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- Being Seen: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Fear Being Seen? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest needs that human beings have is to be seen for who they are and although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that this is something that everyone feels comfortable with. If one is in a position where they didn’t feel comfortable with being seen, it is going to cause them to ...
Views: 1895 - Anger: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are certain emotions that are seen as acceptable and some that are not. And what is seen as acceptable to one gender is not necessarily seen as acceptable to the other. While a woman can come across as being sad without being judged, if a man was ...
Views: 1894 - Relationships: What Is Our Most Important Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDuring our lives we can have many relationships and some of these relationships can last for what feels like moments and others can seem to last a lifetime. It could be greeting someone we might never see again or embracing someone we will see many times. These relationships can range from a ...
Views: 1893 - Weight Loss: Do Some People Fear Losing Weight? - by Submitted on May 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe Weight loss industry is one of the biggest in the world and takes in billions every year. This affects both men and women and while sometimes it can be for health reasons, at other times it is for aesthetic reasons. People can lose weight through: eating differently, exercising, taking ...
Views: 1893 - Child Abuse: Is There Something Wrong With People Who Are Abused As Children? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors. ...
Views: 1890 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Jenny Jones - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Jenny Jones. This is someone who is based in England and she is a healer/therapist. The Next Stage After having experienced ...
Views: 1890 - Needs: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Needs? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach one of us has wants and needs and yet that doesn’t mean that everyone is in touch with their wants and needs. It is also possible for someone to have wants and needs that are second hand and have nothing to do with what actually matters to them. It could be that one actually believes ...
Views: 1889 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Women? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs men are often physically stronger than women, it often makes it hard to comprehend that they could be fearful of women. This is something that can sound illogical and abnormal. When some people hear this, it can sound like some kind of joke. But while this may sound illogical and even ...
Views: 1887 - Projection: Do You Project Your Inner Conflict Onto Others? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the conflict that is taking place in the external world, one only needs to look or to listen and they will soon be aware of what is taking place. Now this could relate to something that is taking place in front of them or something that is happening on the other side of the ...
Views: 1886 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
Views: 1884 - Defence Mechanism: Denial - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDefence mechanisms are used to stop the ego mind from becoming overwhelmed, as if they were not utilised, the mind may not be able to cope with the pain that is arising. So they are not good or bad or right or wrong, they simply there to ensure that one survives. Denial will be used during ...
Views: 1882 - Focus: Do You Focus On What You Can't Control? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world it is highly unlikely that one will have trouble finding something to focus on. No matter where they look or where they, there is going to be something to place their attention on. And at times this will mean that their time and energy is being used wisely and at other times, it ...
Views: 1878 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Invalidating Your Experiences? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is suffering from mental and emotional problems and/or has relationship problems, they can end up looking for a therapist to assist them. This could be because they have taken this approach in the past, or it may be due to other reasons. If it relates to other reasons, it could be a ...
Views: 1878 - Love Or Control: What Would You Choose? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships what is often classed as love is nothing more than control. The desire to control another person and their behaviour then becomes more important than it is to love and honour the other person. The question is: what would make a person want to control another? If they ...
Views: 1877 - Relationships: Why Do Some People's Relationships Come To An End When They Start To Work On Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOn one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are. As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ...
Views: 1876 - Self Doubt: Is Self Doubt A Good Thing? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone having an inner voice that is not supportive or nurturing for instance, there is going to be the need for some kind of change to take place. And if one feels practically paralyzed by this voice, then it is only natural that some kind of solution is going to be ...
Views: 1876 - The Media: Does The Media Normalize Violence? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the media covers many different areas of life, there are certain areas that are covered more than others. This can depend on what is taking place in the world at any given moment but at the same time, it doesn’t have to. There will be certain things that are given exposure and it won’t ...
Views: 1876 - Breathing In Is Masculine, Breathing Out Is Feminine - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAbout a year ago I went to a health and wellbeing centre and had a little look around the entrance, but I didn’t go any further. However, a few weeks ago I felt the urge to go to this place again, and this made me look at the website. I found out that there would be a free guided mediation ...
Views: 1874 - Emotional Depth: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Emotional Depth? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people have the ability to feel every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are only able to express certain emotions. This is similar to how some people can speak a language fluently and others can only speak a few words, if that. The person who can speak a language ...
Views: 1874 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Be Serious? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance. However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ...
Views: 1873 - Associations: Do Associations Create Our Perceptions Of People? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMost people have heard of the saying ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’ and yet this is generally what happens. We see that someone is wearing a certain item of clothing, looks or acts a certain way and a judgement is made. This judgment is automatic and is a consequence of the unconscious ...
Views: 1872(1 vote) - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Low Self-esteem? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who were already adults by the time social media came to the fore and then were others who grew up with social media. In the first case, one had to gradually adapt to what was appearing and in the other, it would be something they had to learn but not something they ...
Views: 1872 - The Truth: What Does Your Ego Believe To Be True? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are often many descriptions of what truth is and what truth is not. Absolute truth is often used when it comes to religion or spirituality. These are all fascinating areas to study and to then form one’s own opinion. And there is also another form of truth; which comes from the ego ...
Views: 1871 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, positive thinking is going to be something they are familiar with. But even if this isn’t the case, this is still likely to be something that one is familiar with. It could be something they have heard of and that’s about as far as it goes, or it could be ...
Views: 1870 - Relationships: Are Rebound Relationships A Bad Idea? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one. This could be a relationship that has ...
Views: 1868 - Truth: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Speak Their Truth? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be ...
Views: 1868 - Pain And Suffering: Do We Benefit From It? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI have recently been asking the question: why is it that we are so consumed with the pain of the world and at the same time run away from our own pain? Could it be that the very reason we have become so obsessed and addicted to the media, soaps, gossip and other such things, is due to us running ...
Views: 1867 - Victim Mentality: Why Do Some People Always Act Like Victims? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one gets to the end of their day, they might look back on what has happened, and this could be a time when they will see what good and bad things have taken place. Even so, they could believe that this is simply part of life. One Step Further If they were to engage in this process ...
Views: 1867 - Comparison: Should We Compare Ourselves With Others? - by Submitted on May 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that comparing oneself with another is a natural part of living in the modern day world. And it is also true that this doesn’t necessarily have to be something that is negative or disempowering. There are of course certain comparisons that can be made, without ones wellbeing ...
Views: 1865 - Meaning: Where Does Our Meaning Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is classed as meaningful can vary from person to person. It is not something that is set in stone or fixed. The meaning that one has in life can change as one grows older and has different experiences. The countries and cultures of the world can have meanings that are vastly different to ...
Views: 1865 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Get Attached Too Soon? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who like to take their time when it comes to the beginning of a relationship, and then there are others who go in head first. And based on how they behave, it is safe to say that they are both having a different inner experience. However, just because one may have a pattern ...
Views: 1864 - Childhood Abandonment: What Are The Consequences Of Childhood Abandonment? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDuring the first few years of one’s life, they are emotionally dependent on their caregivers. And so it is vital that they are not left alone for prolonged periods of time, because if they are left it can be extremely overwhelming and therefore traumatising. But this doesn’t mean that one’s ...
Views: 1863 - Communication: Is Listening Important? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, talking will be something they enjoy doing and this will be balanced out by their ability to listen. But there will also be people who are good at either talking or listening and yet, they will fall down when it comes to the other option. This is going to mean that they are out ...
Views: 1862 - Happiness: Is Life Too Short To Be Unhappy? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had to choose between feeling happy or feeling unhappy it is clear that in most cases they would choose the first option. When one is happy, not only will their inner world change, it is also going to have an effect on their outer world. This inner change will cause their ...
Views: 1862 - Being Present: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into fashion, they will know that the current trend will soon change and end up being replaced by another trend. And while this could be a new trend, it could also be one that was around in the past. So upon reflection, one could say that fashion is like the weather as it is ...
Views: 1859 - Music: Is Music Important? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, music is a vital part of life. It is there when they are feeling up and during those moments when they are feeling down. It is then not just a nice addition and something they simply enjoy, it as much a part of their life as breathing is. And while one can feel let down by ...
Views: 1859 - Relationships: What Causes Jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal. As ...
Views: 1859 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Who Always Talk About Tolerance Act Intolerant? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one uses social media, they may have come across people who talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This could be something that has taken place through reading what people write and through looking at the images they have shared. And, if one spends a lot of time online, this have ...
Views: 1858 - Relationships: Why Do Some Breakups Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne may experience the end of a relationship without experiencing too much pain or they could experience immense pain and suffering when a relationship comes to an end. It could then be hard to comprehend what is taking place and why this person is having this affect. And it doesn’t even ...
Views: 1857 - Affirmations: Why Don’t Affirmations Always Work? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many ways out there for one to change what is taking place within them and to therefore see themselves differently. With these changes making it possible for them to feel empowered and to be able to live the life they desire. Now, although change can seem instant at times, it ...
Views: 1856 - Conditioning: How Do We Change Our Conditioning? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile we would like to see ourselves as human beings who have control over how we behave, this doesn’t always reflect reality. Because although one has the ability to think before they act, they can also act without thinking. And this is not ‘bad’ per se; it can enable one to save a lot of ...
Views: 1855 - Emotional Instability: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Emotional Instability? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having emotional stability is the ideal, it is not something that everyone can relate to. But this doesn’t mean that the people who do experience emotional stability are always stable and go through life unscathed. To be human means that we are emotional beings and so unless one has ...
Views: 1854 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is widely believed that the thoughts that one has create their reality. And this outlook is supported by numerous people in the self help industry. Thoughts then end up being the primary point of focus; when it comes to one attracting what they want in life and repelling what they don’t ...
Views: 1852 - Inner Child: Does Our Inner Child Control How We Feel? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor people who are into self development, the term ‘inner child’ could be something they are familiar with. And not only could they be familiar with this term, but they might also feel comfortable with it. When it comes to people who are not into self development, the whole thing could sound ...
Views: 1846 - True-Self: Why Do Some People Lose Themselves Around Others? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is in touch with themselves and they feel safe enough to express who they are, there will be no reason for them to put on an act. How they come across on the outside is going to match up with who they are on the inside. Now and Then Or, if they do put on act, it is going to be ...
Views: 1845 - Music: Can Music Trigger Grief? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn some shape or form, music has been around for thousands of years and while there are styles around today that weren’t around in the past, it still has the same effect. When it comes to making music today, electrical equipment is often used and this has allowed people to create sounds that ...
Views: 1842 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stay In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo see or hear about someone who is being abused in a relationship and yet continues to stay in the relationship is hard to comprehend. Logically it makes no sense whatsoever and sounds completely dysfunctional. The type of abuse can vary from what may seem to be fairly moderate, to extreme ...
Views: 1840 - The Media: Is The Media Creating Our View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to understanding what is going on in the world, the media has generally been the source that one has looked to. This has been the case for many, many years. But this has very recently changed and this is primarily due to the fairly introduction of the internet. In the past, the ...
Views: 1839(1 vote) - Violence: Can Repression Cause Violence? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to see violence or to hear about violence. The media for instance, is only too happy to inform people of what is taking place at a local level and around the world. And then one can hear second hand accounts of violence that have taken place in another ...
Views: 1835 - Relationships: Are Patterns Running Our Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who have relationships that are generally: supportive, secure, loving and what could be described as functional. And there are others who are in relationships that are: unhealthy, dysfunctional, disempowering and even abusive. Functional Now, for people in the first ...
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