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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- DOMESTICITY IS KILLING YOUR RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciPartners look at what they contribute to their joint life as what they contribute to their relationship. These things usually include earnings and taking care of the family and home. But, what would you say you contribute to the relationship if you couldn’t include these? How do you invest in ...
Views: 895 - WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS SELFISH… - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciWhat makes your relationship special? What is it about your relationship that makes you happy? What do you appreciate the most about your partner’s essence? How does your partner’s essence enrich your life? I find that partners tend to forget what’s at the core of themselves and their ...
Views: 1047 - IS YOUR PARTNER ALWAYS LATE? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI have found that most relationship issues can be boiled down to taking personal responsibility and setting effective boundaries… This includes showing-up to our interactions appropriately by being intentional, mindful and compassionate. It doesn’t do anybody any good to show-up by ramming ...
Views: 848 - REPETITION IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS EVEN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciHow do we create a masterpiece life? How do create an awesome relationship? The answer is quite simple, we change (grow, heal, step it up a notch, etc)… How do we change? We change by taking action on new information (or old information if you sat on your a** with it thus far)… Insight, ...
Views: 819 - IS THE DANCE OF CONNECTION & DISCONNECTION DRIVING YOU INSANE? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI’m a therapist… I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I’m a Certified Imago Therapist (additional training in doing couples work). Hence, I specialize in working with couples. I’m often asked what’s my niche, what’s my thing… I specialize in working with codependent couples (partners ...
Views: 823 - IS LACK OF TRUST AFFECTING YOUR RELATIONSHIP? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIs lack of trust undermining your connection with your partner and wrecking havoc in your relationship? Lack of trust might extend to beliefs that your partner is cheating. Or it can be as simple as not trusting your partner to be there, follow through, keep their word, be accountable, get your ...
Views: 889 - GET CRANKING CHANGING YOUR RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI’m familiar with relationship struggles. I’ve had my share, obviously I’m not exempt, and this is what I work with day-in and day-out. I’m pretty intimate with the nuances of what troubles partners and what gets them stuck. For reasons that are beyond the scope of this article, I love working ...
Views: 794 - GET YOUR SWAG ON AND DAZZLE YOUR PARTNER - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciRomance is not just for Valentine’s Day! Romance adds spice, texture and color to life. Unfortunately, most of us don’t utilize this much in our life and relationship. We get too comfortable and busy… This is probably one of the hardest muscle to exercise unless you are in the dating world, and ...
Views: 787 - OUT OF THE SLUMP THIS VALENTINE’S! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt is not uncommon for partners to feel bored, stale, empty, disconnected and cranky. When this is not attended to it festers and creates more difficulties in the relationship. Partner’s start to wonder about the solidity of the relationship, their commitment to it and how much they want to ...
Views: 687 - SPRINKLE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH SEXINESS AND FUN THIS VALENTINE’S! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI have written in the past about the importance of having fun in our relationship. Fun equals Life! There are all kinds of fun that can be had with our partner. The trick is to figure out how as couples seem to lose this knowledge as the relationship progresses… Couples have a tendency to ...
Views: 707 - IT’S TIME FOR LOVE! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt’s amazing how many partners know their partner loves them, but they still don’t feel loved… This is actually kind of an epidemic… Couples struggle because they get stuck in power struggles. They let their Ego get in the way. They approach their situation from a reactive and self-preservation ...
Views: 695 - IT’S TIME FOR ROMANCE! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI think romance is underrated… I hear couples express they want romance and to be romanced, but they state it with a sense of shame, wishful thinking and as an unattainable outcome. They off-handedly claim their wish in the same sentence that dismisses it with the practicality of everyday life. ...
Views: 729 - IT’S TIME FOR PASSION! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIn my recent reading I have come across a piece of writing that has made me think of sexuality and physical intimacy from a different angle. I love when that happens! Give me material that sparks my creative juices and that I can integrate into my work for greater impact, and I’m a very happy ...
Views: 700 - THE SECRET TO CREATING YOUR AWESOME RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciTo succeed at anything a real commitment to do whatever it takes is needed… We all know of the “self made man”. People who grew up with nothing and are now multi-millionaires. We might be friends with them. We might be one of them. The same principles apply in Relationships! I have seen couples ...
Views: 673 - WALTZ INTO THE NEW YEAR - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciOk, so you’ve been together for a long time, or maybe not so long, and are feeling time just passing you by and your relationship not moving or progressing with it. You find that you still have a lot of the same issues, unresolved concerns, repeating arguments, don’t feel connected, are ...
Views: 763 - CHOOSE INTENTIONS OVER RESOLUTIONS… - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciWe are what we think. We create what we think. What we resist persists. What we focus on expands. We are super powerful creating creatures… Our mind is a honing device for creating, a GPS for getting places… We create what we think whether intentionally or not. Left to its own ...
Views: 680 - A HOLIDAY GIFT FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciHere is a collection of resources for the Season! Enjoy!! Newsletters: Peacefulness, Abundance and Giving Don’t Just Survive the Holiday Season Books: On Personal Success, Motivation and Goal Achieving Happy Holidays!! ~ Your MetroRelationship™ Assignment Have a discussion ...
Views: 798 - DON’T JUST SURVIVE THE HOLIDAY SEASON - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThe Holiday season is taxing. It is difficult to incorporate all the demands of the Holidays into our already jammed packed calendar: all those parties, the shopping, decorating, cooking and just all the extra details. And it is even harder when we are emotionally and physically exhausted. This ...
Views: 709 - ‘TIS THE SEASON OF RECEIVING! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThat’s right. It is not easy to Receive. Some of you might question this statement and might be thinking: “Hey, bring on that diamond necklace or that new set of golf clubs!” – but just sit with it and see how it does make sense… As always, as presented by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly ...
Views: 633 - ‘TIS THE SEASON OF RECEIVING! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThat’s right. It is not easy to Receive. Some of you might question this statement and might be thinking: “Hey, bring on that diamond necklace or that new set of golf clubs!” – but just sit with it and see how it does make sense… As always, as presented by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly ...
Views: 468 - RECEIVE THE GREAT THINGS FALLING OUT OF THE SKY… - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt never ceases to amaze me that what we believe and think we create… I recently had the pleasure of connecting with a fabulous person who shared, “I started having the Good Things falling out of the sky…” What a lovely, powerful and faithful statement! I want this for you. I want you to have a ...
Views: 621 - GET MORE THAN PRESENTS THIS HOLIDAY - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThe Holidays do all kinds of things to people. They provide a year-in-review, showcase our progress and success, spotlight our communion and belongingness, highlight our relationship dynamics, and nudge our very Soul for wakefulness. Add to this all the demands, expectations and hassle and ...
Views: 669 - APPRECIATION, GRATEFULNESS AND THANKSGIVING - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciBrain science is a fabulous field – it provides answers to some of life mysteries! There are so many new advances and discoveries being made that we are beginning to get a better understanding of what we are capable and of our potential as cognizant beings. My readings and research consistently ...
Views: 735 - THANKFUL FOR BLESSINGS IN DISGUISE - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt saddens me to witness people’s struggles, to watch them get in their own way, to drown in a glass of water, to miss the bigger picture. Maybe this is compassion for my Self as I can certainly be in that place… This is one of the lessons I’m still learning. This is part of my Journey. In its ...
Views: 694 - THE SECRET TO YOUR AWESOME RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciHave you ever stopped to think about what your ideal relationship with your partner would look like? If you had your dream relationship today, with your partner, what would be different? Think about this from the stand point of how you would feel differently, what you would be doing differently, ...
Views: 705 - DO YOU HAVE RELATIONSHIP GRAVY? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciDoes your partner support you, romance you, engage you, enliven you, energize you, seduce you? Is your partner there? When couples are not on the same page, they tend to drift apart. They fight a lot, don’t feel each other, and don’t get their needs met. Partners appear invisible or have a ...
Views: 777 - DOING IT YOUR PARTNER’S WAY - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI learned to listen to my husband’s wishes. This might sound simple and easy to do, and even a given, right? But it’s not. It’s common for partners to give and do for each other what they’d like for themselves. Just this week I was talking with a client who does not like to make a fuss over her ...
Views: 648 - RSVP WITH A RESOUNDING YES! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciWe are asked and begged to be Mindful by our partner. More often than not we hear their plea as a complaint or criticism. We do not recognize their cry for connection and love. This is because they might not have the language or know how to ask us to be in connection with them. They might ...
Views: 722 - I MADE TIME TRAVEL POSSIBLE! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciThe only Time that exists is Now which encompasses our past and future as we understand them. I’ll spare you the physics lesson, but suffice it to say that at any moment in time we create our own reality and have access to all the information we need… I’ve created a powerful tool, Imagine ...
Views: 785 - KILL THE INERTIA, START MOVING FORWARD - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciDo you find that your relationship and life appear to be on pause? Do you feel like you’ve been in a hamster’s wheel? Does it feel like you are always back to square one, like you can’t get ahead, like life is passing you by? Does it feel like your relationship is not going anywhere? This is a ...
Views: 659 - BECOME ALMIGHTY - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciWe are extremely powerful creatures created in God’s semblance. As we are all universally interconnected as energy and matter in the physical universe, we are omnipresent (present everywhere), omniscient (all knowing), omnipotent (all powerful) and we are Love itself. Now that is ...
Views: 812 - ARE YOU USING YOUR THREE MINDS? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI can tell my couples how to do things till I’m blue in the face, but unless we play deeper change is not possible… I find that we have a tendency to look for immediate gratification, the quick fix, the easy way out, and the shortest path to the Promised Land. If this approach worked we would ...
Views: 821 - SPRING CLEAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciEven the most healthy, satisfying and rewarding relationship has stuff that gets on our nerves. As nobody is perfect, the way we are in relationship with our partner and what we put in our in-between (the space between the two partners that represents the relationship) is also less than perfect. ...
Views: 639 - DISTANCE FROM YOUR PARTNER! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciWhen we are really frustrated at our partner and become crazy in our interaction with them, in real life or in our mind…, we lose sight of our Self, our partner and our relationship. We instead get mired in a sea of reactivity, and therefore pain. We are not doing anyone any good by getting to ...
Views: 680 - 7 WAYS OF BUILDING MORE FUN INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciHaving fun in our relationship is paramount to its survival. Relationships are challenging. We have to integrate two completely different lives, usually with different gender, brains and biology, upbringing, histories, ethnicity, religion, worldviews, expectations, and many others, to create a ...
Views: 745 - IS YOUR PARTNER YOUR PROPERTY? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciPartners expecting too much or too little from each other is a sign of a dynamic in disarray. When partners have expectations that are beyond what their partner is capable or willing to do, it is usually because they think they know best. They think they know what their partner should be ...
Views: 667 - SERVICE STARTS AT HOME… - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciRight about now is when the end of year crunch and stress of holiday planning starts to creep in. People fall into all kinds of categories in terms of how they do the holidays. But whether they actively plan and try to dot all their “i”s and cross all their “t”s or by just wing it nonchalantly, ...
Views: 663 - FLEXIBILITY ENABLES CONNECTION - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt is a wonder that couples figure out how to get along and create a joint life together. Partners usually experience love, attention, intimacy, communication, conflict, money, holidays, time, space, and everything else differently. They bring to their experience their history, upbringing, ...
Views: 643 - PEACEFULNESS, ABUNDANCE AND GIVING - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI hear how every year appears to go quicker and faster for some as their lives get busier and more complicated in their attempt to keep up with the pace of our ever moving society. This is a challenging pull to evade fraught with consequences for the relationship. We become distracted from our ...
Views: 642 - SUSTENANCE FOR A THRIVING RELATIONSHIP - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciWhen partners create tunnel vision in their lives focusing all their energies on certain endeavors, they tend to loose sight of their partner and the relationship. These are the partners who feel disconnected and end up dissatisfied in their relationship. A relationship can’t survive, never ...
Views: 636 - ARE YOU ON YOUR PARTNER’S PRIORITY LIST? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciAs with busyness comes neglect of things we care about, our partner is usually one of the first to go. This is very unfortunate as most would say that the relationship with their partner is one of the things they care about most in life. But, still they usually come in last on the priority list. ...
Views: 797 - DO YOU FULLY OWN YOUR SELF? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciYou have a loooong to-do list. You have others to attend to. You have projects on the burners. You are busy, you juggle, you push to the limit to get to it all.You might be sleep deprived. Sometimes you might forget to eat, even though you generally go for nutritious and clean food. Heck, you ...
Views: 754 - PERCEPTION, MOOD & CONNECTION - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciOur mood is impacted by many variables in our lives if we let it. Our hectic lifestyles, poor self care, habits, emotional problems, the weight of our history, etc. can all have a huge impact on how we feel and therefore how available we are in our relationship(s). But how we feel can also be ...
Views: 669 - TAKE RISKS, GET RESULTS! - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciDo you find that hard as you try you seem to be stuck in the same place? That it seems like you’ve tried it all, work hard at it, are pooped and yet nothing is different? Unfortunately, this is the story of most partners, the ones that give a hoot anyway. The rest have resigned themselves to ...
Views: 688 - PARTNER SELFISHNESS - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciA lot of times we experience our partner as selfish. They might seem self-indulgent, inconsiderate, self-absorbed, thoughtless, demanding, and unsupportive. They might be passive-aggressive and underminding. It appears that everything is about them and for them. It is draining to be in ...
Views: 723 - ARE YOU ABANDONED OR SMOTHERED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciCouples get stuck in how they relate in their relationship and no matter how they try to get unstuck, to meet their needs and to create a satisfying relationship, they just get more and more buried in dissatisfaction. The negative cycle of relating, their stuckedness, is created because ...
Views: 876 - HOW TO GET TO THE BEST FROM YOUR PARTNER - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt never ceases to amaze me what couples can accomplish and how they are able to turn their relationship around when they set their mind to it! I have literally seen miracles happen… I have seen couples come back from real horrible places. It is a formidable phenomenon to witness. I have, ...
Views: 705 - THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE… - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciAs I’ve written before, one of the reasons some couples’ relationships deteriorate over time is because the partners get lured by life away from their partner… Partners work hard at their jobs and become involved in their careers, children absorb much of their attention and a multitude of ...
Views: 709 - A Letter of Disclosure to My Future Partner - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Amy JonesDear Future Partner, There are some things you should know about me right now before we get involved. It’s only fair to apprise you of the situation and so I am coming to you with full disclosure; requesting that you read ALL the fine print listed below to ensure you are aware of what I am. ...
Views: 1046 - NEW HABITS, ROUTINES AND MOTIVATION - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI LOVE this time of year to set myself up for an amazing new one. Everything I walked you through in the past few blogs, all captured here: How to Waltz into the New Year, I do myself. I’m so excited for the new habits I’m integrating this year like Morning Pages (concept from The Artist’s Way) ...
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