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- 7 Simple Ways To Kill Self-doubt And The Fear of Making Mistakes - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyDuring the American Civil War, President Lincoln had trouble with General McClellan. He was a great organizer, but indecisive. Fear of making the wrong decision can lead you to make no decisions. Or, as a wise old saying says: he (or she) who deliberates fully before taking a step, will spend ...
Views: 1674 - 7 Fast Ways To Overcome Laziness - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2008 from Peter MurphySo many times we are pestered by a lack of confidence in the things that we can do, hindering us from moving forward and accomplishing our goals. Those feelings may come from things like losing your job, settling into your routine or simply boredom. Other times, distractions and just a ...
Views: 1955 - 8 Simple Ways To Overcome Distractions And Stay Focused - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt happens to the best of us: we have a job to do, we get ready to do it… in some cases, even starting it… and then we get a phone call. Or our favorite show comes on. Or someone knocks on the door. We get hungry, sleepy, tired or any one combination of the three. For ...
Views: 1339 - 9 Great Ways To Survive Burn Out - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2008 from Peter MurphyWe have all experienced the familiar sting of burnout: the feeling of being mentally and physically exhausted, the fear that any moment now, you will drop down and not be able to get back up. You've been going a hundred miles a minute and now that shifty, unpredictable rollercoaster is ...
Views: 1329 - The 6 Ways Winners Plan For Success - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2008 from Peter MurphyOnce upon a time, I used to be the messiest person alive. I don't just mean in terms of messy room and messy car. I mean messy plans, too. I would have a general idea of what I wanted to do, but wouldn't be really sure about how I wanted to make it happen. Over the years, through watching ...
Views: 1330 - 9 Motivation Secrets That Make Dreams Come True - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2008 from Peter MurphyDreams do come true as long as we can stay motivated in the face of setbacks. That´s where most of us get discouraged. So often, reality doesn’t measure up to expectations. We can have all these grand plans, whether it is buying a house, making improvements to your kitchen, or write ...
Views: 1200 - 10 Ways To Deal With Negative Thinking, Panic, And Paralyzing Fears - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyI recently heard from a friend who had been laid off at the newspaper she worked at because of the faltering economy. She didn't have many job leads and her motivation was at an all-time low. She felt that there was nothing more frightening than being a writer in an uncertain job market. ...
Views: 1685 - 3 Ways To Stay Motivated Despite Movable Deadlines - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is important to know how to find self motivation when you are dealing with unstructured timetables and deadlines that can change from one moment to the next. Unstructured time and changing deadlines can be very frustrating and can cause motivation to dwindle away. Motivation can also ...
Views: 1162 - 6 Simple Steps To Big Goal Achievement - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you really want to achieve your biggest goals, you have to tart somewhere. Some goals can be long-term, complex goals which may take months or even years to achieve. That can be overwhelming. If you start to get overwhelmed by a task it can unfortunately mean that you get too scared to ...
Views: 1295 - 5 Easy Ways To Drop Self-Doubt And The Fear Of Making Mistakes - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyEach of us is bombarded with many decision-making opportunities each and every day. Some of those decisions we can make quickly without much thought. However complex decisions are sometimes difficult to make. Many factors can become involved in the decision-making process. Sometimes one of ...
Views: 1700 - 10 Great Ways To Follow Through On A Project Once You Start - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyEveryone starts big projects and gets overwhelmed by them sometimes. They can take a long time to complete and problems crop up so you wonder whether it is worth carrying on. But you know you won’t achieve anything of you give up, so what you have to so is find ways to stick at a ...
Views: 1057 - 8 Simple Ways To Follow Through On Your Success Plans - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe single most important step in getting somewhere is the knowing where you're going and having a plan for getting there. If you don’t have a goal you won’t be satisfied because you won’t be able to judge when you’ve been successful so you will constantly feel like a ...
Views: 1123 - 6 Easy Ways To Overcome Inertia And Enjoy More Success - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2008 from Peter MurphyInertia is a feeling of not wanting to act. It usually stems from poor time management skills and poor organization skills. Usually when a person makes sure they are aiming for a goal which is good for them which they are committed to and they learn how to properly manage their time and ...
Views: 2075 - 7 Great Ways To Stay Motivated And Focused Every Single Day - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2008 from Peter MurphyYou may not find it easy to achieve your goals, and you may not achieve them as quickly as you want, but if you still really want that goal, it’s worth persevering over. That just means you’ll have to find ways to stay motivated. And here are some ways in which you can do ...
Views: 1560 - 10 Super Ways To Take Action Right Away With No Hesitation - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt’s easy to give in to doubt and hesitation, but you will no doubt realize that doing so doesn’t get you anywhere. If you have things you need to do, learn how to get started right away and get rid of all your hesitation. 1. Take responsibility for your life Noone up above in the ...
Views: 1200 - How To Keep A Conversation Going - The 10 Simple Steps - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2008 from Peter MurphyThe art of conversation really is a wonderful skill; the simple skills to keep a conversation alive can be the deciding factor to how successful you are going to be. Starting a conversation and maintaining a conversation really are two separate factors. As with anything there is a start, ...
Views: 4960 - 5 Powerful Ways To Express Your Ideas And Opinions Clearly - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2008 from Peter MurphyAre you fed up with struggling to express your thoughts and opinions? These days, people want to talk and not listen! No one wants to be a shadow in the crowd. Having your thoughts and opinions heard is a priority. The very achievement of being able to express yourself, and more importantly, ...
Views: 33485(1 vote) - 9 Great Ways To Deal With Nerves When Meeting People - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyEveryone suffers with that nervous feeling whilst meeting someone new; it’s a perfectly normal feeling. It is human nature to get anxious whilst facing the first introduction, that face to face meeting of a stranger. So just why do we get nervous? Because we are trying to impress! No-one ...
Views: 1086 - 7 Simple Ways To Be Interesting To People You Meet - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn the world of food, it's said that they first bite is with the eyes. Well, when it comes to meeting new people, a first impression is a lasting impression, and it's important you make a good one. After that, you have to work at holding their interest. Let's look at some steps you can take ...
Views: 1294 - 6 Ways To Avoid Getting Stuck For Words - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2008 from Peter MurphyHave you ever been faced with that tongue tied feeling of hopelessness? You most certainly are not alone. Most of the human race will have at some time become stuck for words. How can you help to stop this from happening? Simply follow the easy steps below. This will help to ensure that this ...
Views: 8892 - 9 Great Ways To Approach Someone To Start A Conversation - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you are not confident by nature the simple task of starting a conversation is enough to start the heart racing! Yes you read it correctly! Cold sweats, heart palpitations, shaking, stuttering, are just some of the effects that the faint-hearted can be faced with whilst starting a ...
Views: 1425 - Easy Ways To Overcome Self-Consciousness - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2008 from Peter MurphyA great many people have trouble with nervousness, shyness, and a host of other "issues" that make it difficult for them to interact with others. Well, there are a number of ways you can relieve yourself of that problem, and we are going to go over them now. First off, you want to become ...
Views: 2931 - What To Do When A Conversation Runs Out Of Steam - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are at a party, or maybe a job interview, there can be points where the conversation wanes and/or falls flat. So, you can use some methods perk things up. Now, the first thing you want to remember is: do not panic! It is common for any conversation to go through peaks and valleys. ...
Views: 1002 - Stuck For Words? How To Rejoin The Conversation - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is a common problem; you are at a party or maybe some sort of formal or informal gathering, and you do not know what to say. People chat and carry on all manner of conversations; yet you seem to be left on the and are little more than an audience to others. Well, there are some ways to get ...
Views: 1693 - How To Get People To Stop Ignoring You And Start Listening - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyGetting people to pay attention to what you say: ah, now that is a challenge every school teacher, advertiser, and director of marketing has been trying to figure out since the dawn of time. Anyone who has ever been in a position of authority will realize this can be difficult. So, if you are ...
Views: 1389 - How To Get People To Respect You - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany people around us fail to respect us. Some people use us and take advantage of us, while others talk and behave with us in ways that offend us and hurt us. However, when people fail to respect us it is our own fault. It’s our fault because we have failed to establish boundaries for ...
Views: 1351 - How To Assert Yourself Without Losing Friends - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyOften, people will have trouble making themselves stand out form the crowd. For some people, they can be a bit nervous about voicing their own opinion; maybe they are worried about being wrong or be laughed at. So, trying to stand up for themselves, and really assert themselves can be a problem ...
Views: 1249 - Common Listening Mistakes That Cause People Problems - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyIt is no secret that people often need to be involved in a conversation of some sort as part of their work, and/or family and social life. So, that means talking part of the time, and then listening to what they have to say. For most people, being able to talk and hold up their end of the ...
Views: 3228 - Common Conversation Mistakes To Avoid - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are engaged in a conversation with one or more people, you have to essentially take turns at speaking. If one person is doing all the talking, that is a lecture, not a chat. So, one very common mistake people will make is that they monopolize the conversation and end up doing all of the ...
Views: 993 - How To Confidently Assert Yourself At Work - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyTo assert yourself means to confidently express what you feel, what you need, and what you expect from others in a non-threatening manner. However, in the workplace sometimes asserting oneself can be easier said than done. Often the work environment can be highly demanding and stressful and, ...
Views: 2571 - Easy Ways To Make Friends With A Stranger - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2008 from Peter MurphyMaking friends with people we just met is not easy for many of us. For those of us who have difficulty making friends with strangers we often find ourselves feeling uncomfortable and uncertain about making casual conversation when we meet someone new. Some of us think we need to say something ...
Views: 2010 - Interesting Topics of Conversation People Love To Talk About - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2008 from Peter MurphyHuman conversation is the most important part of any society. Without it a society can't prosper, or for that matter even functionally exist. All of us, as human beings, need to have conversation with another human being, no matter who you are. Conversation is a fundamental part of our human ...
Views: 9249(2 votes) - How To Use Better Communication To Ensure Success In Business - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn today’s world of competitive business it has become very important for companies, and their employees, to communicate effectively and quickly in order to stay in business. The faster and more thoroughly a business can communicate with the consumers that buy their goods and within ...
Views: 1070 - How To Build Lasting Self-Confidence - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2008 from Peter MurphySelf-confidence is having the belief in our ability to do or accomplish something, or to succeed. It largely involves our past learning experiences, successes, and achievements. For many of us self-confidence can fluctuate up and down, depending on the daily challenges we face in comparison ...
Views: 1805 - Easy Conversation Starters That Work Great With Family and Friends - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2008 from Peter MurphyQuality conversations are a necessary part of relationships, especially between family and friends. Conversations with those we care about can help us learn more about them and their lives. It also gives them a chance to get to know us better. Moreover, conversations with our loved ones can ...
Views: 2415 - Easy Conversation Starters Anyone Can Use At Work - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2008 from Peter MurphyStarting a conversation can be difficult at times, especially if you are a new employee at work. For many of us, the first day on the job, we are nervous and anxious to get settled into our new environment as quickly as possible, which does include meeting the people around us and begin ...
Views: 1608 - Communication Secrets For Success In Life - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2008 from Peter MurphyIf you want to be successful in life you need to communicate effectively. Effective communications can help you in work, in all of your relationships with family and friends, as well as socially. There are many aspects to communications all of which, combined together, can make you successful in ...
Views: 955 - Which Issues To Talk About To Improve Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 01, 2008 from Peter MurphyToo often, people put their relationship aside and do not give it the attention it deserves. Our world has become so high-tech and high speed; we are all rushing around, bound and determined to get things done. The result is, we do more things, but get less done. A relationship, like any other ...
Views: 1059 - What To Do When She Won't Stop Talking - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are dealing with a woman who is a constant chatterbox, the first thing you have to consider it: what is her age? After all, a two year old who talks a mile a minute is a far cry from a twenty-two year old who does the same; and much different from a ninety-two year old. In the case of ...
Views: 2057 - How to Get Your Partner to Listen - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are in a relationship, communication is one of the fundamental factors in building a lasting bond of affection between the two of you. So, being able to sit and talk, and work things out between you is vitally important to that relationship. And, just talking is not enough, you both ...
Views: 1111 - How To Get Your Man To Talk More - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyWhen you are in a relationship, there are many things that are important to make it work, to make it grow, and thrive. As with anything else in life, you must strive to build your relationship and make it healthy. And, one of the key aspects to a relationship is communication. For, if you can ...
Views: 1304 - How To Get Your Man To Express His Feelings - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2008 from Peter MurphyThese days, we often talk about wanting people to be more expressive about their feelings, about “telling it like it is” so we can have some open and honest dialog. If we could manage that, maybe we’d be happier, marriages would last longer, and maybe even a few other problems ...
Views: 2508 - Common Mistakes Women Make When Talking To Their Partners - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2008 from Peter MurphyCommunication is the single most important part of an relationship. So long as you can talk, so long as you can respect each other and each other’s point of view; you can overcome just about anything life throws at you. Yet, talking is like anything else in life; there is a right way and a ...
Views: 977 - Common Mistakes Men Make When Talking With Their Partner - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany relationships today fail because of communication problems. Being able to effectively communicate with your partner is essential to the happiness and success of all relationships. Let us look at some common mistakes men make when communicating with their partner. Not listening to your ...
Views: 1104 - Common Communication Mistakes In Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2008 from Peter MurphyPeople often wonder what is the most important aspect of a relationship. Is it compatibility? Having things in common, the same religious or political beliefs? What about honesty, or getting along; never fighting? No, being able to talk is the key; communication, because, as long as you can talk ...
Views: 1139 - Simple Daily Habits that Keep You Motivated - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2008 from Peter MurphyTo accomplish anything in life you need a driving force. You need something that pushes you along the path that we have chosen. Wishing to have or accomplish something is not going to get you moving, as wishing is a passive behavior that lacks the strength to cause you to act. What you need is a ...
Views: 932 - Why Needing To Be Liked Causes People To Not Like You - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2008 from Peter MurphyMany people seem to think that they need people to like them. The truth is that you don’t. All you need to is to like yourself. When you like yourself, and are comfortable in your own skin, it doesn’t matter if people like you or not. When you like yourself you are secure within ...
Views: 6036 - Like Yourself More and Others will Like You Even More - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2008 from Peter MurphyA fact of interpersonal relationships is: before others will like you, or even begin to like you, you must like yourself. We can actually call this fact the “Golden Rule” of interpersonal relationships. If you don’t like yourself it becomes difficult for others to like you and, ...
Views: 1087 - Like Others And They Will Like You - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2008 from Peter MurphyAll too often we look at our interactions with others the wrong way. We look at our interactions as if we should be liked, rather than for us to like first. How many of us have asked the question, “Why don’t they like me?” Maybe it’s because we really didn’t like ...
Views: 931 - How To Transform Apathy Into Motivation - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2008 from Peter MurphyIn today’s modern world apathy is becoming increasingly prevalent. We are constantly and consistently bombarded with all sorts of bad news, leaving many of us with a feeling of indifference and the thinking, “I can’t make a difference” or “I can’t change ...
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