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There are those that are in tune with their need to be loved and those that are not. When someone is not in tune with this need, they might have been this way for most if not all of their life.
As a result of this, they won’t be in tune with this need and this will be something that they are ... Views: 182
It could be said that it is part of the human experience to want to not only be loved but to also love. But, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that someone will be in touch with both of these needs.
If they aren’t, these needs will be repressed and will, therefore, be outside of ... Views: 80
As a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to let go and to relax now that they are an adult. Thanks to this, they can have the need to always be in control and on the go.
Now, there could be moments when one thinks about how their early years are still ... Views: 889
If someone was to step back and to take a closer look at their own life, they may see that their life is out of balance. The reason for this is that they might give a lot but they might rarely receive anything back.
Through living in this way, they will almost certainly be used to running on ... Views: 481
Based on how someone experiences life, it can be as though they have done something that is extremely bad. The reason for this is that they could have the tendency to feel bad about themselves.
When they do feel good, then, this will be the exception as opposed to the rule. And, during these ... Views: 68
Although someone can be carrying a lot of pain, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain can generally keep this pain out of their conscious awareness.
Along with this, there can be a number of things that they will do, secondary defences, to keep ... Views: 142
If someone was mistreated during their early years, they are likely to carry a lot of anger, rage, and hate. These feelings will be a natural consequence of having been violated throughout this stage of their life.
However, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of ... Views: 63
If someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place.
Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand ... Views: 178
If someone doesn’t believe that they are lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Even so, how they see themselves is still going to have an effect on how they experience life.
By being this way, it can be normal for them to push human warmth away. But, if they are not aware of ... Views: 193
Now that someone is an adult, what they may find is that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. They could have the tendency to feel worthless and as though they have no value.
As a result of this, they are likely to often feel low and depressed and they may even think about ... Views: 247
What someone may find, if they were able to detach from how they experience life, is that they have the tendency to feel low. This can mean that they will often feel depressed and they may even have moments when they think about ending their life.
They may find that this is how they have been ... Views: 179
If someone was to take a step back and to reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they are typically out of touch with how they feel. During the moments when this isn’t the case, that’s if they have these moments, it could be because something dramatic has taken ... Views: 577
If someone was mistreated during their early years by one or both of their parents, it could be said that the ideal would be for what they went through to be acknowledged by them. What this would do is allow them to receive the validation that they deserve and play a part in them being able to ... Views: 167
What can’t be denied is that everyone on this planet is going to die at one point or another. Thus, to say this is not being ‘negative’, it is simply stating something that is part of the human experience.
This doesn’t mean that someone should endlessly think about the fact that they will ... Views: 585
If, after coming to see that they were abused and/or neglected during their early years, someone might feel the need to talk about what they went through. At this stage, they might not feel comfortable speaking to one or both of their parents about it.
Still, although they can have this ... Views: 545
Although someone’s body is part of them and is, therefore, not something that they can get rid of, it doesn’t mean that they have embraced it. As a result of this, they may overlook this part of them or they could do just about everything that they can to change it.
What this will illustrate ... Views: 92
If someone takes a step back and reflects on their life, what they can see is that they often do things that they don’t want to do. So, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say no.
As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time doing things that don’t serve ... Views: 18
Having needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. When someone is in this position, it is likely to be normal for them to overlook their own needs.
In fact, they might not even be aware of most of their needs and so they are ... Views: 149
If someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met.
As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ... Views: 2108
As a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, one may find that it is a challenge for them to feel good about themselves. Their time on this planet is then going to be anything but fulfilling.
In fact, it could seem as though they are in hell as opposed to hell being somewhere ... Views: 619
What can be normal is for someone to spend most of their waking hours on the go. So, from morning until night, they are seldom going to just be, and, even if they were to sit down, they might not be able to simply relax.
To settle themselves down, they might need to have something to drink or ... Views: 152
If someone was brought up in an environment that was extremely conditional and there was very little love on offer, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be aware of now that they are an adult. In fact, if they were to think about this stage of their life, they might not be able ... Views: 154
When it comes to the human body, it could be said that it is designed to take someone forward. Of course, they can walk back but it is not as easy as it is for them to walk forward.
Now, although going forward, not backwards is what is supposed to take place, it doesn’t mean that someone will ... Views: 670
Although someone could live in a country and an area that is relatively safe, based on how they live, it will be as though this is not the case. This is because they could have the inclination to isolate themselves from others.
If so, they could only go out when they need to do so, such as ... Views: 301
As a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune.
Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ... Views: 661
In the same way that someone can live in a building that has many levels and spend most of their time on the top floor, they can also inhabit a body and spend most of their time up top. As a result of this, they will generally be unaware of what is taking place in their body.
The outcome of ... Views: 77
If someone was to see that their early years were not very nurturing, it could take a little while until they feel ready to share what happened with others. As for why it has taken them a little while to see this, this will most likely be due to their conscious mind forgetting all about what ... Views: 252
Although someone is a human being that has a number of needs, feelings and inherent value, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could treat themselves like they are nothing more than an object that only has a few basic needs, no feelings and no value and purely exists to ... Views: 149
If someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly.
Due to this, they are ... Views: 148
If, after being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone was to get to a point in their adult life where they realised that this is what took place, they may experience a strong need for their experiences to be validated. It might seem strange as to why it took them so long to realise that ... Views: 655
If someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what ... Views: 638
During someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing.
Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it ... Views: 34
What someone could struggle to get their head around, if they were abused as a child, is why their parent treated them in this way. The person who was supposed to love and cherish them wouldn’t have done so.
If they had been harmed by someone at school or a stranger, for instance, it would ... Views: 81
If someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might soon find out that the parent that abused them is not willing to acknowledge what took place. Assuming it was one parent, they might have been told, on numerous occasions, that what they say happened didn’t happen.
It then ... Views: 148
Over six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written.
I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ... Views: 1447
When it comes to whether or not someone has a felt sense of their own worth, it can all depend on what their early years were like. Now, this is not to say that if someone’s early years were not very nurturing, it won’t be possible for them to develop it as an adult.
The truth is that this is ... Views: 477
One thing that someone can experience, that’s if they have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, is a lot of rage. In fact, they can feel so mad that ending one or both of their parent’s life could enter their mind.
Due to how they feel, it could be as if they ... Views: 201
If someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise.
However, although they will want to progress ... Views: 266
At this point in time, one could be in a position where they believe that their parents are to blame for what they are going through. This could show that their life is in a mess and they may have mental and emotional problems.
Perhaps they have only had this outlook for a short while, or ... Views: 450
Even if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this ... Views: 148
After suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together.
No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and ... Views: 163
What someone could find, if they were to speak to the parent who mistreated them during their formative years – assuming it was only one - is that they are unable to make much headway. Based on how this parent responds, it could be as if they are talking to someone who wasn’t actually there ... Views: 133
In recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward.
One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ... Views: 965
If someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise.
This person ... Views: 80
Thanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to ... Views: 224
If someone had parent who was abusive during their early years, it can be hard for them to get on with them now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that this parent could be in denial when it comes to what took place all those years ago.
Or, this parent could make out that one ... Views: 649
If someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Due to how much time has passed and the defences that they have in place, they might not be able to remember what took place at this stage of their life.
Then again, they might ... Views: 468
If someone grew up with at least one parent who was unable to truly see them, they are likely to have a strong need to be seen now that they are an adult. In addition to this need, though, they can also have a fear of being seen.
When it comes to their need to be seen, this will relate to ... Views: 186
After coming to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, someone could spend a fair amount of time trying to get through to their parent/parents. This could be something that hasn’t been going on for very long.
Then again, this could be something that has been taking place for ... Views: 239
If someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. In fact, their life could be one big struggle, with them wondering if they even want to be alive.
However, even if they are not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will ... Views: 20