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- Appropriate Distance - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2005 from Steve TaubmanI’ve been thinking a lot lately about my contribution to others and my commitment to loving presence. In that regard, I’ve adopted a concept I call appropriate distance. In previous articles, I’ve suggested a philosophical stance for our interactions with others and implied that it’s our ...
Views: 1156 - A FEAR OF WOMEN - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2005 from Jard DeVilleHuman sexuality is God's great psychospiritual gift to loving women and men who mature beyond narcissism and selfishness, who open their arms and hearts to each other as lovers for life. Unfortunately, sexuality is also a common weapon of choice that is used by twisted and wicked psychopaths ...
Views: 1561 - Tapping the Power of your Inner Wisdom - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2005 from Neil FellowesWhen was the last time someone sat you down and told you how amazing, special and unique you are? Today? A few days ago? A while back? Never? For most of us it’s been some time… But does that mean we are anything short of magnificent? We easily recall the times when someone tells us we did ...
Views: 764 - 10 Ways to Put Sizzle Back in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2005 from Patricia FasonIt seems that no matter how much we love someone, and how deeply we are committed, keeping the sizzle alive in a relationship takes a little work. Here are ten ways you can help ignite the flame that was there when you first got together. 1. Don't take your relationship for granted. Everyone is ...
Views: 2538 - Spouse Improvement: Influence Your Partner to Change in just 7 Steps - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2005 from Ellyn BaderEveryone has something they’d like to change in their partner. Here is a 7-step process to create a change in your partner. The key to the success of this process is that it makes your partner want to change — instead of feeling coerced. 1. MAKE A LIST of the top three behaviors your partner ...
Views: 620 - 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Signs of Infidelity - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2005 from Ruth HoustonCertain things about signs of infidelity come as a surprise to most people. Even people who consider themselves knowledgeable about extramarital affairs may be unfamiliar with some of the little-known facts below. This information is taken from Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale ...
Views: 1366 - Write An Apology To Your Spouse: How to Apologize In a Way That Really Works For You - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2005 from Ellyn BaderBeing apologetic doesn’t come easily for me. Unfortunately, being inconsiderate and self-centered does. So I realized long ago that my marital survival would depend on two things: 1) learning to apologize and 2) becoming less selfish and more considerate. It was easier to start with apologies. ...
Views: 771 - Jealousy and relationships - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2005 from Linda SimmonI'm in the process of developing a workshop that deals primarily with relationships and in the process of doing that I've been working on an article about relationships and jealousy. I thought I'd share a bit of it here and more later. I has been very enligtening for me and I hope for some of ...
Views: 1214 - Are You My Soul Mate? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2005 from Dorothy ThompsonI’m always dumbfounded when someone walks up to me and declares that they either have not found their soul mate or says, “There are no soul mates out there for me.” Obviously, they don’t know how to look for the signs or how to read them once they do find them. There are millions, maybe even ...
Views: 882 - What Makes The Best Wedding Anniversary Gift? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2005 from Renee MichaelsChoosing a wedding anniversary gift that wows your husband or wife can rate high on your anxiety list; your anniversary is an occasion where the thought counts even more than the gift. The idea that your loving spouse should “know what I want" can lead to disappointed expectations, as men and ...
Views: 692 - Love, Romance, and Smoking - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2005 from Tim ThompsonWe all know the joke, "Do you smoke after sex?" (The answer is "It depends on how fast we were going!") Not many people get the connection between smoking, love and romance, but it is there. Check out the dating services and personals. How many times will you see the words "Non smoker seeks ...
Views: 1055(1 vote) - Soul Mates – Finding True Love and Commitment - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2005 from Sherry SimsFinding your true Soul Mate is something that many people hope to do. We all long for that one special person in our lives to make everything wonderful. We want to live the fairy-tale life and find our very own Prince or Princess Charming. We know that somehow that would make our lives ...
Views: 2816 - How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2005 from Ruth HoustonToo many wives with cheating husbands put up with their husband’s infidelity because they feel they have no choice, or they don’t know what else to do. If you’re in a similar situation, don’t despair. You have more power and control than you think. Don’t Be a Helpless Victim You don’t have ...
Views: 3034 - How To Write a Romantic Love Letter - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2005 from Renee MichaelsDoes the thought of writing a love letter or poem automatically reduce your vocabulary to a 5-year-old’s level? Well, believe it or not, that’s a great place to begin! Kids speak straight from the heart. They don’t worry about tripping over the right words, they only know how to say what they ...
Views: 1327 - How to overcome co-dependency and live a fulfilled life - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2005 from Dr. Ulla SebastianCo-dependency refers to an obsessive need for affection, attention and affirmation. Co-dependent people get easily drawn into the pain and problems of others, feel responsible to help people solve their problems while ignoring their own, look outside themselves for meaning, identity and value, ...
Views: 14046(1 vote) - Improve Your Relationship By Taking Care of Yourself First - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2005 from Nancy WassonIt’s important for you to take care of yourself before you try to fix your relationship. The old saying ‘You can’t give away what you don’t have” applies here. Until you are peaceful and happy, you won’t have a peaceful, happy relationship. If you skip these steps and jump immediately into the ...
Views: 8611 - What does true love mean to you? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2005 from Dr. Ulla SebastianMost people long for or have an image of a true love that they nourish or search for all their life. Depending on the level of consciousness, true love can mean something completely different for different people. On the level of the physical well-being, love is the satisfaction of vital ...
Views: 4388(1 vote) - Is neediness ruining your love life? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2005 from John GrayIs neediness ruining your love life? By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus In a recent survey conducted at AskMarsVenus.com, ... Is neediness ruining your ...
Views: 13403(3 votes) - Is neediness ruining your love life? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2005 from John GrayIs neediness ruining your love life? By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus In a recent survey conducted at AskMarsVenus.com, ... Is neediness ruining your ...
Views: 13403(3 votes) - Why is my Match still Searching? - by Why is my Match still Searching? You met a great guy online and have gone on several dates with him. You think things are really starting to heat up, so you decide to hide your on-line profile, but, before you do, you take another look at his and ...
Views: 4690(1 vote) - Is your partner having an affair? - by Is your partner having an affair? What are the signs you should look for... Something feels different at home lately, although you aren’t able to quite pinpoint what’s up. You and your partner are suddenly ...
Views: 2055(1 vote) - Why Isn’t He Ready to Get Married? - by Why Isn’t He Ready to Get Married? Learn how you can get a few steps closer to walking down the aisle! You’ve dated for 3 years, lived together for 1 of them and are really beginning to wonder if this man of your dreams, your soul ...
Views: 13803(2 votes) - Are You Fit To Love? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2005 from Allie Ochsis the most important question you’ll ever ask yourself. Let’s face it, our relationships are extremely important. Yet, often they are the cause of pain and struggle. Single or not, societal standards convince us that we can have it all. Much of the available relationship advice compels us to go ...
Views: 1132 - Author of Marriage Fitness/Marriage Coach - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2005 from Mort FertelTHE 5 MOST COMMON MARRIAGE PROBLEMS And How to Avoid Making Them Worse No marriage is perfect. So what are the most common problems that 60 million married couples face? A recent survey I conducted showed that the five most common marriage problems are: 1. Infidelity 2. Constant low-grade ...
Views: 2445 - The Art of Conversation: A Conversation Tool for Couples - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2004 from betsy sansbyIntroduction for Couples: The Art of Conversation is a homework tool I developed for couples in my therapy practice. It's a structured exercise in which one person (Person A) gets to talk for 20 minutes about any issue she wishes while her partner (Person B) asks specific questions designed ...
Views: 3171 - Love Means Never Having to Say You’re Sorry - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2004 from Barbara Rose, Ph.D.The title of this article is fully credited to Erich Segal, who wrote the phenomenal movie “Love Story” back in 1970. Since that time, I have always wondered what that statement truly meant. Now, 34 years later, I understand. True love is unconditional. It is transparent, where we can accept, ...
Views: 23167(2 votes) - Romance-Can It Last? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2004 from Thelma MarianoI’m a sucker for romance. I love movies where boy meets girl, boy loses girl and, against all odds, they find their way back to each other. Or films about star-crossed lovers, as in Bridges of Madison County, who return to their separate lives forever changed. In real life, though, I have ...
Views: 874 - All About Soul Mates - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2004 from Barbara Rose, Ph.D.1. How do I know when I’ve met my Soul Mate? 2. If I’ve really met my soul mate, why is the relationship so difficult? 3. Why is it that many soul mates don’t stay together? 4. How can I turn the dynamics of this relationship around for lasting happiness? 5. Why do many soul mates ...
Views: 3958(1 vote) - Happily (and Hot!) Ever After - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2004 from Mort FertelHAPPILY (AND HOT!) EVER AFTER 5 Ways to “Make” More Love in Your Marriage Life’s daily grind can make you feel like the passion in your marriage is fading faster than Britney Spear’s Vegas nuptials. But love is not simply a matter of chance; it’s your choice. You don’t have to be “lucky in ...
Views: 1107(1 vote) - Growing Pains - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2004 from richard jonesThere are no perfect relationships because there are no perfect people. However, that your relationships will never be perfect does not mean you have to settle for relationships that are pathetic. You can cultivate perfectly imperfect relationships in which no one commits offenses so great that ...
Views: 4842 - What 'Till Death Do Us Part' REALLY Means - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2004 from Barbara Rose, Ph.D.Let me address this issue of eternity, this promise many couples demand of each other and recite in standard wedding vows. Taken literally, this promise is broken more than it is kept. But “Till death do us part” can be interpreted differently. In this phrase, “death” does not need to mean the ...
Views: 918 - Desirous Attachment – The Trap and the Solution - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2004 from Barbara Rose, Ph.D.I've seen a lot in my life. A lot of people suffering, fearful, temporarily joyous angry, hurt, resentful, longing, hopeful, and ecstatic too. I've felt all of the above, and I would venture to say that you or someone you know has as well. This article is dedicated to those who want relief and ...
Views: 2148 - S.T.O.P.-- A 4-Step Strategy for Handling Conflicts Without Hurting Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2004 from betsy sansbyS.T.O.P.--A 4-Step Strategy for Handling Conflict Without Hurting Your Relationship Brain researchers have found that when people are scared, hurt, or angry, they're physiologically incapable of thinking straight. Stress hormones flood the body and cause the rational part of the brain to shut ...
Views: 9244 - Make the Best of Your Breakup or Divorce - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2004 from Jeanette CastelliMake the Best of Your Breakup or Divorce After a breakup or divorce everyone goes through a rollercoaster of emotions. There is anger, resentment, regret, sadness and even joy. Some days you may feel that the divorce or breakup was the best thing that could happen. Other days you may feel as if ...
Views: 1006 - How to Be a Great Long Distance Lover - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2004 from richard jonesAre you in an LDR (long distance relationship) or at least open to being in one? Do you and your sweetheart live too far apart to spend time in each other's presence whenever you desire? If so, then know that it will require creativity and commitment to sustain and deepen such a relationship. ...
Views: 4665 - Men and women are different how do they get what they want? by Susan Sheppard - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2011 from Susan SheppardMen are such wonderful creatures and most of the time everyone underappreciates them. Personally, I love men and everything about them. Since my whole theory of relationship is based upon the fact that men and women are different, it seemed time to elaborate on who men are and how did they get ...
Views: 5136 - Are You Spiritually-Ready for Your Soul Mate to Come Into Your Life? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2004 from Dorothy ThompsonIt’s Saturday night and you’re sitting in front of the television watching “I Love Lucy” reruns. Ricky is berating Lucy for meddling in his business and Lucy is crying bucketfuls. Even as low as Lucy is, she still has Ricky’s love, not like you who is sitting there drowning in pity because ...
Views: 1739(1 vote) - THE FLAMES OF LOVE - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2004 from hifzur rehmanSuppose you have everything; a good job, good health, good reputation, good relationships and lot of money to spend. But still there is something missing from your life. Guess what? The LOVE. It is not something which you should ignore. Life without love is just like body without soul. ...
Views: 856 - Two simple ways to get your spouse emotionally involved in the relationship - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2004 from darren wilkMost of the calls I receive in my office for marriage help come from women who are tired of doing all the work in their marriage. They have asked their husbands, over and over again, to get into gear and take more responsibility for the relationship. The response they get is, “Why? There is ...
Views: 9433 - Learning to Trust Again - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2004 from Thelma MarianoEleven o’clock on a weeknight I found myself phoning a man whom I’d recently met. We had been talking regularly and I just wanted to hear the sound of his voice. No answer. After four rings his answering machine kicked in and I hung up. How strange. This man made a point of staying home during ...
Views: 3476 - Unlucky in Love? - by Unlucky in Love?
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We recently asked our Mars Venus telephone coaches to name the top relationship struggle they hear from female callers. The number one response was dating relationships that have failed because the man pulled away, ...
Views: 2310(1 vote) - Is This Love? How Can You Know? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2004 from Avalon De WittAhhh... love! It's what we all seek. Even those who already have it are continually seeking ways to keep it. But what is love, really? How can we know that what we're feeling is not infatuation? What's the difference? If you are currently in a relationship or if you hope to be in one, ...
Views: 935 - How Lazy Parents Make Happier Kids and Stronger Marriages - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2004 from Yolanda CardenMy mother always said that the best parents are lazy parents. Her theory, as I understood it, was that lazy parents don't jump up every time their kids need something so that children learn to entertain themselves, enjoy themselves, and become more independent. In couples, lazy parents, ...
Views: 711 - So You're Planning an Outdoor Wedding or Reception? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2004 from Susan DunnThe best advice I can give you is to test your ideas in the actual location under realistic conditions to eliminate unpleasant surprises. Work with an experience coach or wedding consultant if you can, and then keep in mind the following things: 1. THE WIND. Wind can affect the temperature, ...
Views: 874(1 vote) - Apprentice of the Heart - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2004 from Guy Finley(An Excerpt from "Apprentice of the Heart") Seated in the center of the heart, as surely as the essence of a tiny seed holds the promise of a towering tree, lives within us the Presence of a Power that can dispel any gathering darkness and change what is unkind into conscious compassion. What ...
Views: 1168 - Women are Discovering - Jealousy Sucks! - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2004 from Alison FinchIf you've ever felt jealousy gripping you - I mean really gripping you - you'll know exactly what I mean. Your heart thumps against your breast, your breath seems to rasp in your throat as you gasp for air, and your emotions seem to ricochet between unbridled rage and helpless panic. Not only ...
Views: 6534(1 vote) - Fight Nice: 13 Relationship Tips for Parents of Young Children - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2004 from Susie CortrightThe heat of the moment is when we say things that can really damage intimacy. Here are some tips for staying calm, even amid the chaos that often defines life with young children: --> Preventative Measures - Declare a zero tolerance policy on the out-of-control temper. You must decide, for ...
Views: 1024(1 vote) - Listening is Sexy - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2004 from Susie CortrightActive listening makes your mate feel worthy, appreciated, interesting, and respected. Besides the physical act of sex itself, it is one of the most important things you can do to solidify your friendship and strengthen intimacy. When active listening occurs, ordinary conversations emerge on a ...
Views: 1043(1 vote) - The Pros and Cons of Dating Online - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2004 from Susan DunnI’ve had more potential partners through eharmony.com ( http://tinyurl.com/2lyea ) than I ever did dating around my hometown,” says my client whom I’ll call Mary. She’s over 50, single, and interested in finding a life partner. “I’ve always done better with some sort of introduction,” she ...
Views: 5817(1 vote) - The SURGE of the URGE - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2004 from Stanley LeffewHave you ever heard the expression, "The Urge to Merge"? It is a term relating to sexuality and marriage. The "URGE" symbolizes sexual interest, and the "MERGE" symbolizes marriage union. We see it all around us! Late night TV bombards us with sexual images and sensual content. Commercials ...
Views: 918(1 vote) - INFIDELITY ADVICE: How Gifts Can Expose Your Cheating Husband - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2004 from Ruth Houstonby Ruth Houston © 2004 Beverley was ecstatic when she discovered a box containing a handcrafted, one-of-a-kind gold bracelet she’d been admiring at her favorite jewelry store. Thinking it was a surprise gift from her husband, Beverley said nothing about what she’d found. But the box soon ...
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