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- ‘Tis The Season For Receiving - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2019 from Kelley KosowThere is no doubt about it. December is the time of year that is synonymous with giving. Whether it is to family, friends, co-workers, charitable organizations, or the people who make our lives better, we all have our lists and are checking them twice! Most of us love to give – and when we ...
Views: 907 - A Gratitude Ritual - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2019 from Kelley KosowHave you ever noticed that the more you focus on being grateful, the more you have to be grateful for? It’s true. The more we practice counting our blessings, the more blessings we will find to count. And that is one of the beautiful things about gratitude. It builds on itself. All we ...
Views: 852 - Turning The Tables on Turkey Day Trauma & Trepidation - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2019 from Kelley KosowCan you believe it’s almost Thanksgiving? What happened to Fall? Although the song says "Oh, there's no place like home for the holidays," the fact is that most of us experience a sense of dread as we envision our upcoming holiday gatherings and being around our family. Feelings of ...
Views: 923 - Marry Your Conscience - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2019 from Kelley KosowHave you heard about the studies that say we are a reflection of the five people that we spend the most time with? That’s right! We become most like the people we most like! When you look around your life, who or what do you see? Are there people who inspire you? Are willing to be straight ...
Views: 978 - Are You Ready To Own Your Inner Superhero? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2019 from Kelley KosowHalloween is almost here. Many of us have spent days planning and putting together the perfect costume. I am always fascinated to see the trends in Halloween costumes since I view them as a commentary on what is relevant in today's society. This year, there is no question we will see all sorts ...
Views: 932 - Are You Finally Fed Up With Being Fed Up? - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2019 from Kelley KosowAre you… Sick of feeling stuck? Tired of talking about change that never seems to happen? Frustrated with feeling like you are never enough? Week after week I hear stories from people who just can't seem to get out of their own way. They are still talking about the same twenty pounds, ...
Views: 934 - Healing the Dis-ease of Entitlement - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2019 from Kelley KosowLately I have been thinking a lot about the concept of entitlement -- that feeling so many of us have that we are owed something, that we have rights or deserve something to be the way we think it should be. Think of the times you have thought or had someone say to you: • “I deserve to be ...
Views: 998 - Life Can Be Easy - The Choice is Yours! - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2019 from Kelley KosowDo you remember when one of the big office supply stores developed the big red "Easy” button as a reminder to "keep things easy at work"? Years ago, one of my fellow staff members at The Ford Institute started bringing a big red "Easy" button to all of the in-person workshops and trainings we ...
Views: 989 - Tips For Overcoming Overcommitment & Overwhelm - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2019 from Kelley KosowDo you get anxious thinking about your “to-do” list? Do you constantly wonder how you’re going to possibly get everything done? Are you exhausted, feeling it’s your job to take care of everyone and everything? The other day I was talking to a group of women. Some had high power jobs, some ...
Views: 891 - Cutting The Cords Of Family Dysfunction - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2019 from Kelley KosowDay after day, I have people who come to me because they feel stuck in their relationships. Although their circumstances may be unique, their themes are common. They: • Become masters at avoiding or denying what’s really going on in their relationships or household, • Numb out with food, ...
Views: 1001 - Creating Your Perfect Day - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2019 from Kelley KosowCan you imagine that in just a few days it will be August? Have you gotten around to doing all the things that you said you would do this summer? Have you had that “perfect” summer day? I am big believer in creating perfect days! Although it tends to happen more when I am on vacation or ...
Views: 1010 - Step Out Of Your Outdated Definition of Self! - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Kelley KosowHave you ever told yourself “That’s not me!” “I’m not the type of person who would…” or “Not in a million years would I…”? Day after day, I hear stories from people who are certain about who they are, how they will react to situations, and what is or isn’t in their realm of ...
Views: 842 - 3 Keys To Emotional Independence - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from Kelley KosowHappy Independence Day - the day we celebrate our “unalienable rights” to life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness, and freedom! Now of course there are many ways to achieve living life to the fullest, feeling liberated, and attaining happiness, but I can promise you that if you truly want to let ...
Views: 880 - Are You Having Fun Yet? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Kelley KosowHappy Summer! The season of relaxation, vacations, warm weather, and FUN! But after teaching hundreds of programs and working with thousands of people, I know that the reality is most people have a hard time having fun! We have a hard time putting their to-do lists down, kicking back, and ...
Views: 847 - Igniting the Fire of Your Inner Desire - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2019 from Kelley KosowI am always in awe of people who start with a passing conversation or idea and then actually make it happen! Many of us have a great thought or a brainstorm yet it never gets off the ground or comes to fruition. So when it comes to creating something from nothing, doing something you have never ...
Views: 860 - How to Live Beyond Your Limits - by Submitted on May 21, 2019 from Kelley Kosow“We’re not the cause, we’re the effect.” - Nipsey Hussle I am always in awe of the divine design of life. A true believer in the philosophy that “there are no coincidences,” I am always fascinated by the people who cross my path. Whether it be someone I am standing next to in a long line or ...
Views: 918 - Stop Covering Your Butt! - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Kelley KosowWhen I recently attended a bootcamp class at my gym, I noticed this adorable twenty-something standing next to me. Although I have seen her before, I have never talked to her. Truth is, she generally works out every morning at 6 AM, whereas I stumble in at 7 AM. I have in the past overheard some ...
Views: 972 - You Are Not Your Shame - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Kelley KosowWhenever I have the privilege of leading transformational workshops, I am always in awe of what an honor it is to be invited into people’s lives and have them share so openly about their past as well as the honest and raw feelings they have about themselves and their lives. I expect to feel the ...
Views: 899 - From Loathing to Loving: A New Relationship With Your Body - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2019 from Kelley KosowAs we transition to warmer months, you’ve probably started to notice that bodies and skin are showing up everywhere. If you tune into daytime TV talk shows, you’ll start to see bikini fashion shows. On the bestseller list, diet books are on the rise. Gyms are full as people keep their beach ...
Views: 906(1 vote) - Break Free From The Shadows That Drive Your Parenting - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2019 from Kelley KosowThese past few weeks, I like many of you have been shocked, rocked, and somewhat horrified by the college admissions scandal in which parents paid a college consultant to falsify their children’s records, bribe test administrators and college coaches, and cheat on entrance exams so that their ...
Views: 932 - Start Taking Control of Your Life Today! - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2019 from Kelley KosowFor as long as I can remember I have been the ultimate overachiever. Starting in elementary school, it was like a badge of honor for me to study longer and harder than any of my classmates. Although my workaholic tendencies produced a lot of achievements and success, they also came with a cost. ...
Views: 940 - STOP…Looking for Permission! - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2019 from Kelley KosowDay after day I work with people who, when facing some issue, question, change, or decision, feel overcome by uncertainty and are paralyzed by the possibility of “making a mistake.” Despite having an inkling of how they want to handle the situation at hand, they don’t trust it. Instead of going ...
Views: 977 - Breaking Out Of The Cage of Fear! - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2019 from Kelley KosowOn a daily basis I encounter people who are frozen in fear. - They want to date but fear getting hurt. - They long to quit their day job to pursue their passion but fear failure. - They yearn for connection but fear rejection. - They want to speak and live their truth, try something ...
Views: 998 - What Are You Consciously Walking Toward? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2019 from Kelley KosowI hope you are feeling energized by the possibilities of 2019! As you may or may not know, I am getting married in 2019! It seems hard to wrap my head around, but after 15 years of being single, I will be “walking down the aisle.” Planning a wedding as a 58-year-old bride has been interesting, ...
Views: 653 - Families Are Messy! - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2018 from Kelley KosowI hope your holiday season has gotten off to a beautiful start. For me, the holidays are my favorite time of year. I love the lights, traditions, celebrating with family and friends, and, of course, all the new Hallmark Christmas movies! Although we all know how the movies will end, there is ...
Views: 786 - December – The Month of Saying “Yes!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2018 from Kelley KosowThere is no doubt about it. December is the time of year that is synonymous with giving. Whether it is family, friends, co-workers, charitable organizations, or the people who make our lives better, we all have our lists and are checking them twice! Most of us love to give – and when we do so, ...
Views: 1307 - What Do You Need To Weigh In On? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2018 from Kelley KosowMost of us have blind spots -- situations in our life that we can’t see clearly or, consciously or unconsciously, choose to avoid. Whether we realize it or not, on some level, we even fight to keep our avoidance alive. We justify our excuses and buy into our rationalizations of why we should ...
Views: 1028 - What Superhero Are You? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2018 from Kelley KosowHalloween is this week. Many of us have spent days planning and putting together the perfect costume. I am always fascinated to see the trends in Halloween costumes since I view them as a commentary on what is relevant in today's society. This year, there is no question we will see all sorts of ...
Views: 982 - "I Don't Want To Be That Person!" - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2018 from Kelley KosowThis morning I was working out with a friend who was telling me a story about how he went to a quintessential Cuban cafe for breakfast. Although he used his best Spanish to order, they ended up giving him the wrong kind of steak with his eggs. Now my friend, who is dedicated to health and ...
Views: 1067 - You Are Not Your Shame - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2018 from Kelley KosowOver the past few weeks I have had the privilege of leading two transformational weekend workshops. I am always in awe of what an honor it is to be invited into people’s lives and have them share so openly about their past as well as the honest and raw feelings they have about themselves and ...
Views: 875 - Does Your Heart Need Healing? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2018 from Kelley KosowThis past weekend I led The Shadow Process Workshop in Miami. In this workshop, as in so many of our other programs and workshops, there were people who were in pain because they: • Could not decide on the direction of their marriage • Were still struggling with hurt they’ve carried since ...
Views: 1845 - Is Your Self-Help Helping? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Kelley KosowMarket studies show that the personal development/self-improvement industry is growing at a rapid pace. More and more people are spending more and more money to help them lose weight, improve relationships, manage stress, attain success, increase productivity, achieve balance, and find ...
Views: 1137 - The #1 Tool to Radically Shift Your Relationship! - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Kelley Kosow“He/she never listens to me.” “No matter what I do, it’s never good enough!” “I can’t trust him/her to follow through.” “What about my needs?” On a daily basis, I hear stories from people about their relationships. They are somewhere on the scale of feeling frustrated - fed-up - frozen ...
Views: 781 - Why Don't You Tell Them? - by Submitted on Jul 25, 2018 from Kelley KosowWe’ve all been there before. - You see a friend with a split in their pants, a stain in an unfortunate location, their zipper down, or some kind of wardrobe malfunction…Do you tell them? - A potential business associate keeps mispronouncing your name in meetings…Do you correct them? - A ...
Views: 1194 - Reconnecting With Your Soul's Desires - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2018 from Kelley KosowReconnecting With Your Soul’s Desires I hope you had a wonderful Fourth of July weekend. I have been in Greece for the past week or so. Although I have done a lot of traveling this year, my trips, although amazing, have been full of early morning wake-up calls and jam-packed itineraries. This ...
Views: 1175 - Learning To Love Your Cellulite, Stomach, and Scars - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2018 from Kelley KosowI hope you are enjoying the beginning of summer. I am literally moving very slowly into summer since I had a procedure a few weeks ago that has curtailed my normal activity. Several years ago, I had a pain in the area of my lower abdomen which was so acute that at times I could not sit up ...
Views: 903 - Your Inspired Vision Is Waiting For YOU! - by Submitted on May 29, 2018 from Kelley KosowI can't believe that summer is almost here and that, like so many of you, I am thinking about my summer plans. This summer I have the privilege of leading The Shadow Experience: Breaking Through to Emotional & Spiritual Freedom at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York. For me this is still ...
Views: 998 - 3 Tips For More Self-Love - by Submitted on May 01, 2018 from Kelley KosowLately, I have been thinking a lot about this concept of unconditional love for both ourselves and others. Defined by many as “affection without limitations or love without conditions,” I sometimes question whether unconditional love in its purest form is attainable and sustainable. When ...
Views: 1488 - Choose U! - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2018 from Kelley KosowHave you ever thought about what or who is driving your choices? Week after week I hear stories about: • The people-pleaser who does everything for everyone else besides themselves • The baby-boomer who puts their life and dreams of traveling more on hold to stay in close proximity ...
Views: 1343 - Claim Your Life! - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2018 from Kelley KosowThis coming weekend, I have the extreme honor of leading The Shadow Process Workshop in Los Angeles. No matter how many of these workshops I have attended, participated in, or led over the years, I am always in awe of the shifts that people experience in the short time span of 2 ½ days. I am ...
Views: 1314 - What Are You Running Away From? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2018 from Kelley KosowIn my last blog post, I wrote about a situation which has been causing me a lot of heartache and how, despite all of the tools and wisdom that I have as a life coach and teacher of transformation, it has been hard for me to find a sustained sense of peace. I shared how after going to healers, ...
Views: 1140 - Ask and You Shall Receive! - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2018 from Kelley KosowOften, people think that as a life coach or teacher of personal growth and transformation, I know how to "do life" better than others and can somehow fly above life's ups and downs. Although I, like many life coaches, do have a big toolbox full of techniques, practices, and knowledge to support ...
Views: 1076 - Our Children Are Our Change - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2018 from Kelley KosowFor the past ten days I have been traveling outside of the United States. We had a packed itinerary and my intention was to disconnect and just be where I was with the person I was with. Halfway into my trip, the Parkland shooting occurred. Since these horrific acts of mass violence have ...
Views: 1140 - The Inconvenient Truth - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2018 from Kelley KosowIn the past few weeks I have been fixated on the news and stories surrounding the world of USA Gymnastics. Like most of us, I have looked on with horror, disbelief, and heartbreak as well as a profound sense of admiration for the 156 women and girls - "the army of survivors" - who shared their ...
Views: 1144 - From Monkey Mind To Mindfulness - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Kelley KosowAlthough it feels like New Years was weeks ago, we are still very much in the conversation of "New Year, New You!" Even though every January we tend to engage in a dialogue about what we can do to revamp or upgrade our lives, each year we see a few new concepts or practices added to the "what's ...
Views: 1396 - Empowering Bad Behavior - #TimesUp Now - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Kelley KosowHappy New Year! I have been thinking a lot about this first newsletter of 2018. In a perfect world, I might be using this post to share with you some profound, uplifting, spiritual experience that I had ringing in the New Year and setting the tone for the upcoming year, but the fact is I cannot. ...
Views: 1154 - What Do You Need To Eliminate Before 2018? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2017 from Kelley KosowAs the holidays kick into high gear, I am thankful and a bit overwhelmed as I fill in my calendar. There are parties to attend, dinners to organize, presents to buy, decorations to hang, and visits from out-of-towners, friends, and family to prepare for. As I anticipate the month to come, it ...
Views: 1129 - A Gratitude Ritual - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2017 from Kelley KosowAs each one of my three daughters comes home for the Thanksgiving vacation holiday, my heart expands and I am overcome by all of the amazing gifts that I have in my life. As I wrote on the dedication page of my new book The Integrity Advantage, I am blessed to have amazing women in my life to ...
Views: 1231 - Turning The Tables on Turkey Day Trauma & Trepidation - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2017 from Kelley KosowHappy almost-Thanksgiving! If you are like me, I'm sure that you cannot believe the holidays are already upon us. What happened to Fall? Although the song says "Oh, there's no place like home for the holidays," despite what we see in Hallmark Channel's Five Night Thanksgiving Movie Event, the ...
Views: 1179 - How The Divorce Diet Became The Integrity Advantage - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2017 from Kelley KosowAs many of you know, this past week, my first book, The Integrity Advantage, was released. It was a pinnacle moment filled with a smorgasbord of emotions. It quickly turned into a somewhat surreal experience watching this baby being birthed out into the world, seeing people holding the book in ...
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