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- Therapy as Reparenting for Survivors of Childhood Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanWhen we are abused as children, we don’t get the protection and care that we deserve from our parents. We grow up not knowing what really good parenting is. My father was a charismatic character who had many good qualities, but also self-indulgent narcissistic ones that led him to abuse me ...
Views: 4769(1 vote) - Healing From Abuse is Not the Same as Confrontation - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanA lot of survivors of sexual and physical abuse feel they need to confront someone about it. Face down the perpetrator and tell him (usually him) – tell him what? That what he did was wrong. That it was hurtful and did substantial harm. I imagine it could amazingly empowering to do that. ...
Views: 1582(3 votes) - Betrayal Trauma, By Jennifer Freyd--A Book Review - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanThis book answers vital questions about recovered memories of childhood sexual abuse. How can the huge betrayal of sexual abuse remain hidden in the back corners of someone’s psyche for years and years? Can we really believe a memory that was hidden so long? Betrayal Trauma ...
Views: 2145 - Growing Yourself Back Up, By John Lee--A Review - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanWhat’s great about this little book is that it identifies all kinds of situations where people spontaneously regress into childish behaviors. Maybe a guy in the car behind me at a red light blows his horn and nudges forward as soon as the light turns green. His behavior makes me feel ...
Views: 3686 - Inner Child and Inner Critic - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2007 from Jane RowanMost of us are pretty well acquainted with the inner critic, the one who says (to me), “Your writing stinks. You’re not good enough. You’re not a loving person. You don’t have enough friends.” That inner critic voice is usually installed early in life and can ...
Views: 1843 - The Inner Child And Spirituality - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2007 from Jane RowanWhen I read spiritual guidebooks, mostly based on Buddhism, the same objections arise in me every time. They ask us to “move beyond personal story” and to let go of old hurts. Well, I sure want to wriggle free of the stickiness of the old stuff, but I have to work a lot with it ...
Views: 1833 - Incest and the Inner Child - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2007 from Jane RowanWhen a child growing up is traumatized by incest, usually he or she is forced to hide the trauma and “act normal.” The wounded part gets split off so the pain and shame can become secret, even to the child herself. Sometimes actual memories of abuse are suppressed or lost, while ...
Views: 2023 - Creativity and the Inner Child - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2007 from Jane RowanGetting in touch with your inner child is a process. There are both terrible and wonderful things that the child needs to tell us about childhood feelings. Much of what the child needs to tell us is buried in the unconscious. We were scolded or told to “forget it!” Our needs and ...
Views: 1560 - Creativity and the Inner Child - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2006 from Jane RowanGetting in touch with the inner child is a process. There are both terrible and wonderful things that the child needs to tell us about childhood feelings. Much of what the child needs to tell us is buried in the unconscious. We were scolded or told to “forget it!” Our needs and hurts were ...
Views: 1417 - Recovered memories of childhood abuse - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2006 from Jane RowanWhy are memories of abuse so often hidden? This is a really hard question for people in recovery from abuse, for therapists, and for researchers. In my case, I didn’t recognize one of my early childhood memories as a memory of abuse until I was in my fifties. Then physical memories started to ...
Views: 1618 - Soothing Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Jane RowanGetting in touch with our inner children is not always easy. At first it might seem that they just want to cry and cry. That’s natural. The parts of us that were split off at a young age had to go away for good reasons—abuse, fear, neglect, misunderstanding. These young parts were not ...
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