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My clients often report that they’re upset with their partners about something or the other. When I ask them, “Did you tell him or her that you were upset?” they routinely say, “No.”
Why Not Be Honest?
Often, we neglect to tell our partners what we’re upset about because we
• Don’t want to ... Views: 1065
Loving the Wave or the Ocean
Part 6 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love"
Robert Elias Najemy
When we limit our love to a specific person (we do not mean sexually, but rather emotionally, mentally and spiritually), it is difficult to experience love in its highest expression. We love ... Views: 698
Spiritual Universal Love
Part 5 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love"
Robert Elias Najemy
A later stage in our spiritual maturation process is the development of spiritual universal love where wisdom or spiritual discrimination is now added to our love. We now perceive all forms as ... Views: 1315
Selfless Love
Part 4 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love"
Robert Elias Najemy
Selfless Love for a Specific Person
An essential stage in the evolution of love is being able to love others regardless of their behavior. Probably the closest most of us have come to experiencing such ... Views: 769
Love, Pleasure or Affirmation ?
Part 3 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love"
Robert Elias Najemy
Needing Others for Pleasure
Let us examine how our needs for pleasure and affirmation can limit and distort our experience of love.
We create relationships that give us pleasure and ... Views: 680
Love or Need for Security ?
Part 2 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love"
Our Love is Mixed With Need
Our love is still mixed with a considerable amount of need. Love wants to give. Need wants to take. Sometimes what we are seeking to take is very subtle and requires deep inner ... Views: 735
Part 1 of a 6 part series on the "The Stages of Love"
Love is our greatest need.
Is it our highest most fulfilling state.
Do we really love or are we simply attached to, identified with or dependent upon the persons we "love"?
Is our love free and unconditional, or is it mixed with various ... Views: 750
Every woman is different, with her own personality, so what I'm writing here is just a generalization. You need to get to know the women you are with, and find out what she wants. If you aren't willing to do that, then ask yourself why are you dating her? If all she is to you is a pretty women ... Views: 627
Gay Hendricks says in “The Learning to Love yourself Workbook? Humans tend to demand from others what we are most unwilling to give.
Isn’t that funny. We expect and demand someone to give us what we are not willing to give. Unconditional love. If we expect that from someone to make us feel ... Views: 20458
Do you want to know if she likes you?
Are you unsure if he is interested in you?
For most people, the answers to these questions is a definite yes, and so here are some of the signals that show whether the other person was intending to flirt with you or not.
* Playing with her hair : This ... Views: 1354
Don’t ever think you know there is everything to know about sex. No matter what you know and practice there is always going to be small things you haven’t learnt yet. I’m sure you have better things to do with your life than trying to learn everything about sex so when you ... Views: 7802
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Loving Our Soul - by Sorceress (Stephanie Adams) at GODDESSY
Submitted on Apr 07, 2007 from
Love is the most powerful emotion in existence. With it, one can capture the world. Without it, one can conquer the world. People who made history through their evil deeds have been known to have had a lack of love in their childhood. The truth is that without knowing how to love ourselves, we ... Views: 1149
Myths About Making Someone Love You
Do you think that love is just an uncontrollable random process?
Do you think that if the person you loved didn’t love you back then nothing can be done about it?
Do you think that you can't make someone fall in love with you?
The Truth About Making ... Views: 45026
I Can Never Forget About Him
I can never forget about him…
He was the only one I ever loved that much…
I will never love someone else as I loved him…
I can never imagine myself being with someone else…
Do these phrases sound familiar? Have you been in that situation ... Views: 1516
How can you get your spouse to join you in creating a relationship that is supportive, honest and full of love? You can create a rewarding, wonderful relationship from a lifeless one by starting with a clear vision of what you want.
Many people define what they want in their relationships by ... Views: 570
I noticed one of our houseplants the other day had soil that was dry and hard, and the plant drooped over the edges of the pot, ready to die. The plant did not have enough power to suck any more moisture from that dry soil. I checked in with my wife to see if she had noticed, and it turned out ... Views: 704
In the last months, I have had the unfortunate task of informing a number of clients, and even a good friend, that they were caught up in another relationship scam. Sad to say, we so want to be loved - and to love - that we can be trapped by our desire, our willingness to trust, afraid to listen ... Views: 1371
I first discovered the One Decision almost by accident. Now, as I look back, I see that I had already been living my life in accordance with my One Decision, but I didnt have any inclination that I had actually made such a choice. In fact, I didnt even have a name for it.
It was only after ... Views: 707
When someone feels that he or she always has to be right, you can bet that there’s trouble ahead in the relationship arena. It doesn’t take a fortune teller with a crystal ball to predict the future when a person is determined to win every argument or disagreement at any cost.
Always having to ... Views: 15686
You can be romantic this Valentine's Day without spending too much. All it takes is a little creativity and forethought. The key lies in personalizing your celebration and letting your loved one know how special you feel each ordinary day that you are together.
Here are 25 ideas for ... Views: 2509
Love relationships fail because at no time in our training by society are we given a factual model of what a love relationship is, or how to make one succeed. There are fundamentally three levels on which intimate relationships operate, and our social training only prepares us to deal with one ... Views: 893
It’s not unusual for a partner whose mate has had an affair to have a “get even” or “retaliation affair.” The feelings of betrayal and the emotional pain are so devastating that the partner may want to hurt the mate like he (or she) has been hurt.
In some cases, the affair is planned out in ... Views: 5834
What women should know when dating
Unlike before, when the total outcome or atmosphere of dating solely depends on the man, women of today have learned how to take part of the entire process. They have realized that in order to make most out on a date, they have their own “roles” to play. They ... Views: 750
Magazines and websites are bursting with the latest trends in wedding ideas and themes - and just trying to sift through them can be as overwhelming as actually planning an entire wedding! So take a deep breath, relax and consider this: some of the most unique wedding ideas can be found by ... Views: 964
Do any of these statements describe your feelings?
___ You often feel that your partner criticizes you unfairly.
___ You feel that your partner consistently looks for nit-picking things to criticize.
____You feel that your partner routinely criticizes you for things that have been blown out ... Views: 13621
True enough, a wedding is the most difficult event to plan and prepare for. And it gets even more challenging if the budget is tight. But don't fret, we have come up with some tips to help you stay on track money-wise.
1. Limit your invites to the most important people in your life. Less ... Views: 692
Jealousy has often been called the “green-eyed monster,” and with good reason. The “monster” is fueled by envy and can over time devour the trust and harmony in a relationship.
According to B.C. Forbes, “Jealousy…is a mental cancer.” It spreads quickly and can be fatal to a relationship. Once ... Views: 11013
The secret of attraction is the unconscious hope for healing and understanding. This is why we are so discriminating in our choice of a marital partner. Not just anyone will do. And when we find the right person we become infatuated and fall head over heels for him or her. Our passion and hope ... Views: 859
It’s so much easier to blame your partner than to look at yourself—and this is especially true when relationship control issues are involved.
If you’re the more controlling partner, it’s tempting to blame your passive mate for waiting so long to speak up about her (or his) distress over the ... Views: 12776
No topic has been discussed more than love. For ages we have been the audience to great love stories, some happy and some tragic. The mere mention of love puts a shine on some people's face while a layer of sadness appears for those who failed in love relationships. People "fall" in and out of ... Views: 6115
Why is it that so often when we feel we are in love, we also feel we are in bondage if anything happens to shake the feeling of “security” in the love? Why does love so often make us dependent on the other person? Shouldn’t love be a marvelous and freeing feeling rather than these other ... Views: 671
Love
He may not look like it, but that Elmo's a love machine.
When parents tell me, "My child lives for Elmo," I tell them that Elmo lives because of their child's love for him. I don't just mean that Elmo is alive in their child's imagination, though that is certainly a part of it. That child ... Views: 948
How long does it take to rebuild trust?
Sometimes it’s couples where one partner has had an affair. Other times it’s between parents and a teen where the teen has stolen, lied or has been doing drugs. The issue is trust and the question is, “How long does it take to rebuild trust when ... Views: 6195
In light of current biological research, it seems that the phrase "madly in love" is not merely a metaphor. There is ample evidence to suggest that falling in love is physiologically similar to mental illness. Disorders like OCD are associated with an imbalance of serotonin, and when studied, ... Views: 9001
“You seem to have led a charmed life,” her words echoed uncomfortably in my ears. Yes, after twenty years of marriage all the visible markers of a charmed and successful life were in place: a healthy child, a thriving business, and a beautiful home. But something was wrong, and I knew that ... Views: 4021
It happened again!
I was enjoying an evening with my little 2-yr. old son at the playground when, BAM, it happened. You ever have one of those moments in life when you know you are being taught an important lesson?
Picture in your mind a chaotic atmosphere of over fifty little children ... Views: 719
When it comes to defining love, life and relationships, have you noticed the trend?
You ever notice how on programs like "The Bachelor" most of their dating episodes are via limousine escort?
They travel to lavish destinations amid scenic splendor. The sunsets are so beautiful you can almost ... Views: 833
Challenged by your relationships? Good!
by Andrew Schneider
Why are our relationships such a challenge?
By their very nature, relationships always push us toward duality, toward the opposites. They take us into both the light of our souls and the darkness of our subconscious. They force us to ... Views: 781
You see a man or a woman who strikes your fancy but you aren't sure how to approach him / her or get to the "first down." This can be a very intimidating and awkward moment, but you can succeed if you are sincere and confident (but not cocky!).
Step 1. Occasionally glance over at him / her and ... Views: 1374
Take this quick test:
· Were either of you under 22 when you married?
· Did either of you not get your high school diploma or GED?
· Do you make under $24,000/year as a couple?
· Are you two of different religions?
· Did either of your parents divorce?
· Are you or your spouse very ... Views: 617
Why do Spouses have Affairs?
Most husbands and wives who cheat on their spouse fully expect that they can continue their marriage and their affair(s) with little disruption. They sneak and hide to cover their tracks so that their spouse is none the wiser. They want both, the marriage and the ... Views: 3187
Ah, Newlyweds… then reality sets in.
The wedding day is met with much anticipation. Bright eyed, eager, some butterflies, plans in place. So much thought and preparation for a single event. Then the honeymoon and then back to real life.
There is often magical thinking that goes into a wedding. ... Views: 846
When thinking about my patients, I've noticed a pattern to the marital conflicts that they share. Here's my list of the top ten things that put your marriage at higher risk for break-up and the things you must do to strengthen it.
1) Putting-Down Spouse's Friends/Family
Don't badmouth your ... Views: 594
Are you a controlling wife? Do you take your husband for granted? Most women don’t realize it but they abuse their husbands daily just by their actions. Many women of today feel that marriage revolves solely around them and their husband’s are supposed to give them everything their heart ... Views: 8885
You’re Engaged!
You certainly want to enjoy this wonderful and magical time in your life but you know that planning your own wedding is going to be a big job! The following checklists might make it a little easier for you to keep it simple, keep it organized and keep you sane!
The 12-Month ... Views: 798
It's a fact. There are a lot of people who feel unhappy in their marriage. But the real question many of them are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over? Is it when your spouse says, "I don't love you anymore?" Is it after an affair takes place? How do you REALLY ... Views: 5690
Moving Beyond Feminism: The New Era of Love & Spiritually Enlightened Women
Women today have entered every facet of industry and business. But the industrialized world is a different place than it was forty years ago. We have evolved. In breaking through the shackles of limitation to gain ... Views: 780
Have you always wondered why do kids resist their parents even though they have their interests at heart? This happens to me when I am young. I find that I am attracted towards my friends and buddies in schools than towards my mentors, teachers or even my parents.
I never really explored the ... Views: 755
What are the inner man and woman? Our being consists of two energies: the male and female aspect. Irrespective of if we are a man or a woman, we have both a male and female side.
Life develops through opposite poles and tendencies for example yes and no, joy and sorrow, light and darkness, ... Views: 3017
Odds are you're not a very good listener...
Why would I say something so seemingly condescending? To shock you and get your attention, of course! Face it, if in fact you're not a good listener, then I need to do something special to engage you, don't I? Not to mention, it's probably true. ... Views: 772