Dear Dr. Romance:

I read your monthly "Happiness Tips" newsletter and thank you your advice. However, I noticed that you try to help resolve or forestall relationship problems. My problem is still meeting a man that I like. When I go out and see a guy I am attracted to, I do look towards that man and "let" him know I like him. That guy usually looks at me back, but just does not approach me. 

I come from a rather conservative cultural environment where men make first moves, and I am not sure what customs of this country are. Does it mean that most single people meet online nowadays or simply approach a person of their interest in a straightforward manner?

Thank you and continue the positive work.

Dear Reader:
In my private practice, and this blog, I also help people find relationships. I'm also the author of Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today  There's a lot of confusion about dating in this country, too.  Some women are comfortable making the first contact, some are not.  I firmly believe the best way to meet is through social contacts.  Meeting a total stranger is very difficult, and there's no way to tell if it's a person you'd really like to know. I recommend what I call the "get a life" method.  That is, you develop a social circle you enjoy and spend time with friends, doing things that are productive and things that are interesting to you.  If you allow this social circle to be large enough, you'll find plenty of people to date, and you'll already know what kind of people they are before you date them.  

The articles, "Where is Love?"   and "Dating: The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting"   which will help you find more effective ways to meet suitable people to date.


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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.