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- Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Letting Go Of Grudges? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be moments when one looks back and remembers someone who treated them well and then there are going to be moments when this isn’t the case. This could mean that one looks back and ends up feeling angry and this may not only relate to one person, it could relate to a number of ...
Views: 1614 - Happiness: Is Being In Touch With Our Needs An Important Part Of Being Happy? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that people want in today’s world, and one of those things is to be happy. But although this is what people want, it is not always that they receive. Someone can feel as though it is impossible for them to fulfil this need and that they would have more chance finding the ...
Views: 1479 - Incremental Action: Is Incremental Action An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across someone who is successful, it can be easy for them to come to the conclusion that they have always been this way. And this is partly because one is not going to be aware of what they had to go through to get to where they are. One could assume that this person has ...
Views: 1900 - Abuse: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Ending The Cycle Of Abuse? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused during their childhood years, they can end up doing the same thing and abusing others or they can put an end to the abuse. And based on how much pain one would have experienced when they were abused, it is often hard for people to understand why they would end up doing to ...
Views: 2204 - Emotional Depth: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Emotional Depth? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some people have the ability to feel every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are only able to express certain emotions. This is similar to how some people can speak a language fluently and others can only speak a few words, if that. The person who can speak a language ...
Views: 1874 - Self-Conscious: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Self-Conscious? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the need to increase their level of self-awareness, they might be drawn to some kind of mediation. This would then allow them to develop their ability to observe themselves as opposed to being attached to everything that occurs within them. And as time passes and one continues to ...
Views: 1741 - Empaths: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Empaths? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile all human beings have a physical body, that doesn’t mean that they experience life in the same way. If one was to think about why this is, they might focus on how we are born into different environments and how these environments can be the defining factor. However, without even going ...
Views: 2810 - Addiction: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Addictive Personalities? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to drink alcohol or even take drugs without their whole life being taken over, there are others who are not able to exercise the same level of self-control. If they were to drink or to even take drugs, they would soon find that their life has been taken over. One ...
Views: 2267 - Emotionally Unavailable Mother: What Are The Consequences Of Having An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some women want to be mothers and go onto fulfil this need, there are others who have no interest in being a mother. They might end up channelling their nurturing abilities into another area of life instead. However, just because a woman decides to be a mother, it doesn’t mean that she ...
Views: 8240 - True Self: Is Life About Finding Ourselves Or Creating Ourselves? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, this doesn’t mean that one’s mind is able to realise this. Instead, one can end up seeing their whole life in this way and not only is this limiting, it also doesn’t reflect reality. While it could be said that some people think like this and some ...
Views: 1462 - Irrational Feelings: Do You Have Irrational Feelings? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one feels a certain way, it doesn’t mean these feelings reflect what is currently taking place in their life. One can then come to the conclusion that their feelings are irrational. This could be something that one experience from time to time or it might be a regular ...
Views: 2452 - Social Media: Can Social Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence and while this may be true, there is also the chance that it isn’t. Moving to another area might make one’s life so much better and there is the chance that they are better off where they are. Just as one could ...
Views: 2555 - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause Low Self-esteem? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who were already adults by the time social media came to the fore and then were others who grew up with social media. In the first case, one had to gradually adapt to what was appearing and in the other, it would be something they had to learn but not something they ...
Views: 1872 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Instant Gratification? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people want to find out about what is taking place locally and globally, they often look to the mainstream media to inform them. This could be seen as a normal part of living in the modern-day world. But while this has been the way for so long, it is it beginning to change and this is ...
Views: 1948 - Intimacy: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings need to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that this always take place. In fact, one might be in a position where it is not part of their life and never has been. This means that some people are used to experiencing intimacy and this is ‘normal’, and others are not used ...
Views: 2800 - Role Models: Can We Use Negative Role Models As Inspiration? - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf the people one spent their time with had no effect on their life it wouldn’t matter who they had around them. But as human beings are interdependent and are therefore constantly being affected by the people around them, one has to choose their company wisely. When one walks into a room ...
Views: 3094 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Defining Who You Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, many points of view have been put forward as to what causes one person to be attracted to another. These have come from scientists, relationship experts and everyone in between. And while some of these views can sound accurate and as though they reflect reality, it doesn’t ...
Views: 1517(2 votes) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Have Affairs? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home. One can then use their phone to keep in ...
Views: 1738 - Perfectionism: Can Toxic Shame Cause Perfectionism? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are things that are around today that are seen as being perfect but as time passes, they will be seen as imperfect. And this is how life has always been and something that will continue to take place. What this shows is how life doesn’t stand still and that there is always something ...
Views: 1745 - Appreciation: Can Suffering Lead to Greater Appreciation Of Life? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is human nature to only appreciate something when it is not longer available. So when one has something in their life, it is easy for them to take it for granted. Not only can this apply to ‘things’, it can also apply to the people who are in one’s life. In the ...
Views: 2472 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part of Attracting People Who Are Available? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available. When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ...
Views: 1455 - Shyness: Can Toxic Shame Cause Shyness? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who come across as confident and as though nothing fazes them, and then there are others who are the complete opposite. Based on how they behave, they will be seen as lacking confidence and as though they can’t handle life. But while people are often are labelled as ...
Views: 2742 - Self-Esteem: Can Toxic Shame Cause Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across something that grows into the ground and has a big trunk, there is only going to be one word to describe what it is – and that is a tree. And the same can be said when it comes to describing other things on this planet. However, when it comes to how one sees themselves, ...
Views: 2365 - Relationships: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Letting Of The Fear Of Abandonment? - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned. The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ...
Views: 1495 - Shameless: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Shameless? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is possible for an emotion to enhance one’s life, it is also possible for an emotion to have the opposite effect. If one feels angry, it could be a sign that they have been violated, but if they always feel this way it shows that something isn’t right. It could mean that one is ...
Views: 1670 - Money: Should All The Money In The World Be Divided Equally? - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt doesn’t take much effort for one to realise that not everyone on this planet has the same amount of money. Yet this is not the only area in the world where there is a difference – this is one of many. Not everyone is the same height, has the same hair colour or eye colour, for instance. ...
Views: 1812 - Change: Do Some People Try To Change The World In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are the changes that one can make in their own life and then there are the changes they can make in the world. And as one is part of the world, what takes place in their life can end up affecting the world. The internet has given individuals the power to make more of a difference than ...
Views: 1969 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, positive thinking is going to be something they are familiar with. But even if this isn’t the case, this is still likely to be something that one is familiar with. It could be something they have heard of and that’s about as far as it goes, or it could be ...
Views: 1870 - Responsibility: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Responsible For Others? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile is it one thing to feel responsible for one’s own life, it is another thing altogether to feel responsible for other people. Even though one is not responsible for other people, it doesn’t mean they feel this way. That is unless they have a young child or children for instance and then ...
Views: 1473 - Interviews With Successful People - Ben Wright – Professional Stuntman And Actor - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAfter having interviewed a number of DJ’s and producers, I thought that it would be a good idea to interview someone from another profession. So after hearing about a stuntman from someone I know, I thought that it would be great to interview him. Through typing his name into Google, I was ...
Views: 2174(1 vote) - Relationships: Are People Entitled To Get Revenge On Their Ex? - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life. How close one feels to another person won’t ...
Views: 1569 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Taking Responsibility For How We Feel In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that while relationships have the power to lift one up, they also have the power to bring them down. So one can experience just about every emotion on one side of the spectrum at one moment and then experience just about every emotion on the other side of the spectrum at ...
Views: 1615 - Love: Where Does Love Come From? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person. If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ...
Views: 2046 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a film that had no colour or sound, it is not going to be the same as a film that has colour and sound. It is unlikely to be as engaging or as entertaining, and one might soon lose interest and turn it off or walk away from what they’re watching. And the same could be ...
Views: 1811 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Bring Out The Best In You? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that we are what we eat and while this is an area that is given a lot of exposure, it is not the only thing that one needs to pay attention to. This is not to say that what one eats is not important or that it should be ignored, what it means is that one needs to pay attention ...
Views: 1771 - Communication: Is It Important To Smile? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who always seem to have a smile on their face and then there are other people who are not as expressive. They will smile from time to time, but it won’t be as often as someone who smiles freely; it could be said that they like to hold back. However, when it comes to ...
Views: 2020 - Moving Forward: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stopping You From Moving Forward? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that human beings have an inherent need to grow and to move forward in life. And what one person sees as being a sign of growth is not necessarily what another person sees as a sign of growth. But while there are going to be differences, what most people are going to agree ...
Views: 1478 - Self-Talk: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Negative Self-Talk? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere is how one is spoken to by others, and then there is how one speaks to themselves. And what is taking place internally can often be known through what is taking place externally. This means that how one allows other people to talk to them is often a reflection of how they talk to ...
Views: 2161 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Being Abandoned Causing You To Put Up With People Who Are Controlling? - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a big difference between wanting to experience a sense of control over one’s life, and wanting to control other people. When one experiences a sense of control over their life, it means that they’re not going to feel as though they have no control and as though they are a victim. ...
Views: 1400 - Communication: Is It Important To Be Emotionally Expressive? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to connecting to other people, our facial expressions play an important role. And like one’s body language and their tone of voice, one is not always aware of how they’re coming across. Or one might be aware of their body language and their tone of choice, but their facial ...
Views: 1945 - Assertive: Can The Fear Of Being Abandoned Stop Someone From Being Assertive? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, knowing when to speak up or to keep quiet is something that comes naturally. And while they might not get this right all the time, it is not going to be something that they need to focus on. At certain times, they might speak up when they should have kept quiet or kept quit ...
Views: 2448 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Boundaryless? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf it was raining and one didn’t wear jacket or something to keep them dry, they would soon be soaked. Their jacket or an umbrella for instance, is then something that protects them from the rain. However, even if it was not raining one still needs to protect themselves. Their personal space ...
Views: 2358 - Needy: Can Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Someone To Be Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means it is not possible for one to remove their needs. But regardless of this fact, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs or that they’re able to get their needs met. Some people are going to view their needs with disdain ...
Views: 2019 - The People Who Have Influenced Me: Susan Winter - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to my journey of self-awareness, there are some people who stand out when I look back on where I have come from. And one of those people is Susan Winter. This is someone who is a professional love and life mentor who is based in New York. Searching In the beginning of 2013, ...
Views: 2039 - Relationships: Is Grieving Our Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Having Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive. And if this was an area of life that ...
Views: 1388 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That People Can't Be Trusted? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier. This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ...
Views: 1579 - Letting Go: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on. However, this is not something that always takes ...
Views: 1517 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage Abusive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are pros and cons to most things in life and social media is no different in that respect. It has allowed people to connect to the people they know and are close to and it no longer matters where in the world they are. One no longer needs to remain out of contact with someone for too ...
Views: 1502 - Disappointment: Do You Always End Up Feeling Disappointed When You Get Your Hopes Up? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne is going to have moments in their life where having something to look forward to enables them to get through their day, and this could be something that lasts for quite some time. This could be because what they’re doing is something they would rather not be doing or perhaps one is going ...
Views: 4959 - Relationships: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings are interdependent and this means that relationships are a vital part of their ability to survive and to thrive. And while they need to have relationships with others, they also need to be in relationships that are fulfilling. For instance, one could be in a relationship and ...
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