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The Importance of Mind-Body Work for Treating Grief - by Michael Roth- Mother Wounds: Is A Narcissistic Mother Developmentally Stunted? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been able to get to the stage where they can see that how their mother behaved during their formative years was anything but healthy, they could wonder why she was this way. But that might not be all there is to it, though, as their mother might not be much different now that they ...
Views: 201 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Want A Daughter? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is focused on and often does things for his mother, he is going to be like a caretaker. Along with what he does for her, he might create the impression that he is happy to be there for her. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though his sole purpose is to be there for his mother ...
Views: 201 - Self-knowledge: Why Would Someone Be Drawn To The Darkness That Is ‘Out There’? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time looking into what the elites are doing. In their eyes, these can be seen as the people who are creating most if not all of the problems in the world. If so, this is likely to mean that they will watch a lot of videos and read a lot of ...
Views: 201 - Child Abuse: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When A Parent Abuses Their Child? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This person ...
Views: 200 - Early Deprivation: Someone Feel Invisible If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter feeling lonely for many years and becoming aware of this, someone could find that they have the tendency to feel invisible. They are then going to exist and be able to be seen by others but they generally won’t feel as though they exist or are seen by others. Naturally, experiencing ...
Views: 200 - Mother Wounds: Can Women Take On A Symbolic Meaning If A Man Had A Mother Who Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, a man can be in a position where he more or less goes from one woman to another. When it comes to how long he spends with each woman, it can depend on a number of factors. His time with a woman can then last a number of weeks or months. But, no matter how long it lasts, ...
Views: 200 - Fight Instinct: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Fight Instinct If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, it will be necessary for someone to relax and recharge, and, at other times, it will be necessary for them to take action and get things done. The fire that is inside them won’t be activated when they are relaxed and it will be when they are not. However, to say that this fire will ...
Views: 199 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need to Emotionally Separate From His Mother In Order To Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though a man is a separate human being with his own needs and feelings and life to lead, it doesn’t mean that he will act like one. Instead, what can be normal is for him to act as if he is an extension of his mother. He is then not going to be the main actor in his own life; he will be ...
Views: 199 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Man Sacrificed By His Parents? - by Submitted on May 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, it will be clear that something is not right if a man is focused on his mother and is not there for himself. He will be a separate human being, who has his own needs and life to lead, and yet, he won’t act like one. Thus, he will have put his own life to one side and his main ...
Views: 199 - Needs: Why Would A Parent Cause Their Child To Lose Touch With Their Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they could typically ignore a number of their needs. But, if this is just what is normal, they might not be aware of this. If so, apart from their basic needs, most if not all of their other needs will seldom be met. To be specific, they can generally take care ...
Views: 199 - People Pleasing: Can Someone Have The Need To Please Others If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is an individual, with their own needs and feelings, it doesn’t mean that they generally act like one. In general, they could do what they can to please others. As a result of this, it will be as if they are here to serve the needs of others, not to have their own life. ...
Views: 199 - Brands: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Worship A Brand? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years, someone may have spent a fair amount of their money on certain or several clothes brands. Assuming that it is one brand, this is then going to be a brand that they greatly value. Therefore, the money that they have spent over the years will be seen as an investment. So, ...
Views: 198 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Shadow? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf the average person was asked to share their opinion in regards to why the world is the way that it is, they might say that it’s because of the people that are in power. Therefore, if these people were dealt with in one way or another, the world would be different. This can be someone who ...
Views: 198 - Father Wounds: Can A Woman Hate Men If She Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman hates men, this can be something that is very much part of her personality or it might not be. When it comes to the former, she could spend a lot of time thinking about how bad men are and having numerous conversations with other women about it. This could go even further, though, ...
Views: 198 - Helplessness: Can Someone Embody A Sense Of Helplessness If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be passive and lack motivation. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might typically only do what they have to do. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they have given up on life and don’t ...
Views: 198 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Fear Women If He Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man could see, if he was to reflect on his life, is that he has the tendency to keep women at a distance. He could find that this is something that typically just happens, without him consciously choosing to be this way. This can mean he has been single for most of his life and has ...
Views: 198 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Have A Negative View Of Women If He Had An Abusive Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to step back and reflect on how he sees women, he might find that he doesn’t have a positive view of them. He could see them as cold, critical, cruel and emotionally unstable and unpredictable, among other things. As to why he sees them in this way, it is likely to be a sign that ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Man: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Believe That He Would Die If He separated From His Mother? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that a man can only have one life; he can’t have two or more lives. Therefore, if he spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, it is naturally going to have a negative impact on his ability to have a life that is fulfilling. In fact, due to how caught up he is in his ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Embody A Sense Of Helplessness? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man was to see that he is out of balance, after focusing on his mother and not having much of a life for however long, he can look into what he can do to change his life. He can then be angry and fed up with how his life is but he can be relieved that he can now do something about ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Woman Need To Look Into The Law Of Resonance If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having been with a number of men who were overly focused on their mother’s needs and were not available, a woman could believe that she is unlucky. This can partly be because of how different she is likely to be from these men. Unlike these men, she is unlikely to be focused on one of ...
Views: 198 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can Repression Stop A Woman From Being Able To See Why She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman is with a man who is overly focused on his mother and is not available, and she has been in this position before, she could be well and truly fed up. But, as this won’t be the first time that she has been in this position, it is to be expected. There will be the type of man that ...
Views: 197 - Self-Worth: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Sense Of Unworthiness? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperFor someone to meet their needs, they are going to need to know that they are worthy of having them met and to take action. Another way of looking at this is to say that there is the being element and the doing element. However, although both of these elements are important, someone can be in ...
Views: 197 - Sleep Problems: Why Would Someone Have Trouble Sleeping? - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to have difficulty falling asleep. Furthermore, they could know at least one person who has the same challenge. And, even if there isn’t anyone in their life who has spoken about this, it doesn’t mean that there is not someone in their life who is in ...
Views: 197 - Early Deprivation: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was deprived during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. The reason for this is that their brain may have blocked out most if not all of what took place. However, while what took place will be in the past, the impact that it had on them is likely to ...
Views: 196 - Emotional Regulation: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Regulate Their Emotions If They Are Out Of Control? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could see, if they were to reflect on their life, is that their inability to handle their emotions is having a negative on their life. They could also see that this is nothing new as they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might not need to ...
Views: 196 - Imagination: Why Would Someone Have The Tendency To Imagine ‘Negative’ Scenarios? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to observe their thoughts for a little while, they can find that they often think about bad things happening in the future. Consequently, they are likely to experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety. And, if they were to talk to a friend about what is going on for them, they ...
Views: 196 - Mother Wounds: Why Would A Man Have Had A Mother Who Wasn’t Nurturing? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat a man may have come to realise, as the years have passed, is that his mother wasn’t very warm when he was growing up. She would then have been his mother but she wouldn’t have been very motherly. However, he could wonder why it has taken him so long to see his mother clearly. For most of ...
Views: 196 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Mother Too Enmeshed To Allow Him To Separate From Her? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can plague a man’s mind, if he has come to see that he was unable to attach to his mother, develop a strong sense of self and then break away from her, is why this process didn’t take place. He can feel angry, enraged and deeply betrayed. But, as the person who he came through ...
Views: 196 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Will A Mother-Enmeshed Man Be Different If He Dates A Woman Who Belongs To A Different Racial Group? - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, someone left a comment on a video that I had made about a mother-enmeshed man. They essentially asked me if a man in this position would be different if he dated a woman who was from a different racial group. This was not something that I had been asked before and I thought ...
Views: 196 - Vulnerability: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable If They Had A High Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is not a superhero who is unable to be affected by life, they can come across as though this is the case. As a result of this, it can be as though they are unaffected by life. They are then not going to have moments when they come across as hurt, sad or down, for instance. ...
Views: 196 - Child Abuse: Why Wouldn’t An Abusive Parent Be Able To Acknowledge The Hurt That They Caused? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone is going to carry, if they were mistreated during their early years, is a lot of hurt. To handle what was going on, this hurt would have had to be pushed out of their conscious awareness and stored deep in their brain and body. If this hadn’t taken place, they might ...
Views: 195 - Child Abuse: Why Wouldn’t Someone Be Able To Accept That They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone was mistreated during their formative years, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to acknowledge this. This can mean that they won’t talk about what happened or they could often talk about some of the things that happened. But, if they do talk about some of the things ...
Views: 195 - Emotional Eating: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Engage In Emotional Eating? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they have the tendency to eat when they are emotionally unsettled. This can be something that takes place every now and then. Alternatively, this could take place a few times a week or it might be more often. ...
Views: 195 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Create A Disembodied Sense Of Self? - by Submitted on May 16, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is a human being, it means that they will have a head and a body. And, on the inside, they will have and thoughts, feelings and instincts. However, although there are these two parts of them or seemingly two parts of them, it doesn’t mean that they will be in touch with both of ...
Views: 194 - Law Of Resonance: Can Someone Use The Law Of Resonance To Attract What They Desire? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone were to think about something that they wanted to attain or experience, they could soon think about what it is that they need to do to achieve their goal. So, a number of steps could enter their mind, and, before long, they could take the first step. As the days, weeks and perhaps ...
Views: 194 - Mother Wounds: Can A Mothers Depriving Childhood Cause Her To Reject Her Child? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone has the right to be here and deserves to exist, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. They can have this sense that they don’t have the right to be here and to exist. Along with this, they can feel deeply worthless and unlovable. If this is so, they are not going to ...
Views: 194 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Has A Mother-Enmeshed Man Lost The Will To Live? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a man who is unknowingly caught up in his mother’s world, it can seem as though the best thing that can happen is for him to ‘wake up’. What this will do is allow him to see what is going on and to gradually change his life. After all, he is not here to merely be an extension ...
Views: 194 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Continually Cheated On? - by Submitted on May 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA few days, weeks or months ago, someone may have been in a relationship with someone who they loved. But, after finding out that this person cheated on them, they might have soon decided that it was best for them to cut their ties with them. Then again, they might have found out that this ...
Views: 193 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Reject His Need To Be With A Woman If His Mother Was Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, a man might be out of touch with his need to be with a woman. Thus, he won’t be aware of his need for emotional closeness and support, affection, or sex. This can mean that he will spend a lot of time in his head and very little time in his body. The reason for this is that these ...
Views: 193 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Feel Worthless If His Father Was Treated Badly During His Early Years? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man were to take a step back and reflect on how he sees himself, he could find that he doesn’t have a very empowering view. He could find that he sees himself as someone who doesn’t have any value. What could then stand out is how this view is having a negative impact on his ability to ...
Views: 192 - Father Wounds: Why Would A Man Believe That He Is Being Controlled By The Matrix? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man believes that both he and others are being controlled by something ‘out there’, he is unlikely to be short of support. In his eyes, then, there could be a group of people who operate behind the scenes who are controlling most of humanity. This could just be something that he shares ...
Views: 192 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Try To Make Cold Women Warm If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, a man may have been with a number of women who lacked warmth. Thanks to the experiences that he has had, he could believe that all women are the same. What this is likely to show is that his brain has taken the experiences that he had with however many women and attributed ...
Views: 192 - Mother Wounds: Why Would An Abusive Mother Have Had A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could wonder, if they had a mother who was typically not very nurturing, is why she even had a child or perhaps children. But, based on how she generally behaved, this is to be expected. If she had generally been nurturing and supportive, there would be no reason for ...
Views: 192 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Can A Woman Help A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Away From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat might stand out, if a woman has been with a man for a little while, is that he is overly focused on his mother. She can find it strange that he is so caught up with her and unable to live his own life. However, she can believe that she has what it takes to gradually pull him out of his ...
Views: 192 - Sense Of Enoughness: Can A Woman Be Obsessed With Her Appearance If She Believes That She Is Not Enough? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperA number of days, weeks, or months ago, a woman may have experienced a breakup. If so, since then, she might have put in a lot of effort to change her appearance. Now, this could mean that she has bought new clothes and perhaps wears things that she didn’t wear before. Then again, it might go ...
Views: 192 - Therapy: Can Someone Be Looking For A Mother/Father Figure When They Have Therapy? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter not being in a good way for however long, someone could come to the conclusion that they need help. Due to this, they could end up looking for a therapist locally or online. They might not care about whether they work with a man or a woman, or they could have a preference. Assuming ...
Views: 192 - Being Seen: Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Had A Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find if they were to take a step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel ignored and even invisible. This can be how they feel when they are with family friends and at work. Instead of being a human being that can be seen and heard, then, it will often be as ...
Views: 191 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Need To Be Cared For Cause Them To Act Helpless? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they haven’t been able to get it together, so to speak. So, unlike their friends, they could often struggle for money and have a job that is anything but fulfilling. Additionally, they could often be in a ...
Views: 191 - Early Deprivation: What Can Happen If Someone Was The Scapegoat During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, they can have the tendency to feel bad about themselves. And, it might not matter what they do or how they live their life, as it might not change the sense of badness that they often experience. Along with this, they can have an overly developed sense of ...
Views: 191 - False Self: Can Someone Create An Identity In Order To Meet Their Unmet Developmental Needs? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can more or less always wear the same outfit, they can also more or less always behave in the same way. And, as part of how they behave, they can also typically wear the same type of clothes. They are then going to be a whole human being that has many different ...
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