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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- ***Healing Love and Approval Addiction - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2010 from Margaret PaulAre you love or approval addicted?Do you often feel empty inside if you are not in a relationship?Do you often feel empty inside even if you are in a relationship but your partner is not paying attention to you?Do you get anxious when a person you are dating does not contact you when you expect ...
Views: 4946(3 votes) - ***The Crazymaking Trap: Proving Your Worth Over and Over - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2011 from Margaret PaulMarcus grew up the eldest of three, with a highly critical mother and an absent father. Marcus's mother frequently told him or implied that he was too stupid to take care of himself - that he would be nothing without her. She programmed him to believe that she was his only source of love and ...
Views: 3497(3 votes) - 7 Steps to Overcome Withdrawal from a Break Up of an Addictive Relationship - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallAre You a Love Addict? Are you in a Break-Up from an Addictive Relationship? There is no doubt that for most people, “breaking up is hard to do”… for love addicts, breaking up is especially difficult. One of the most disturbing and defining features of addiction is withdrawal and obsessive ...
Views: 14550(3 votes) - 7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2010 from Geoff Farnsworth1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react ...
Views: 1897(3 votes) - Advice to Help You Set Boundaries with Your Flirting Partner - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsFlirting between two people can be fun, sexy and harmless...unless, of course, one of those two people is already in a committed relationship with someone else! When you are the one who watches (or hears about) your partner flirting with another person, it can be emotionally painful and it ...
Views: 7927(3 votes) - All Broken Up - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Keith and Maura Leon - Relationship Specialists, Best Selling Authors, Master Relationship Coaches and TrainersDear Keith and Maura, I broke up with my lover last August, but still now I have his feelings. I didn't know why he left me without even telling me. I stayed for some time but now am dying of his love. What do I do? Please help as soon as possible. Broken Hearted in Kenya Dear ...
Views: 1891(3 votes) - Become a £50 per hour Agony Aunt by Rosemary Price Psychic - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Pearls of WisdomFamous agony aunt tells you how to get a job as a professional paid agony aunt. Having worked as an agony aunt for many years I do know exactly how this business works, the sort of people who are suited to it and how to get into it. Let us first look at the facts. 99% of customers who consult ...
Views: 12569(3 votes) - CAN YOU TRUST HIM? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jordana SandsTrust is vital in a good relationship, and of all the ingredients that create a really good relationship, trust is a biggie. How much should you trust? How soon should you give this trust? Are you jaded by some past jerk that lied to you or cheated on you? You don’t want to judge someone by ...
Views: 1255(3 votes) - COVERT TACTICS MANIPULATORS USE TO CONTROL AND CONFUSE YOU - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2019 from Darlene LancerMany of us don't recognize manipulators or even realize they're trying to control and confuse us. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn't match the manipulator's words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that escalate abuse or play into the hands ...
Views: 1000(3 votes) - Do You Feel His Thoughts? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2010 from Ann Marie O'DellA joy or depression settles for no apparent reason, and sometimes even a silent kiss. A confused fog, as if experiencing two minds in one body can indicate telepathic communication. The Japanese have a word for the ideal relationship called “ ...
Views: 3786(3 votes) - Emotional Intimacy Starts With Touching - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Shela DeanTouch is essential to intimacy. Okay, I know you think I've just stated the obvious but I'm not talking about that kind of intimacy. I'm talking about emotional intimacy and the hand holding, arms around the waist, bear hugging, back rubbing, cheek kissing, fist bumping, high fiving, shoulder ...
Views: 3542(3 votes) - Helping people find a lasting relationship - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2010 from Bruce MillsWouldn’t it be nice to have a guide or map to a relationship like a golf course has for a golf hole? The below info or guide I got from a friend on Facebook and wanted to pass it on. Many of my friends really liked it and said that it helped explain why things their past relationships have ...
Views: 1678(3 votes) - How To Accept Differences - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2011 from Dr. Rick SchaeferPerception is far more important than reality. My seventeen year-old son James and I were talking about playing tennis this weekend and our focus went to how it feels to hit a tennis ball with the racquet. I described it as similar to swinging a badminton racquet with the strings and the ...
Views: 2487(3 votes) - How To End a Relationship and Move on To a Healthier Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Bellaisa FilippisHow you end a relationship matters. In fact it matters so much that it can affect your next relationship in a positive or negative way. So when ending a relationship you need to take that into consideration! There are two common feelings that can occur from a bad end to a relationship. They ...
Views: 998(3 votes) - I Know Who I Am And I Know What I Want - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from David SamuelThat is the problem. You do not know who you are, and you only know what you think you want. There are many sayings that tell us to find our self, be that in religion, Shakespeare or in common conversation. ‘Know thyself’ “To thine own self be true” ‘Don’t think who you are, know who you ...
Views: 2096(3 votes) - Love Tarot Readings: The Crossroads of our Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Carolyn NaimanOne of the most common inquiries during a Tarot reading typically concerns matters of romance and partnerships. Naturally, people consult the Tarot for answers about love. One would expect that most people would want knowledge about their future love life: who and when that special somebody ...
Views: 11955(3 votes) - Make Every Moment a Special Moment - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellWe all want to have those special moments with our partner. We want, sometimes desperately to make them experience the greatest nights of their lives. We plan, we try, and we spend a fortune trying to produce that once in a lifetime event. If only we realized that the true ingredient for special ...
Views: 7048(3 votes) - Manifesting Love - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Kristy Robinett"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all of the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." A Course in Miracles With Valentine's Day fast approaching, I thought it would be fitting for me to focus in on love and relationships, which is probably the ...
Views: 956(3 votes) - Six Ways to End Bickering About Money - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Jonathan HuieOne of the most common causes of arguments between couples is disagreements over money, mostly about how it should be spent, or not spent. Arguments over money generally fall into two general areas, differences in fundamental attitudes, and bickering over day to day details. Sometimes the ...
Views: 2022(3 votes) - Stop Fighting! The 12 Best Solutions to Keeping Your Love Alive - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2009 from Kathi Calahan, Career CoachThe bad news is, every loving relationship begins with baggage from the past. The good news is, no matter how far back that history of damaging baggage goes, it can be reworked and healed. We practice what we’ve learned, even if it means damaging our relationship or marriage. And crazy as ...
Views: 2061(3 votes) - The Importance of making Time for One Another - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Guy RussellNo matter if you are married, live together, live apart from each other, or you are in a long distance relationship; it is important to make some time for just the two of you. Our days can be filled quickly with the day to day responsibilities of work, family and household duties. Those ...
Views: 3860(3 votes) - What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage - by Submitted on May 11, 2010 from MONICA FRANKWHAT IS IRRATIONAL JEALOUSY? Frequently, I am asked how to handle irrational jealous feelings. Usually, the individual recognizes that her feelings are unreasonable with no valid evidence but feels incapable of controlling the jealousy. In addition, the person usually recognizes the ...
Views: 3534(3 votes) - What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Darlene LancerPoor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Narcissism was named for him. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a common ...
Views: 1511(3 votes) - “I work so hard for my relationship...so where's my payoff?” - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsDoes it seem to you that you're always the one in your relationship being flexible, giving and self-sacrificing? If it does, you're not alone. Many men feel like they bear the brunt of the work. They keep the yard mowed, go to work everyday, change the oil in the car, watch the kids and ...
Views: 2778(3 votes) - ***Infidelity is Not Okay and it is Not Forgivable! - by Submitted on May 23, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for more than 25 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 5516(34 votes) - ***Prenuptial Agreements May Guarantee Failure - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that Prenuptial Agreements are a bad idea, period! Just imagine, telling someone that you love him or her, but you don't trust them! To us, this is analogous to having two separate checking accounts in a marriage -- one for him and one ...
Views: 3891(31 votes) - ***Caring For Aging Parents Can Challenge Your Marriage - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are “baby-boomers.” Like some 80 million Americans, we were born during the period 1946-1964. We are that generation of Americans born to what former NBC anchor Tom Brokaw called, “The Greatest Generation.” Our parents survived the Great ...
Views: 4804(32 votes) - ***How to Fall In Love Again with Your Spouse - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – we love our spouse more than life itself. And frankly, we cannot imagine life without them! But the truth is, from time to time, our love for each other needs renewal. While love can be forever, it often needs nurturance, ...
Views: 9315(42 votes) - ***Helping Your Mom and Your Marriage – Finding a Balance - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We owe our moms a lot. While we are lucky that we get to have them around, we have to find a balance between helping our mom and nurturing our own marriage. Over-committing time in a helping relationship at the expense of your marriage will, in the ...
Views: 3409(39 votes) - ***Simple Things Matter in Marriage – Even in Venice! - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2009 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Have you ever been to Venice, Italy? Wow, what a wonderfully romantic place! When you ride in a gondola together by Marco Polo’s house, stroll on St. Mark’s Square while holding hands, enjoy the grandeur of the Doges Palace, or share a bottle of ...
Views: 2554(26 votes) - ***Open Marriage for Mo’Nique and Sid - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Just when you think you have heard it all, along comes Mo’Nique! Here is what she says about her marriage to Sid -- "Could Sid have sex outside of his marriage with me? Yes. That's not a deal-breaker," she says. "That's not something that would ...
Views: 5652(47 votes) - How to Express Yourself to Others - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2010 from Greg BakerOne of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to? How many times have we said something that we really didn't mean, but we were too frustrated to stop it from ...
Views: 31299(14 votes) - ***Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2010 from Margaret PaulVery often, in my work with my clients, when I ask them what they are feeling they say, "I feel sad." Often, they do not know why they feel sad.Sadness comes from two very different sources.Core SadnessCore sadness is sadness that is in reaction to something that is happening or has ...
Views: 5890(7 votes) - ***"If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me" - Healing Perfectionism - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2011 from Margaret PaulDo you believe that being "perfect" gives you control over how people feel about you?"If you do, then you are coming from 3 big false beliefs that are causing you much unhappiness.False Belief #1"I can have control over how people feel about me."Think for a moment ...
Views: 4761(4 votes) - ***Am I in a Healthy Relationship? - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Margaret PaulFrequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?"Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different ...
Views: 5257(4 votes) - ***Are You Making These 4 Mistakes? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2011 from Margaret PaulI, like many of you, was brought up and programmed to believe in a number of ideas that have turned out to be untrue. These false beliefs led me to make various life and relationship mistakes. I didn't like making mistakes any more than you do, but it is from my mistakes that I've learned so ...
Views: 2962(4 votes) - Are You A Hero? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantSome say we don't have anymore heroes but I say we do. Let's take a look at what a hero is and decide if you are one. A hero travels the hero's journey. That's when regular people such as you or me are asked to leave our routine life because something serious has occurred and we are asked ...
Views: 2702(4 votes) - Distancing In Relationships - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2010 from Krystal KuehnIf someone were to throw a punch at you, you would likely try to defend yourself from getting hit. And if you were to feel the heat of a flaming fire, you would keep yourself far enough away to avoid getting burned. Self-preservation comes naturally as no one wants to experience pain and ...
Views: 11919(4 votes) - Social Intelligence: 6 Steps to Relationship Success - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2010 from Eugene Yiga“I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.” – Vincent van Gogh Meeting people is easy. In addition to the traditional ways like friends, societies, and other social groups, we now have the internet too. And provided we’re prepared to get out of our comfort zones, ...
Views: 3329(4 votes) - Why Do We Fear Close Relationships? - by Submitted on May 21, 2007 from Robert NajemyAlthough we want to love and be loved, we also fear both. Our past experiences have programmed us to associate loving and being loved with unpleasant experiences and especially with feelings of vulnerability. For these and other reasons, we have developed fears and subconscious resistance ...
Views: 24528(8 votes) - ***The Ten Essential Virtues of Love - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. This morning, a great friend of ours sent along an article that we were really taken with. For those who have read our book, Building a Love that Lasts (Jossey-Bass/Wiley 2010), you may recall a chapter entitled, “A Tribute to Lasting Love” (pp. ...
Views: 8799(47 votes) - ***Don’t Ever Say These Things To Your Spouse - by Submitted on May 27, 2018 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Words Matter! What you say to the one you love is important! Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your ...
Views: 1827(5 votes) - ***How is the Current Recession Affecting Marriage? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several weeks we have been pouring over as much data as we can get our hands on to answer a question we are often asked – “How is the current Recession affecting marriage in the USA?” The answer is complicated. Here’s what we do ...
Views: 4799(45 votes) - ***Marriage Is Alive and Well In France - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2014 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Recently, we traveled again to Europe to conduct more interviews with successfully married couples. Since we had not been to France in several years, we were beginning to believe the media reports about how the French did not like Americans. So, we ...
Views: 1697(5 votes) - ***The Empty Nest Syndrome Is Overrated - by Submitted on May 27, 2018 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The truth is, for many couples, the empty nest is a time of great “re-discovery” of the love for each other. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage because the children have all left home. Now what? This is a question ...
Views: 1966(5 votes) - ***The Silent Treatment - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulResearch indicates that children would rather be yelled at than ignored. When prisoners are being punished, they are put in isolation, because being isolated is one of the harshest punishments there is - other than physical abuse.The silent treatment is a form of punishment, a way to attempt to ...
Views: 10033(5 votes) - 3 Tips for Stopping Jealousy Before It Snowballs into Something Unstoppable - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsWe've all seen cartoons in which a character shapes snow into a ball, perhaps to build a snowman. As the ball of snow is rolled, it grows bigger and bigger. Pretty soon that snowball is quite large and here comes a slope or hill... The next thing we see are the arms and legs of our ...
Views: 4350(10 votes) - Happy Family at Holidays? Not So Fast - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantFor many people, family gatherings during the Happy Holidays aren't so happy. While most of us enjoy getting together at holidays, mixed feelings of love, anxiety and confusion often collide. But why in the world would family holidays cause consternation or anxious feelings? Why would family ...
Views: 1961(5 votes) - How To Have a Happy, Healthy Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2009 from Mandy KloppersHow To Have a Happy, Healthy Relationship These pointers refer to men and women but for ease of reference I will use the word “he” when referring to “he” and “she”. 1. APPEARANCE. An obvious one but needs mentioning. Look your best. Make sure you smell nice, look good and dress in an ...
Views: 1521(5 votes) - Is Anyone There? Can Anyone Hear Me? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2010 from David SamuelThis is the real question we all ask at some point in our life, is anyone there? Am I alone here, in the crowd, in the world? This article is about those moments, the times when we wonder if we are from another planet because it seems like no one can understand our feelings, thoughts and ...
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