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- Ten Steps to Deal With An Impossible Ex: Help My Ex is Manipulating My Children - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2012 from sherrie campbellDealing with divorce is never easy. In fact it is probably amongst the most stressful and grueling experiences one can go through. When we get married we start off with a tremendous amount of hope and expectation. Intellectually we know it will take work but it is truly impossible to really ...
Views: 5891(2 votes) - Abuse: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years there has been an understanding that child abuse is very often passed from one generation to another. And as to how far back some of these cycles of abuse go is anyone's guess. It is then not surprising for one to be left confused and astounded, at how something so pernicious, ...
Views: 5888(1 vote) - Ritual Abuse - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2009 from Neil BrickRitual abuse exists all over the world. There have been reports, journal articles[1][2][3], web pages[4][5][6][7][8][9] and criminal convictions of crimes against children and adults [10][11][12]. Contents * 1 Definition * 2 Origins of the term * 3 Evidence * 4 ...
Views: 5882(7 votes) - Narcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor in 6 Steps - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Sam VakninNarcissistic Abuse: From Victim to Survivor in 6 Steps By Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" You have been abused, maltreated, harrassed, and stalked. You feel that you fell prey to a narcissist or psychopath. But, you must move on from victim to ...
Views: 5793 - How to Prevent a Broken Heart - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Greg BakerIt seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken ...
Views: 5696 - Heartbreak - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2010 from Margaret PaulCeline, an only child, was 7 years old, her mother died tragically in a car accident. She and her father were devastated. However, unlike so many of my clients who lost parents and no one was there for them, Celine's father was completely there for her, even while dealing with his own grief and ...
Views: 5603(4 votes) - "Humility Is Not Thinking Less About Yourself, But Rather Thinking About Yourself Less." - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2007 from Michael ZOh, how the ego rebels against the thought of humility. "If I'm humble, I'll be a nothing. I'll vanish! I must be distinguished, different, better than! Only by standing out will I have an identity," it screams. We in recovery have felt the stinging reprisals from our fellows when we listened to ...
Views: 5595 - Stop Being Abusive in Your Marriage and Be Assertive Instead - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2009 from Angie LewisHow can we stop being abusive with our spouse and be assertive instead? It’s easy once we learn a few simple communication techniques. When we are frustrated, disappointed, stressed, or angry what happens? We use our emotions in negative ways with our spouse. This causes a chain reaction and ...
Views: 5512 - Top 10 Ways to Stop Drinking Alcohol - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2011 from Mike MillerOften when people come to one of my alcohol awareness classes, they know that they need to stop drinking alcohol. But they don’t know exactly how they should stop. Here are some tips that you might find useful: 1. Don’t hang around people who are drinkers or who might tempt you to ...
Views: 5493(4 votes) - The Statistics on Child Abuse Are in and They Prove Success is Possible After Tough Times - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Adam ApplesonIt's 2009 and I recently saw a report on MSNBC about how the tough economic situation in the United States is contributing to a higher incidence of child abuse. You can find bad news all over the Internet. The statistics on child abuse show a little under a million children are victims of ...
Views: 5489 - “I Attract Abusers Like a Magnet” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2012 from Sam VakninMany victims of narcissists are firmly convinced that they have been "chosen" by their abusers because of their capacity to empathize, their innate sensitivity, compassion, and their ability to love and care. Indeed, these qualities tend to attract exploitative psychopathic predators who ...
Views: 5430(1 vote) - Understanding How You May Be Enabling Addiction in Someone You Care About - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Bill UrellThere are many people who suffer from addictions, and in some cases their loved ones actually enable the addiction because they want to help. Sure, you want to help the one you love to overcome addiction, but you definitely to not want to enable the addiction any further. Take a minute to think ...
Views: 5417 - Prayer for Peace of Mind Don’t Let the Devil Stop You! - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2012 from Kelly Ann EversPrayer for Peace of Mind Don’t Let the Devil Stop You! Regardless of the circumstances, regardless of the pressure, regardless of the delays, don’t let the devil stop your progress. You know God has spoken to you, His word has resounded in your mind over and over. You dream about it, you ...
Views: 5361(1 vote) - The Narcissist’s Relationship with Money - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" When the narcissist has money, he can exercise his sadistic urges freely and with little fear of repercussions. Money shields him from life itself, from the outcomes and consequences of his actions; it insulates him warmly ...
Views: 5188 - The Nurturer - Sabotager - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2007 from Jay KrunszyinskyYou love your partner very much. You want to please him at all costs. You will go out of your way to create the perfect life for him by reducing or eliminating all of his stress and pressures of life. What can be wrong with helping people and ensuring that peace and harmony exists wherever ...
Views: 5131 - Michael Jackson: The Lost Childhood - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2009 from Jim HagueNow deceased, Michael Jackson is more powerful than ever before. This story has made frontline news in all the world’s paper for 3 days straight now. No other news is seemingly is so captivating; not Jon and Kate, not US economic woes, not even the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. Michaels’ ...
Views: 5046(3 votes) - You Are Responsible For Who You Become - by You are not responsible for the background and circumstances that may have influenced who you are, but you are responsible for who you become.
As I have said before, “we need to learn from our mistakes.” Not only that, but we need to learn from others mistakes. All to often I hear people say, ...
Views: 4995 - Learn About Work Place Bully And Mobbing Today - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2007 from ABC AntiBullyingCrusadorVery few people in Connecticut are familiar with the terms “Work Place Bully and Mobbing” although according to the Workplace Bullying Institute’s - Zogby survey on workplace bullying, this problem is of epidemic proportions affecting 49% of workers nationally. Workplace bullying ...
Views: 4896 - Mom’s New Little Helper: Adderall - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2012 from Cheryl HinneburgGetting up early, going to bed late, playing coach, cook, housemaid, financial expert, chauffer, grocery shopper, appointment keeper, bath giver, homework helper, and nurse is just what moms are expected to do. These are mom’s roles and these don’t have any relation to what she does at work, her ...
Views: 4875(1 vote) - Therapy as Reparenting for Survivors of Childhood Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanWhen we are abused as children, we don’t get the protection and care that we deserve from our parents. We grow up not knowing what really good parenting is. My father was a charismatic character who had many good qualities, but also self-indulgent narcissistic ones that led him to abuse me ...
Views: 4844(1 vote) - Bob Dylan's nasal twang – how cocaine damages the septum - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Steven Thomson“Everybody must get stoned” – Bob Dylan, Rainy Day Women # 12 & 35 Bob Dylan is one of the most popular Western musicians of the 1960s, and has been a songwriter and performer for more than 50 years. He has more than thirty studio albums and 50 singles to his name, among them Blowin' in ...
Views: 4834(1 vote) - A Story of Forgiveness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Jason FreedmanArticle By: Jason Freedman Po. Box 496 Salt Lake City, UT 84110 JasonFreedmanjournalism@gmail.com The Tragedy to Triumph Story of Teal Scott It was a cold, gray March morning at Greenhouse Effect Coffee in south Salt Lake City. I had arrived early so as to set up my notes and ...
Views: 4790(2 votes) - Cold Empathy and Warm Empathy - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2012 from Sam VakninEmpathy is comprised of two components: I. Cold Empathy: an intersubjective agreement as to the mental content (especially emotions) of two or more human subjects; II. Warm Empathy: the emotional response to Cold Empathy. Cold Empathy is an act of taxonomy and an attempt to overcome the ...
Views: 4733(1 vote) - SIBLING ABUSE – Children Abusing Other Children - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossEven though there can be life long debilitating psychological effects, sibling abuse may be the most ignored - if not accepted - form of domestic (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional) abuse. Why is this kind of abuse ignored or minimized? There is a lot that is swept under the rug in the guise of ...
Views: 4690(3 votes) - Relationship Codependency: Everything You Need to Know - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2011 from Randi FineExcerpted from the April 21,2011 episode of my radio show, A Fine Time for Healing Roughly 100 million Americans suffer the effects of codependency today. Relationship codependency is often referred to as the “White Knight” syndrome, because the codependent tends to be a rescuer. ...
Views: 4579(1 vote) - *** How to Avoid the Top Relationship Dangers of Minimizing Harmful Behavior - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Dr. LeslieBeth (LB) Wish*Sylvia’s husband had a rule: If you can’t be home right after work, you had to call. When she rushed a co-worker to the hospital, in the confusion, Sylvia called about thirty minutes after she was due home. When she did phone home, he accused her of cheating on her and lying. The moment she ...
Views: 4569(1 vote) - Getting Past Emotional Pain - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAll of us have been emotionally hurt at one time or another—it doesn’t matter who and what you are, really. However, there are also people who seem so totally unreceptive to emotional pain. These are the type who doesn’t give a smack when someone tries to get close to them with a bit of an ...
Views: 4532(3 votes) - PARENTS WITH PERSONALITY DISORDERS Aka: Growing Up With Crazy - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Roni Weisberg-RossHow would you know if you were the only sane person in an insane asylum? Now imagine yourself as a child with no prior knowledge of what is sane or normal. How would a child know if they were a sane person in a family with disturbed parents? A significant part of the trauma of growing up ...
Views: 4487(1 vote) - Spiritual Healing Of Emotional Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2011 from Robert FritchieI have spent 29 years as a technical researcher facilitating healings on a variety of illnesses. In the beginning, my understanding of“energy” was strictly that taught in engineering school. There was no mention of energy associated with the human body. Those of us studying energy today view ...
Views: 4455(1 vote) - Coping With the‘Aftershocks’ During Narcissism Recovery - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2012 from Amy AdamThe aftershock of narcissistic abuse, once pulling away from a narcissistic relationship is a phenomenon that is very little understood. The logical consensus, when leaving a narcissistic partner, is because the abuse has finished, an individual should start recovering. This belief is in fact ...
Views: 4417(1 vote) - Mindfulness of Emotions - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2012 from Fariborz ArbasiSometimes emotions make the life difficult even make it unbearable for some people. On the other hand, the life without emotions is tasteless, because, emotions give us experience of pleasure. All addictions and most entertainments, communicates, projects, trainings, and therapies result from ...
Views: 4397(2 votes) - Signs of Emotional Abuse: Friend Or Foe? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2007 from Jeanne King, PhDDid you know the signs of emotional verbal abuse are your friends if you recognize them for what they are? An adult survivor of severe childhood abuse by her natural father plotted with her sister (also abused) to kill their parents in cold blood. The mother, who watched the children being ...
Views: 4390 - Mourning the Narcissist - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAt the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding ...
Views: 4387(1 vote) - Misinformation about Covert vs. Classic Narcissists - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Sam VakninContrary to misinformation spread by "experts" online, covert narcissists are not cunning and manipulative. Classic narcissists are: they often disguise their true nature effectively, knowingly, and intentionally. They are persistent actors with great thespian skills. Not so the covert ...
Views: 4382 - “FEAR IS THE ABSENCE OF LOVE” - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2011 from Donna TorbicoLOVE vs FEAR? Fear is an emotion caused by either outer danger or inner false beliefs • Like so many popular ‘spiritual’ saying there’s some truth in it but NOT the whole story, so people can get easily confused & also misuse it. • Generally, this statement means that if we have enough ...
Views: 4353(1 vote) - Holodynamics: Compassion meets physics - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2009 from Andrew ScheimI would like to share with you a very powerful form of consciousness work called Holodynamics. First a brief background on how I came to this work. In my practice I work with very challenged individuals. The patterns that cause illness on all levels are quite deep and usually clouded in ...
Views: 4344(3 votes) - Rape Victims: Deal with Guilt and Shame - Release Anger and Heal Pain through Personal Journaling - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2010 from Cindy L. HerbChild abuse stories, including those by victims of physical abuse, rape and sexual abuse, can be very compelling. Others are likely to be shocked when you tell them about your story of abuse. However, if you take an attitude of observation, instead of judgment, you too can write about your ...
Views: 4330(2 votes) - Do You Know Where To Buy A Crown For My Narcissistic Husband? - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2007 from Diane England,Have you ever wanted to walk into a store and ask that question? I know there were days when I felt I might as well acquiesce and place a crown on the top of my husband’s head. It was so frustrating. I had married expecting a partnership, not to become his subject. I wasn’t knowledgeable about ...
Views: 4320(1 vote) - The Psychopathic (Antisocial) Stalker - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Sam VakninStalking is a crime and stalkers are criminals. This simple truth is often ignored by mental health practitioners, by law enforcement agencies, and by the media. The horrid consequences of stalking are typically underestimated and stalkers are mocked as eccentric and lonely weirdoes. Yet, ...
Views: 4301 - Acceptance And Addiction Recovery - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from David CarrollThe anti-social nature of drug addiction results in a "Life-Style". The addict becomes out-of-synch with the social structure in which he must live. Addicts begin to associate only with other addicts or drug dealers and then transcend into the subculture of drug use. Paranoia triggered by ...
Views: 4283 - The Narcissist's Disabled and Challenged Children - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The narcissist regards his disabled or challenged child as an insult, a direct challenge to his self-perceived perfection and omnipotence, a constant, nagging source of negative narcissistic supply, and the reification and ...
Views: 4245 - What To Do When Someone Discloses Sexual Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsResearch * has shown that survivors of sexual abuse often feel support and understanding is missing when they disclose having been abused. Research has also shown that survivors who are not getting appropriate support when they disclose having been abused are more prone to develop post traumatic ...
Views: 4241 - The Narcissist's Conflicted Relationship with His Fans, Followers, and Admirers - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Sam VakninThe narcissist depends on his coterie for Narcissistic Supply. He resents this addictive dependence and himself for being so frail and impotent. It negates his self-delusional grandiose fantasy of omnipotence. To compensate for this shameful neediness, the narcissist holds his sycophantic ...
Views: 4219 - What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? Join Us For A *FREE LIVE* Telephone Interview | 8/16/2017 at 8PM CST - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownJoin Us For A Queen Adventures Signature Ladies Night ! Topic: A Date With Danger Are you single and dating? Do you think you could be in a relationship with a narcissist or married to one? Do you have a daughter or young woman in your life that you want to love and protect? If the ...
Views: 4183 - The Broken Spirit - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Biancia TateMy name is Biancia Tate and I am the founder of The Hope Network whose mission is to provide educational support, hope and healing to survivors of trauma and/or crisis. Within the Hope Network, I have created The Hope Center which is full of spiritual resources for those who have or are ...
Views: 4173 - A Definition of the Word Abuse - by Submitted on May 25, 2005 from Kerrith KingA Definition of the Word Abuse" is excerpted from The Spouse Abuse Tutorial located at . We begin with a definition of the word abuse. If you enter the word "abuse" in Google (the internet search engine) it brings up more than 20,000 references. What's interesting is that no two of the web ...
Views: 4121(1 vote) - ALICE MILLER EXCERPTED: Unrecognized and Unconscious Emotional Injuries of Childhood, Part II - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2010 from Carl H. Shubs, Ph.D.In Memoriam: Alice Miller (continued - see Part I for introduction) Alice Miller. For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence. New York: Farrar, Straus, Giroux. 1983. For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence continues ...
Views: 4067(1 vote) - Just P.U.S.H. (Pray Until Something Happens) - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Niama WilliamsPerhaps I push too often, push too hard, am too unyielding with myself. Perhaps it is that I always look for the fault within first, despite my judgmental nature. Perhaps it is that I am harshest with the woman I see too rarely in the mirror, preferring the representative green reflection of ...
Views: 4052 - How To Release Addictions And Bad Habits With Ease And Grace - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Bill AustinThese are practices that I do whenever I am trying to release a pattern that no longer serves my highest good. I am using smoking as an example but you can fill in any other habit instead of smoking like drinking, drugs and other addictive behaviors. It is easier to release old patterns and ways ...
Views: 4037(1 vote) - SEXUAL TRAUMA - Loving Your Abuser - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossRecognizing you are being abused is difficult when you love the person who is abusing you. This is true for both children and adults. The mind will go to great lengths to protect a person who cannot emotionally accept that they are being abused. The greater the abuse, the more elaborate the ...
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