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- Emotional Containment: What Is Emotional Containment? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media covers many areas of life and one of the areas they cover is what one needs to do in order to be happy and healthy. Here, one will be told what they need to do and what they need to avoid. There will be what one needs to eat and avoid, and what they will need to have in ...
Views: 5679 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Abandon Yourself? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs one is a human being, it will mean that they have their own needs to fulfil. If this wasn’t the case, they could go along with what other people are doing and it wouldn’t be a problem. One wouldn’t end up feeling frustrated and as though they were on the wrong track; as it wouldn’t be ...
Views: 1459(1 vote) - Entitlement Mentality: Has The Internet Created An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one liked a certain song in the past, they would either have had to wait for it to be on the radio or they would have had to go and buy it. However, in today’s world, one no longer needs to buy a song; the only thing they need to do is to go onto the internet and to do a search. And after ...
Views: 2231 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Cause You To Go Back To A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wants to buy a new car, it could be because their old car is no longer drivable or it could be because it no longer fits their requirements. And once a decision has been made, they are unlikely to use their old car again. One could go back on their decision and keep their old car, but ...
Views: 1329 - Superiority Complex: Why Do Some People Think They Are Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch athletics on TV or at a stadium, they would soon see that not everyone is on the same level. Within each race, there will be some athletes who are at the front and there will be others who nowhere near the front. In this instance, it is clear that some of the athletes are ...
Views: 7838 - Fame: Can Childhood Neglect Make Someone Want To Be Famous? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was well-known in the past, it may have been because they had achieved something significant or it may have been the result of a crime they had committed. In today’s world, this has all changed and one no longer needs to have done either. This was something Andy Warhol alluded to ...
Views: 1682 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
Views: 1967 - Feelings: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Showing Your Feelings? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences something, there is likely to be what is going on in their mind and what is occurring in their body. And if one is unable to experience both sides, it might make it harder for them embrace what is taking place and it may cause them to come across as being out of ...
Views: 1690 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Leaving A Relationship? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can have relationships that they want to be in, they can also have relationships that they don’t want to be in. This doesn’t mean that one will no longer spend time with these people though; as they might still spend time with them. In this case, one is not going to be ...
Views: 1499 - Isolation: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white. How one spends their time will ...
Views: 2208 - Approval: Is It Good Or Bad To Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is addicted to something, they can feel the need to go the other extreme and to cut it out all together. And while this can seem like the right idea, it might not have the desired effect. Another approach would be to cut down on the amount that one has of something; this will ...
Views: 1750 - Intimacy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Greater Levels Of Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have an inherent need to share who they are with others; they need to be seen and heard. When this happens, one will share what is really taking place for them and not what they think someone wants to hear or what will make them look ‘right’. However, in order for someone to ...
Views: 1529 - Abuse: Why Do Some People Always Put Others Down? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs a human being, one has the ability to lift others up and make their life easier, or they can pull others down and make their life harder. There are going to be some people who generally fit into the first category and then there will be others who generally fit into to the second ...
Views: 14275 - Entitlement Mentality: Is The Law Of Reciprocity Being Phased Out By The Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is given something, they can feel the need to give something back. This doesn’t mean that they will give something back straight away though; as they could return the favour at a later date. So as time passes, one may give something to the person or the company who gave them ...
Views: 1650 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to change their self-image, they might end up using affirmations. This could be because someone else has recommended this approach, or it could be something they have decided upon. However, although one may have decided to use them, it doesn’t mean that they will have ...
Views: 1763 - Relationships: Do People Know When Their Partners Are Having An Affair? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one is unable to see what is taking place around them and during these moments, it will be important for them to reach out to others. This is not necessarily because the people on the outside have something they don’t; it is because they are not emotionally involved. ...
Views: 1650 - Communication: Is Empathy Important? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are ‘social animals’ and this is because they are interdependent. So while one may see themselves as being an individual, this is not the complete truth. The person they have come to be is the result of the experiences they have had with others and in order ...
Views: 1811 - Positive Thinking: Can Positive Thinking Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is into self-development, they are likely to be familiar with 'positive thinking'. This is something that is generally encouraged when it comes to living a better life. Here, one will need to create thoughts that are 'positive' and do to everything they can to stop themselves from ...
Views: 1442 - Anger: Do You Feel Uncomfortable When Other People Get Angry? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one felt unhappy and they were to meet a friend who was happy, they could soon start to feel different. Their emotional state has then been transformed through being in the other person's presence. This can happen without one having to really do anything, and their life doesn't have to ...
Views: 3595 - Empathy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A Heightened Sense Of Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their time at school or to a time when they were playing sports, they might remember a moment when someone fell over or injured themselves. Now, as they picture this in their mind, they might see that some people laughed and some people didn’t. One way of looking ...
Views: 1797 - Self-Centred: Can Pain Cause Someone To Be Self-Centered? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently selfish and the only thing they care about is themselves. There are going to be some people who agree with this and there are going to be others who don’t. If a being from another planet landed on earth and heard this outlook from a human ...
Views: 2708 - Intimacy: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Being Able To Experience Intimacy? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is relatively easy for someone to share their body with another person, the same can’t be said about their heart. This means that although the need is there for someone to share how they feel with another person, it is not something that always feels comfortable. However, just ...
Views: 1678 - Anger: What Can Happen When Someone Disconnects From Their Anger? - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to grow and develop, it will be important for the right conditions to be in place. This is something gardeners understand and as a result of this, they are able to create the right conditions for seeds to grow, among other things. Without this understanding, it ...
Views: 1686 - Being Present: Can Trapped Grief Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into fashion, they will know that the current trend will soon change and end up being replaced by another trend. And while this could be a new trend, it could also be one that was around in the past. So upon reflection, one could say that fashion is like the weather as it is ...
Views: 1859 - Loyalty: Is Being Loyal Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why people have dogs is because they are loyal companions. And while this is one of their strengths, it can also cause them to be taken advantage of. Yet, even though this can set them up to be treated badly, it doesn’t mean they will simply run away. Instead, a dog is ...
Views: 8144 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Empty When They Are Not In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who not only feel comfortable in a relationship; they also feel comfortable when they are not in one. This means that their boundaries are strong enough for them to open up and to experience intimacy without losing who they are. And when they are not in a relationship, ...
Views: 3204 - Self-Talk: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Negative Self-Talk? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone treats others might reflect how they treat themselves, but then again, it might not. What this means is that there can be a big difference between how one treats others and how they treat themselves. If one was to come across someone who is kind to others, they could come to the ...
Views: 1464 - Depression: Can Repressed Anger Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the most common mental and emotional challenges that someone can face in today’s world is depression. This is likely to be something that most people experience at one point or another. There are then going to be others who don’t experience it from time to time, they experience it on ...
Views: 2391 - Relationships: Do Your Friends Accept You For Who You Are Or For What You Do? - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that human beings need in order to live a fulfilling life is to be accepted for who they are. But while they have this need, it doesn’t mean that it is always met. And even when one does feel as though the people around them accept them for who they are, it could be that they only ...
Views: 1484 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2193(1 vote) - Motivation: Can Trapped Grief Cause A lack Of Motivation? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are always doing things, there are others who rarely do anything. Just as there are going to be people who are fairly active, but not the degree that they fall on either side of the spectrum. However, even though there will be people who can relate to this, it ...
Views: 2312 - Social Media: Can Social Media Stop Us From Living In The Moment? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one’s attention can be in the moment, it can also go into the past and focus on the future. This is something that is likely to take place for most people on the planet and it could also be described as normal. At times, one will want to reflect on the past to remind them of something ...
Views: 4558 - Being Seen: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Being Seen? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many things that human beings need in order to feel fulfilled and one of those needs is the need to be seen. This doesn’t mean that they have an inherent need to be ‘famous’ though; it simply means that they need to be noticed by others. And while one could be noticed by others due ...
Views: 1744 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to put their needs first and to be there for others when it is possible. In this case, it shows that they are comfortable with their own needs and don’t feel the need to ignore them. Just as there are going to be others who only feel comfortable when they ...
Views: 1632 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Keeping You Stuck? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is experiencing some kind of challenge, and this could be an inner challenge and/ or an outer challenge, it could cause them to reach out for support. This may mean that they go and buy a book or they might even go on a course. Another approach would be for them to find a coach, ...
Views: 1493 - True Self: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Hide Your True Self? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow someone comes across is not always in alignment with who they are and while this could be something that happens from time to time, it could be a regular occurrence. This then means that their true self is being covered up from time to time or it is something that always takes place. If ...
Views: 1628 - Needs: Why Do Some People Feel Ashamed Of Their Needs? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone who said that they can live without air, one might start laughing or they could think that there is something wrong with them. This is because human beings need air to survive; they could go against this need, but their life would soon come to an end. As ...
Views: 2913 - Regret: Are Regrets Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, it doesn’t mean that some people won’t see it as being this way. And while most people are going to see it this way from time to, there are going to be others who are unable to see it differently. They are then on one side or they are on the other and ...
Views: 2215 - Depression: Can Trapped Grief Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a physical problem can stand out, an emotional problem can remain hidden. Yet, even though there can be a difference here, it doesn’t mean that one problem is more important than other. Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what kind of pain one is experiencing, what matters is that they seek ...
Views: 1819 - Relationships: Does The Fear Of Abandonment Stop You From Speaking Up? - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHuman beings have many ways to communicate with each other and one way for them to do this is to use their voice. But while some people are happy to speak up no matter what is going on, there are others who are unable to do this. This is going to mean that they don’t expedience life in the ...
Views: 1577 - Emotional State: Can We Change How We Feel By Changing Our Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow we behave influence’s how we feel, and the only thing one needs to do to realise this is to change their posture. Many people realise how their body language not only affects how they feel, they also realise how it affects how others feel around them. There is then an inner change in ...
Views: 1808 - Anger: Can The Fear Of Abandonment Stop Someone From Getting Angry? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are certain emotions that are seen as acceptable and some that are not. And what is seen as acceptable to one gender is not necessarily seen as acceptable to the other. While a woman can come across as being sad without being judged, if a man was ...
Views: 1894 - Relationships: Is The Fear Of Abandonment Causing You To Get Attached Too Soon? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who like to take their time when it comes to the beginning of a relationship, and then there are others who go in head first. And based on how they behave, it is safe to say that they are both having a different inner experience. However, just because one may have a pattern ...
Views: 1864 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Needy? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means that it is not something to be ashamed of. Yet, just because this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs, and this can cause them to come across as being needless. They then act as if they don’t have needs ...
Views: 2380 - Isolation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAristotle once said that human beings are social animals and although this was said many, many years ago, it may as well have been said yesterday. Some of the environments that humans live in are different to how they were in the past, but this hasn’t changed the fact that humans need each ...
Views: 3647 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Intimacy? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile men and women are both human, they are often portrayed as being radically different. It is clear that they are different on the outside, but what is not as clear is that there are differences when it comes to their brain structure. One outlook is that these differences are due to ...
Views: 1728 - Music: Can Music Trigger Grief? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn some shape or form, music has been around for thousands of years and while there are styles around today that weren’t around in the past, it still has the same effect. When it comes to making music today, electrical equipment is often used and this has allowed people to create sounds that ...
Views: 1843 - Social Media: Is Social Media Creating Your View Of Reality? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLong before the internet was available; people could watch TV, listen to the radio or read a paper in order to find out what was taking place around them. As a result of this, people were able to find out about things that they wouldn’t have known about before these options were available. ...
Views: 1729(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Do Everything By Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to go for a walk in nature, they would soon see that everything relies on something else in order to survive. One is not going to come across anything that is independent of its environment; what they will see is interdependence. When it comes to a tree for example, it could be ...
Views: 4981 - Image Obsessed: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Image Obsessed? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what comes to mind when they think about social media, they might say ‘Selfies’. These are rarely pictures that people just take and then share; they are pictures that are usually altered so that they look right and after this has taken place, they are shared with their ...
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