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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: Do I surprise her with a gift? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I know I feel strongly about a certain someone. Do I surprise her with a gift or e-mail her with my recent feelings through a tough time? Dear Reader: It sounds like you're way ahead of yourself and her. I think a gift would be completely out of line at this point. If she's ...
Views: 948(1 vote) - Guide on How to Send Get Well Flowers - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2019 from M Nasir AzizIf you are going to visit a sick friend, it will be kind to bring along a bouquet of flower. Even though you cannot stay by your friend's side, your friend's spirit can be cheered up when he sees the flower. Putting a plant in the hospital room can also make the air fresher and healthier for the ...
Views: 910 - How to build rock steady relationship! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Vishwas Healing CentreRelationships have often been compared to babies who need nursing and care to slowly mature into an embodiment with character and nature. It is on you and your partner to make your relationship grow and take the necessary steps in the right direction for spending a lifetime of bliss in each ...
Views: 991 - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it more important to be balanced or compatible? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:What is more important in a relationship: being balanced or compatible? Dear Reader: Compatibility trumps balance, but balance may be an important component of compatibility. Compatibility means having similar core values, living together well and comfortably, and ...
Views: 950(1 vote) - How to Tell if Your Husband’s Online Emotional Affair is Over - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2019 from C Mellie SmithOnline affairs have become one of the most common forms of emotional affairs, and they have caused many couples to break up. The signs of an online affair can be difficult to detect, but there are subtle clues that something is not OK. Chances are, you’ve noticed that your husband ...
Views: 1429 - See Kindness As Your Inoculation Against Anger - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2018 from Kare AndersonWhatever behavior we praise we encourage to flourish in others – especially when they are around us. Whatever we criticize or “simply” snub goes deeper into their consciousness however. Hint: Speak to their positive intent, especially when it appears they may have none. That may be the best way ...
Views: 1234 - Dear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Is it possible to love someone without ever dating them? If so, how can you tell that you are in love? Dear Reader: Yes, it's possible to fall in love without dating. For example, if you have a close friend, classmate, work associate, neighbor or friend of a friend ...
Views: 1141(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I had to pay for everything - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance: I recently met a divorced Russian woman with her teenage old son while on vacation, we spent a lot of time together. I enjoyed their company very much. We keep seeing each other and I recently spent 4 days at her lavish home in the United States. I was really suprised to see ...
Views: 1055(1 vote) - 3 Ways to Deal With Post Affair Anger Before it Takes a Toll On You - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen you find your spouse has had an affair, your first reaction is likely to be a nearly uncontrollable anger and a strong urge to get away. Giving up and splitting up may seem to be the most logical and easiest method of dealing with infidelity. However, it's important to remember that you ...
Views: 1177 - 7 QUANTUM LEAP STRATEGIES FOR REVOLUTIONARY RELATIONSHIPS - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2018 from James MapesLove is the medicine for the sickness of mankind. We can live if we have love. —DR. KARL MENNINGER, American psychiatrist Think about the books and poetry you have read, and the movies and television programs you have seen. What force is almost always at work? It’s the struggle to ...
Views: 1208 - Recovering From Relationship Codependency - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineRecovering From Relationship Codependency (Codependency Part Two) written by Randi G. Fine Originally published on Life As A Human Codependency is an emotional disorder that begins forming in childhood, but it does not reveal itself until a person starts having adult ...
Views: 1515 - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
Views: 1628 - How to Spot a Narcissist on the Prowl - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineRecognizing the Red Flags Article Written by Randi G. Fine Author of Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery Narcissists are everywhere. These predators covertly walk among us in droves. Adept at changing their personalities in ...
Views: 1405 - How to avoid online dating scam - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2018 from Mohimenul IslamNowadays, online dating scam is very common. Among thousands of dating sites, only a few sites offer quality dating and the rest of the sites are used to scam. If you are on those sites or if you want to visit a site for dating then you are at risk. You need to know how to avoid these dating ...
Views: 990 - Dear Dr Romance: Should I date my girlfriend's best friend? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. and me and the ...
Views: 1191(1 vote) - Divorced and dreading the holidays? Here's what to do. - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2018 from Martha BodyfeltWell, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and ...
Views: 1289 - 13 Spiritual Hacks to Strengthen Your Relationship Part II - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Scott & Stephen PetulloIt’s normal for all relationships to have low and high points. Open and honest communication can help you get back on track. But if that hasn’t helped, we have some unique options for you. It’s best to try these suggestions together, but it’s ok if that’s not possible; changing your ...
Views: 1066 - Relationships: Can Someone Have Affairs When They Have A Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a relationship that they no longer want to be in, it might not be long until it comes to an end. Perhaps they have been together for a number of months, or they may have been with each other for a number of years. Yet, regardless of the amount of time that they have been ...
Views: 1257 - The Number One Article on Relationship Advice - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Imtiaz AhmedWhat About Relationship Advice? No matter where else your advice comes from, you will be the one who must live with your decisions for the remainder of your life, so be certain they make sense to you. Not only are you going to get some super-great advice, but you will also gain a great deal of ...
Views: 1009(1 vote) - BEWARE OF THE DARK TRIAD - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Darlene LancerThink of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it! The traits of all three often overlap and create personality profiles that are damaging and toxic, especially when it comes to intimate relationships, where we let our ...
Views: 1461(2 votes) - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Keep Ending Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had just bought a car, there is a strong chance that they would have taken it for a test drive first. This would have given them the opportunity to find out what it is like and to see if it would be a good match for them. Along with this, they would have most likely asked a number ...
Views: 983 - Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance says: I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Recently, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; ...
Views: 1135(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Do I tell him I can't be his friend or let silence speak for itself? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in need of some serious advice, and I hope you can help. I've been in an extremely long distance relationship with someone for the past year and a half off and on. I live in the US, he lives in Central America. I am 6 years older than he is. I'm ...
Views: 1034(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: My sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow' - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost the use of his left ...
Views: 930(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: Why does he want a relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, ...
Views: 1061(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't find a way to talk to him - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: K so there is a guy in one of my classes that I kinda like but he doesn't know me. I can't find a way to talk to him cause I can't ask him to help me with a question cause he is in front and it would look obvious asking him when there are so many smart people around me. We are ...
Views: 876(1 vote) - How do I control my anger and stop arguing with my wife? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2019 from Dada BhagwanTo solve any problem, if we were to stop the cause of the problem, we’ll get rid of the problem. Likewise, for anger too, if we understand the cause of anger i.e. why do we get angry, we will be able to get rid of our anger. So what are the common reasons that cause anger? 1.Things do not ...
Views: 714 - 8 Signs You Need Marriage Counseling - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2018 from Susan BakerHas your marriage changed? Do you feel like there is something missing? Perhaps you find yourself sometimes longing for the days when you were both happy and in love. We often think of marriage counseling as a last resort?-?when things are so bad that divorce is the next best solution. Many ...
Views: 1078 - Relationships: Do Some People Shut Down Emotionally After A Breakup? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause someone to experience incredible pain, and a breakup is one of those things. When someone experiences a break up, it can feel as though their whole has come to end. It won’t matter if they had been with the other person for matter of months or ...
Views: 2121 - Emotional Dumping: What Is Emotional Dumping? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments in everyone’s life when things are not running smoothly, with this being a time when they may need someone to open up to. If they were to reach out to someone, they could just go over what has been going on. After this has taken place, one could soon direct ...
Views: 3632 - A Surprising Reason for Conflict in Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Geoff LaughtonI bet you haven’t even thought about this reason for relationship conflict! I remember learning this theory 25 years ago, and it’s still not really “out there” in the mainstream. So many of us have stuff we haven’t worked through or resolved. As a result, we may feel let down and reactive ...
Views: 801 - Discovering & Uncovering Men’s Emotional Pain in a Healthy Way - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Geoff LaughtonToday’s blog is about pain and the prescription for it, all rolled into one! First, let’s talk about the pain. I hear all kinds of complaints about men from women. I hear frustration, genuine concern and fears that mostly centre around the fact that they don’t feel they’re getting what they ...
Views: 1862 - TAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS TO THE NEXT LEVEL - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Guy FinleyWhen a person wants to reach the next level in their life, when they want to understand the truths -- the principles that actually produce in them a new kind of freedom -- they have to know where to look for it. From micro to macro, you can discover that the whole universe is based on cycles ...
Views: 1190 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Attract People Who Are Emotionally Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for two people to have a relationship together, they will both need to be able to behave like interdependent adults. The reason for this is that if only one of them acts like an interdependent adult, it will stop this from taking place. Instead, what will happen is that one of them ...
Views: 1057 - What You Can do to Fix Your Marriage After an Emotional Affair - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2018 from C Mellie SmithAn emotional affair can be just as painful and hurtful as a physical affair. In some cases, emotional affairs are much more destructive. When your spouse makes a strong connection with someone else, it breaks trust and crumbles the foundation of your marriage. All is not lost. An ...
Views: 1195 - Relationships: Can Someone's Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that can cause a relationship to come to an end, and some of these things receive more exposure in the public eye than others. For example, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who had an abusive partner and how this caused their relationship to come to an end. ...
Views: 1075 - Relationships: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Cause Someone To Let Anyone Into Their Life? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that it wouldn’t be a good idea for someone to put anything into their mouth; it also wouldn’t be a good idea for them to open themselves up to anyone. Therefore, the level of discernment that they show when it comes to the former will need to be shown when it comes to the ...
Views: 933 - HOW TO CREATE MEMORABLE TIMES - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Emma ViglucciWhy do couples struggle enjoying downtime and having fun together? As we know, opposites attract. This phenomenon is also found in couples which means that usually partners have opposite personalities, needs, wishes and preferences – including what they consider relaxing, enjoyable and fun. This ...
Views: 839 - GIVING TO YOURSELF FOR ULTIMATE SUCCESS - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Emma ViglucciI know not everybody enjoys and thrives during the holidays. Most actually don’t and struggle. I’m sorry if this is you. Tackling our Holiday and Year-End Process™ (HYP) might help… I know that our clients that fully embrace this process fare much better than those that don’t when the new year ...
Views: 833 - Dear Dr. Romance: she slapped my face and departed - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I recently moved here from the British Isles. I discovered your Dr. Romance blog and thought you might have some good insight on an experience I had involving an American woman's image of her body. I met a really attractive and intelligent woman at a ...
Views: 1061(1 vote) - Relationships: Can Shame Stop Someone From Reaching Out To Others? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can’t be denied is that no one is their own island; human beings need each other. This is why it has been said that although some people say that they are independent, this is nothing more than an illusion. Therefore, while it might be hard for them to accept it, it doesn’t change the ...
Views: 1051 - 8 Questions to Ask Before Starting Couples Counseling - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2018 from C Mellie SmithWhen a partner in a marriage has been unfaithful, it may seem that there is no choice but to dissolve the marriage; however, couples counseling may provide another alternative. A skilled couple’s counselor may be able to help both partners see how the marriage got off course and help them ...
Views: 1183 - Dear Dr. Romance: I feel almost embarrassed about being a virgin at my age - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I came across your blog while searching the internet for help for women In dysfunctional relationships. . Your language and spiritual, yet non judgmental approach really resonated with me. I am an ethnically mixed woman in my thirties. My parents ...
Views: 1079(1 vote) - GIVING, MEANING AND SUCCESS - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Emma ViglucciGiving in whatever manner tickles our heart is a significant path to feeling happiness. Our Giving doesn’t just touch others’ hearts and maybe even meet their needs with our gestures. Our Giving is also good for us. The act of giving and being generous stimulates the same neural network that ...
Views: 896 - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance; I read your article "Age Differences in Dating" I am dating a man who is 22 yrs, younger than myself. He appeared older and I appeared younger to him. Now I'm afraid the age difference means our relationship won't work. Would you be ...
Views: 942(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure what the dating customs of this country are - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look ...
Views: 1019(1 vote) - Dr. Romance: "Don't Call Your Ex!" - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDr. Romance "Don't Call Your Ex" Dr. Romance’s How to handle being dumped DO put it in perspective If you're dumped, it hurts, but count your lucky stars. You don’t have a relationship if the other person's not really interested. DO understand that there were problems already ...
Views: 2030(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I'm just wondering what I can do for him to like me - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr.Romance: i wear make up skinny jeans hollister shirts cardigans uggs and converse or just boots I love to act sing dance I'm a gr8t actress I'm always working out love to run I'm smart funny short brown hair sometimes jewlery now I have a crush on someone I always talk to him we ...
Views: 905(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Only Feel Good About Themselves When They're In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may find is that they are able to feel good themselves, even if they are not in a relationship. It will then be clear that they are not going to be dependent on anyone else in order to experience positive feelings. Being this way is most likely going to stop them from starting a ...
Views: 907 - Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2018 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'm in my first year of high school, but I have no experience in relationships. I'm in contact with a friend who is a year younger than me, and I recently realized I have feelings for her. She's funny and playful, and I just can't help myself. What's your advice ...
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