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- Learning To Tell Yourself The Truth - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2011 from Aesha Adams-RobertsThe pain was almost too much to handle. I didn’t know how I got here. Was he the same man who wined and dined me, proposed to me, loved me? How could he be hurting me like this? “I have a certain way I want my fiancé to look,” he said. I looked at my outfit. The bright colors I had ...
Views: 2172 - How Do I Know If My Ex Boyfriend Still Loves Me? These Unmistakable Tips Will Answer Your Questions! - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2010 from Charles UadialeHow do I know if my ex boyfriend still loves me? This is a question a lot of women ask themselves after breakup. When you break up with your ex boyfriend, it is likely he still loves you and want you back. No matter how he tries to hide this fact, you will still be able to know the truth. You ...
Views: 4067 - Anger can be explained, there is no excuse for rage, ever - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2011 from Philippe MoisanAnger happens daily. There are many situations that can make it come out. Here are a few examples : 1. A driver just passed right in front of you 2. You get hit from behind while standing in a bus 3. Your child breaks something precious 4. Somebody just put you down 5. ...
Views: 1612(1 vote) - Don't STUFF Anger, Rage and Upsets - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Frederick ZapponeWe are brought up in a STUFF IT society. In other words, it is more important to be politically correct and look good than it is to tell 'our truth' even if our truth is upsetting. Because we are brought up in a STUFF IT society there are things that people stew about for years then one day ...
Views: 1331 - Surviving The Loss Of A Child - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Ivette AttaudEverything happened so fast. That morning I was strangled to near unconsciousness by my abusive husband because I wouldn’t get an abortion, and that night I’m in the emergency room at Fort Bragg being admitted in pre-term labor. The doctors tried to stop the labor, but it was all in vain – the ...
Views: 2146(1 vote) - Out Of The Darkness, Into The Light - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2010 from Ivette AttaudWe all walk in the dark and each of us must learn to turn on his or her own light. ~Earl Nightingale I lived in Darkness for almost eighteen years with Fear, Anger, Isolation, Loneliness, Embarrassment and Denial as my roommates, and they all F A I L E D me. Fear took away my voice ...
Views: 1742 - Emotional Abuse: Beneath Your Radar? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Darlene LancerThere are three million cases of domestic violence reported each year. Many more go unreported. Emotional abuse precedes violence, but is rarely discussed. Although both men and women may abuse others, an enormous number of women are subjected to emotional abuse. Unfortunately, many don’t even ...
Views: 2973(3 votes) - From Lover to Leaver in One Easy Lesson - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2010 from PD RiversYou begin by thinking the sun, moon and stars shine in the eyes of the man you love. You want to be with him every minute of every day. Your family and friends don't like him very much and they try to get you to re-think having a relationship. You decide that he will be all you will ever need ...
Views: 1261 - Understanding Your Anger Blind Spots - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2010 from Tom WilsonHave you been surprised when you overreact with anger to some seemingly minor event? This article explains how psychological blind spots can lead to angry behavior which is out of proportion to actual or imagined events. From Triggers to Consequences - Understanding the Chain of ...
Views: 1565 - Keep Anger from Spoiling Your Holidays with 3 Tips from Anger Management Experts in 23 Countries - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2010 from Tom WilsonHoliday stress can ruin the holidays when anger raises it's ugly head. Here's a deadly formula; add together holiday stress, poor communication, poor anger control skills and alcohol. Stir together and you get a deadly anti-love potion that is sure to increase verbal and physical conflict among ...
Views: 956(3 votes) - The Psychology of Spree Shooters - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Sam VakninMost spree shooters are loners. They are either schizoid (with deficient interpersonal skills) or paranoid and even paranoid-schizophrenic (psychotic, delusional). Their dysfunction is all-pervasive: their family life, career, romantic relationships, professional and material accomplishments are ...
Views: 1924 - Domestic Violence - Understanding How It Starts - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Helen ThompsonDomestic Violence and abusive relationships start will small things and develop into behavioural and thought patterns. Identify how you got there, so you can follow the path to the future you really want. Understanding the behaviours and patterns is the first step to changing your life for ...
Views: 1834 - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You & Wants You Back - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Charles UadialeIt is really difficult to meet up with your ex boyfriend after ending the relationship since there is every possibility that strong feelings still exist for each other. Your emotions for you ex may be overwhelming you to actually see the signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you and he may ...
Views: 1386 - Does My Ex Boyfriend Still Love Me - 5 Proven Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2010 from Charles UadialeDo you want to discover if your ex boyfriend still loves you? "Does my ex boyfriend still love me" is a question a lot of ladies want an answer to. After breaking up with your boyfriend you actually won't be able to call him and simply reluctantly ask him if he still has feelings for you. If you ...
Views: 4556 - HE Said; SHE heard. - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from PD RiversHE said "You are gaining weight every day. Your body looks like you swallowed the Pillsbury Doughboy." SHE heard "Oh, God, I have to stop taking this medication. It doesn't matter that it is all that is keeping me alive. I am fat and my husband doesn't love me any more." Are you laughing? You ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - Know His True Feelings. - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2010 from Charles UadialeBreak ups can leave us totally depressed however more devasting than the break up itself is wondering and watching out for signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you. The usual question you ask yourself after break up is why did your ex boyfriend leave you if he still loves you. Love is not ...
Views: 1909 - ***Where have my civil liberties gone? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Dr. Charles and Dr Elizabeth SchmitzBy America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. My wife and I had a wonderful trip to the Los Angeles area last week. We enjoyed the sun and fun – even rented a convertible. The ocean off Malibu Beach and Santa Monica was grand and glorious – resplendent in sunshine. We got married on ...
Views: 3721(14 votes) - Respect, Elders and Elder Spirits - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from Paula Johnstone-WhitehawkThis writing was first placed on the internet by me in 1996. I feel this writing is more relevant now. So I am placing it here for further contemplation. This is a spiritual writing and is meant to be read a minimum of four times. This is only a partial teaching of the wisdom of Respect. ...
Views: 2169(2 votes) - Anger on the Streets of London - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2010 from Martin HoggThere are times in life when feelings can run high and when anger that has been simmering under the surface, bubbles over into full blown chaos. This was the case yesterday during the student demonstration against the planned hike in university fees. In such environments, one angry person is ...
Views: 1452(1 vote) - Family Lies; the Binding Ties - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2010 from PD RiversDr. John Bradshaw has written many books about families and relationships but the best of those books was about family secrets. Family secrets can destroy you. It does not matter why they have been kept; they will eventually come back to smack you in the face. Take, for instance, the story of ...
Views: 3069(3 votes) - Learn How to take Anger Management Classes - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2010 from Ari NovickWhat is the best length anger management program to take? Ironically, this is one of the most frequently asked questions we get asked of prospective anger management customers who are thinking about registering for a program. There are several ways to determine what what duration class would ...
Views: 1952(2 votes) - Could Your Partner be a Controller or Verbal Abuser? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Kari JoysIt’s challenging sometimes to know what’s wrong in your relationship. If you’re like many other people, you probably want a loving relationship more than anything else in the world. Maybe you’ve tried and tried and tried to make your relationship work and yet somehow you just seem to be going ...
Views: 2581(1 vote) - When It Hurts Say OUCH! - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghThat's Got to Hurt! I recently had a Twitter friend ask me to post some uplifting quotes related to “taking kindness as weakness” and “being pushed too far.” Of course I did my best to find a few that might assuage her pain. At least I hope they helped a little. This reminded me of a common ...
Views: 1975(2 votes) - Power in Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2010 from Diane and Lewis DenbaumAsymmetry refers to the imbalance in a particular area between the partners in the relationship. For example, one partner may have a higher paying job or more financial assets. Another partner may be much more outgoing and have many more close friendships. In our minds, we call these ...
Views: 1098(1 vote) - Making Choices That Empower You and Your Relationship - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2010 from Diane and Lewis DenbaumDo you want to have an extraordinary marriage? Having an extraordinary marriage requires choices that serve both you and your relationship. If you always choose in favor of the relationship, you can lose yourself; if you always choose in favor of yourself, the relationship may suffer. Balance is ...
Views: 1072(1 vote) - Encouraging Vs Controlling Your Partner - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2010 from Diane and Lewis DenbaumIn a loving relationship or marriage, most individuals want the very best for their spouse or partner. People want their partners to be successful, healthy, fit and happy so that each can enjoy the other for as long as possible. There are two ways to handle being involved in your partner's ...
Views: 1605 - Empowering Choices - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from G LThe choices we make creates experiences for us and others. The way we perceive ourselves is a choice. Do you see yourself as beautiful, ugly, smart, stupid, outgoing, open, closed emotional or unfeeling? If one chooses to see their self as incompetent for example, they will create experiences of ...
Views: 2142(1 vote) - A Bully is a Bully by Any other name is a Bully - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2010 from William WuThe problem of bullying is huge and is now coming under the severe scrutiny of society. People often tend to think about the young child bully when one brings up the subject of the bully. People may conjure up the image of a big, mean, strong boy who threatens and taunts another smaller socially ...
Views: 2400(2 votes) - Anger Management - The Difference Between Anger and Aggression - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2010 from Joe JamesMost anger management courses should probably more accurately called aggression management classes. This is because anger and aggression are not the same thing. Anger may lead to aggression, but it is something entirely different. If you ask most people what the goal of anger management is ...
Views: 6712(1 vote) - What was in the cord of attachment to a stalker? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2010 from Rose RosetreeGladys had already done the practical things to fix the problems with her stalker, "Zorro." But that wasn't really solving the problem enough for her life to return to normal. Mitch, who makes appointments for my sessions of Aura Healing and Transformation, always makes sure about that. If ...
Views: 1618 - Domestic Abuse 101 - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Anna MossDespite a 30-year inquiry into the subject, many people remain uninformed about the true nature of one of the biggest social issues facing America today. A witness offers a quick look that reveals some implications and solutions for all of us. If a jet liner with 300 passengers went down ...
Views: 2077 - ***Celebrity Fascination Ends With Mel Gibson - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Here we are, once again, outraged by Gibson’s racist and misogynistic remarks. The audio tapes of Mel Gibson tearing into his ex-girlfriend reveal the truth about this man once and for all; he doesn’t deserve any more support. While some criticize his ex girlfriend, Oksana Grigorieva, for ...
Views: 2498 - ***Mel Gibson Had His Button’s Pushed - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Mel Gibson strikes again, and this time, his disgraceful tirades have been caught on tape and released for all to hear. His behavior has generated a domestic violence investigation and some surprising discussions amongst celebrities, some whom are more upset about the tapes being made public on ...
Views: 3135(1 vote) - The Debilitating World Of Emotional Abuse- Are You In One? - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAre you happy? You can’t point your finger why or what exactly, but you are just sad. You don’t know what’s wrong but it is so hard for you to make any decisions by yourself now. How can this be- you use to be so self- sufficient, independent and decisive. You are so confused, can’t ...
Views: 1522 - Mind Technology Offers Hope, Healing and Empowerment for Abuse Survivors - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2010 from Patrick Porter, PhD, Creator Of The MindFitAbuse of any kind is one of the most tragic aspects of the human condition. Whether verbal, physical or sexual, abuse degrades the victim and burdens the person with a lifelong load of fear and guilt. Psychology can only go so far. Despite years of therapy and support groups, childhood abuse ...
Views: 2234 - 7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2010 from Geoff Farnsworth1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react ...
Views: 1896(3 votes) - Liars, cheaters, manipulators, beaters--Spot them in 3 dates or less - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2010 from Alisa Goodwin SnellSingle men and women are vulnerable to the risks of exploitation, deception, infidelity, stalking, and abuse, especially if they don’t know the early warning signs. With statistics that range from 20 to 60 percent of partner’s cheating during a relationship or marriage,** and reports stating ...
Views: 8264(6 votes) - Bullying and it’s Impact on Kids - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2010 from Alya NuriThis is a major problem kids are facing now days. Kids are committing suicide due to bullying. Our world is facing a major issue, and I think we need to bring more awareness to bullying. Who is Phoebe Prince? I am going to share with all of you the story of Phoebe Prince who was a 15 ...
Views: 1824 - Damaged: How Domestic Violence Shapes A Child - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraDomestic violence-also known as domestic or spousal abuse- has become increasingly prevalent in modern culture. Typically associated with violent physical aggression between intimate adults,it can also involve sexual, emotional, economic, and psychological abuse. The devastating effects of the ...
Views: 993 - Could My Child Be Sexually Abusing Other Children - Juvenile Sex Offenders - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Judy WrightIt is not the strangers who manipulate and prey on their sexual victims, it is someone who is usually known and respected by the family. Sexual abuse is often first committed by juvenile family members who are loved and trusted. As hormones begin to surge and if they have not been taught how to ...
Views: 3563(2 votes) - Couples, How to Stop Verbal Abuse in its Tracks - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Geoff FarnsworthFrustration and anger can lead to mean-spirited, disrespectful communication. We sometimes reach the breaking point and say hurtful or belittling comments, often while raising our voice. For example, Sarah is watching TV with her husband Erik. A commercial for a fast food company comes on and ...
Views: 8727(2 votes) - How Long Should Marriage Vows Last? - by Submitted on May 28, 2010 from Elsabe SmitI recently wrote an article in which I explained that any relationship has a natural duration, after which it ends – unless the people in the relationship hold on to the relationship for dear life. This raised a question about marriage vows. Divorce statistics prove to us time and again ...
Views: 2541(1 vote) - Women Battering Men - The Other Side of DOMESTIC ABUSE - by Submitted on May 25, 2012 from Roni Weisberg-RossLet’s begin by talking about Domestic Abuse in general - how it is regarded and dealt with in our culture. As a psych intern I was taught that we must report Child Abuse, Elder Abuse, a credible threat by one individual to physically harm another or a credible threat by an individual to ...
Views: 2948 - The Main Causes of Your Irrational Anger - by Submitted on May 12, 2010 from Greg BakerPeople often get angry and many times they don't even know why they get angry. As a counselor, I've dealt with many people who are genuinely puzzled why they got so angry. Have you ever gotten angry over something small, stupid, or just plain silly? Have you ever sat down later and felt ...
Views: 13919(3 votes) - Even the best relationships come to an end! - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungChances are, that relationship you’re ending has been knocking at death’s door for quite some time now or should never have begun to start with. The handwriting has been on the wall but you didn’t have the courage to say that it’s over. Bad advice from your peers, relatives and ...
Views: 3105(2 votes) - When What You Give is Squandered: Re-thinking identity as a giver when giving too much can hurt - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2010 from Fannie LeFloreIf you’ve been victimized often, chances are the positive qualities you possess were viewed as an opportunity to take advantage of you – often by someone who lacks caring and concern, consciousness or character, usually in combination. Being un-thoughtful and even callous in our stressed, ...
Views: 2130(1 vote) - Toxic People - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsA few years ago, I attended one of Debbie Ford’s ( No1 NY Times Best Selling Author and Self Development Expert) Shadow process workshops in New York. One of the biggest light bulb moments I had on this course was when Debbie led us through a process where we learned to accept that ‘ There are ...
Views: 3412(6 votes) - Lane Changing Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2010 from Vonzel SawyerI was contemplating what could I write that would reach people and help them to get them started toward the path of life that best suits them and those connected to them. Here is what came to me, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable” When we meet others and purpose is sensed ...
Views: 1644(6 votes) - ***Chaotic Love & Kids? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,One of the hardest things to know as a parent, is when to call it quits with our partner. We tolerate more than we should from each other so that we can keep it together for the sake of the kids, yet they see us growing more distant and miserable each day, with no resolution or peace in sight. ...
Views: 1962(3 votes) - Beware of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2010 from Eva EvansIt is generally believed that love addiction is not as serious as other types of addictions like drugs, gambling or sex. And it might be true; however, love addiction can be easily compared to emotional disorders and obsessions that may often lead to a crime (i.e. a crime of passion). Suicides, ...
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