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- Learning to Make Small Talk With Strangers - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2009 from Royane RealDo you find it difficult to make small talk with strangers? Most of us do. Talking with someone we don’t know can make many of us feel very anxious, especially if we happen to be shy. Why is it so hard to make conversation with strangers? When you first talk with a stranger, you don’t know ...
Views: 4658(5 votes) - Why Is It So Hard to Make Friends When You're Older? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2009 from Royane RealMany of us fear growing older because we are worried that when we are older we will be lonely. We often see older people sitting in shopping malls who seem to have no friends and nothing to do. We hope that won’t be our fate. What can we do to make sure we still have some friends and a good ...
Views: 6999(1 vote) - Can Your Friends or Lovers Trust You? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Royane RealOne of the most common reasons that friendships and romantic relationships break up is because one of the people involved in the relationship or friendship decides he or she really cannot trust the other person. It may be that the other person has let them down too many times, or has been ...
Views: 1885(8 votes) - Sex and Chocolate - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2009 from Rebecca KimbelSex and chocolate have a lot in common. They can be sweet morsels that soothe ones soul or addictions that ruin life. When one tries to fulfill their natural love of sweetness with chocolate or sex alone, one is left more nutritionally depleted than they were when their hunger started. We must ...
Views: 1436(3 votes) - First Impressions - Right or Wrong? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2009 from Royane RealFirst impressions – they feel so accurate, but it’s so easy to get them wrong. When we meet somebody new, we size that person up in just a few seconds. A few seconds, that’s all it takes to decide whether or not we like somebody, whether we trust them, whether or not we want to get to know ...
Views: 12950(5 votes) - Special Messengers: Reconnecting with Friends - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEvery person that passes through our lives makes a contribution to our life stories. There are those who play large roles and make deep impressions, but sometimes a brief special appearance before life takes them in another direction creates a meaningful connection. It is a rare gift when they ...
Views: 3117(1 vote) - What Can You Do When a Conversation Runs Out of Steam? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2009 from Royane RealHave you ever been in a conversation that seems to be going nowhere, and neither person seems to be able to think of anything to say? This happens a lot, especially when both people don’t really know each other. It can also happen when both people are lacking in conversational skills. ...
Views: 1725(3 votes) - To Improve Your Relationships, Learn to Like Yourself - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2009 from Royane RealCan you really say that you like yourself? Or that you love yourself? For many of us, this is a hard thing to do. We are so critical of ourselves. When we don't have good self esteem, many areas of our life will suffer. We will find it hard to make good relationships and friendships. ...
Views: 2216(4 votes) - The Real Secret to Being a Successful Conversationalist - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealIn the last couple of years I have written a lot of articles and a special report to tell people how they can improve their small talk and conversations skills. Quite often, I get compliments from people who tell me that my articles on making conversation have helped them a lot. However, I ...
Views: 1359(1 vote) - You Think For Yourself but You Act Like Your Friends: How Homophily Changes the Way We Think - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBirds of a feather tend to shop together. That we know. They also tend to talk together and walk together; and who their friends are affects more than just what type of jeans they buy. Their friends have the capacity to affect their tastes, activities, and their lives overall. Sociologists ...
Views: 1696(1 vote) - Improve Your Conversation Confidence - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Royane RealDo you suffer from a lack of conversation confidence? When you make conversation with other people, is your mind constantly saying a lot of very harsh things to you about your conversation ability? Does your mind criticize every thing you say? Do you put yourself down for being shy or ...
Views: 1597(1 vote) - Good Conversation Starters - How to Start a Conversation With the Cliche "Haven't We Met Before?" - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Tracey BennettA good conversation starter is like a car engine. If you don't have one, you aren't going anywhere. When can you say, "Haven't we met before?" without sounding like a cliché? There is a way to turn this ancient ice breaker into a good conversation starter without sounding common as dirt, dry as ...
Views: 4698(4 votes) - Good Conversation Starters - 3 Sure-Fire Tips to Flirt Successfully & Break the Ice With Women ... or Men - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Tracey BennettHere's practical advice for meeting women (or men). You're waiting for an elevator or you're squeezin' the Charmin at the market when you spot someone intriguing. You break the ice with a smile. Even a slight chin or eyebrow lift can get his or her attention. Next comes the fun (or scary) part: ...
Views: 4534(3 votes) - *** Why Don't I Have Friends? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2009 from Margaret Paul"Why don't I have friends?" asked Isabella in one of our phone counseling sessions.Isabella, 25 and very attractive, was having a problem that many people have. Sometimes, if people don't keep their high school friends or meet friends in college or at work, they may have trouble making ...
Views: 4925(2 votes) - How to Get Over a Fear of Being Rejected - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2009 from Royane RealSome people end up living very lonely lives, with few friends, and no loving partner. Why? Because their fear of being rejected is so powerful that they can't find the courage to approach others socially. Learn what you can do to increase your confidence and improve your social ...
Views: 4538 - Do Rejection Fears Rule Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealAre you one of those people who’s very confident, who makes new friends easily, who has no trouble asking someone for a date? Or are you a person who lacks confidence, who fears rejection, who is constantly worried about whether other people really like him, or will reject him? Does your ...
Views: 1357(2 votes) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 2) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoBeing alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful ...
Views: 4567(1 vote) - 10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 1) - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2009 from Maryanne ComarotoI know of a woman who so longed to be loved, held, and not feel lonely that she gave her lover, a man she hadn’t known long and knew to be a criminal, all of her life savings—some forty-three thousand dollars to be exact. He promised, along with his abiding love, that he would give her back her ...
Views: 1423(1 vote) - Improve Your Conversational Skills - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealAre you one of those people who finds it difficult to start up a conversation with somebody new, or someone you barely know? This is a very common problem. Most of us find it a little bit challenging to start conversations with strangers. When we first meet someone, we don’t know much ...
Views: 1983(1 vote) - You Can Overcome Your Shyness - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealDo you need help in overcoming shyness? If you suffer from shyness, you probably often wish that your shyness would instantly go away, never to return. For some people, being shy can be a small problem. For others, shyness can be life crippling. Some people suffer from extreme shyness ...
Views: 1524 - Learn to Love Yourself So You Can Attract Others - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2009 from Royane RealMany lonely people have trouble making friends because they have low self esteem and because they have never developed good social skills. When people don’t think very much of themselves, they have a hard time making friends with other people. When people don’t like themselves, they are ...
Views: 1397(1 vote) - Spiritual Movie - Contact with Actress Jodie Foster - Science Proving We Are Not Alone - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2010 from Cindy L. HerbHave you ever seen the movie, Contact? It is one of my favorite movies, because not only has it a great, talented cast and fantastic visual effects, but also because it is a highly spiritual movie, demonstrating that we are not alone in the universe. From a spiritual standpoint, most of you ...
Views: 3504(2 votes) - Walking the Walk: Giving and Living with Integrity and Compassion - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsEvery morning I wake up bright and early and read the news. This has long been my routine - my quiet time, when the house is still, and the sun is spreading liquid gold all over the world around me. I have grown used to sitting in a favorite chair, sipping cappuccino, and learning what ...
Views: 845(2 votes) - How To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2010 from Dan DennickDon't make things worse by trying to get her back The biggest regret guys often have is that during the break up they acted in way that was clearly out of desperation. Usually guys feel a profound anxiety to do something to fix the situation and so they end up acting in a way that they ...
Views: 14428 - Are You Surrounded With Authentic Communities? Explore 7 Possibilities - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWhat does community mean? Is it an old fashioned barn raising from days gone by, or a church social, or town festival? Where does community start, and why is it important in the first place? Nowadays, community means a Facebook group or "Twittering" thither and yon. Community is all those ...
Views: 1085(4 votes) - Supporters: The Power Behind Us - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsBehind each of us stands at least one supporter. This was once thought to be the spouse who ran the home while leaving the other spouse free to work. While this is still one valid scenario, most of us will find that we have other kinds of supporters in our lives. In some cases, our supporters ...
Views: 799(1 vote) - Getting Through the Sadness - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2009 from Karen RowinskyMany say the first year after the loss of a loved is the hardest but most people find that different seasons or dates bring up sadness and feelings of grief years after our loved one has died. There are things we can do to ease our pain during these seasons of sadness no matter when they ...
Views: 2035(2 votes) - 5 Steps to (Re)Connecting - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2009 from Shannon Short, The SPARK! Coach -This started as an article to address women and feelings of isolation, but as I spent time with the topic, I kept coming back to the words “connect” and “connection.” Connecting, I thought, is the opposite of isolation, and if it’s the opposite, then surely it’s also the solution. One study I ...
Views: 1314(2 votes) - Being There: A Covenant - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsRecently someone posted a comment, or rather a plea, on CarePages' emotional health discussion forum, and it both broke my heart and inspired great hope. Here’s an excerpt of what the poster wrote: “i have so many medical problems an have been so hurt recently an asked friends to support me an ...
Views: 780 - Helping the "Helpless" - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsThis article is a response to a question posted on Intent.com, "How do We Help the Helpless?" Since I work with homeless families in a homeless shelter everyday, this question raised strong emotions for me. The word "helpless" hit me right between the eyes. Why? I don't know if it is our ...
Views: 1959(2 votes) - How Can We Help the Helpless? See Them - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsNamaste is one of the most beautiful terms I have ever heard. I love the sound and the flow of the greeting but it is the meaning behind it and the sacred feeling of saying Namaste that touches me deeply each time I use it in my life when addressing people. The loose meaning of Namaste is “the ...
Views: 740 - Friends: Gifts We Give Ourselves - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsGood friends enrich our lives in so many ways. Through a magical combination of similarities and differences, friends offer us the opportunity to know ourselves as we are and help us grow into who we want to be. Our similarities attract us to each other, comforting us with familiarity when we ...
Views: 2891(1 vote) - Living Alone and Loving It: 10 Tips to Help You Grow Into the Person Who Will Fill Your Empty Nest - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2010 from Debra CostanzoI don’t know about you, but I can remember when I was broaching my teen years I would spend hours writing angry poetry in my bedroom. I was technically way too young to be writing about jaded love. But, I did. Although, my own experiences may have been limited I certainly had enough examples ...
Views: 19455(3 votes) - Secrets for Sensitive People to Find Relationships That Work: Why Emotional Empaths May Stay Lonely or Alone - by Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsLoneliness gets to some more than others. But why it hangs on isn’t always apparent when read by traditional medical eyes. In my practice and workshops I’ve been struck by how many sensitive, empathic people who I call “emotional empaths” come to me, lonely, wanting a romantic partner, yet ...
Views: 1863(4 votes) - Do Narcissists Have Friends? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2009 from Sam VakninQuestion: Do narcissists have friends? Answer: Not in the usual sense of the word and not that they know of. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing the provision of Narcissistic Supply emanating from Narcissistic Supply Sources. His world is as narrow as an ant's, to ...
Views: 24512(2 votes) - Divorce Stress? Coping with Loneliness on the Roller-Coaster - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Stress-Relief Author/Expert Susie MantellQ: I’m a little embarrassed to admit this as an accomplished 47-year-old professional, but even though I am relieved to be finalizing our divorce, I think some of the stress I’m experiencing since our separation is actually ...loneliness. How can I get past that? A: Every journey through ...
Views: 2136 - Alone: Who are You? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Kim OlverRelationships generally begin when both people are in the “Alone Stage,” although I am aware that often affairs begin when one or both partners are involved with someone else. It is my contention that relationships have a greater chance of success when both parties have spent some time alone and ...
Views: 1959 - Feeling Lonely? Go Back to the Front Porch - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Marc AdamsLast week while in North Carolina for someone's surgery, I was standing alone on a sidewalk getting ready to cross the street. A man walked up to me and began talking, "Hey what you doing?" I said, "Nothing. What are you doing?" He responded, "Oh, just standing here talking to you." I ...
Views: 1238 - *** Love: Is This Romance or is This Friendship? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Margaret PaulJames, in his middle 30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children. After dating many women, he met Cindy. "She is really beautiful, although I'm not sure she's my type. But I think she is perfect for me. We have the same interests, the same values, we go to the ...
Views: 3273(2 votes) - How To Meet New People And Make Friends - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraAnyone who’s looking for advice on where to go to meet new people need not look far; tons of websites, articles and chat rooms have advice on just about anything, which can be accessed without breaking a sweat. Although these advices are quite informative and useful, the real essence of meeting ...
Views: 989 - How To Stop Being Lonely - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2009 from Patrice EvansAmerica is in the middle of a loneliness crisis and it is ruining our health. Because our culture promotes self reliance and rejects dependency, we are too proud to reach out for help and admit we are lonely. If you admit you are lonely, it is suggesting that you are unable to attract ...
Views: 2956 - Helping a Friend Through Divorce - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraOne of the most painful experiences a father can endure is divorce. Yes, men hurt as much as women, although it is always assumed that women are the only hapless victims. A lot of men going through divorce also feel loneliness, anxiety, disappointment, and depression. There may be feelings of ...
Views: 3182 - Creating a Network After Moving to a New Place - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2009 from Heather MarkelWhen moving to a new place – whether within your own country or to a new one – one of the biggest challenges is moving away from good friends and then meeting new ones. What typically ends up happening, is that you either rely on the plethora of technology (SKYPE, phone, email, IM, etc.) to ...
Views: 1723(1 vote) - The Company We Keep - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from SelfGrowth.com ArticlesAt 8 a.m. the phone rings, right on schedule. The call is not an appointment I’ve made, but I’m expecting it all the same. Owing to being known as the Millionaire Mentor, I receive calls daily from people around the world, all with the same question: “What is the one thing I could do right ...
Views: 962 - What Can We Learn from Unlikeable People? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2010 from Royane RealAll of us encounter unlikeable people from time to time. These are people who in one way or another manage to be very unpleasant to us in every encounter. Yet, even though the experience of coming across an unlikeable person can be very unpleasant, there is always something we can learn from ...
Views: 2983 - 4-Step Plan for Finding Friends - by Submitted on Feb 24, 2009 from Mohawk GringoIf you want more friends this may be the most important message you ever read. Here's why... I was thinking about all the friends I have the other day and the experiences we had. One of my best friends from high school. Surfing in Hawaii. Go carting at Grand Prix Race-o-rama. Swimming out to ...
Views: 1064 - Commiseration or Celebration: When Women Talk to Other Women - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2009 from Mary Kay CocharoMany years ago, when I was a younger woman, I had a girlfriend whom I considered to be my very, very best friend. We spoke daily, we traveled together, and we spent many evenings and weekends at each other’s homes. It sounds pretty great, except for one small detail. During all of those phone ...
Views: 2085 - Relationships: Mirrored Reflection of You - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"Each relationship you have with another person reflects the relationship you have with yourself." - Alice Deville. You have a lot of personal and professional relationships in your life. Some relationships are loving, satisfying, uplifting, supportive and enrich your life experience. You ...
Views: 7039 - Becoming a Good Friend - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhat makes a friendship important? Friendship has many health benefits, including a longer and healthier life. It also makes our otherwise boring lives more exciting and fun, interesting and relaxing. Having just one close or best friend also enhances a person’s ability to deal with stress ...
Views: 2476 - Best Friends Forever - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2013 from Robin RobertsSo many people struggle with life challenges because they do not know how to be their own best friend. We are all good at being there for others with encouraging words of support and love but rarely are we capable of extending these things to ourselves. In fact we are often our own worst enemy, ...
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