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- Emotionally Disconnected: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to having a mental self, someone also has an emotional self. But, while this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will generally be connected to both of these parts of their being. However, if they don’t have a strong connection with their emotional self, they might not be aware ...
Views: 264 - Emotional Birth: Can Early Deprivation Stop Someone From Having An Emotional Birth? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt can seem as though there is only one type of birth – a physical birth. However, along with this type of birth, there is also another type of birth, and this is known as an emotional birth. The first type will allow someone to have their own vehicle, so to speak, and the second type will ...
Views: 276 - Imposter Syndrome: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Feel Like An Imposter? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may have attained a certain level of success, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with it. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they have stolen this success from someone else. They could be doing well in their career and a number of other areas of ...
Views: 242 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Use Success To Try To Be Accepted If They Were Not Affirmed As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, someone could spend most of their life doing things, and this can mean that they are fairly ‘successful’. So, they could have a well-paid job, an expensive car, and a big house and they could have a desirable partner. If this is the case, they will look as though they have it all ...
Views: 313 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay Small If They Experienced Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone will have their own life, it doesn’t mean that they will freely express themselves. In general, they could be in the background and even spend a lot of time vicariously living their life through others. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they ...
Views: 223 - Early Deprivation: Is Feeling Depressed Part Of Healing From Early Deprivation? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is depressed, it is often seen as a sign that they are not in a good way. As a result of this, they can end up going on medication or be encouraged to develop a number of goals. If the former takes place, they might not end up feeling great but they might be able ...
Views: 228 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Emotional Self If They Had Emotionally Unavailable Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlong with someone’s physical needs, they will also have emotional needs. However, even though this is the case, they can be out of touch with their emotional needs. If so, although these needs will be outside of their conscious awareness, they will still have an effect on how they behave. ...
Views: 262 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Repressed Feelings If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s early years were anything but loving, they could be in a bad way now that they are an adult. However, thanks to their brain’s ability to block out both painful feelings and memories, they might not remember what took place. Due to this, they can be in a bad way and not understand ...
Views: 280 - Critical Thinking: Does Repression Allow Human Beings To Lose Touch With Their Own ‘Darkness?’ - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has watched many films over the years and even if they rarely watch films, they are likely to be familiar with the good vs. bad scenario. There will then be one person or a group of people that are good, against one person or a group of people that are ‘bad’. However, without even ...
Views: 254 - Developmental Trauma: Can Someone’s Brain Make It Hard For Them To Realise That They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of someone’s life, they might have been deeply traumatised, but, now that they are an adult, they might not be aware of this. This stage of their life could be a complete mystery to them, or they could say that it wasn’t that bad, for instance. However, even if this stage of ...
Views: 236 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they generally don’t feel the need to be around another or others. They could find that they have been this way for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they are likely to spend a lot of time by ...
Views: 277 - Early Deprivation: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That Their Existence Is A Burden? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will have the right to be here and have needs, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this at the core of their being. As a result of this, they can see both themselves and their needs as a burden. However, this could be something that is outside their awareness, which ...
Views: 310 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parents False Self Stop Them From Being Able To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter trying to get through to one of the parents or the parent that abused them for quite some time and not getting very far, it might be clear that they are wasting their time. This could be something that they have been doing for a number of months, if not years. But, no matter how hard ...
Views: 280 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First If They Were Brought Up By A Self-Absorbed Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. When someone is in this position, it is likely to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of most of their needs and so they are ...
Views: 255 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Does A Mother-Enmeshed Man Need To Reclaim His Mother Projection From His Mother? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man, who is overly focused on his mother, was able to take a step back and reflect on his behaviour, he might wonder what he is doing. It could be only too clear that behaving in this way is not serving him. But, although this will be an important stage in what will allow him to live his ...
Views: 306 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Full Of Self-Doubt? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they find it hard to believe in themselves. By being this way, it is not going to matter if they are good at something as they won’t be able to accept it. Along with this, if they have made a plan to do ...
Views: 255 - Child Abuse: Can An Abusive Parent Be Too Wounded To Acknowledge That They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may hope, if they were abused as a child, is that their parent or parents will validate what they went through. This will then be a time when one or both of their parents will be able to both hear what they say and express remorse. But, what they may soon find is that this ...
Views: 258 - Child Abuse: Why Would A Parent Make Their Child Into Their Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNow that someone is an adult, it doesn’t mean that they will have their own life. No, practically their whole life could revolve around their parent or parents, with them behaving more like their parent than their child. Naturally, if a lot of their time and energy is being directed towards ...
Views: 264 - Child Abuse: Why Would An Abusive Parent Only Abuse Their Child/Children? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone could wonder, if they were abused as a child, is why one of their parents abused them but treated others differently. They could see that while this parent was not always pleasant to others, they were not abusive toward them. Therefore, they might have had moments when ...
Views: 272 - Existence: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Exist? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to sit with themselves and was able to connect with how they really feel, what they may soon find is that they don’t feel as though they deserve to exist. As opposed to being worthy of being here, then, they will feel like an intruder. After this, they could look into why this ...
Views: 233 - Critical Thinking: Is Humanity Being Victimised By Their Own Repressed Darkness? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, the general view is that the citizenry is being victimised by those at the top. For some, this relates to the government and for others, this relates to those that live in the shadows. If, then, it wasn’t for what these people have done and are doing, the world would be a ...
Views: 245 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Lose Touch With Reality During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might soon find out that the parent that abused them is not willing to acknowledge what took place. Assuming it was one parent, they might have been told, on numerous occasions, that what they say happened didn’t happen. It then ...
Views: 250 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Disconnect From His Need To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man typically acts like an extension of his mother, he is likely to seldom if ever truly be seen by her. What this will mean is that she won’t be able to acknowledge that he has his own needs and feelings. It will then be as if the only reason he is on this earth is to be there for her ...
Views: 268 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man Have To Disconnect From His Need To Break Away? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat will be clear, if a man behaves as though he is an extension of his mother, is that he hasn’t separated from her. He will then be an adult, but based on how he behaves, it will be as if he is still a dependent child. However, there is a chance that he is not even aware of the fact that ...
Views: 227 - Relationships: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Abusive Situations From Their Childhood In Order To Try To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has been in a number of relationships that were somewhat or extremely abusive, they might have decided to stay single for a little while. Then again, they might not want to be in another relationship. But, taking into account what they have been through, this could be seen as a ...
Views: 616 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Be Scared Of Life? - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone may live in an area that is relatively safe, it doesn’t mean that they will typically feel safe. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they live in a warzone. So, from practically the moment they wake up until the moment they fall asleep, they could seldom feel at ...
Views: 271 - Relationships: Does A Lot Of Relationship Advice Encourage People To See Themselves As Powerless Victims? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, if someone is having relationship problems, it is not going to be difficult for them to find information that goes into why this is and what they can do about it. After a basic search online, there will be thousands of videos and articles that will provide them with a lot of ...
Views: 230 - Early Deprivation: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Depriving Situations From Their Childhood In Order To Try To Be Loved? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where they continually end up being deprived of what they need, it is naturally going to have a negative effect on them. So, what could be normal is for them to lack the emotional and financial support they need, be alone, and not be valued or loved. As a result of ...
Views: 296 - Achievement: Why Would Someone Feel Depressed After They Have Achieved Something? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, someone may be working towards something, and this could be something that they hope to achieve in a few months or it could be slightly longer. And, due to how important it is to them, it could also consume a lot of their attention. So, throughout the day and when they ...
Views: 326 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Live In Flight Mode As An Adult? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being, based on how they typically behave, they could be described as a human doing. The reason for this is that they could practically always be on the go. And, if they were to sit still for a short moment, they could soon end up feeling deeply irritated and end ...
Views: 322 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Engaging In A Struggle For Love? - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is in a position where he is seldom there for himself and spends a lot of time doing things for his mother, he is going to be depriving himself of what he needs. Based on how he behaves, it will be as though he doesn’t have many needs. However, although this is something that may ...
Views: 241 - Self-Assertion: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To See Self-Assertion As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, someone is going to need to stand their ground and not tolerate something. By doing this, they will be paying attention to their own needs and looking after their own well-being in the process. At other times, they will need to go after what it is that they desire. This will also ...
Views: 244 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Create An Inflated False Self? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people that are not very confident and are full of doubt, while there are others that are full of confidence and don’t really experience doubt. Due to this, those that can relate to the former often achieve far less than those that can relate to the latter. If one was to meet ...
Views: 233 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Hasn’t A Mother-Enmeshed Man Outgrown His Need For A Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could wonder, if they were to come across a man that is overly caught up with his mother, is why he behaves in this way. He will be a man, not a boy, so there is going to be no reason for his life to revolve around her. As this is the case, his life should come first and his ...
Views: 289 - Sadness: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry A Lot Of Sadness? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel down and low. For most of their life, this may have been something that they have typically been able to cover up. Now, though, it could be a lot harder for them to do this and this might make ...
Views: 287 - Loss: Can Early Deprivation Make It Harder For Someone To Handle Loss? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has experienced a breakup, lost a loved one, or had a pet pass on, for instance, they could end up embracing how they feel and allowing themselves to grieve. This is then likely to be a time when they won’t behave as they usually would. So, they might no longer have the desire ...
Views: 237 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Be Out Of Touch With Their Need For Love If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that are in tune with their need to be loved and those that are not. When someone is not in tune with this need, they might have been this way for most if not all of their life. As a result of this, they won’t be in tune with this need and this will be something that they are ...
Views: 286 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Embody Their Parents Sense Of Being Unlovable If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone doesn’t believe that they are lovable, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Even so, how they see themselves is still going to have an effect on how they experience life. By being this way, it can be normal for them to push human warmth away. But, if they are not aware of ...
Views: 302 - Emotionally Shut Down: Can Someone Pathologize Themselves If They Are Emotionally Shut Down? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter someone has become aware of the fact that they are not connected to their feelings or are rarely connected to them, they might end up criticising themselves. They could even end up believing that there is something inherently wrong with them. If so, this is not going to be a time when ...
Views: 260 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man An Empty Shell? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man’s life revolves around his mother, what will stand out is that he is going to act more like an extension of her than a separate being that has his own needs and life to lead. At this point, it could be said that he just needs to implement boundaries with her and live his own ...
Views: 244 - Emotional Desert: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Live In An Emotional Desert? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to step back and reflect on their life, is that they often feel alone, ignored and unsupported. Now, this could be a sign that they don’t have many friends and spend a lot of time by themselves, or it might not be this black and white. If they can relate to ...
Views: 269 - Fear Of Abandonment: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Have A Fear Of Being Abandoned? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone can have a fear of being left, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Even so, this can still be a fear that will have a massive impact on their life. So, from outside of their couscous awareness, this fear is likely to define how they generally behave. ...
Views: 244 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Hide Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to hide how they feel, with their true feelings also being a mystery to them. Therefore, not only will the people in their life not know what is going on for them, they themselves are also not going to know what is going on for them. This can mean that they ...
Views: 285 - Being Seen: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Believe That They Don’t Deserve To Be Seen? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it will be important for them to have relationships where they are seen and heard. When this takes place, not only will their physical self be seen but their inner world will also be seen. This will take place by them opening up about how they ...
Views: 258 - Mother-Enmeshed Men: Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Act Like An Extension Of His Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperPhysically, a man will be separate from his mother, but, although this will be the case, it doesn’t mean that he will act as though he is separate from her. What can be normal is for him to act as though he is part of her. Consequently, her needs will be his needs and he will spend a lot of ...
Views: 263 - Relationships: Why Would A Man Attract Women That Are Overly Masculine? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter being with a number of women who were anything but feminine, a man could be at the point where he wants this area of his life to change. In fact, he could be desperate to be with a woman who is different. However, thanks to the experiences that he has had over the years, a big part of ...
Views: 309 - Relationships: Why Would A Woman Attract Men That Lack Backbone? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there can be the type of man that a woman wants to be with, and, then, on the other, there can be the type of man that she ends up with. When it comes to the type of man that she wants to be with, this can be a man that is able to stand his ground and be assertive, among other ...
Views: 450 - False Self: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone’s True Self To Be Dominated By Their False Self? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone’s life can be an expression of their needs and feelings, it can also be an expression of the needs and feelings of others. When it relates to the former, this will be their real self, and, when it relates to the latter, this will be their unreal self. Naturally, when someone’s ...
Views: 265 - Father Wounds: Can A Man Be Submissive If He Had An Abusive Father? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is out with his friends, he can typically be easy-going and happy to go along with whatever another person wants to do. He is then going to go along to get along and he will rarely assert himself. It might not be much different when he is at work, as he could be just as compliant and ...
Views: 243 - Mother Wounds: Can A Man Carry A Lot Of Hurt If He Had An Emotionally Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for a man to be out of touch with how he feels and to be in a collapsed physical state. Due to this, he can typically go through the motions in life, not feeling alive or as though his life has much meaning. But, if he has been this way for a very long time, he might not ...
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