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- Happiness: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Being Happy If They Grew Up With A Depressed Parent? - by Submitted on Jul 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels happy, they could soon feel uncomfortable and their inner state could change thereafter. This could be something that is the rule as opposed to the exception. But, if this is something that is normal, it might not be something that stands out. As a result of this, they are ...
Views: 329 - Happiness: Can Someone Find It Hard To Be Happy If They Had An Emotionally Unstable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is incredibly difficult for them to be truly happy. In general, this can be seen as something that is just outside of their reach. And, if they are happy, it might not be long until they go back to how they were before. ...
Views: 357 - Happiness: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have the need to be happy, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable being happy. Consequently, they can end up doing just about everything that they can to make sure that they are never happy. Still, while they will be sabotaging their own happiness, it doesn’t ...
Views: 674 - Happiness: Is Being In Touch With Our Needs An Important Part Of Being Happy? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that people want in today’s world, and one of those things is to be happy. But although this is what people want, it is not always that they receive. Someone can feel as though it is impossible for them to fulfil this need and that they would have more chance finding the ...
Views: 1529 - Happiness: Is It Right For Someone To Be Happy When There Is So Much Suffering In The World? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of what is taking place in the Middle East and Ukraine, someone can often feel down and depressed. Due to this, they might not do a number of the things that they used to do before. Quiet simply, they won’t have the desire or the energy to do a great deal. Apart from going to ...
Views: 309 - Happiness: Is Life Too Short To Be Unhappy? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling unhappy it is clear that in most cases they would choose the first option. When one is happy, not only will their inner world change, it is also going to have an effect on their outer world. This inner change will cause their ...
Views: 1964 - Happiness: Is The Purpose Of Life To Be happy? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo be happy is something most people want on this planet and there are many ways of achieving happiness. Some of these ways are beneficial and actually enhance ones general quality of life. And then there are other ways that can make one feel happy for a short time and then cause them to feel a ...
Views: 1687 - Happiness: Should Someone Take Advice On How to Be Happy From People Who Are Attractive? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for people to look for advice on how to be happy. In fact, it could be said that some people see this as being the purpose of life, and as a result of this, it is not going to be something that they can simply overlook. In The Past Fortunately, there ...
Views: 1269 - Happiness: Should You Do What Makes You Happy? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what the meaning of life was, they may say that it is to be happy. And as human beings are programmed to seek pleasure and to avoid pain, it is not going to be much of a surprise to hear this. When one is happy, they are going to feel good, and this experience is going ...
Views: 1483 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Be Happy? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhat makes one person happy is not necessarily going to be the same as what makes another person happy, but while their requirements may be different, they both have the need to be happy. This is something that most people on the planet want to experience; with their being many ways in which one ...
Views: 4360 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Believe That They Don't Deserve To Feel Good? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings want to experience pleasure and to avoid. Based on this outlook, each person on this planet is going to have the same intention, and even if their actions are not allowing them to experience pleasure in one moment, they are going to hope that they will lead to ...
Views: 1542 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Being Happy? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that everybody wants to be happy and yet this doesn’t mean that one will be comfortable when they are happy. For some people, being happy is a wonderful experience and for others, it is something that leads to incredible guilt. And the very thing that one wants is then casing ...
Views: 5673 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty When They Are Happy? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt guilty whenever they consumed a certain type of food, it is going to be hard for them to enjoy eating it. On one hand, they might continue to eat it and put up with how they feel, and on the other hand, it might cause them to stop eating something altogether. This could be a sign ...
Views: 1548 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen other people are unhappy, it can cause someone to feel a sense of concern and to be curious as to why they feel as they do. As a result of this, one can hope that this person begins to feel better and even see what they can do to help them. This could apply to anyone one meets that ...
Views: 2951 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Want To Be Happy All The Time? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is into self-development, they may have the need to be happy all the time. However, even if this is not something they are into, they may still have the same need. In this case, they may believe that this is the how they are supposed to experience life, and through having this ...
Views: 1778 - Hate: Is Hate Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are certain emotional responses that are seen as appropriate, there are others that are not seen in the same way. As a result of this, it can then be normal for people to have moments where they ignore how they feel. It could also go a step further than this, and this means that ...
Views: 1557 - He Had Something To Teach Me! - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was on a course in 2009, there were moments when we all had to pair up with someone to practice the technique that we were learning. I would try to work someone who I felt comfortable with, and was something that just about everyone else did. Towards the end of the course, we were ...
Views: 1199 - He Taught Us How To Think, Not What To Think! - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of months, I have thought about what was said during an English lesson while I was at school. A number of years have passed since that moment, but I can hear it as clear now as I did back then. The main reason why I have thought about this moment in my life is due to what has ...
Views: 1202 - He Wanted To Kill Himself After His Partner Left Him! - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago I spoke to someone whose son had gone through a break up, and this was something that had a big impact on him. She didn’t say how long he had been with her for, but she did go into what he had gone though. He ending up losing the will to live and, as a result of this, he ...
Views: 1187 - Healing Journey: Can Black And White Thinking Hold Someone Back On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperThere can be a number of reasons as to why someone would be in a bad way and unable to simply ‘get on with life’ or to ‘put the past behind them.’ Perhaps their early years were very abusive or maybe they experienced a lot of neglect during this time. It could go back even further than this ...
Views: 530 - Healing Journey: Can Someone End Up Feeling Worse When They Start To Heal Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to get to the point in their life where they can no longer carry on living in the same way, they could end up buying a book on self-development or they could find a therapist to work with. What this could show is that their inner world is not as they would like it to be. As a ...
Views: 702 - Healing Journey: Can Someone Feel Low When They Are Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is on a healing journey and is thus working through their emotional wounds, there are going to be moments when they will be in a lot of pain. The reason for this is that they will be facing up to the fact that certain needs won’t be met. These will be needs that go back to when ...
Views: 336 - Healing Journey: Can Someone Sabotage Their Own Healing? - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhether someone has just started to work on their wounds or has been doing so for a little while, they are going to want their life to change. As to why they are engaging in this work, it could show that they were deeply deprived during their early years. If so, this may have been a time when ...
Views: 568 - Healing Journey: Can Someone Try To Do Everything By Themselves If They Were Neglected During Their Early Years? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the stage where they can see that they are not in a good way, someone can look for a way to change their life. There is a chance that they have been this way for quite some time. Either way, they will have taken a big step by becoming aware of what is going as if this hasn’t ...
Views: 390 - Healing Journey: Do We Repeat The Past Until We Heal It? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of self-development, it has been said that there is no such thing as a new problem; it is just an old problem that is being played out again. Upon hearing this, someone could find it hard to understand how this is so. One could have a number of challenges in their life and these ...
Views: 736 - Healing Journey: How Can Someone Know If They Are Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes the first step on their healing journey and looks into what they can do to experience life differently, they may have suffered for many years. As a result of this, they may want their life to change more or less overnight. If the pain that they are in is unbearable, it is ...
Views: 810 - Healing Journey: Is It Important For Someone To Accept Where They Are? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAfter getting to the point where they can no longer carry on living in the same way, one can end up looking for answers. Perhaps something significant has recently taken place, pushing them over the point of no return in the process. Or maybe, what has been going on hasn’t really changed; ...
Views: 698 - Healing Journey: What Are The Signs Of Growth On The Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, their early years were a time when they received what they needed to receive in order to become a resilient, integrated and secure adult. Thanks to what took place during this stage of their life, their adult years may be pretty ‘normal’. So, they could have gone through the ...
Views: 770 - Healing Journey: What Can Happen If Someone Believes That Their Thoughts Create Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s inner world is not in a good way, they could simply tolerate what is going on and not do anything about it. Then again, they could end up looking for a way to change their life. When it comes to what is taking place inside them, they could find that their thoughts and feelings ...
Views: 603 - Healing Journey: What Can Stop Someone From Making Progress On Their Healing Journey? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants answers and ends up reaching out for support, it will show that they want to find a way to move past the challenges in their life. This could show that they have mental and emotional challenges, along with relationships that are not going as they would like them to ...
Views: 722 - Healing Toxic Shame Doesn’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that shame is the hardest feeling to tolerate and it is not hard to see why. This is because when someone experiences shame, they will feel bad and as though there is something wrong with them. One can then experience guilt, with this being a sign that they have done ...
Views: 664 - Healing: Can It Be Hard For Someone To Heal If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, someone may have been doing what they can to put their childhood behind them and live a life worth living. But, no matter what they have done, they might not have been able to truly put the past behind them. Nonetheless, this is not to say that they won’t have made any ...
Views: 144 - Healing: Can Someone Use Their Imagination To Heal Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was greatly deprived during their formative years and is not in a good way now that they are an adult, the logical thing will be for them to do what they can to heal themselves. To do this, they can read books, take courses and work with a therapist or healer. By taking these steps ...
Views: 144 - Healing: Can Someone’s Adult-Self Heal Their Wounded Child-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone is likely to find is that there are times in their life when they react. When this takes place, something inside them will have been triggered and they will do something that they wouldn’t usually do. Therefore, instead of responding to something; it will have been as though they ...
Views: 796 - Healing: Can Someone’s Unmet Developmental Needs Stop Them From Being Able To Heal? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is suffering both mentally and emotionally, and certain areas of their life are not going in the right direction, they can end up reaching out for support. Assuming that this takes place, they can find a therapist or healer to work with. What this will show is that they no longer ...
Views: 245 - Healing: Do We Heal When We Are Ready? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has experienced some kind of abuse as a child and this could be physical emotional, verbal or sexual, there is often the need to recover as fast as possible. To look for the answers and to find the solution or solutions that will make everything better. This is natural and must ...
Views: 2057 - Healing: How Does Healing Work? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy current outlook to healing and processing is that, along with the individual's willingness to process their past, the other important element to releasing our patterns is to be assisted by someone who has achieved a certain level of presence. And that the processing (healing) technique alone ...
Views: 2208 - Healing: Is The Masculine Aspect Important When It Comes To Healing? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is carrying pain that needs to be faced and acknowledged, and this pain is avoided, it can lead to a whole host of problems. There can be the effect it has on their mind, emotional body, and their physical body. As a result of this, this pain is naturally going to play a big ...
Views: 911 - Healing: What Actually Works? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing ones childhood pain or in healing the pain that has come about through later life experiences; there are many techniques and methods out there. And each one of these is often described as the one and only way. So based on this, if one was to use this method, it would ...
Views: 2060 - Healthy And Unhealthy Guilt: What's The Difference? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are two types of guilt that an individual can experience; one can be classed as healthy and the other as unhealthy. And like all feelings, there is usually a reason when guilt appears. Now, the reason for guilt appearing could be functional and beneficial to one’s life or it could be ...
Views: 6619 - Heart-Centred: Does Someone Need To Open Their Heart If It Is Closed? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living a fulfilling life, one thing that is often mentioned is having an open heart. Or, perhaps to be more accurate, this is what is often mentioned in the world of self-development and spirituality. What this typically relates to is someone being connected to how they feel ...
Views: 315 - Help: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Asking For Help? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to buy a new bed and their bedroom was upstairs, they may find that need someone to help them to take it there. Yet even if the bed hasn’t been built, they may still find that it is too heavy for them to lift by themselves. It will then be normal for them to ask someone to help ...
Views: 1746 - Helping Others: Can We Do More Harm Than Good By Helping Others? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are all kinds of ways for people to help others, and it is also easy for them to let their friends know about what they have been doing. In the past, one would have generally needed to be around others in order to make a difference. Another Way But thanks to the ...
Views: 1549 - Helpless State: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Be In A Helpless State? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to feel helpless and as though they are unable to do anything. However, even though this is how they can generally feel and perceive life, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. As a result of this, being this way is going to prevent ...
Views: 359 - Helpless: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they often feel helpless. This could be how they have experienced life for as long as they can remember. Consequently, it is unlikely that they have a very fulfilling existence. In fact, they could ...
Views: 535 - Helpless: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone can have the inclination to feel helpless, and this is likely to make it hard for them to live a fulfilling life. What this comes down to is that they won’t feel as though they are able to do anything to change their life. This is likely to show that this is more than just ...
Views: 426 - Helpless: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Helpless? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one is constantly having an effect on their environment, it doesn’t mean that they are able to accept this. Some people will be able to see that this is the case and there are going to be others who believe they have no effect whosever. And when someone experiences life in a way that ...
Views: 1696 - Helplessness: Can Someone Embody A Sense Of Helplessness If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to be passive and lack motivation. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Due to this, they might typically only do what they have to do. Based on how they live their life, it will be as though they have given up on life and don’t ...
Views: 284 - Hiding: Does The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause You To Hide? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one of our greatest needs is to be seen who we really are, and what this shows is that we are not here to hide. Therefore, when it is not possible for someone to fulfil this need, it is going to cause them to suffer. Part of Life There are going to be people who are ...
Views: 1330 - Higher Power: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Higher Power? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to identify with something larger than themselves, there are others who are unable to do so. When this is possible for someone, they are likely to feel connected, whereas, if this isn’t possible, they might feel disconnected. This might be a ...
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