 1202
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Overcoming Bipolar Disorder: Anger - by Mark S. Bauer, MD; Amy M. Kilbourne, Ph.D., MPH; Devra E. Greenwald, MPH; Evette J. Ludman, PH.D.; Linda McBride, MSN
Everyone experiences feelings of anger or irritability, but people with bipolar disorder are especially prone to these feelings and the adverse effects of anger. In fact, sudden feelings of anger or irritability are key symptoms of mania. Inappropriate anger attacks occur in up to 60 percent of ... Views: 30153
The Wolf You Feed the Most
(Excerpt from an upcoming book, The Wolf You Feed the Most, by Cindy Stone)
There is a most wonderful story originating with the First Nations that circulates in various forms in books (I referenced it in my first, The Incidental Guru; Lessons in Healing from a Dog), ... Views: 6432
“I am in torment, in suffering;--this sign of pain may be caused by frustration or resentment. The cause or reason of anger is usually deeply entrenched and may be due to unhappy and miserable childhood; a child not receiving adequate love during his most vulnerable formative years. Because of ... Views: 859