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A Prescription for Resolving Interpersonal Conflicts
by
Bill Cottringer
“All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think?” ~Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies.
We all get stuck in messy emotional interpersonal conflicts with others from ... Views: 993
A monk asked Shigui, "What is the first principle?"
Shigui said, "What you just asked is the second principle."
-- from Zen’s Chinese Heritage
A few weeks ago, I was trying to pass along some information to a friend that I hoped would help resolve a conflict with which she was ... Views: 991
WORKING ALONE ON A RELATIONSHIP
While it is ideal for two partners to mutually agree and be equally motivated that there is a problem to confront, sometimes it is not achievable for both to be involved. One may not be ready to work on it, may not feel adequate talking about it, may have fears ... Views: 989
The workplace is like a second home, and the people there are like a second family. After all, you spend half of your days with them in the office. Though it may be a functional and loving family, it’s bound to have some conflicts once in a while. This is a normal occurrence in any group ... Views: 985
From centuries people have been learning about relationships and experiencing all kinds of abuse in their day to day life whether personally experiencing or through knowing about others’ stories. There are many kinds of abuse-child abuse, old age abuse and female-child abuse with various types: ... Views: 985
“Never look who is right and wrong. Always look what is right and wrong.” – Prof.M.S.Rao
When you look at individuals there will be involvement of egos and emotions. On the contrary, when you look at the issues there will be no individual preferences and prejudices. Better judgment prevails. ... Views: 984
People develop ways to cope with stress over their lifetime from past experiences, expectations and environment. Coping mechanisms are triggered once we assess a situation to be stressful. However, not everyone copes with stress in an effective way. Therefore stress management can help to ... Views: 983
I've received some criticism in the past couple of weeks in a few different situations. This has caused me to step back and reflect on how I handle criticism. Although I tend to get quite defensive when people criticize me, I've actually been pleasantly surprised by how I've reacted.
In ... Views: 977
Below
are some tips our
psychics provided in adopting more
joy.
Adopt a Pet.
. Scientific tests have proven that stroking an animal’s fur can decrease
someone’s blood strain, nevertheless it turns out that acquiring a canine, cat
or other animal companion ... Views: 976
Recently while at my daughters first baseball game of the season, I was privy to a conversatio9n between two fathers. I had no idea who these fathers were or who their kids were. Just that their boys were on the same team as my daughter. Let me tell you I am not a gossiper, not a Drama Queen, ... Views: 976
Treatments in the field of psychotherapy are many and different, and depending on the result you want to accomplish, combined with the means you’d be most comfortable with, there are many options that you can choose in order to improve your mental status. One of the very popular types of therapy ... Views: 975
THE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICT
By
William Cottringer, Ph.D.
“Differences in thinking about problems and solutions cause great conflicts; but the way we communicate about these differences is the source of continuing the conflict.” ~ The author.
Conflicts are a frequent ... Views: 974
Once an argument has been settled, it's human nature to tuck it away in the back of your mind so you never have to revisit it again. After all, why would you want to stir up all those negative feelings associated with the argument? It's easy to think that only a glutton for punishment would do ... Views: 971
Every relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident.
Think about the kinds of conflicts that happen in your daily life. These are typical:
1. Disagreements over who should do ... Views: 961
If you are a struggling parent who has problems with your kids, positive child discipline may be the solution that you have been searching for.
What does this term actually mean? Well, to better describe it, leave off the word discipline, and replace it with reinforcement. That would be a ... Views: 960
Dear Dr. Romance:
What is wrong with me? Angry, sad, blah? It's 5 am and i'm still awake. i'm 29, single (i don't mind), i go to school, an ok job, pets. i'm not starving, as long at there's a roof over my head i'm good to go. so many things i really want to do. i get into it then i don't ... Views: 959
Over the years, I’ve discovered there are few among us who embrace transitions. I’m not one of them.
Just ask my husband.
For perhaps the first ten years of our lives together, when we vacationed overseas (before the aid of the Internet to illustrate the sort of place we were headed to), ... Views: 959
I'm not a fan of boxing nor professional wrestling. I find that, as in real life, the players don't always fight fair. I understand that much is done strictly to boost ratings but still I find it distressing. In real life it is even more disturbing for much damage can occur when one or both ... Views: 957
Work sucks, but then again, maybe it’s your attitude.
And, maybe the people at work really do suck, but in the meantime there are some easy things you can do to ease the tension.
Keep in mind, you cannot change other people, but you can change your attitude.
Let me give you an incredible ... Views: 956
Let us first find out, what does it actually mean, when we say "Happiness" and "Health". There might be some misunderstanding floating around. For sure the happy, or unhappy born person doesn't exist, the same it is with the overall health.
To become a happy person, can only have to do with ... Views: 955
"NOW faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." Heb 11:1
Whether your'e thinking about yesterday, pondering the events of today, visualising your future in ten years time, or remembering an experience in your childhood, you are creating NOW, in this ... Views: 945
Cyber-bullying is the deliberate and systematic harassing or defaming of an individual through derogatory postings and comments on the Internet.
In some cases the material posted can be disguised as professional opinion, as the opinion of a group of people or as coming from an organization ... Views: 943
Too often people think that if they surrender they are showing their weaknesses and flaws. I am here to tell you that it takes a great deal of strength to surrender your worries, fears and concerns to the Holy Spirit. We all suffer troubles and great concerns in our lives whether they ... Views: 936
Although I realized in a vivid, technicolor dream some years ago that everyone is part of my spiritual journey, the impulse to write, study and research is nevertheless so strong in me that I tend to be impatient with whatever gets in my way. So I am constantly seeking to balance my work, ... Views: 934
Precisely why may you need to transform your child discipline techniques? We will look at the likely reasons why, and in the process, hopefully we shall make things a bit more obvious so you'll realize what to do next!
The first reason to alter your child discipline techniques would be if you ... Views: 930
Lately, the public has become more conscious of surgery mesh complications suffered by women after taking down pelvic organ Prolapse and stress urinary incontinence surgeries by making use of man-made mesh. This mesh is called upon by various names including transvaginal mesh, pelvic mesh, ... Views: 929
Does the young Somali pirate brought to trial in the U.S. create the perfect moment for the world community to take a deeper look at its own conscious?
If reports from Somalia are true that its coastal waters have been used as a dumping ground for toxic and nuclear wastes, and its fisheries ... Views: 919
The Compromise Imperative
By
Bill Cottringer
“I shall argue that strong men, conversely, know when to compromise and that all principles can be compromised to serve a greater principle. ~Andrew Carnegie.
Our main thinking paradigm today is still stuck somewhere between a ... Views: 910
Are you a parent struggling with your children? Consider these tips and parent effectiveness training to get things back on track. You'll want to do this because the last thing anyone needs in life, is extra aggravation from their children. Life is already tough enough. So let's get to some ... Views: 909
All homebuyers want as much house for their money as they can get. Many buyers are looking for a larger home because they've outgrown their current one, and especially desire more closet and cupboard space as well as larger rooms.
Visual space makes your home appear larger by allowing the ... Views: 906
In my private practice, I often see the damaging effects of unbridled anger on relationships. And, men don't have the corner on this market either - plenty of women do their fair share of harm through fiery tempers and uncensored words. So, what are some suggestions for couples who continue to ... Views: 905
What we extend outward toward others, we internalize. Whether the emotions we extend are negative, such as hatred, animosity, and anger; or positive, such as love, forgiveness, and peace, these feelings seep inside of us and affect us deeply.
You can feel the physical difference between, on one ... Views: 902
If you hate conflict, you could spend a long time stewing in your anger before you express it to the person who caused it. By then, your anger may have built to levels beyond reason. Or maybe you zipped off an e-mail, comforted by the fact that technology helped you avoid a face-to-face ... Views: 894
I have mentioned it before and wrote about it in my first book Damaged Merchandise. I shake. Not all the time, in fact if I’m sitting next to you, you’d never know it. I shake when I’m writing or have some kind of movement. It is something that I have lived with for over 40 years. It is ... Views: 893
One of the questions I receive most often from my newsletter subscribers is what do I do when I've "blown it?" As one good friend said: "I forgot all the great ways I know to address a conflict. I reprimanded an employee by basically attacking her character. I did apologize, and, thankfully, she ... Views: 892
Yet another new year has arrived and is waiting to unfold its adventures, challenges and blessings. Many of us get inspired to set new goals and intentions aiming to improve ourselves, our health and our lives. The top three New Year’s Resolutions in my part of the world are: to stress less, to ... Views: 890
In my practice I find over and over again that people are afraid of conflict. So much so, that when someone does something that goes up their proverbial nose, they don’t say anything, withdraw, count to ten, get over it, or just ignore what just happened. Of course, conflict that is not ... Views: 884
When you want to solve some important relationship or logistics issue, you help assist help ensure your effectiveness by appropriately setting the stage for communication. Remember these guidelines while trying to solve a problem in your relationship.
1. Think about what you want to say ... Views: 883
We are not afraid to trust the American people with unpleasant facts and competitive values. A nation that's afraid to let its people judge the truth versus falsehood in the open, is a nation that's afraid of its people---John F. Kennedy
A Hillary Clinton movie was blocked from being shown in ... Views: 883
Well, we are finally here...Election Day! Normally I would make some comment about how "tomorrow we will wake up and there will be a new president." Yet, since nothing has been normal about this election, who knows what tomorrow will bring and what the status of the election not to mention the ... Views: 873
One of the things that interests me most about conflict is the tendency to resist it and the ways in which this resistance causes me to miss a ki moment - a key moment, when I might respond with purpose and intention but do not. Resistance is a reactive habit. When I resist, I'm on automatic, ... Views: 872
Why would people go on the net and look up the words, parenting tips and things to steer clear of carrying out? Well, usually whenever folks look up a thing on the internet, it really is because they are trying to purchase a product, or they are looking to take care of a need or issue.
The ... Views: 863
As we age, our body deteriorates as well. When you reach the age of 60, it can be hard staying on top of our health. That’s why seniors are prescribed more medications than younger people. In fact, 54 per cent of adults aged 65 and above take at least four prescription drugs.
However, our ... Views: 855
"Life as Art," at http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/life-as-art-a-creative-adventure introduced this series. The first article described the difference between being a victim of fate and consciously designing one's life. It also outlined some broad steps for designing your story.
If life is ... Views: 854
Communicating with Today’s Workforce
By
Bill Cottringer
“The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.” ~Peter F. Drucker.
In managing a wide variety of workforces for nearly six decades now—private and public settings and large and small organizations ... Views: 848
This trap is the bias that leads us to seek out information to support our existing point of view while avoiding information that contradicts it. This bias not only affects where we go to collect evidence to reinforce a current stance or perspective, but also how we interpret the evidence we ... Views: 847
So you've suffered an injury. Chances are, if you were on someone else's property or someone else was at fault, your friends and family have told you to sue. Should you?
Assessing the Probability of Successful Litigation
It can be difficult to assess who is to blame when an accident ... Views: 845
Crises Leave Multiple Energetic Imprints
The Chinese translation means both “danger” and “opportunity”. We live in a time of multiple global crises which can even more intensify individual crises.
In the course of a well-lived lifetime one will experience serious, multiple crises. The ... Views: 844
WALK MY WALK
I am the only one that can walk my walk.
I may need help along the way
I am the only one that can walk my walk.
I will let nothing break my stride
I am the only one that can walk my walk.
Whether my stride be long or short
I am the only one that can walk my walk.
Whatever ... Views: 844