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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Dear Dr. Romance: I need something to break the ice! - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance:What to say in this situation? OK so there's this girl in my art class that i really want to talk to and get to know! Problem is she sits at a different table then me and i just plain don't know what to say to her! I'm a senior and she's a sophomore! What should I say ...
Views: 886(1 vote) - How To Get Romance Back In Your Marriage: How To Get Spark Back In Your Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackHow To Get Romance Back In Your Marriage: How To Get Spark Back In Your Marriage Marriage is a happy thing if you and your partner know how to take care of it. As years go by, you will most likely be dealing with the battle of avoiding routine, too much familiarity and staleness. Indeed, it ...
Views: 856 - Married Couples Sleep In Separate Beds: Married but Living In Separate Rooms - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMarried Couples Sleep In Separate Beds: Married but Living In Separate Rooms Recent studies show that more and more couples are sleeping in separate beds, and even in separate bedrooms. Numerous reports claim that 1 in 4 couples have taken up this habit and the National Association of ...
Views: 1092 - Friends Of The Opposite Gender While Married: Inappropriate Friendships When Married - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackFriends Of The Opposite Gender While Married: Inappropriate Friendships When Married Why do we have best friends? Mainly because they satisfy a need. Even after getting married we need our close friends. A friend of the same sex may serve as a sounding board, a counselor and a ...
Views: 1759 - How to organize the most romantic Valentine - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2019 from Maria DianaEach year, February 14 is a date marked on the calendar of people who have a partner. And when Valentine's Day arrives, it should not catch us off guard. Although it is true that love must be shown to your partner every day, on this particular day, you can dedicate to surprise your partner ...
Views: 973 - Creating Harmony and Balance in your Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2019 from Kimberly RexIn relationship, the energy that passes between you and another person relies on the harmony and balance within you. This directly affects the level of energy and reserve you have for experiencing connection, motivation and shared values while taking care of your own life energy. Any ...
Views: 1023 - My Husband Said I Was A Mistake: What Should You Do If Your Spouse Says Your Marriage Was A Mistake - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Said I Was A Mistake: What Should You Do If Your Spouse Says Your Marriage Was A Mistake In case your spouse has proceeded to start legal proceedings to end the marriage, there is very little you can do about it, but in case you still have time to make your marriage take a positive ...
Views: 2033 - My Husband Wants Me Out Of His Life: My Husband Is Telling Me He No Longer Wants To Be Married - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Wants Me Out Of His Life: My Husband Is Telling Me He No Longer Wants To Be Married There are two ways you can look at an unhappy marriage. The pessimistic way to look at it is to believe that the situation is beyond redemption and irretrievable. Any attempt to save your marriage ...
Views: 1357 - My Husband Is Not The Man I Married: Husband Is Not Same Man I Married - He's Not Man I Married - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Is Not The Man I Married: Husband Is Not Same Man I Married - He's Not Man I Married Knowing how to understand men is one important thing that we, women, have to keep in mind in having relationships with our boyfriends or husbands. We sometimes think of not being understood in the ...
Views: 902 - My Husband Filed For Divorce I Want Him Back: What Things Can A Wife Do To Change Her Husband's Mind About A Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Filed For Divorce I Want Him Back: What Things Can A Wife Do To Change Her Husband's Mind About A Divorce The marriage crisis in your life is more than just the crisis in your own marriage. If you were on a cruise and the ship began to sink so that everyone had to jump off, part of ...
Views: 1081 - Dealing With Marriage Separation Pain: How To Cope With Separation From Your Husband - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackDealing With Marriage Separation Pain: How To Cope With Separation From Your Husband Today, I felt inspired to write about loneliness. Loneliness is a truly difficult emotion to deal with; it can arise unexpectedly and hit you really hard, slowly creep up on you and linger for months or years ...
Views: 1427 - My Husband and I Have Grown Apart: Husband Won't Commit To Saving Your Marriage - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband and I Have Grown Apart: Husband Won't Commit To Saving Your Marriage Most married couples are blissfully unaware of which way their marriage is heading. They tend to look at marriage optimistically but it could so happen that things keep on brewing for a long time and the marriage ...
Views: 904 - My Husband Won't Talk To Me After A Fight: After An Argument Comes Silent Treatment - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Wont Talk To Me After A Fight: After An Argument Comes Silent Treatment While conflict in marriage is inevitable, fighting is optional. The secret is in how you approach and handle the conflict. It can make the difference between a really great relationship and a breakup looking ...
Views: 2456 - Loveless Marriage With Children: Saving A Marriage With Children - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackLoveless Marriage With Children: Saving A Marriage With Children Are you wondering whether or you should be staying in a loveless marriage? If you are it's because it's an extremely tough position to be in and you have every right to be questioning whether or not it's the best thing for ...
Views: 814 - My Husband Doesn't Listen To Me When I Talk: How To Deal With Silent Treatment From Your Husband - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Doesn't Listen To Me When I Talk: How To Deal With Silent Treatment From Your Husband Does your husband sulk and "go into his cave" when you have a disagreement? How do you handle this behavior? Do you freak out and try to get him to talk to you? Do you decide to ignore him too? ...
Views: 890 - Newlyweds Fighting All The Time: Marriage Tips For Newlyweds - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackNewlyweds Fighting All Time: Marriage Tips For Newlyweds General consensus from public seems to indicate that newly weds are happy and enjoying their newly formed marriage. However more often than not, this honeymoon period is only temporary for what followed next are challenges involving ...
Views: 914 - Why Is My Wife So Angry All Time: How To Calm An Angry Wife - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackWhy Is My Wife So Angry All Time: How To Calm An Angry Wife Are you shaking your head, and wondering why on earth your wife is always so darned angry. If you are then you're not alone. In fact I went through it myself and wasn't sure if I was going to be able to save my marriage because of ...
Views: 1525 - She Wants Out Of Marriage: How To Make Things Right With Your Wife - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackShe Wants Out Of Marriage: How To Make Things Right With Your Wife Your wife stormed out of the house with her packed luggage and this time you start to think, "Is it too late to save my marriage? Is my marriage dead? My wife has left me, what should I do?" It is not too late to save your ...
Views: 1000 - I Love My Husband but We Fight All Time: How Do We Decide If We Should Stay Together - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackI Love My Husband but We Fight All Time: How Do We Decide If We Should Stay Together How to stay married especially when couples quarrel all the time. For some couples, quarreling can help to keep their relationship alive, but when it is too much, it causes communication to break down and ...
Views: 960 - Dear Dr. Romance: Why do I not care that my girlfriend broke up with me? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: This girl wasn't really my girlfriend but we pretty much were dating. I was thinking of asking her out in a few days. We talked today and she said she would rather be friends. I thought I should be mad or sad but the weird thing is I don't really care. Why? Is this normal? Is ...
Views: 910(1 vote) - Creativity, Collaboration and Consensus - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Dr. Connie StomperOne thing that always strikes me when I experience or listen to people attempting to make joint decisions is that each person's perspective and choice is often presented as an either/or alternative. Everyone then proceeds to make a case for whatever it is that they are advocating, hoping to ...
Views: 935 - Communicating with Style - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Dr. Connie StomperIt's easy for us to assume that other people do things the same way we do, but in many areas of life, including communication, people have very different styles. Understanding these differences can go a long way to assure that our communications are effective. While there are many systems for ...
Views: 1139 - I’m Listening - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Dr. Connie Stomper“Listening is one of the deepest, most profound signs of loving -- listening to yourself and listening to others. Your heart goes out and wraps around them, and God's spirit of loving embraces you both.” John-Roger, DSS In any relationship from intimate to working to family there are ...
Views: 933 - A Love Poem for a Friend~(A poem about true love) - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Dr. Connie StomperI am your friend, and I love you. Not because you fulfill all my fantasies But because I no longer need my fantasies when I am with you. I am your friend, and I love you. Not because you are my knight in shining armor But because my caring, my acceptance, my ...
Views: 743 - WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NOT WORKING - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2019 from Sara Fabian“Your partner’s flaws are your own, because you’re projecting them.” – Byron Katie Being in a romantic relationship with someone is easy. Keeping the relationship fulfilling, happy and alive is a process that also requires an ongoing inside job. Let’s be honest with this one. We often tend ...
Views: 791 - My Husband Is Immature and Irresponsible: My Husband No Longer Wants Responsibility Of Be Married - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Is Immature and Irresponsible: My Husband No Longer Wants Responsibility Of Be Married It is always ideal to have a partner behaves in a calm and rational manner. Unfortunately, some people just have childish behaviour that can hurt a marriage. When you are facing such situation, ...
Views: 860 - My Husband Acts Like He Hates Me: Signs That Your Husband Doesn't Love You Anymore - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Acts Like He Hates Me: Signs That Your Husband Doesn't Love You Anymore When a marriage is having problems, there will be plenty of signs your husband doesn't love you anymore. As a wife, I encountered those signs myself when my marriage was in trouble. "My husband isn't attracted ...
Views: 1588 - My Husband Doesn't Act Like He's In Love With Me: My Husband Says He Loves Me But Doesn't Act Like It - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Doesn't Act Like He's In Love With Me: My Husband Says He Loves Me But Doesn't Act Like It After a certain time in the marriage, and this time can be years to just months; certain things might have happened to make you question if your husband truly loves you - so you want to learn ...
Views: 762 - My Husband Hates Me Because I Cheated: I Cheated On My Husband He Won't Forgive Me - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Hates Me Because I Cheated: I Cheated On My Husband He Won't Forgive Me Trust In a marriage is definitely one of the ways to sustain a long lasting relationship. The trust between husband and wife is broken when one party cheats on the other. However, this does not mean the ...
Views: 2350 - My Husband Left Me I Can't Stop Crying: If A Husband Leaves His Wife Does He Want A Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Left Me I Can't Stop Crying: If A Husband Leaves His Wife Does He Want A Divorce Your relationship with your husband is not so good lately. Both of you have been quarrelling a lot and because of the bad terms, your husband has left you. As much as you want to fix the problems in ...
Views: 1324 - How To Calm An Angry Husband: Why Is My Husband So Angry At Me All The Time - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackHow To Calm An Angry Husband: Why Is My Husband So Angry At Me All The Time Passive aggressive behavior does not happen in a vacuum; it requires an adequate partner to play the game with. This interaction is created between two people-one person who resists proximity and responsibility and ...
Views: 962 - Watering the Plant of Intimate Relationships - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2019 from Sarah KoestnerToday I want to talk about connection. It's something we all want more of and something that in today's culture, many of us are lacking. We lack real connection with friends, family members and even the people who are closest to us: our partners. Our society doesn't set us up for making ...
Views: 1028 - TREAT YOURSELF, PLEASE YOUR PARTNER… - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Emma ViglucciHow do you like to spend your snow days? Indoor or outdoor? Do you have any fun rituals or traditions? How can you make the time more special? Actually, how can you make your weekends more special regardless of snow? The past few issues have focused on thriving during the holidays, ...
Views: 798 - Relationships: Is It A Good Sign If Someone Is Extremely Attracted To Another Person? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one could come across another person and not really experience anything, they could come across someone else and it could be as if their whole being has been hijacked. But, even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one will see this as a bad thing. One will then have lost ...
Views: 800 - How To Get Respect From Wife: What To Do When Your Wife Doesn't Respect You - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyHow To Get Respect From Wife: What To Do When Your Wife Doesn't Respect You The word "submission" is an act of yielding to the authority or control of another. The very first time I read about submission in the Bible, I quickly developed this mindset concerning the major problem that human ...
Views: 757 - Husband Cheated I Kicked Him Out: I Kicked My Husband Out For Cheating - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyHusband Cheated I Kicked Him Out: I Kicked My Husband Out For Cheating Infidelity is considered as one of the primary causes which impacts the integrity of a marriage, even resulting in divorce. Learning that your partner is cheating on you can be the worst pain in the world. Many believe it ...
Views: 1722 - How To Live A Happy Married Life: How To Be Happy In A Bad Marriage - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyHow To Live A Happy Married Life: How To Be Happy In A Bad Marriage Looking for the secret of how to have a happy marriage? That's a question that you should be extremely proud to be asking. So many people go through their lives in a marriage that either just royally stinks, or one that is ...
Views: 641 - Husband Walked Out On Marriage: Why Would A Husband Leave His Wife Due To Confusion - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyHusband Walked Out On Marriage: Why Would A Husband Leave His Wife Due To Confusion Love and desire is not something that lasts forever for everyone. In some marriages, the amount of love a spouse has for the other can diminish over time due to a variety of other reasons. Thinking "I wish I ...
Views: 810 - Husband Unhappy With Family Life: My Husband Says He's Unhappy In Our Marriage But He Doesn't - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyHusband Unhappy With Family Life: My Husband Says He's Unhappy In Our Marriage But He Doesn't If you're looking for ways to have a better marriage then congratulate yourself. Pat yourself on the back because the truth is that most people simply let their marriages deteriorate rather than ...
Views: 695 - My Husband Leaves For Days When We Fight: Leaving House During An Argument - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyMy Husband Leaves For Days When We Fight: Leaving House During An Argument Fighting is normal in a marriage. Once in awhile, it is natural to encounter feelings of dissatisfaction and distress in a relationship. The responsibility of daily life can affect even the best relationship. However, ...
Views: 1580 - Husband Always Leaves When We Fight: Leaving House After A Fight - How Often Does A Healthy Couple Fight - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2021 from Weston BrantleyHusband Always Leaves When We Fight: Leaving House After A Fight - How Often Does A Healthy Couple Fight Do you find yourself fighting non stop with your spouse? Do you feel like no matter how long you communicate you do not understand each other? If this is the case it really is more serious ...
Views: 735 - What Are You Consciously Walking Toward? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Kelley KosowI hope you are feeling energized by the possibilities of 2019! As you may or may not know, I am getting married in 2019! It seems hard to wrap my head around, but after 15 years of being single, I will be “walking down the aisle.” Planning a wedding as a 58-year-old bride has been interesting, ...
Views: 824 - Feeling Jealous After Divorce? Help is Here! - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Martha BodyfeltYou know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe ...
Views: 1048 - Dr. Romance On Infidelity -- Stay or Go? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Tina TessinaDiscovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide. When you get the devastating news that your spouse has had an ...
Views: 1057(1 vote) - Cancel These Three Painful Relationship Patterns Before They Get Started - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Guy FinleyOften when someone feels wronged by their partner they demand “payment” for the pain they feel unjustly inflicted upon them. History proves they will argue until this well-established pattern completes itself, one way or another. At some point, unable to resolve who’s to blame for the pain, one ...
Views: 1045(1 vote) - STAYING MOTIVATED WITH YOUR NEW YEAR’S INTENTIONS - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Emma ViglucciIt makes sense that New Year’s Resolutions have such a bad rep. They don’t get to really take hold as they are initiated during this challenging time and not integrated as new habits in good routines. I’m sure that if you started the New Year with Intention and a plan for creating the new habits ...
Views: 762 - Dear Dr. Romance: How do I flirt to grab a guy's attention? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2019 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I'd like to learn something flirty and funny that will grab a guys attention!? I am going bowling with my crush and a group of friends (I never talk to my crush so this is huge!) and I am trying to think of some cute flirty things to say! Any suggestions? Examples please ...
Views: 1010(1 vote) - Emotional Support: Does Someone Want To Have Their Problems Solved If They Are Emotional? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s emotions are not settled and they are all at sea, so to speak, there is the chance that they are going through a challenging time. Or, it could show that something in their life has had a big impact on them. The next step might be for them to reach out to a friend or a family ...
Views: 805 - SUCCESSFUL COUPLES’ BEST PRACTICES - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciI love observing couples. I’m always intrigued by how they operate, especially if it works for them. I’m always learning from the couples around me. I’m in awe and inspired by couples that are dedicated and devoted to making their relationship work better. I’m honored to work with the partners I ...
Views: 829 - IS YOUR BRAIN WORKING FOR YOU OR AGAINST YOU? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2019 from Emma ViglucciUnfortunately I get to see how partners get in their own way when trying to create connection and intimacy with each other. I can hear the noise in their head. I can see the wheels turning. I can see the gears grinding. I can see the squirrels running around, some even holding on to nuts for ...
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