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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- How can I minimize and manage my stress levels while at work? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2018 from Tori UtleyWrite in a diary To help manage your stress, write in a journal every day and discuss how you feel and react to different situations over the course of the day. That can help you identify which events are major stressors for you so that you can find better ways to respond or alleviate ...
Views: 540 - How Was 2020 Cyber Security Awareness Month? - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2020 from pranay NETHAGlobal corporate enterprise and indeed global society is aware of the concept of cyber security. Personally Identifyable Information (PII) data leaks, continued personal phishing expeditions and state-based adversary hacking have all brought cyber security into focus for the average ...
Views: 551 - If I'm Calm Now Is It Still Relationship Anxiety? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThere is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Can’t sleep Can’t eat Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty functioning at work Fluttering ...
Views: 723 - If one more person tells me I'm so lucky... - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2014 from Kathleen GageA little more than six months ago, I was training for a marathon as a power walker. During one of my longer workout sessions, I hit a pothole and instantly broke my ankle. I was literally stopped in my tracks. Knowing I would be laid up for a few weeks, I took the first few days to relax and ...
Views: 1334 - Intellectual Boundaries: Why Do Some People Believe Anything? - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperInformation can be empowering and disempowering and what one person finds useful might not be seen in the same way by another. But with personal opinion aside, information is vital for the growth of an individual and for humanity as a whole. Without it, very little would change and regression, ...
Views: 3092 - Mother Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother Enmeshed Man Need To Change His Perception? - by Submitted on May 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is “enmeshed” to his mother, it is likely to mean that he didn’t receive what he needed to receive during his early years. Therefore, he hasn’t simply chosen to become entangled with his mother as an adult; he has always been this way. What this means is that it is not just about him ...
Views: 291 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Feel Disconnected If He Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man reflects on his life, what he can find is that he often feels as though he is on the outside and doesn’t feel connected to others. This can mean that he will spend a lot of time feeling lonely. But, if he doesn’t feel this way, it can typically be because he has distracted himself. ...
Views: 158 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Realise That His Feeling’s Don’t Always reflect Realty? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man typically acts as though he is an extension of his mother, behaving in this way is likely to allow him to avoid certain feelings. Thus, as deprived as he is likely to be by living in this way, it will allow him to keep it together and function. This is not to say that he won’t ...
Views: 135 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Woman Trying To Earn Love Is She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, a woman could feel very frustrated and angry, and be deeply deprived. This could show that she is in a relationship with a man who is rarely physically available, and, when he is, he is typically somewhere else emotionally. The reason for this is that he can generally be focused on ...
Views: 184 - Sadness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Lot Of Sadness? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel down and low. For most of their life, this may have been something that they have typically been able to cover up. Now, though, it could be a lot harder for them to do this and this might make ...
Views: 288 - The Cracks are How the Light Comes In - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen discussing the concept that a root cause of relationship anxiety is the fear of being hurt by love, course members and coaching clients will often say, “I had a good childhood with loving parents. Why would I be so scared of love?” I’ve written other posts about how essential it is to peel ...
Views: 907 - We are living in a technology-driven society. In this society, we must keep ourselves updated with the latest technological inventions. We must do our best to get the latest tools, gadgets, and software to run multiple tasks with the least possible effor - by Importance of technology news
There are a significant number of websites and blogs that offer us the latest technological news. We know the latest gadgets, software and applications along with the right platforms to run them. Now we can travel faster and reach our desired destinations in no ...
Views: 130 - “People Will Do Anything, No Matter How Absurd, To Avoid Facing Their Own Souls” - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago I watched “A Dangerous Method” and this was about a stage of Carl Jung’s life. Watching this film gave me the urge to find out more about him and since that time, a number of his quotes have caught my attention. One that has stood out is, “People will do anything, no ...
Views: 791 - "Did You Feel The Need To Tell Me You Were Gay?" - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I developed a close friendship with someone, and while they had been with members of the opposite sex, they were now attracted to members of the same sex. This was something that became perfectly clear when they spoke about this area of their life, after we had been friends ...
Views: 1297 - "I Am The Centre Of The Universe!” - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out walking the other day, I was thinking about what can happen in someone’s adult years if they were violated and made to feel insignificant during their early years. What came to mind first was the kind of person who acts as though they are the centre of the universe. Through ...
Views: 1051 - "I Walked On Eggshells As A Child!" - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf I wanted to ask my mother something when I was younger, I would often wait until there were guests around. The reason for this was that I knew that there was less chance of my mother raising her voice or losing her temper. Through having other guests around or oven just one person, it ...
Views: 1372 - "I Wanted To Rescue Women!" - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember when I was seeing a woman towards the end of 2011, who was going through a challenging time. She wasn’t in a good place, and this meant that I tried to do what I could to help her. This primarily took place through listening to what she had to say and offering advice. I was also ...
Views: 1161 - "I Was Attacked Twice!" - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember being with a friend and doing some pad work; we were both taking turns to punch and kick the pad. After a while we both needed something to drink, so we headed over to the shop. Interestingly, my friend said that if we waited a little while, his mother would be back and then we ...
Views: 1369 - "I Was Full Of Self-Doubt" - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I started writing articles, I had been on the path for around seven years. During this time, I had put a lot of effort into trying to understand myself and why my life was the way it was. So, when I started writing, it wasn’t as though I just woke up one day and thought that I would ...
Views: 1230 - "My Family Were In Denial!" - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn 2012, I started to read books on child abuse, and the only time that I had read anything like this before was in 2009, when I read the book ‘Toxic Parents’ by Susan Forward. So, up until this point, I had primarily been reading books on self-development. As far as I knew, I just lacked ...
Views: 1276 - "People Haven't Got Time To Have Years Of Therapy!" - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, when I was online, I read something that really stood out. The general gist was that due to how busy people are in today’s world, they haven’t got the time to have years of therapy. As a result of this, they need to be able to transform their life in a much shorter period ...
Views: 793 - "She Had A Big Impact On My Life!" - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere was a moment in the beginning of 2013, when I didn’t know why something was taking place. I had been in relationship for a few months and I didn’t completely understand why the woman I was with was behaving in a certain way. I had the need to find out about what might be going on, ...
Views: 1252 - "The Reason For Evil In The World Is That People Are Not Able To Tell Their Stories" - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I heard the quote above by Carl Jung, I had a clear idea about what he was talking about. My interpretation of what he said is that unless someone is able to talk about what they have been through, they will end up harming others. This is not to say that they will end up killing millions ...
Views: 701 - "This Guy Has Good Boundaries!" - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I look back on my journey, I can see that there have been a number of moments when what I was doing no longer worked. And, when this has happened, it has caused me to look for something else. One of the moments that comes to mind is in the middle of 2009, as this was a time when what I ...
Views: 1182 - "This Guy Is An Expert At What He Does!" - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I was introduced to someone called Collin Smith, who is also known as ‘The Listener’. Now, this not merely a fancy term that he uses; it relates to what he is actually like. He is one of the best listeners I have come across, and I don’t say this lightly. ...
Views: 1283 - "When It's Emotional Intelligence and When It's Not," - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2006 from Susan DunnAs we all race to understand Emotional Intelligence, arguably the hottest thing on the business scene globally, there are many questions. As ‘Ask the EQ Expert’ for a business website, I’ve been asked: · Isn’t ‘Emotional Intelligence’ a ...
Views: 1662 - "Why Do You Want To Do That?" - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperA few years ago a friend of mine asked me if I was able to help them move house. I asked them when they were moving and I came to see that I was available on that day. I think I had already helped two friends move house already that year, so I was well-prepared. Shortly after I had been ...
Views: 1237 - "You Have To Kill Your Inner Parents!" - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of 2016, I could see that I needed to work on my boundaries and to feel better about myself. When it came to the former, this wasn’t just about me saying no; it was also about me listening to my own needs and no longer trying to please others. As for the latter, I could see that ...
Views: 1161 - "You Need To Be Able To Handle Your Own Emotions!" - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThrough reading books on self-development, taking courses and changing what was taking place in my mind, amongst other things, I started to settle down mentally and emotionally. This was something that often stood out when I was out socialising, as I generally felt as though I was in control of ...
Views: 1220 - #1 Ways To Improve Intrapersonal Skills - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Rukayya ZirapurWhat do we want from life? Happiness right? Before asking for anything else, the one thing that remains constant is happiness. Without it, all of us are incomplete. No matter then how much rich, successful and settled we get. Happiness remains constant. But how do you know you are happy or ...
Views: 943 - *** Diversions and Distractions: Are you TAPPED Out? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Reldan NadlerWe are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in? Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment. How are we captured and detained from being our best ...
Views: 5042 - *** Stuck in a Powerless Comfort Zone? How to Reclaim Personal Power - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"'People will suffer almost anything as long as it means they don't have to change." ~ Deepak Chopra Life is a series of ups and downs, twists and turns. You can approach the roller coaster of life with arms high in the air; willingly and ready for whatever comes next. Or you can grip the ...
Views: 1622 - *** The Illusion of Self-Awareness: We are more Unaware than Aware - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Reldan NadlerMichael received his 360 degree assessment feedback and looked at the summary page. What quickly jumped out to him on almost every competency was that his own self-scoring for his leadership were higher than his team's scores for him. He embarrassingly laughed and said, “I guess they don’t see ...
Views: 5353 - *** The Power of Your Power Point Presence - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteIt's funny when and where inspiration strikes. My latest epiphany came to me while soaking in a hot bubble bath. I had to run from the tub soaking wet to write it down. I've learned that inspiration can disappear as quickly as it comes if not acted upon. This nugget of an AHA moment made me ...
Views: 1537 - *** You Are Enrolled in a Cosmic Grade School - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteWelcome to your life, the attendance in a universal elementary school of sorts, where you are here to learn, develop and enjoy your being. You are here to learn your ABC's of Abundance, Being-ness and Consciousness. In the rich generative soil of physical reality you are meant to grow and ...
Views: 1398 - ***Are You Ready to be Exceptional and Fill the Leadership Gap? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Reldan Nadler40% of organizations say they don’t have enough qualified leaders. Plus, the recent recession has lost thousands of jobs including leadership positions. Add to that the retiring of Baby Boomers and you can see the opportunity awaiting for people like you. Finally the economy is ...
Views: 7115 - ***Five Emotional Intelligence Strategies to Develop Others - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2016 from Reldan NadlerMaster the moment with others: consciously mastering your input and output Your success or underperforming all happens in the moment. What is your response in each situation? Is it emotionally intelligent or exceptional or just average? The key is consciously mastering your input and output. ...
Views: 5662 - ***Five Steps to Improve Your Listening and Empowerment - by Submitted on May 25, 2016 from Reldan NadlerThe Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted. Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep? When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want? Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already ...
Views: 5278 - ***Five Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: For Self - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Reldan NadlerMastering the Moment for Exceptional Performance: Part One Self-Development In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top ...
Views: 5224 - ***Intuitive Hits & Misses - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2013 from Bruce SchneiderIntuition is knowing without knowing how you know. It’s that flash of insight you get about something. You’re an intuitive being, even though you might think you’re not. Some people are more in touch with their intuitive self than others, but we all have similar innate abilities. The more ...
Views: 3312 - ***Learning to Trust Your Emotions by Judi Moreo - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from Judi MoreoWe all are born with a certain amount of intuition. The problem is, from a very young age we are often told to ignore our feelings or that our feelings are just wrong. You are never taught to trust your emotions. Much like force-feeding an infant can cause the child to start ignoring their ...
Views: 1639 - ***Life Stinks? How To Detach From Your Garbage Truck - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteLife stinks. If that statement bubbled up in your thoughts recently then you may be attached to life decaying garbage truck thinking. Simply put, if you stuff your mind with garbage you will create stinky outcomes. If you focus upon all that is bad in your life you will only add to the ...
Views: 1830 - ***Six Ways We are Tapped Out and not Tuned In - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Reldan NadlerHow to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out? This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders. How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having ...
Views: 5195 - ***The 10 Reasons Why You Need Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on May 05, 2016 from Reldan NadlerManagers account for 70% variance in employee engagement surveys. What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 ...
Views: 5725 - ***Unexpected Teachers: 5 Things I Learned From a Great White Carp - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Rob WhiteLife's teachers come in the most unexpected forms. Sometimes, they even sport fins and scales, like the three-foot carp that lives in the pond where I take my daily stroll. OK, this carp has a human interpreter, Robert, a fishing enthusiast who I met a number of years ago during one of my pond ...
Views: 1727 - ***Why Leaders Underperform: The Leadership Default is to Find Fault - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2016 from Reldan NadlerI was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to ...
Views: 5337 - 10 Power Tools to Launch Your Workplace Rocket - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from Judy WhiteFired up about new ideas, opportunities and contributing but can’t seem to get out from under a not so fired up workplace culture? Before you spend the rest of the year wishing your workplace were different or going online to blast your resume to recruiters, ensure you are equipped with the ...
Views: 1230 - 10 Reasons Why Teams Need Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2019 from Reldan NadlerTeamwork is very popular and a necessity in organizations, but it is an unnatural act that takes a strategy, discipline and practice. Most organizations talk about teamwork and put a group of workers together and say “you are a team now." Duly formed the team is marched out onto the field to ...
Views: 2817 - 10,000 Hours of Love - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAlongside the adolescent view of love we hold in this culture that says that love is a feeling, we also believe that love should be easy. Of course, this attitude of effortlessness and ease extends far beyond the bounds of love; more and more, people seem to believe that life itself should be ...
Views: 862 - 3 Effective Responses To Put Downs & Belittlement. - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2018 from Ronny PrasadHave you ever been belittled? Has anyone close to you ever put you down in the presence of others? How do you normally react when someone does that you? I can safely say that everyone (to some extent) has been subjected to the above-mentioned. On my Life Skills radio segment, a ...
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