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Marriage Therapy: 8 Signs You Should See a Marriage Counselor - Dave Turo-Shields- Why are there so many single bisexual people? - by Submitted on May 17, 2018 from Amy LawThe current network is very developed. There are also many social networking sites and apps, but there are still a lot of people who can't find their lover.Even many people could not find a suitable one-night stand object on the Internet. Why? Life has to end, love doesn't. 1.The people's ...
Views: 1033(1 vote) - Why Couples Fall out of Love - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling office, I frequently deal with people who’ve heard the dread phrase, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” How can it happen that a couple who were once thrilled with each other can fall out of love? It seems like a mystery, but it’s not. And, ...
Views: 1231(1 vote) - Why Do Bad Breakups Happen? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2012 from Jesse MartinBreakups hurt as anyone going through one will attest to. Some people feel sad for a while, change some routines in their lives, reconnect with friends, and bounce back rather swiftly. Others, however, become entrenched in insurmountable sadness and gut wrenching grief. Why is it that some have ...
Views: 3389(1 vote) - Why do some people think it is wrong to be bisexual? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Jessica LawBisexuality is simply a varied sexual orientation. This is just one of the very many descriptions of this sexual condition comes with. Unfortunately, it is a condition that has been taken negatively by a number of people. In fact, people have come with myths and misconceptions about bisexuality. ...
Views: 1336(2 votes) - Why Do You Get SOOOOOOOO Angry? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Telka Arend-Ritter“It’s only fair when I yell at you, she said to me once. You had a better Childhood.” Brian Andreas Consider the last time you felt angry. What set you off? Traffic. Stress at work. Long waiting lines. High phone bill. The mess at home. Computer problems. He was drunk. ...
Views: 3603(1 vote) - Why Does Phone Sex Feel Uncomfortable For Me? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Madeline FosterNot Everyone is Confident Enough to Share Their Feeling's There are many obvious differences between men and women. And perhaps one the most striking is the way that men and women communicate and listen to each other. This of course, is also reflected when either one engages in phone sex. ...
Views: 3127(1 vote) - Why is coitus always the most important for men? Why do they always want THAT? - by Submitted on May 12, 2020 from Valeria TariAmong women, this question arises very often and not without reason, since nearly all of us have experienced this phenomenon. Men always want THAT! Yes, this is true, and it will not change either! Men expedite the development of a physical relationship and go to limitless extents in order ...
Views: 791(1 vote) - Why Is It So Difficult For Some Men To Stay Monogamous - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Clif KWhen it comes to relationships, one of the more sticky issues, and one for which many people seek relationship advice, is men who have problems staying monogamous. Now to be fair, it is sometimes an issue with the other side of the equation too. But that is another article for another day. ...
Views: 1053(1 vote) - Why Jerry Maguire Pisses Me Off - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2012 from Carisa HolmesThere is a lie lurking in the collective human consciousness in regards to romantic love. Many people hold the belief that once they find the right person, they will finally be happy. They assume that the deep, nagging feeling that something is wrong that has underpinned every past relationship ...
Views: 1872(1 vote) - Why Men Are Afraid of Commitment (And How To Help) - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2012 from Brenda ShoshannaAfter a relationship ends, women ask what went wrong, again and again. In this revealing article we see that often it has nothing to do with the woman. The article explores some patterns and needs that cause men to run from relationships. It also offers specific guidelines and advice to help. ...
Views: 7912(1 vote) - Why Men Pull Away - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2021 from Sahib BerwalAnd how you can tap into his deep desire for commitment... Maggie was confused. Rick had blown her away on their first two dates. No guy had ever worked so hard to impress her. And impressed she was. He was attentive, respectful, gentle and engaged. But then, just when she decided she'd ...
Views: 891(1 vote) - WHY NARCISSISTS ACT THE WAY THEY DO - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Darlene LancerNarcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be ...
Views: 1053(2 votes) - WHY ROMANCE TURNS TOXIC - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2018 from Darlene LancerMost everyone wants to fall in love, especially codependents. To us, love is perhaps the highest ideal, and relationships give our lives meaning and purpose. They enliven and motivate us. A partner provides a companion when we have difficulty initiating action on our own. Being loved also ...
Views: 1878(3 votes) - Why Sexy Women Make Men Feel Bad - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Donna MartinIt’s no shock that the description of women in magazines makes women feel like dirt. But did you know pictures of hot women make men feel worse, too? Everyone knows that the way women are portrayed in our culture – sexy, skinny, and tall – makes the most women feel a bit like the gum. When ...
Views: 3141(1 vote) - Why We Argue - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.In the midst of an argument with your partner there is no time to step back and ponder why this is happening, or to evaluate what about this disagreement is upsetting you so much. You can rely on the fact that when any of us are reactive in a variety of ways it shows we have some old issues, ...
Views: 2145(1 vote) - Why We Fall Out of Love - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Misty JhonesLife can give you a big present wrapped in several layers. You have to do your best to discover this present. Often our mistakes are not the mistakes at all. They are gifts for us from heaven to prosper, develop our talents, and discover our uniqueness in this world. Love can be happy and love ...
Views: 759(1 vote) - WHY YOU CAN LOVE AN ABUSER - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2019 from Darlene LancerFalling in love happens to us―usually before we really know our partner. It happens to us because we’re at the mercy of unconscious forces, commonly referred to as “chemistry.” Don’t judge yourself for loving someone who doesn’t treat you with care and respect, because by the time the ...
Views: 821(2 votes) - Why You Were Ghosted and What to Do - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2019 from Darlene LancerRejection and breakups are hard enough, but being ghosted can be traumatic. It can leave you with unanswered questions that make it hard to move on. Although ghosting also occurs in friendships, it’s usually associated with dating. More devastating, but less common, is when a spouse disappears ...
Views: 989(2 votes) - Why Your Boyfriend Is Jealous Of Your Sexual Past (And What To Do About It) - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2016 from Jeff BillingsIf you’ve found yourself in a relationship with a jealous boyfriend, it can be quite a confusing and exhausting experience as you probably know. Especially when he’s not jealous about guys in the present, but about guys in the past. A man who gets all angry and upset about his girlfriend’s ...
Views: 13208(1 vote) - Women Looking For Couples - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2017 from Amy LawThere are more and more bisexual couples want to date and have fun with bisexual women now! Heart is empty without love.All of us want to meet our best love, but not always. Here is a site can help you, WomenLookingForCouples.com is the best and fastest growing bisexual dating site for bisexual ...
Views: 1400(2 votes) - Workaholic Breakdown Syndrome _ The loss of INTIMACY - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2019 from Roberto CIaldiniTo be truly loving and compassionate, one must feel and be able to express not only genuine emotional support, but also grateful appreciation. The language, behavior and values of the Feeling function do this best. The challenge becomes how to develop mutual respect, trust and loyalty, while ...
Views: 1128(1 vote) - Working Together - We Can Create Friendship, Business and Love - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneAs a member of The National Writers Union for many years, I have been aware of the problems experienced by educated, professional writers. Many have been deprived of their contracted fees. Others have had their writing plagiarized or syndicated without their consent and without payment to the ...
Views: 1777(1 vote) - Worry and Love - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2012 from John and Elaine LeademMany of us grew up with the belief that to worry is to love. Those we love most may be in real trouble, and we realize that there is very little we can do to improve the situation. So we worry because we love. Unfortunately, worrying is really nothing more than the active practice of not taking ...
Views: 1482(1 vote) - Yes, You Can Have A Happier Holiday - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2015 from Tina TessinaRichard and I just indulged in our early December tradition – we watched our favorite Christmas movie, "Scrooge!." the musical starring Albert Finney, which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year. No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, this is a ...
Views: 1314(1 vote) - You Can't Say Yes if You Can't Say No - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2012 from Brenda ShoshannaFear is a great factor in relationships. It confuses our mind, undermines our confidence and prevents us from making choices that would be healthy for all concerned. A great source of fear is rejection by others. Not aware that we have rejected ourselves, we become overly hungry for the ...
Views: 8167(3 votes) - Your ADHD Valentine in Love and Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2013 from Laurie DuparAhh Valentine’s Day. A whole day traditionally devoted to celebrating love. And as it is quickly approaching, my thoughts turn to relationships, all sorts of different ADHD relationships, and how ADHD can be a test for even the strongest connections. When I work with adults, often the focus ...
Views: 3819(1 vote) - Your Bestest Friend – You - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Tina TessinaI have a friend, Maggie, who has been my friend since 1968, and she calls me her “bestest” friend as a way of appreciating our connection. It always makes me smile, and I feel the same about her. Often, my clients have trouble learning to appreciate and trust themselves, and I think ...
Views: 1657(1 vote) - Your divorce: Are you an Eeyore or a Tigger? - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Adele TheronI remember my first Pooh bear book when I was a kid. I loved it to death and pawed at the pages on a daily basis. I was so in love with the characters that when it came time to find ways to earn money for my school as a debutante, I even wrote and directed a play which starred almost my whole ...
Views: 1722(1 vote) - Your First Steps To Changing - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2010 from Therese BenedictYour First Steps To Changing By Therese Benedict In this world we walk around thinking that we are good people inside, yet we do such hurtful acts. In the beginning of our change, we need to recognize what belongs to us in those hurtful acts. Face them, say hello and put the actions with ...
Views: 2170(1 vote) - Your Inner Detective - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2015 from Tina TessinaThe biggest obstacle to most of my clients’ healing and recovery is their inability to understand and accept their feelings, and the emotional and behavioral clues that indicate where the problems lie. Most of us learn early that being too open with our feelings and thoughts is dangerous. ...
Views: 1301(1 vote) - Your Love Reading for November - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonThis is a time to take responsibility for your truest desire and follow it. Be honest with yourself about what you’re willing to do, invest, and give. Then choose. You cannot make a wrong choice—just a different one, with different consequences. When you move forward with a relationship, know ...
Views: 1006(1 vote) - Your Mental Attitude Shapes Your Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2011 from Pamela LevinYour mental attitude has everything to do with how you get along with with others. If you have a positive attitude, you tend to create positive relationships, while a negative mental attitude breeds more of that same negativity. But how to improve your attitude if you need to? Where were you ...
Views: 1404(1 vote) - Your Relationship is a Dance - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2010 from Jennifer Zurick-WitteHave you ever marveled at how a couple dancing can flow with grace and energy and then your eyes shift from seeing them as singular entity and you distinguish the distinct movements of each person? While as a couple the dancers display harmony, each dancer also expresses his or her character ...
Views: 2785(3 votes) - YOUR SEASONAL BOOSTER SHOT: Fully Loaded with Ambrosial Juju to Keep You on Your Toes (if not Jumping for Joy) - by Submitted on May 31, 2024 from joan pancoeRECOMMENDED: To see all visuals and activate all ...
Views: 279(1 vote) - Your Spiritual Love Reading for June - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonYou may feel the need to make a decision, yet unable to move one way or another due to feeling confused. Look at the situation logically and try a new approach to break the deadlock. You are not trapped and have full control on what you choose to do. Things are moving quickly and feeling chaotic ...
Views: 712(2 votes) - Your Spiritual Love Reading for September - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2019 from Tanisha Snipes-DixonIt’s time to address the unhealthy alliances you’ve formed and make a decision to heal the past. Not all relationships are dysfunctional, and not all of them will disappoint you. Don’t abandon yourself or the potential of finding love. You can connect to others in a healthy way once you ...
Views: 925(1 vote) - Your State of Being - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2012 from Linda RadfordWhen I first awaken in the morning, I check into my ‘state of being’. How do I feel? Are there any sensations in my body? What space is my heart in? What thoughts are going through my mind? How am I really feeling? Awareness of my ‘state of being’ means I take a barometer reading of where I ...
Views: 1195(1 vote) - Zen + Sex = Starting Over? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2015 from Tina TessinaMen and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several steps to recover from the ...
Views: 1131(1 vote) - “My spouse wants a divorce and there's nothing I can do about it...” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Susie and Otto CollinsLindsay feels as if she's trapped in a nightmare. She was well aware that her marriage to Sam has been rocky over the past year or two, but she always believed that the two of them would eventually work out their problems. She was completely unprepared when Sam came home from work a few ...
Views: 2737(1 vote) - Breaking Up is Hard to Do!! - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown(A simple way to let go with dignity) "The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa If schools had offered a course called "Breaking up is hard to do", I suspect we all would have enrolled. Why aren't we taught these difficult challenges ...
Views: 1370(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Rescue Others Instead Of Rescuing Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is experiencing some kind of inner pain or drama, they can take a closer look at what is taking place and start to look for solutions, or they can focus on what is taking place around them. Through placing their attention on something or someone else, it can allow them to avoid ...
Views: 772(1 vote) - ***There is No Recovery from Infidelity - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for nearly 28 years and we know this – the best ...
Views: 6903(25 votes) - ***Jolt Your Relationship from Negative to Positive - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. With our fast paced society and the ever increasing demands of everyday life, more and more couples are finding that negativity is taking over their relationship. An abrupt interject of positivity into a relationship is the only way to change the ...
Views: 3933(22 votes) - ***Love is Colorblind to Those in Love - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzReal Love Is Colorblind By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The romantic 1955 movie, Love is a Many Splendored Thing, tells the story of an American reporter who falls in love with a Eurasian doctor. And as you might have guessed, they encounter prejudice from both of their ...
Views: 3872(21 votes) - ***Love the Second Time Around - Falling Back in Love - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. People in love sometimes fall out of love. But sometimes, they fall back into love all over again. While we have seen many instances of this in our interviews over the years, a great example of what we are talking about is the love affair between ...
Views: 4965(19 votes) - ***Seven Tips to Avoid the Seven Year Itch - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. According to the available research evidence, there are several periods in a marriage that seem, on average, to be particularly troublesome – the first year, the seventh year, the fifteenth year, and the 30th year. Marriages that survive and thrive ...
Views: 5257(17 votes) - ***Love is Best Not Rushed - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. A few days ago we ran across a marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll, author of Outside the Dog Museum. It goes like this: “You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later ...
Views: 3004(16 votes) - ***How Does Age Difference Matter in a Marriage? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzAmerica’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts Over the years, we have been asked if the age differential between people contemplating marriage really matters. Our answer – it depends! In our thousands of interviews on six continents of the world, we have learned this – when you are truly in ...
Views: 7978(14 votes) - ***In Building Relationships the Simple Things Matter - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2012 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Thirty years of research on successful love and marriage has taught us many things, but first and foremost – no love has blossomed or been sustained without doing the “simple things.” Big things don’t matter until your relationship has mastered the ...
Views: 3461(14 votes) - ***How Will I Know If It Is True Love? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2011 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As our many readers know, we have been studying successful marriage and relationships for nearly three decades. And frankly, one of the most important questions we get asked is, How will I know if this is true love? The answer is simpler than you ...
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